a right to be mad?

[boston_bbw]

My sister and I got into a discussion tonite that surprised me as we don't usually discuss "man trouble". She has a friend with benefits who is actually dating another women for over a year. His "girlfriend" dosn't know about my sister but my sister knows of her. He supposedly broke up with the girlfriend (so he tells my sister) about a month ago but the girlfriend wanted to try and remain friends with him. Well sis just found out "girlfriend" spent the weekend and is livid. I guess it's ok when he is lying and cheating on "girlfriend" but now that he has lied to her she is balistic. I'm not sure she is in a position to be bullshit .. they say you are the company you keep. Obviously by his behavior you know he is capable of lying and cheating .. what would make sis think she is any different??

 

[M's girl]

I guess it's ok when he is lying and cheating on "girlfriend" but now that he has lied to her she is balistic.

A lot of people are like that, or so I have noticed. It's called double standards. But.... I must say.... I sort of understand her. She used to know what it was she had with him. Maybe she was happier than she thought she would be when he broke it off with the girlfriend and started to have expectations she did not dare have before.

And then he disappoints her twice. He changes her position in the relation back again to being 'the other woman' and he lies about it. That's not fair to anyone, not even a person who has no problems helping him cheat on his girlfriend.

I am with you in my first reaction but then again I hate cheaters. I can sort of understand it if you look at it from her point of view....

 

[Kailey_86]

i don't get it personally. It's ok to be the other woman but as soon as the tables turn and you are on the other side, things change. It is no longer ok for him to have another woman. How can you expect that he wouldn't cheat on you? Why is he allowed to cheat WITH you but not ON you? You thought he loved you? Supposedly he loved his girlfriend too when he was with you. i hate men who cheat. They are the reason why i don't trust men. How can you build trust and love if you are worried about him going behind your back with another woman. i was FURIOUS when i found out that my own mother was the other woman. It's just not right. Your friend shouldn't be angry. She knew he was a cheater. i am sorry to say this but i think that she is just as bad as him for knowingly being the other woman. She should have put herself in the GFs shoes.

Forgive me. i don't mean to blow up at you. i just can't stand cheaters. Relationships should be built on trust, honesty, love, and commitment.

 

[Eilan]

I suppose she can be angry if she wants, but his behavior shouldn't surprise her. Unless they'd made arrangements to be anything other than FwB in the month since this guy broke up with his girlfriend, then was what he did technically cheating?

 

[human_male]

Do women have this delusion whereby the lying sack of shit they're seeing regards them as different to all the other women he's cheating on or with? Like they're special. Oh no he'd never do that to me, not me.

Is that true or is it just on tv?

 

[M's girl]

Do women have this delusion whereby the lying sack of shit they're seeing regards them as different to all the other women he's cheating on or with? Like they're special. Oh no he'd never do that to me, not me.

Is that true or is it just on tv?

I'm afraid it's more true than any of us women would like to admit.....
It happens you know... the man turning around, seeing the light and all, so it might as well be with us, no?

One of the many reasons why I never ever wanted to be 'the other woman' in the first place....

 

[M's girl]

Do women have this delusion whereby the lying sack of shit they're seeing regards them as different to all the other women he's cheating on or with? Like they're special. Oh no he'd never do that to me, not me.

Is that true or is it just on tv?

I'm afraid it's more true than (m)any of us women would like to admit.....
It happens you know... the man turning around, seeing the light and all, so it might as well be with us, no?

One of the many reasons why I never ever wanted to be 'the other woman' in the first place....