A subs internet pet???

[NikiCole]

Ok, ya'll know I am still really new at this so forgive me

Facts-
Person prefers to sub.
Sub is unowned, not collared, or is attached to any Dominate

Can said sub have something like a pet online? A person that they coddle, answer questions for, not a sub and not a little.

Does any of this makes sense?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Why not?

It's not like the Councel of BDSM-Er-Than-Thou are going to track you down and flog you for breaking the non existent rules.

 

[NikiCole]

Lol, true, would the sub still be considered a sub? It's a new one on me, maybe I'm not a sub, maybe a switch...

 

[ecstaticsub]

Sure you can. I'm a submissive and I don't have a pet but I have some very newbie sub friends who I listen to and advise, and offer a compassionate shoulder to lean on. It's not a mentor type of relationship. In some ways I guess it is sort of like having a pet.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Lol, true, would the sub still be considered a sub? It's a new one on me, maybe I'm not a sub, maybe a switch...

Do you consider her subordinate to you? Does she? If so, then yes indeed she is your sub!

Very few people are "A Sub," although it happens.

Most people are submissive to some people under certain circumstances, and never submissive under other circumstances.

I would say, don't label yourself yet. When someone likely asks you, you can say; "I seem to have submissive tendencies, would you like to help me explore them?"

 

[NikiCole]

Do you consider her subordinate to you? Does she? If so, then yes indeed she is your sub!

Very few people are "A Sub," although it happens.

Most people are submissive to some people under certain circumstances, and never submissive under other circumstances.

I would say, don't label yourself yet. When someone likely asks you, you can say; "I seem to have submissive tendencies, would you like to help me explore them?"

That is a very good idea! I am going to have to steal that line!

And it is a he. He brings out the side of me that just wants to coddle him.

 

[Stella_Omega]

That is a very good idea! I am going to have to steal that line!

And it is a he. He brings out the side of me that just wants to coddle him.

Please take it, with my blessings! (I only wish I'd thought of it back in the days when I was exploring submission)

Regarding coddling-- If I can find it, we had an enormous discussion on another forum about a way to dominate which we called "Femme Vitale" being the opposite of the Femme Fatale-- a woman who cares for a man and helps him to be his best.

 

[NikiCole]

Sure you can. I'm a submissive and I don't have a pet but I have some very newbie sub friends who I listen to and advise, and offer a compassionate shoulder to lean on. It's not a mentor type of relationship. In some ways I guess it is sort of like having a pet.

Yes, that's sorta how it is. But he calls me Miss. Like "Can I ask you a question, Miss?" Like little boy.

Please take it, with my blessings! (I only wish I'd thought of it back in the days when I was exploring submission)

Regarding coddling-- If I can find it, we had an enormous discussion on another forum about a way to dominate which we called "Femme Vitale" being the opposite of the Femme Fatale-- a woman who cares for a man and helps him to be his best.

If you find it, please let me know. He's such a sweet boy, I want to help him all I can.

 

[Netzach]

This is a highly underrated form of interaction in the universe. I've "coddled" about as many men as I've tormented, a lot of them dominant noobs, actually, because I like them, but not "like that."

As long as the guy knows what he's not able to expect from you and the boundaries are pretty clear, it's a great relationship.

Just again - be clear and don't be completely unguarded like you wouldn't with other people - some of the best manipulators in the world are those sweet boys who call you miss.

 

[NikiCole]

This is a highly underrated form of interaction in the universe. I've "coddled" about as many men as I've tormented, a lot of them dominant noobs, actually, because I like them, but not "like that."

As long as the guy knows what he's not able to expect from you and the boundaries are pretty clear, it's a great relationship.

Just again - be clear and don't be completely unguarded like you wouldn't with other people - some of the best manipulators in the world are those sweet boys who call you miss.

Very sound advice. I think I will take it to heart too. Thank you.

 

[SirVPL]

Pets

I have a few Dom friends that let their subbies have uncollared subs as pets. The pets usually have a Protection Collar presented by the Dom.