A quiet passing...

[Black Tulip]

Wishing Vella strength. She'll be missing not only the love and the caring she got, but the giving and the purpose as well.

Give her my love.

 

[CharleyH]

and a very tight, lingering hug.

 

[Honey123]

My prayers and thoughts are with you, Vella.

Like I had said to you one time I have always admired your strength, your ability to take care of your mother in her time of need, and the way you would come onto Lit and smile even though there were tears in your eyes.

You have people around you that love you dearly and they are very lucky to have you as well.


~~~~
Lucky, sweets...there is no one finer or stronger who could be there for Vella at this time than you! You will be her rock ~

 

[pop_54]

 

[Guest]

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I wish I had the right words to say at a time like this, but there aren't really any that ever seem to be the right ones.

My heart goes out to you and your family, I wish you all the strength that you will need, all the love that you can take,all the prayers that are sent to you, all the hope that will endure and the solace to know that the pain is gone and her spirit will stay with those she loves.

As you said to me, we are strong women, as Gloria Gaynor says, we will survive.

Love you sweetie,

 

[McKenna]

Thinking of you and yours.

 

[gauchecritic]

Vella,

I'm not sure why, and I'm not sure if it will be any use, letting you know that many others know how you feel. Maybe it can somehow lessen the pain, I don't know. I don't even know if you'll read this but it's a poem I wrote about my own losses a few years ago.


Challenge

Wind and anger torn, tattered clouds flee the moon,
combating halogen standards
to silver the black-wet hardtop,
as lank tendrils whip painfully
about his eyes.

Bright scalding, rage flows freely
to bathe and chill an uncovered breast.
Careless of the eyeless gaze,
he begs the answer of the roaring dark.
Anonymous heads come and go,
to glance shamefully at his open grief.

He demands of another "Can I do it?"
"Yes, she would be pleased."

And later years, he sits,
this time to watch
and, bravely as he can
searches for that last beat,
in order that they can know
when finally they are alone.

- - -


Something I find heartening is from my sig-line by Terry Pratchett, maybe you can find it useful.

"I've been given something for a while, and the price of it is that I have to give it back."

Gauche

 

[ABSTRUSE]

bump

 

[DirtyJJ]

I'm sorry for your loss Vella.

 

[Colleen Thomas]

Thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Thank You

Thank you all for your sympathy and love. Believe it or not, it has a big impact. It's wonderful to have friends gather around you in times of need and I feel very lucky to know you all, as does she.

Vella is doing well, dealing with strength and grace that leaves me standing in awe. I sat beside her as she read your words and felt your warmth, and at a time when I wasn't sure it was possible, she smiled. For that, I owe you all a large hug and the most sincere thanks.

You are all wonderful people and as soon as she feels up to responding, she will tell you herself. In her own special little way, full of uncapitalized, unpunctuated and almost elliptical sentences.

Thanks again.

~lucky

 

[Guest]

thank you

i wanted to take a moment and thank each and every one of you who replied with such kindness.
you all warmed my heart.

in the days of unknowing
sails suspended
on horizons
that moment of disbelief

soul wrenching loss
questions colliding
incoherance


holding on
desperate capture
that one last moment
letting go
tear stained release

mom...she taught me to love, accept, and never judge others. she gave me so very much. i have learned through her triumphs and her failures. i hope i can be half the woman she was. i hope i can pass on what she has given me. i will never stop learning from her even though she is gone...

thank you, my online family, for being there for me when i needed you.
much love,
v~

ps... the one thing she told me just before she left was that she treasured my sence of humor...that i should always remember to laugh. im working on it mom

 

[Guest]

 

[rgraham666]

You're welcome, vella.

As long as you keep your mum in your heart, as long as you act with the wisdom, strength and humour that she taught you, she'll never truly be gone.

 

[Guest]

Hi Vella!

It is good to see you, sweetie.

*hugs*

Lou

 

[Black Tulip]

Hi Vella,

A hug and a kiss.

 

[Guest]

 

[Liar]

Re: thank you

ps... the one thing she told me just before she left was that she treasured my sence of humor...

She was right. So do we.

Hug.

#L

 

[Guest]

Glad to see you back, Babe.

*Big warm hugs and gentle kisse*(and maybe a few sloppy ones too.)

 

[doormouse]

Glad to see you back, Babe.

*Big warm hugs and gentle kisse*(and maybe a few sloppy ones too.)

Offers a tissue to wipe up the SLOBBER!!

You cannibal LOL

*hugs* Vella. Hope you're doing okay hon.

 

[Colleen Thomas]

*HUGS* Vella

 

[matriarch]

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Nice to see you pop in vella, call me if you need a laugh, I so understand your sense of humor.

 

[gauchecritic]

Stick with it Vella



Gauche