A relationship or not ?

[Skitten]

I have a friend who really needs some advice badly and we have tried telling her to move on . There is this guy that she has been dating for about 16 months. Well the problem is he treats her so terrible first she was divorced over two years ago so this was the first relationship after her divorce. Well this guy seems to just not know where he is going one minute he tells her he loves her the next he just wants to sleep with her and make no commitment to her. She so despertly wants this relationship to work, I can tell how much she loves him, but he is just making no effort what so ever. There are times when he calls other girls up
doesn't go out with them but calls them just to flirt around
and my friend finds out about it later. And I have tried to tell her that it just isn't worth it and to move on. But I thought I would make a post and see what my fellow BB members thought. Question is What would you do if you where in this kind of relationship ? Thanks it would mean so much.

 

[Wizard]

And then best part is we told this chick to leave him a bunch of times and also told her a bunch of times about this board and how much fun we have here so she just may be watching and get the BIG pic. here.

PS I just had my crystal out again...

 

[Siren]

LEAVE HIM

 

[Magic Merlin]

End it immediately....

This guy just isn't worth it. I hope your friend comes to her senses and leaves him ASAP. She is just going to prolong the agony by trying to make it work.

He is just using her for his own pleasures...Good luck to her. And you guys keep telling her to get out. She wil be much happier in the long run. All of us deserve to be someone that loves and appreciates us. Not abuses us.

MM

 

[Wizard]

I just happened to be on the front page and I happened to see a nickname that she would pick that just joined us so maybe just maybe she is reading this too

 

[Skitten]

Thanks MM and Siren we just have been telling her that since the beginning and she is just so head over heels for this guy. I hope wizard is correct and she does read this she really could use some good advice from others. And maybe see that she is going to continue getting hurt by this man. I Just hope that she can see others points of views and finally understand what we have been trying to tell her. She has been through enough and he just keeps dragging her down and killing her self respect.

 

[Cheyenne]

I vote he is gone with the first light of day. Get rid of the bastard. Life is too short to spend it torturing ourselves.

 

[Roland Gilliad]

Before you send him out, glue (Or tape) his penis to his belly so when he wakes up he gets a mouth fulla Pee!
(one of my fave jokes)

 

[Siren]

Hey Roland

 

[Roland Gilliad]

did i fix it oh wise proofreader? oh and i forgot the name of the band 2..

 

[Aranian]

You know Roland, I could've sworn I saw a glue incident like that in the news on the literotica site. The guilty party - a girlfriend was charged with assault.

 

[SeXy ReDHeD]

Well, I'll tell you from first hand experience here, because that's pretty much all I can base anything on:

No matter who tells her, or how many times she hears it, She's not going to leave him, because she doesn't want to acknowledge the truth.

Feel free to tell me if I'm way out of line here, but I'd be willing to bet that as much as your friend knows exactly what is going on, and what she SHOULD do, she doesn't want to for fear of looking like a fool... she's acting like she doesn't see it, like everything's "okay," because she doesn't want to face the fact that she has let herself be abused for so long.

In my case, I stayed with my ex for over a year, and he openly cheated on me, told me beforehand even, but yet would come back and tell me that he "loved" me. I could have put my foot down and he may have stopped. But part of me didn't want to, because then I would have to admit to myself and the world that I'd let him openly treat me with disrespect, that I'd knowingly subjected myself to such awful and humiliating treatment. In that state, ignorance, even if it's self-imposed, truly is bliss.

Whether she's with him or some other guy, she's going to have this same relationship unless she gets some counseling.

I know I'm not a shrink here, but as I said, I am only speaking from my own experience.

I wish her luck. Please let me know how it goes.

 

[Siren]

Roland.............

 

[Xander]

Nope SR You're not way off line there. I've seen too many of my female friends end up with fuck ups. And staying after it becomes painfully obvious that he/she really is a fuck up.

This guy sounds like one I could throw out of a flying airplane, and be happy about it.And I'd say dumb the dude, and preferably a truckload of concrete to seal him in, while we're at it.
But it's not gonna change a God damn thing before, she sees the wrong in their relationship. Until that day. It wouldn't matter who says it to her. She's still gonna stay with him as long as she loves him.
I sincerly hope that it will all work out for the best for her. But I seriously doubt it. Not before she opens her eyes.

 

[Roland Gilliad]

I changed the spellin but still dont know what the F-ck the name of thr group is..

 

[Wizard]

Ok I agree will all this guy is a friend out mine, that I have know about 20 years but he just treats her like shit.....I want to take a chance here and If the Anglegrl27 is out there and reading this let me know if you made it on.......I know this young gal we are talking about would use that as her nick and was asking again yesterday how to join our board......Come on speak up you a with friends here. You can explane more than I can.....Now if I'm wrong I must say sorry to our new Anglegrl member.....I didn't mean to pull you into this.

 

[Naked Hunny]

Isnt the name of the group 9 Days or something like that!!

 

[Skitten]

I thank all of you for all of your help, I have tried telling her so many times that it just isn't worth it. That she could do a lot better the things he puts her through and the things he does to her nobody deserves to be treated that badly. I just would really like to help her she is a very sweet person and deserves to be happy with a caring person in her life. This man just really has no idea what love is all about he is a user and will probably never be ever to commit to anyone. I just would like to know how to help her understand. I don't like seeing her get hurt over and over again. Is there anything I can do? Thanks you guys are great.