a serious question ( it had to happen sometime)

[killallhippies]

so, when did you first realize you were gay or bi or whatever applies to your particular situation? was it an epiphany or have you always known? did you struggle with it much or did it not really bother you too much?

i'm just curious.

 

[apexpark]

when um i was born....i always knew, it was like "how did you know you were straight?"
it never really bothered me. luckily my folks are open minded and didnt care. i think i came out when i was liek 13 or even younger. i wasnt a big dramatic coming out...it was just always hinted and everyone sorta knew.
i live in a pretty liberal town, more people are brainwashed in that they will defend gays and blacks and wtvr like the kkk would hang a jew.
so yeah, lifes been easy on me.

 

[killallhippies]

when um i was born....i always knew, it was like "how did you know you were straight?"
it never really bothered me. luckily my folks are open minded and didnt care. i think i came out when i was liek 13 or even younger. i wasnt a big dramatic coming out...it was just always hinted and everyone sorta knew.
i live in a pretty liberal town, more people are brainwashed in that they will defend gays and blacks and wtvr like the kkk would hang a jew.
so yeah, lifes been easy on me.

really? no doubt at all?

 

[Etoile]

I'm not sure exactly when I knew I wasn't straight. In high school I acknowledged that I found girls attractive, so I guess I at least knew I was bi then, but I was too busy with school to date at all. I had a crush on a guy my first semester in college, but when I met my girlfriend I realized I was emotionally so much more comfortable with women. So I came to identify as lesbian.

 

[LustiRusti]

when um i was born....i always knew, it was like "how did you know you were straight?"

Exactly. I was attracted to adult women long before adult men or any kids of either gender my own age. I feel I could have been a lesbian had I had positive gay role models as a kid, though. I "forced myself on boys" thinking it would be "okay to do what I enjoy" if I balanced it all out.

~Kenzie

 

[apexpark]

really? no doubt at all?

nope. none. i knew i liked woman and that was "proper" and all that other crap. and i might have denied a little bit in myself (even after i came out) that i didnt like guys at all...but i couldnt deny it much longer ive just ALWAYS liked guys. i can trace it back to when i was really young and just always had this wierd love for guys. dont wanna get into my memories though...some of the expiriences i pushed to the back of head.

 

[killallhippies]

. dont wanna get into my memories though...some of the expiriences i pushed to the back of head.

i understand. i have "blocked out" whole years of my life. i have done a lot of stupid things and trusted a lot of stupid people. sometimes it's best just to forget.

 

[apexpark]

and what about you killallhippies....whats your story? are you even straight? where am i? whats going on??? ok maybe not the last 2 questions.

 

[killallhippies]

no, i'm not straight. i'm still sitting on the fence discussing the issue with myself. i tell people i'm bi, because it's the only one that fits. i have issues.

 

[apexpark]

well do you think your straight...or does the bi thing make it easier on you?
for me id so rather be gay or straight than bi. i dont like being bi...it makes things more complicated.

 

[killallhippies]

well do you think your straight...or does the bi thing make it easier on you?
for me id so rather be gay or straight than bi. i dont like being bi...it makes things more complicated.

let's just say i wish we didn't have to use such labels. if you love someone (yes, love) and you want grow closer with them, sex should just be the natural next step. intimacy and all that.

both gay and bi carry a lot of baggage with them that i just don't want, but i'm not gay. i find some women attractive and some men. it's that simple for me in my head. sadly, i don't run things, so i'm screwed.

if i have to choose a label bi is the label i'll choose.

 

[apexpark]

and thats very respectable. whoah no more labels!

 

[SweetCherry]

I didn't KNOW I was bi until I was 19 and had my first real sexual sexual experience with a woman. I lost my virginity 3 years before that to my first boyfriend. I grew up rather sheltered and niave about many things, so I didn't really realize that the attraction I'd felt towards girls was anything more than admiring them and wanting to be like them. I could always relate to the boys better when growing up, and had only a few close female friends. Looking back now, I realize the fondness and admiration I had on them was more than just friendship inc ases. It was attraction, but I was just too stupid to understand fully.

Anyhow, after my experience when I was 19, I realized there was a level of sexual attraction towards girls as well as boys. I thought it was just sexual tho. As I've grown older tho, and had more experiences, I've come to realizee that I CAN and HAVE fallen in love with women. I'm madly and passionately in love with a wonderful lady and look forward to having a long and happy life with her by my side.

Now I just have to come out to my family.

 

[KisstheSky]

well do you think your straight...or does the bi thing make it easier on you?
for me id so rather be gay or straight than bi. i dont like being bi...it makes things more complicated.

I'll jump in here and give my 2 cents....
It does seem complicated sometimes I suppose. But I feel like I'm just keeping my options open. I'm attracted to both sexes not because of the body really...I mean yes there are certain aspects that I find attractive but I am attracted to a person not their gender.
In my Philosophical Issues&Contemporary Feminism class we had loonnnnngggg discussions on how gender was just a state of mind.

 

[Romial]

I'm straight but I'm comfortable with my sexuality to say to a friend I'm with if a guy is handsome or sexy or something like that. I wouldn't jump his bones, but I'd just acknowledge that he would be doable.

 

[apexpark]

I'm straight but I'm comfortable with my sexuality to say to a friend I'm with if a guy is handsome or sexy or something like that. I wouldn't jump his bones, but I'd just acknowledge that he would be doable.

so...am i do-able?

 

[apexpark]

ok change my mind dont wanna hear the answer (im scared)

 

[DarkLadyOfDeath]

I knew I was attracted to females when I was at least 14.. abit earlier.. I came out to my friends and some of my family when I was 16 when I had my first real "fling" with another girl. Again I can identify with ya Killa.. I was one of the Boys more then one of the girls... video games, fishing, Playing football, 'n doing other.. "boy"things.. I was more comfortable with the boys.. hell saw my first porn when I was 13? with some guy friends of mine 'n al I could do was stare at the woman. Though I "label" myself bisexual.. Like Kiss says.. It's not so much the outside that I look at when choseing people to love. Took me along time to come to terms with how I was raisd to accept what I am 'n not feel ashamed of what I like, and how I like it. I still can't share with my arenst my conflicting issues with my sexuality... But my friends all know as well as my brother... I found it asier and I have a strong support base there... so hopefully if I need some help when I do tell my parents or even if I do, I won't feel alone.

 

[Queersetti]

There is a big difference between knowing you are "different", understanding what that difference is, and coming to accept it.

I always knew I wasn't like the other kids, and at a fairly young age I had feelings towards other, mostly older males that I could not define at the time, but now recognize as homoerotic.

As a teen I came to understand myself as being gay, but only came into a complete acceptance f my sexuality when I was in college.

I think I may be among the older posters here. As such, I am very glad when I read of the experiences of younger people like apex, and of how much easier things have been for them.

 

[oh21]

I guess if I had to pick a label I’d be bi-curious. I’ve always been attracted to women, but there are also guys who I find, for lack of a better term, hot as hell. At this point in my life though, I’ve not taken those feelings for guys any farther than a bit of groping with a kiss here or there.

I might get in trouble for saying this but my feelings are different between males and females. When I look for a female I want someone who is not only hot and sexually exciting but also intellectually stimulating, someone who I could live out my life with. When I am thinking about a guy I don’t generally contemplate a future at all, I simply think about how hot he is and what fucking him could be like.

So I suppose this plants me firmly in the camp of the bi-curious or does it? It’s a question I am asking myself.

 

[MzChrista]

Im one of the always knew types.

 

[pollyjean]

I realized I was bi at 14 well maybe not totally sure about it. But that is when I remember being attracted to both sexes. Dated both in high school but most only knew about the males I dated. Got married to a man, things didn’t work out. Have dated a few females and feel in love with a few of them. Most friends know now, I told them about a year ago. It was to the point I figured if they don’t accept it then I don’t need them as friends. Now my family is another story I have told them but they chose to ignore it and it’s like they have this hope that I will outgrow it or something.

I didn’t really struggle with it much. The only struggle I have with it is my family. But either they accept it or they don’t. Time will tell…

 

[~¤MzJones¤~]

The first time I had sex it was with a girl. But I played with boys too. I have fallen in love with both...and been greatly attracted to someone I wasnt even sure which they were *dont you love the internet*

I am bi. All the way. Not because I am confused, *though I had a few months there where I was* but because I am Bi...

My family knows but is in deep denial.

 

[Guest]

I defy categorization. I am attracted to women but have no luck with either gender.

 

[Star of Penumbra]

The first time I had sex it was with a girl. But I played with boys too. I have fallen in love with both...and been greatly attracted to someone I wasnt even sure which they were *dont you love the internet*

I wonder who that was?