A question.

[ShyNymph]

Forgive me if this is the wrong forum, but I kinda have no idea of where to post this and I would really like an answer to this (male and femal perspectives greatly valued!)

Anyways, I've been in a relationship with my recent boyfriend for a few months now and he really wants to go down on me. Of course, I've gone down on him multiple times and we both enjoy the hell out of that, but he says he wants to return the favor and yadda yadda.

What's the problem, you ask? Well, I've always kinda thought oral on a woman is more awkward than oral on a man (not sure where this idea came from) and though I keep myself nicely shaved and fresh, I just think it would be awkward for him to really see me 'close-up'. Plus, I have large labia lips and I'm not sure if that's a turn-off for guys or not.

So, for anybody's that gone down on a woman (again, male or female) did you really enjoy it? And has anybody had this experience with a woman with large labia? Any thoughts and/or advice would be greatly appreciated!

~ShyNymph

 

[LeahLo519]

As much as I'd like to tell you to cast your fears aside and go for it (it's totally worth it) I know that it's not right for you do anything you're not ready for. If you're self conscious and the idea of him seeing you close up makes you uncomfortable, theres a reason for it and it probably has less to do with your vagina than you think.

However, I will say that a lot of women have large labia, or a bigger clit than others. (I'm one of them.) Size really shouldn't matter, but I know what it's like to be self conscious about it. My advice is to express your concern to your boyfriend. If he cares about you he'll be reassuring and it really helps. If you don't feel comfortable talking to him about, then you're probably not ready to let it happen.

Hope that helps, and good luck.

 

[Michelrpg]

Hmm. I, being a virgin in all areas regarding sex, dont have much to say from experience. However, I think you must understand that it is important for your bf to please you as well, as a sign of love. I think the best way to handle this would be to talk about this with him, and see how he responds.

Being in a relationship is all about accepting each other for who you are, and trusting each other. So trust him to accept you, alright babe ?

 

[Zephreck]

My experiences...

My experiences has always been very pleasurable to go down on a woman. Some men truly love going down on women. Just as some women truly go down on men. I happen to be one of these men so my information or perspective may be different from another guys.

It sounds like you have a lover that wants to give as well as receive and that is always a beautiful thing dear. My suggestion would be to allow him to but to let him know that you are a bit self conscious and ask him to take it slow. Mood is everything. Set up the room so that there is only indirect lighting (a few candles etc) so that you don't feel as if your body is under the "spotlight" and if he is a good lover he will spend alot of time kissing you and caressing your breasts and body and slowly work down your body. Have him work down your body and teasing the area around your mound but not on it yet and work all the way down to your ankles (or feet if he / you are into that) and then kiss slowly back up. By the time he reaches the inside of your thighs you should start to feel very aroused hopefully and will be a little bit less inhibited. Try to relax and focus on his face and not so much what he is doing but the pleasure it gives you and that he truly cares for you.

Play with his hair by running your fingers through it. Look down in his eyes. If you feel good allow yourself to gasp or moan. Don't be fake but be expressive. It doesn't have to be "loud" to be encouraging. Main thing is to let your body guide him. As you become more and more aroused allow your hips to open up and it will invite him to kiss further up your legs and then eventually begin working on your outer lips. If done correctly and he reads your body and is patient enough about the time he starts to actually caress and lick your outer labia lips they should just about be aroused enough on their own to be opened and waiting, you clit should be swollen and aching.

Hopefully he will take his time and slowly explore you from that point on. Without going into details or techniques etc (these should be explored by both you and him anyway) the key is what makes you feel the best. Communication and trust in your partner goes a long way. Remember that you don't have to necessarily give negative feedback. Hopefully you are in a relationship where he wants to know what to do to make it better. If he does focus on the things he did really well. You dont' have to say... I don't like it when you do this... Instead you can focus on "I really liked it when you did this..." He should naturally then focus more on the ways, areas etc that you enjoyed and this can help him learn more about exactly how you want it to be done. Also it seems this would be the first for you (at least I am taking that it is from your post) so try to relax and enjoy it.

Don't focus on how long it takes or how long he is "down there" Just relax and enjoy it. If he didn't want to be there he wouldn't be.

Don't focus on how you taste or what you smell like etc. Just take a shower before you expect him to do this or even offer to take a shower together that can be a wonderful way to start an erotic and romantic afternoon / evening together. With a recent shower that should help you relax and not worry about taste / smell

Main thing is to enjoy it. If you truly can relax and accept it simply as an act of affection from a lover that truly wants to please you then there is no "wrong" way for it to be done.

It sounds like you have a good lover, one that wants to be pleasing to you. These are great things. Hope it goes well for you. For me and my lovers in the past it has been a very wonderful thing to share and I hope it is for you as well.

Not sure if any of this helped.

/bow

Zeph

 

[EJFan]

is there like a book or manual that describes the perfect vagina and perfect penis?

don't sweat it... i know, easier said than done, but really do your best to not worry about such things. there are several reasons for this...

1. you can't change it
2. your SO is indifferent about it, i promise (in fact, he should count himself lucky to have someone who's so interested in his happiness)
3. you're having a great relationship with a guy and it'll only get better once you break down this barrier... imagine how much better it'll feel to not have this tension between the two of you.

it'll be ok... let him go to town. even if it DID bother him, you can't see anything clearly when you're that close anyway.

 

[Tele2047]

Everyone's different, if he cares about you then he'll understand.

I personally love going down on my gf. There's something more personal about oral sex for either partner. Think about what you thought of him when you first went down on him, I'm sure he wasn't perfect but you did it anyway and enjoyed it. The same will be for him (hopefully).

I will admit the first time I went down on a girl the taste and smell were something new, but I just kept going and now really enjoy her taste and smell(s).

 

[cordite]

I love going down on my partner and it has never mattered what her labia looked like. All women are different, from those whose vulvas are neatly tucked away to those who have very large labia than hang down when they stand with their legs apart. It doesn't matter -- they're all yummy. It's always an honor to be able to be so intimate with a woman.

 

[dollface007]

I had the same fear when I was young and inexperienced. I still bought into that whole junior-high mentality that all guys thought female genetalia were dirty and smelled like fish.

Fortunately, I had a very loving and caring guy who loved eating me out. When your guy says that he wants go down on you, trust him that he really does, and enjoy yourself. There are lots of unfortunate ladies out their who would give their left arm to have their asshole boyfriends go down on them.

 

[MagicFingers]

Hi, ShyNymph

Please, let him do it for you!
And for him. I absolutely LOVE to go down an a woman. I would rather do that than have "normal" missionary sex most of the time. It doesn't matter at all what her labia look like. We are all different and special.

My last two GF's had sweet and tasty pussies and I really loved bringing them to orgasm time and again until they forced me to stop. It really turned me on to know that they enjoyed it probably more that the sex that we had.

IT's a loving, caring theing to do. Be clean, relax, let it happen, enjoy it and don't worry about what YOU think your genitals look like. He will love them, trust us. If not, there are a million other guys out there who will.

Please report back. Did you let him? Did you enjoy it? Of course you did.

 

[AlotLikePsyche]

Know what you see and what you like.

Hi Shy Nymph - This is my first time putting anything on here. (Just wanted you to know that. I don't know why.) I worry over this SAME EXACT THING and it's such a shame because (1) it can really ruin the mood, (2) it might keep you from being honest about how you feel and what you like and (3) it can destroy intimacy. I know, cuz my labia are large and I know what it's like to assume he won't like going down. Two things come to mind that might help. First, find out what YOU like about your own private parts so you won't doubt his ability to see you up close and LOVE it!! (Easier said than done, I know, but so worth it.) What I've been doing is taking pictures of my down there with my digital camera and printing out the ones I like. (You should see me at Kinkos... I'm all, "What are YOU looking at?") Anyway, don't do it to show anyone else. Do it just for you. To know what you like about you. The experience of seeing yourself in that way... sexy, puffy, moist, inviting... can be very powerful. And healing. I say, take a bath, shave yourself the way you like, maybe even paint your nails if you like that, and throw your ankles up over your ears and get a few money shots just for you! Because knowing what YOU see and what YOU like gives you more strength. And strength is good. Now, second, I think it's also a very good idea to focus on how your body feels and what it can do instead of what it looks like. Cuz it's just exhausting worrying over what we look like TO OTHER PEOPLE all the time, isn't it? I, for one, I'm tired of it. So, I think making a point to NOTICE how your labia feel and how your pussy FEELS when you're excited is another way to overcome anxiety over how you look. Yeah... that sounds sexy to me! Anyway, hope this helps.

 

[Ricwilly]

My wife was hesitant about me goin down on her when we first got together, but now it's an enjoyable part of our sex life for both of us. I understand your concerns but think they are probably unfounded, after all your boyfriend wants to do it. I would worry bout the size thing we all come in all shapes and sizes, I assume he has seen it and he still wants to so it's not an issue with him sounds like.
I hope you relax and go for it. Oh and I agree with the others who said express your concerns with your boyfriend. Communication is allways helpful.

 

[rcuhljr]

Oh my god stop denying him that much fun!

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Forgive me if this is the wrong forum, but I kinda have no idea of where to post this and I would really like an answer to this (male and femal perspectives greatly valued!)

Anyways, I've been in a relationship with my recent boyfriend for a few months now and he really wants to go down on me. Of course, I've gone down on him multiple times and we both enjoy the hell out of that, but he says he wants to return the favor and yadda yadda.

What's the problem, you ask? Well, I've always kinda thought oral on a woman is more awkward than oral on a man (not sure where this idea came from) and though I keep myself nicely shaved and fresh, I just think it would be awkward for him to really see me 'close-up'. Plus, I have large labia lips and I'm not sure if that's a turn-off for guys or not.

So, for anybody's that gone down on a woman (again, male or female) did you really enjoy it? And has anybody had this experience with a woman with large labia? Any thoughts and/or advice would be greatly appreciated!

~ShyNymph

Chat about it all ya like, but until you stop starving the man and let him eat, you just won't know how much fun his appetite for this may be.

 

[ShyNymph]

Thanks guys, you really gave me a lot of encouragement and a lot to think about.

Yes, I know we're all different and all, and maybe I should just bring up my ultimate concerns. We have talked about it before, and he's basically at the point now where he says he's gonna stop trying until I really want him to do it. But yes, I most definitely do see it happening, if anything just because I have to experience everything, so I shall definitely report back.

Also, to AlotLikePsyche, thank you so much for sharing your views, it's always so reassuring to know others have the same problems and you're not just a freak of nature. Also I like your pic idea, I think one of the reasons why female genitalia is sort of considered taboo is because it's not as prominent as the male genitalia (as in we don't see it everytime we look down). So I guess I have to explore and know the region well myself before letting anybody else do it. Plus, if they turn out nice, I have been quite overdue for new pics...

Anyways, thanks again so much, and of course opinions are still greatly valued. I've searched and found a lot of threads on blowjobs and going down on males, but not so much for the ladies. So any useful tidbits will be greatly valued.

~ShyNymph

 

[Melesse]

Oh my god stop denying him that much fun!

Hell fucking yea!

Although I would certainly welcome new pics as well. I'll admit to a certain malaise when I realized you had abandoned your AmPic thread...

Melesse

 

[silverwhisper]

shynymph: promise, most men won't even notice large/small labias: note what eilan said as she is wise. besides, most of us doing the diving are looking for something else entirely: the clit.

ed

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

If I could choose to do only one thing

Sexually for the rest of my life it would be to go down on my wife. If I had my choice I would wake up every morning to eatting breakfast at the Y and then finish every day by eatting Dessert at the Y.

You enjoy given him oral then let him have a chance to enjoy giving you oral. Try to relax and don't think about the "What if's" just think about " oh I like how that feels "or " yes right there do more of that, Yes!"

Good luck

Holden

 

[oddity83]

Oral sex rocks. Give it a shot, if you do not like you can tell him to stop.

 

[knieval]

Forgive me if this is the wrong forum, but I kinda have no idea of where to post this and I would really like an answer to this (male and femal perspectives greatly valued!)

Anyways, I've been in a relationship with my recent boyfriend for a few months now and he really wants to go down on me. Of course, I've gone down on him multiple times and we both enjoy the hell out of that, but he says he wants to return the favor and yadda yadda.

What's the problem, you ask? Well, I've always kinda thought oral on a woman is more awkward than oral on a man (not sure where this idea came from) and though I keep myself nicely shaved and fresh, I just think it would be awkward for him to really see me 'close-up'. Plus, I have large labia lips and I'm not sure if that's a turn-off for guys or not.

So, for anybody's that gone down on a woman (again, male or female) did you really enjoy it? And has anybody had this experience with a woman with large labia? Any thoughts and/or advice would be greatly appreciated!

~ShyNymph

I would say talk about your concerns first. You might even find that talking about it leads to the act itself if you catch my drift. Personally, I would be more concerned about making sure I locate your magic G at the same time to ensure you had the maximum possible pleasure! Again though, whenever I have plucked up the courage to bring a delicate subject into the open, its usually worked out.

 

[owterspace]

my 2 cents

I LOVE going down on my wife and the other g/fs in the past.... labia size never mattered to me......if the man cares for you he will love your pussy no matter what it looks like and will want to make you feel good.....if not dont go down on him....after all fair is fair right?

 

[spyro1123]

However, I will say that a lot of women have large labia, or a bigger clit than others. (I'm one of them.)

Now if there were ever a statement that needed pictures

Size really shouldn't matter, but I know what it's like to be self conscious about it. My advice is to express your concern to your boyfriend. If he cares about you he'll be reassuring and it really helps. If you don't feel comfortable talking to him about, then you're probably not ready to let it happen.

I agree with the rest of these comments too. Let me add that from a guys perspective. vaginas are cool! End of story. Each one is like a whole new wonderfull discovery. Also when he is actually going down on you he is way to close to see anything much anyway.

It sounds like what he wants is for you to enjoy it more than wanting to get an up close detailed examination of you, if you are enjoying yourself he will be so happy you could have the biggest labia known to man and he wouldnt care.

basically, discuss it, get comfortable with him touching and playing with you, then go for it, it is worth it for everyone involved.
GOOD LUCK and take care

 

[ShyNymph]

Hey guys!

Well, good news to report, my boyfriend did go down on me, and it was definitely a hell of a new sensation. Of course, no mention at all of what I looked like (and hell, the lights were even on!) and though I couldn't help myself and asked him after what if it tasted weird to him, he just gave me a funny look and said I didn't taste weird at all. (Well, he was also like, you didn't think it tasted weird, did you? as I had grabbed his fingers earlier and sucked on them because yes, I was curious about the taste.)

Also, I was happy he was able to make me cum, as I had initially worried I would be too worried to be able to just relax and get off on it. Funny, I worry about worrying.

Anyways, I just want to thank you guys again and I definitely see this becoming quite a new and fun part to our sexual happenings.

~ShyNymph

 

[silverwhisper]

[does happy dance]

i'm always happy when a woman experiences cunnilingus. :>

ed

 

[Ezzy]

Hey guys!

Anyways, I just want to thank you guys again and I definitely see this becoming quite a new and fun part to our sexual happenings.

When you need something else new you might see if he would like to try rimming you and maybe a little buggeryeach way.

If you are still open minded there are threads on both and you will never know you like it till you try it.

 

[Ricwilly]

Congratulations! I'm glad it worked out for you.