A Safe place to Vent, Cry or Scream

[Rebellious_Sub]

I don't know, I am sure this would *fit* on the General forum, but I don't feel safe there, feel much safer here....

I have depression, and sometimes its just overwhelming. I find that venting or crying somewhere safe helps me release a lot of my pain.

Anyone mind if I do that here, where its safe? Anyone else need a place to feel safe and let go?

All are welcome here, I am looking for people to stay supportive here though. It's kind of the point of the thread.

~RS

 

[elizabeth22673]

I don't know, I am sure this would *fit* on the General forum, but I don't feel safe there, feel much safer here....

I have depression, and sometimes its just overwhelming. I find that venting or crying somewhere safe helps me release a lot of my pain.

Anyone mind if I do that here, where its safe? Anyone else need a place to feel safe and let go?

All are welcome here, I am looking for people to stay supportive here though. It's kind of the point of the thread.

~RS

RS~
Thank you for posting that here. I would love to be able to come here and feel safe posting some things that are bothering me. Although, sadly, I would want to almost use a different user id. One just to be able to really spill my guts w/o anyone knowing who I am. There are so many things going on in my life right now that are making me insane. How many tragedies can one person handle, really...

If it wasnt for my beautiful son, I would not be living. I hate to say it, but it's true.

RS, I have subscribed to your thread. I hope others will join it as well.
Liz

 

[pookies]

 

[RocknRoll]

*points to depression thread link in sig*

 

[drtshare]

A Safe place to Vent, Cry or Scream

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I don't know, I am sure this would *fit* on the General forum, but I don't feel safe there, feel much safer here....

I have depression, and sometimes its just overwhelming. I find that venting or crying somewhere safe helps me release a lot of my pain.

Anyone mind if I do that here, where its safe? Anyone else need a place to feel safe and let go?

All are welcome here, I am looking for people to stay supportive here though. It's kind of the point of the thread.

~RS
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elizabeth22673
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RS~
Thank you for posting that here. I would love to be able to come here and feel safe posting some things that are bothering me. Although, sadly, I would want to almost use a different user id. One just to be able to really spill my guts w/o anyone knowing who I am. There are so many things going on in my life right now that are making me insane. How many tragedies can one person handle, really...

If it wasnt for my beautiful son, I would not be living. I hate to say it, but it's true.

RS, I have subscribed to your thread. I hope others will join it as well.
Liz

Just a thought Liz..who really does know who you are here?
By that I mean, people know you and I, as Elizabeth and pookies, but they don't know us in r/l. Does that make sence?
I hope both you gals get to feeling better soon.
Are either of you on medication, or in theropy?

hello ladies,

pookies, I understand what you are talking about for who knows ...who / what kind of person we are in R/L ... But I would hope its close to the same as I'm online to R/L. Over the years I have met close to a 150 people face to face after getting to know them online... to each one most are very alike how they carry themselfs online. Yes, they maybe free.. posting pictures.. talking about this or that but when you talk with them one on one their real self comes out. Many people are shy ... being online helps them to open up. It is only when you take the time to get to know the real person you see who they real are. Being online help them be free.

Since I got sick and when fell and real messed up my body... online was the only place I would talk about it... I could be mad...yell...cry... be upset... go crazy... when one day I knew I had friends that cared... I could tell anyone if I had a bad day... or ask for help. But it was almost 6 months of talking about things online before I could do it in R/L.

pookies before you ask yes I have and will see someone, and have and will take meds if I need them. Just as I hope you or anyone else will if they need them. And if by posting there or else where online help someone to feel better about themself ...GREAT!! posts away Hugs &

Fred

 

[pookies]

 

[elizabeth22673]

Home from work. How was your day everyone?

 

[Rebellious_Sub]

RS~
Thank you for posting that here. I would love to be able to come here and feel safe posting some things that are bothering me. Although, sadly, I would want to almost use a different user id. One just to be able to really spill my guts w/o anyone knowing who I am. There are so many things going on in my life right now that are making me insane. How many tragedies can one person handle, really...

If it wasnt for my beautiful son, I would not be living. I hate to say it, but it's true.

RS, I have subscribed to your thread. I hope others will join it as well.
Liz

Thank you Liz. *hugs* ...and I quite understand what you mean... already, after telling some of my past to people, they start backing away. probably thinking "MY GOD... I didn't realize she was a whacked out woman! WHOA..."

I even thought of making an alt just so I could vent, but at that, I am truly- for the first time in my life, trying to be completely utterly, blantantly honest, to even myself... so no more *hiding* If someone doesn't like me, can't handle my issues, doesn't care to even bother... well that's not a person that I should be hanging around with R/L or online... so not going to hide this time...

But like in all things, there are risks, but this one, this time I am doing it for myself.

Just a thought Liz..who really does know who you are here?
By that I mean, people know you and I, as Elizabeth and pookies, but they don't know us in r/l. Does that make sence?
I hope both you gals get to feeling better soon.
Are either of you on medication, or in theropy?

Good point Pookies. But still, even in an online community, who wants to be known as "that crazy person? God all she ever does is COMPLAIN what a downer!" People that used to chat with you may stop, people who used to comment on your pics may stop too. But for myself, that's alright. Its more depressing to hang around people who only like you IF you fit their description of acceptable.

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And here's a bit of a side note, and one that I have observed over at the General board... there is one person in particular who has a severe mental disorder. She is constantly being singled out. Ok, alright-- She is odd... OF COURSE SHE IS...she has a disorder. But people approaching her- truly wishing to make friends, need to realize that, instead of later taking things personally. I see that most think its a joke, and to me that is a very cruel thing to do. If you cannot relate, do not comment. If what she does bothers you, say nothing, let it pass, and it will so long as she isn't receiving a lot negativity back, and I think to some degree she NEEDS attention, even, sadly if it is the bad comments from others.
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(ok and here goes) I was severally abused as a child. I relate to the trauma of it. I have several disorders because of it I have severe depression (with suicidal tendancies) and PTSD... and Yes, I am in therapy. Group and individual. But the last few weeks, after my Uncle's passing, I fell once again into depression, and have been experiencing reliving of past trauma.

This is getting too deep for online probably, but its much safer here than talking to a person eye to eye. Trust me.


And the speaking of what's bothering me, instead of closing myself off is truly one of my life lines, I am learning to not SI (Self abuse) IE Cutting... and instead to vent so I can let it go...

*hugs for all that need them*

 

[poppy1963]

Thank you Liz. *hugs* ...and I quite understand what you mean... already, after telling some of my past to people, they start backing away. probably thinking "MY GOD... I didn't realize she was a whacked out woman! WHOA..."

I even thought of making an alt just so I could vent, but at that, I am truly- for the first time in my life, trying to be completely utterly, blantantly honest, to even myself... so no more *hiding* If someone doesn't like me, can't handle my issues, doesn't care to even bother... well that's not a person that I should be hanging around with R/L or online... so not going to hide this time...

But like in all things, there are risks, but this one, this time I am doing it for myself.



Good point Pookies. But still, even in an online community, who wants to be known as "that crazy person? God all she ever does is COMPLAIN what a downer!" People that used to chat with you may stop, people who used to comment on your pics may stop too. But for myself, that's alright. Its more depressing to hang around people who only like you IF you fit their description of acceptable.

==========================

And here's a bit of a side note, and one that I have observed over at the General board... there is one person in particular who has a severe mental disorder. She is constantly being singled out. Ok, alright-- She is odd... OF COURSE SHE IS...she has a disorder. But people approaching her- truly wishing to make friends, need to realize that, instead of later taking things personally. I see that most think its a joke, and to me that is a very cruel thing to do. If you cannot relate, do not comment. If what she does bothers you, say nothing, let it pass, and it will so long as she isn't receiving a lot negativity back, and I think to some degree she NEEDS attention, even, sadly if it is the bad comments from others.
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(ok and here goes) I was severally abused as a child. I relate to the trauma of it. I have several disorders because of it I have severe depression (with suicidal tendancies) and PTSD... and Yes, I am in therapy. Group and individual. But the last few weeks, after my Uncle's passing, I fell once again into depression, and have been experiencing reliving of past trauma.

This is getting too deep for online probably, but its much safer here than talking to a person eye to eye. Trust me.


And the speaking of what's bothering me, instead of closing myself off is truly one of my life lines, I am learning to not SI (Self abuse) IE Cutting... and instead to vent so I can let it go...

*hugs for all that need them*

Hello all. I certainly understand the need to use our online resources to help each other when it's just too painful to talk about in RL. I have done so at times but have had a generally bad experience on open boards like this one is. If, for some reason, a troll-type person takes a disliking to you or is just looking for a "victim", it can become quite ugly with the mocking and the stalking. There is a big risk. I would suggest you find a site where the purpose is to help people with depression. They screen much more closely there because they understand the risks.

Just my 2 cents.

I don't know you, Rebellious_Sub...but with an ID like that, my bet is you probably attract those who want a submissive that is rebellious so you can be punished. I'd say the risk is higher if my hunch there is accurate.

Poppy

 

[Rebellious_Sub]

Hello all. I certainly understand the need to use our online resources to help each other when it's just too painful to talk about in RL. I have done so at times but have had a generally bad experience on open boards like this one is. If, for some reason, a troll-type person takes a disliking to you or is just looking for a "victim", it can become quite ugly with the mocking and the stalking. There is a big risk. I would suggest you find a site where the purpose is to help people with depression. They screen much more closely there because they understand the risks.

Just my 2 cents.

I don't know you, Rebellious_Sub...but with an ID like that, my bet is you probably attract those who want a submissive that is rebellious so you can be punished. I'd say the risk is higher if my hunch there is accurate.

Poppy

I am a member of several online depression communities. They cannot keep trolls from their boards any more than anywhere else really. They can ban people, of course, but they just sign back up under different names.

I just thought that it would be nice if this particular board had a place for people to come and feel safe. I mean there are several people that I would like to chat with, in their own threads, but sometimes when I go there all I can say or whatever is *SIGH* .... it would be good to be able to have this place instead of pulling down otherwise light hearted banter with the pain.

 

[elizabeth22673]

I am a member of several online depression communities. They cannot keep trolls from their boards any more than anywhere else really. They can ban people, of course, but they just sign back up under different names.

I just thought that it would be nice if this particular board had a place for people to come and feel safe. I mean there are several people that I would like to chat with, in their own threads, but sometimes when I go there all I can say or whatever is *SIGH* .... it would be good to be able to have this place instead of pulling down otherwise light hearted banter with the pain.

Sweetie, I wish I could reach out and give you a great big hug. And I wish we could all go for drinks some night and let go. *sigh.....
Liz

 

[Rebellious_Sub]

Sweetie, I wish I could reach out and give you a great big hug. And I wish we could all go for drinks some night and let go. *sigh.....
Liz

Yes, that would be a welcomed thing, hugs and letting go. Thank you Liz.

I wish I could help you too. You can always PM me, and if it's alright, I would PM you back.

Even here, I am struggling now, wondering what use is it? You know? I am not going to defend my point of view for long, if people think its inappropriate, (lol after the other things I have seen on this board, I would be very offended.. ) But if it doesn't belong, lock my thread, delete it if you wish.

Truly wouldn't hurt me in the long run. "You couldn't possibly do me more harm than I have done to myself. " ~RS

 

[kiten69]

I don't know, I am sure this would *fit* on the General forum, but I don't feel safe there, feel much safer here....

I have depression, and sometimes its just overwhelming. I find that venting or crying somewhere safe helps me release a lot of my pain.

Anyone mind if I do that here, where its safe? Anyone else need a place to feel safe and let go?

All are welcome here, I am looking for people to stay supportive here though. It's kind of the point of the thread.

~RS

*smooches and big hugs hun*...my night pretty much tanked down the tubes but i spoke with a really good friend *winks* and she always knows just what to say to cheer me up...good friends are great support beams in life...*another big hug just for good measure*

 

[SirFace]

I don't know, I am sure this would *fit* on the General forum, but I don't feel safe there, feel much safer here....

I have depression, and sometimes its just overwhelming. I find that venting or crying somewhere safe helps me release a lot of my pain.

Anyone mind if I do that here, where its safe? Anyone else need a place to feel safe and let go?

All are welcome here, I am looking for people to stay supportive here though. It's kind of the point of the thread.

~RS

You know you always have a big hug from me. And a good spank if you need it.

 

[Rebellious_Sub]

*smooches and big hugs hun*...my night pretty much tanked down the tubes but i spoke with a really good friend *winks* and she always knows just what to say to cheer me up...good friends are great support beams in life...*another big hug just for good measure*

Awww Thanks Kiten. I love ya girl.

You know you always have a big hug from me. And a good spank if you need it.

SirFace... I am glad for it... you have been very kind to me... Love ya.

 

[elizabeth22673]

im a terrible mother for saying this. i love my son very very very much, but the rest of my life is such a mess.

1. do any of you have fantasies about just taking off and leaving for a while? like maybe a week. just be alone and figure things out.

2. or better yet, any of you just want to go to bed and sleep for weeks. not wake up until everything is better?

 

[elizabeth22673]

Just a thought Liz..who really does know who you are here?
By that I mean, people know you and I, as Elizabeth and pookies, but they don't know us in r/l. Does that make sence?
I hope both you gals get to feeling better soon.
Are either of you on medication, or in theropy?

hi sweetie, i just realized i didnt answer you. (im terrible about that sometimes)

you are right, nobody really knows me here. yes, i'm on meds which help a lot. i think anymore it's current events that are making me slip in deeper and deeper.

 

[pookies]

 

[jason_jenn]

*Hugs* to everyone as I have some experience in being depressed and witnessing depression in loved ones. Anything but fun, that is for sure.

I think I am a very lucky person as by getting out of the environments which can trigger it and changing my diet has helped immensely. I still have off days here and there, but nothing like the months spent in bed or in front of the PC, not daring to go out for fear of actually having to interact with people... It seems now, that my off days are like everyone else's and tomorrow is a new day. I do have a week or two once in a while when I don't eat as I should or have too much caffiene which can take time to recover from. If you think I can help, let me know.

 

[Rebellious_Sub]

im a terrible mother for saying this. i love my son very very very much, but the rest of my life is such a mess.

1. do any of you have fantasies about just taking off and leaving for a while? like maybe a week. just be alone and figure things out.

2. or better yet, any of you just want to go to bed and sleep for weeks. not wake up until everything is better?

Liz.

Getting away isn't a bad thing, you're not a bad mother for needing some time for yourself... I have done that a couple times, (My only child is now 13 yrs old)

But your second suggestion... is my worst thing to do.. I struggle with that every single day off I have. Sometimes, even though my job causes me stress, I think its better for me to just head off to work, because I am no good on my own...

Hi Pookies,

You're right, exercise would do me a lot of good. I should get back into the habit again. I remember when I was doing my walks regularly, things seemed better. Time to reflect, plus the body needs it. Thanks for the reminder.


Hello Jason,

I am glad that you've found ways to manage your depression. I have changed the diet, but mostly my depression seems to come and go, (cycles) and are usually triggered by something that happened to me recently which will send my mind back to some abuse memory.

Today though, is much better than yesterday was for me. I am feeling more myself after a long heart to heart with someone close to me.

Plus talking here, sharing helped too. Even though we don't do a thing but listen, it helps.

*hugs for all that need or want them*

~RS

 

[poppy1963]

I am a member of several online depression communities. They cannot keep trolls from their boards any more than anywhere else really. They can ban people, of course, but they just sign back up under different names.

I just thought that it would be nice if this particular board had a place for people to come and feel safe. I mean there are several people that I would like to chat with, in their own threads, but sometimes when I go there all I can say or whatever is *SIGH* .... it would be good to be able to have this place instead of pulling down otherwise light hearted banter with the pain.

Well, seems to be working out ok so far! It's a wonderful idea!

 

[pookies]

 

[360chick]

I just wanted you all to know that your not alone. (((hugs))) to all. I'm not ready to share my thoughts here yet, but I did subscribe. Thank you R_S for posting this.

 

[elizabeth22673]

I just wanted you all to know that your not alone. (((hugs))) to all. I'm not ready to share my thoughts here yet, but I did subscribe. Thank you R_S for posting this.

((((360)))) welcome

 

[360chick]

((((360)))) welcome

Thank you sweetie. (((liz)))