A weird Situation

[distroserv]

During sex, it seems that randomly, my dick will go soft, without ejaculation/orgasm. Then a few minutes later it will pop back up. Also, it seems as if I am barely feeling anything during sex, but it is most likely due to the quickening loss of erection. While masturbating alone, i have no problems staying hard the whole time, but every time i am with my new girlfriend, everything seems weird and it is hard to get/stay hard. What could be going on?

 

[TXappeal]

if you

can masturbate without problems and the problem only arises when you are with a specific person, it is most probably something psychological. Most likey Performance anxiety.

 

[SweetErika]

If you can narrow down the problem and combat your specific fears, you'll have no problem getting past this. I don't know the situation, but if you're only having issues during intercourse (as opposed to when she's pleasuring you other ways), you may be worried about pregnancy, STDs, hurting, or pleasing her, for instance. And if you do fine when she pleasures you or if you masturbate in front of her, you could always try a cock ring to boost your confidence during intercourse. Good luck!

 

[distroserv]

yeah its kinda werid, sometimes when she gives me oral its good, othertimes it isnt and i react negativly (loose erection). also, tonight after my first post, we tried doing it bare (no condom) and everything went amazingly. the whole situation is weird, i think only sometimes this happens, especially with condom use.

 

[diviner]

A lot of this problem is in your head, your big head not your little one. For whatever reason you are letting your attention wander away from what it is you are doing. Perhaps you are worrying about going soft, or wondering if she is enjoying it, or thinking about those income taxes you haven't filed yet.

You need to learn how and when to concentrate.

Regards,



Steve

 

[SweetErika]

Distroserv, the condom- loss of erection connection is not uncommon. Because condoms aren't really optional in this day, you can probably help yourself overcome the problem by masturbating with a condom on. It sounds really stupid, but I've known several guys with this problem, and that solution has worked well for them. Once you see how you still respond to your own touch with the condom on, you'll be better off with your girl. Use lots of lube inside the condom, and you might want to consider ribbed or specialty condoms with your partner to add to both of your pleasure. You'll be fine.

 

[Vixandra]

I'm a personal fan of ribbed and or studded condoms.

Hubby prefers the "ribbed for her pleasure" though he declined to state a reason.
Erika's on the money, I think. Good idea- I'll keep that one in mind. For some reason, I tend to be my group of friend's "sexpert."

 

[Honeydew56]

My husband and I experience this also sometimes. We have come to the conlusion that he is enjoying my pleasure so much that he forgets about his. Once we reverse the pleasure zone then he is hard again and all is good.
Honey

 

[nljk]

I may suggest that sometimes guys tend to masterbate with a very strong grib and stroke. then when it comes to sex, its almost as if you need a firmer grib that vaginal musscles cant give. throw condoms in the mix and it adds to it. Just a stab in the dark!!