A quick hello and a question

[Lady_Brazen]

‘llo! Like many of the folks who wander across these boards I’m new to D/s, though I’ve been reading up on it both in stories and articles as well as exploring where I fit into it all for some time. I’ve lurked here off and on for some months and finally decided to get my tail in a great and register on the forums. This is my little greeting post as well as a question.

Recently I came across some literature, though I don’t quite remember where, that spoke of a dynamic specifically between Dommes and their male subs. Basically, it described that many Dommes consider themselves to above their subs to have sex with them, but let them get themselves off with masturbation and occasionally allow the sub to give them oral.

I was wondering if this is a widespread activity and how some of you might feel about such. Do any of you PYLs have knowledge or an opinion to share?

 

[Miss_Puss]

well im gonna say hello as no-one has bothered to say hi to my post either!

i'm new to this also, and was lookin for a little advice.

but i'd say on your point, i don't think i could resist!!!

 

[Lady_Brazen]

Thanks Miss_Puss, I appreciate it. And I don't think I'd be able to resist either.

I guess partly my point is that it seems to be a touch impersonal. I can understand it from the working Domme's view who caters to a more public eye and paying clients. But in a more personal relationship between a PYL femme and her pyl boy, I'd think D/s involved would be more encompassing if it did involve fuller relationship without such predefined boundries. So it's the personal life I'd be most interesting in getting insight upon.

 

[shy slave]

Hi to both of you

Well as my name suggests I am not a Domme but I am interested in the answer

So will hang around this thread and see what response you get

Good Q Lady_Brazen

 

[Netzach]

I have personal D/s relationships that involve sexual penetration of me and personal D/s relationships that don't. It boils down to what I want out of it and if I'm attracted "that way." I could have a service relationship without that kind of sexual interaction, but not a live-in or primary one.

 

[Shadowsdream]

‘llo! Like many of the folks who wander across these boards I’m new to D/s, though I’ve been reading up on it both in stories and articles as well as exploring where I fit into it all for some time. I’ve lurked here off and on for some months and finally decided to get my tail in a great and register on the forums. This is my little greeting post as well as a question.

Recently I came across some literature, though I don’t quite remember where, that spoke of a dynamic specifically between Dommes and their male subs. Basically, it described that many Dommes consider themselves to above their subs to have sex with them, but let them get themselves off with masturbation and occasionally allow the sub to give them oral.

I was wondering if this is a widespread activity and how some of you might feel about such. Do any of you PYLs have knowledge or an opinion to share?

First hello and welcome.

"Dommes consider themselves above" Not really My reason for seldom having "conventional" sex with My subs or slaves. I prefer to penetrate My toys rather than vice versa...My strap on gives Me more pleasure to penetrate with, than a cock penetrating Me generally does.

Yes occassionally I get a moments joy from good old fashion fucking but it is low on My list of priorities.

Strangely enough it is the male slaves and subs that come to Me that have the biggest fantasies of only being allowed to serve oraly and to be kept in a constant state of arousal and denial.

Just an over simplification to your question perhaps as the sexual dynamics are really between individuals rather than sub cultures of kinksters if W/we wish to discuss this subject realistically. There is no blanket answer except in fantasy.

 

[Netzach]

I'm also with Shadows on the sexuality meter, strapping one on or doing other things rates way way way way way higher than intercourse...

 

[Betticus]

I discovered a sense of satisfaction when I fuck just to make her cum for me over and over and don't orgasm myself.

A few times she cried herself to sleep, thinking that there was something wrong. Thinking that she didn't please me. I didn't feel that way, I just felt powerful and in control.