A question of spanking.

[nymphee]

I hope the PYLs out there don't mind me addressing this question to them. What I would like to ask is, quite simply, why do you enjoy spanking/beating/whipping your pyl?

Don't get me wrong, I love a good spanking, and I understand why I like it (i think) but I've never really understood what's in it for you on the other end of the crop, as it were.

Thank you!

nymphée

 

[Bredon]

*blush*

I'm only a dom apprentice, so I get deeply embarassed by answering this, and that's all the fun

I had a thing for spanking, cropping, caning, whips since early childhood. I remember spanking my dolls in elementary school.
I was beaten only 2 or 3 times as a kid so that is no direct result of it I think.
I know the whole idea just made me shivver all over. I was fascinated by it.
I got off pirate movies where guys got whipped before I hit puberty.
I loved all those old fashioned school stories. I always wanted to have a whip.

I think that's why I even chose a martial arts with sticks.

What do I like about it?

It gives me a feeling of power.
I like the sounds it makes.
I like the idea of giving that certain stinging pain, of the lash hitting the skin.
I *love* to see people squirm, to hear them moan, to see them struggle, to hear them cry out a bit.
I love bums.
It's a very good foreplay to anal stuff-- it's almost naturally connected.
I love to see the marks on the skin and to touch them.
The idea that the sub is getting off on it enhances and multiplies my pleasure-- it is very close to fucking someone in that respect.
I like to be in charge and see the sub totally helpless.
I like the idea of punishment, that *I* punish, that is a fetish in itself, and the humiliation on the side of the sub.

That's all I can think of so far-- was that sufficient?

Bredon

 

[SpectreT]

Hm.

My answer's a little different.

1) I like butts. (simple enough, eh?)
2) I like the feel of them in and under my hand.
3) I like delivering sensation, especially to someone who I know enjoys it.
4) I switch, so some of it's vicarious, as well.

 

[soccergrrl]

Because the sting of a properly swung palm is delicious. What goes along with it is feeling like a bad girl, not only because I'm getting spanked, but also because I'm enjoying it.

When I'm the one giving the spanking, I like the exaggerated feeling of authority.

 

[FurryFury]

God I LOVE feeling an nice ass under my hand and other things. I've even found my own ass to be much more pleasing and smaller than I previously would have though. *perk*

I've always enjoyed lil swats giving and receiving. Now that I can go further I enjoy his reactions so very much. When I'm getting, *sigh* there is nothing that can lighten my mood faster or make me hotter. It's a great "break the ice / warm up" thing for me too, from either side.

Fury

 

[St_George]

Yeah... its kind of hard to explain succinctly, especially as I am new at all this, but here goes...

I love your arse. It is just so delicious to look at.
I love playing with your bottom. Squeezing, kissing, licking, whatever
I love the particular resistance that bottoms have, you know? fleshy, yet firm, yet supple.
I love the sound my hand makes.
I love the sound it makes you make.
I love the way it makes you squirm and wiggle your bottom.
I love that you love it.
I love the feeling of power that it gives me.

I think thats about it...

 

[traveler99]

Spanking

Nymphee -- a fair question. And I can't do it full justice. I know that one thing which turns me on a lot, is how turned on a lover is as she is taken, spanked, teased and more. And the quivering and squirming she exhibits while being spanked, for example, and her pleasure is very delicious. More details desired? let me know

D

 

[Chicklet]

What do I like about it?

It gives me a feeling of power.
I like the sounds it makes.
I like the idea of giving that certain stinging pain, of the lash hitting the skin.
I *love* to see people squirm, to hear them moan, to see them struggle, to hear them cry out a bit.
I love bums.
It's a very good foreplay to anal stuff-- it's almost naturally connected.
I love to see the marks on the skin and to touch them.
The idea that the sub is getting off on it enhances and multiplies my pleasure-- it is very close to fucking someone in that respect.
I like to be in charge and see the sub totally helpless.
I like the idea of punishment, that *I* punish, that is a fetish in itself, and the humiliation on the side of the sub.

That's all I can think of so far-- was that sufficient?

Bredon

this is pretty much exactly what my ex told me when i asked him why he liked to spank/beat/whip/etc me...

 

[nymphee]

Thank you all!

I asked because I'm fairly new to the whole BDSM thing and the one thing that scares me most is losing the respect of a partner. Plus, I understand why I like it, but I could never make it correlate to why He does. Thank you for being honest!

 

[myinnerslut]

good question.. i have to admit, ive been wondering about what my Sir was getting out of it, but i was too afraid to ask for one reason or another. thank you to everyone who gave an answer

 

[nymphee]

good question.. i have to admit, ive been wondering about what my Sir was getting out of it, but i was too afraid to ask for one reason or another. thank you to everyone who gave an answer

Looks like we're on the same footing! I hope it's helped you too x

 

[catalina_francisco]

I think you could get a variety of answers on this question depending who you are asking...for F though it is because he is a sadist and these things turn him on. Power and control can come into it in the right situation, but just a plain spanking session is not so much proof he has any power and control as I am a masochist so why wouldn't I want and enjoy what he is giving....how does that show he has any power or control over me? He gets his fix of power and control in many other ways, not the least being he owns me and knows I have forfeited my right to have any limits or freedom.

Catalina

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Hard to really answer in any other way but say it makes my blood run hot. I am very tactile so it's not just spanking that makes my endorphins fire. It's like a sculptor with a block of clay. Your hands and toys work from that place in your mind that ignites your desires. The raw power of truly possessing someone and having them bend to your will. To see the goose bumps or red stripes gives you that sense of accomplishment. Hearing her ragged breathe and sweat dripping from her body, as you know you have sent her to that place inside herself like being wrapped in a warm blanket. And quite simply being a assman don't hurt either.

 

[neonflux]

For me, the feelings that I get from Dominating someone and causing them pain are different. Dominance involves power - the idea that someone will do exactly as I expect is a turn-on. I enjoy it within a limited context (prefer egalitarian relationships outside of the bedroom).

Sadism is different - I enjoy giving pain to someone who enjoys receiving it, whether or not it involves any D/s play. Pure and simple, it makes me hot in an entirely different way. I also enjoy pushing a bottom a little beyond what I know they are expecting to get/take (both the imp and the teacher/challenger in me). As others have said, I like the welts, I like the sounds, I like the twitches. I also like the sense of mastery I get when I do something well (flogging is still a challenge, LOL). What is odd is that it makes me feel tender, gentle and close to the person to whom I am administering the spanking, caning, flogging, etc. Perhaps because I appreciate their "gift" but I also think because, as SpectreT suggested, as a switch I at some level understand and experience the bottom's pain vicariously...

Neon

OK, now I'm hot - and my kink partner is nowhere to be found tonight! No Citadel play party either! Ah well, guess I'll have to content myself with flogging a pillow...

 

[Bredon]

Snoozebutton

Hard to really answer in any other way but say it makes my blood run hot. I am very tactile so it's not just spanking that makes my endorphins fire. It's like a sculptor with a block of clay. Your hands and toys work from that place in your mind that ignites your desires. The raw power of truly possessing someone and having them bend to your will. To see the goose bumps or red stripes gives you that sense of accomplishment. Hearing her ragged breathe and sweat dripping from her body, as you know you have sent her to that place inside herself like being wrapped in a warm blanket. And quite simply being a assman don't hurt either.
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Neon--

What is odd is that it makes me feel tender, gentle and close to the person to whom I am administering the spanking, caning, flogging, etc.

I had that tender feeling too and I'm not a switch. I was actually very verysurprised when I got it, I almost thoughtthat I have never fellt more tender toward anyone in my whole life (apart fom little doggies perhaps) (no pun intended..).

Bredon

 

[MasterPhoenix]

For Me its about the power of the moment... when I have her bound & helpless, I am free to do with her as I wish... as I administer pain she is taking it becuase she enjoys it, but also because she knows it pleases Me that she takes it. Also as I take the play further towards her limits it streghtens the bond between us.

Its kind of hard to put into words... but that is My best attempt as of this moment.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I like spanking someone because I'm a sadist. I enjoy inflicting pain. I like tears, I live for pleas for mercy. I can do all that and more wearing out someone's ass.

Word!

 

[lne_iii]

It's just fun!