A while back, you had a pretty satisfying sex life with your partner (husband or boyfriend), even if it was more on the "vanilla" side. But then, little by little, things started getting a bit kinky — especially after he began suggesting new things in bed. How did that shift happen for you? What was the moment when it clicked and you started wanting it too, seeing it all as something natural?
Do you remember the very first time he brought up something different — something more out of the ordinary — sexually? What was it? And how did you react? Were you weirded out? Put off? Hurt? Curious? Turned on?
How long did it take before you started warming up to the idea of trying something to spice things up? And what was it like when you finally responded in a way that showed you were open to it — that moment that kind of changed the way you two see sex today?
I’m asking all this because my wife has been dropping what seem like little hints for a while now — almost like she’s playing with the idea of exploring something new, maybe even just out of curiosity. She’s mentioned celebrities in open relationships a few times, and sometimes she’ll throw in a playful, “Should we try that too?” — always joking, which leaves me unsure if she’s just messing around or actually testing the waters.
There were also a couple of times when she talked about being kinda attracted to more masculine women. One time she even said she was curious what it would be like to get oral sex from another woman. The second time, she asked me straight up: “What if I’m bi? Would that be okay with you?”
I gotta admit, all of this has me kind of confused — I can’t tell if it’s just playful banter or if she’s trying to bring this up in a way that feels safe for her, seeing how I react.
But to be honest… it also makes me curious. And yeah, it turns me on too. It’s gotten me thinking about opening up this conversation with her. I just don’t want to make things weird between us — especially because she tends to bring this stuff up in waves. Sometimes she’ll go months without saying a word about it, then out of nowhere, something comes up again.
That’s what leads me to the questions I asked at the beginning of this post, directed to women.
I’d really appreciate hearing some advice from those who’ve been through something similar — both in terms of the “turning point” I mentioned above and from the perspective of someone who started receiving hints or more direct suggestions. If anyone doesn’t feel comfortable responding here, feel free to send me a private message.
Do you remember the very first time he brought up something different — something more out of the ordinary — sexually? What was it? And how did you react? Were you weirded out? Put off? Hurt? Curious? Turned on?
How long did it take before you started warming up to the idea of trying something to spice things up? And what was it like when you finally responded in a way that showed you were open to it — that moment that kind of changed the way you two see sex today?
I’m asking all this because my wife has been dropping what seem like little hints for a while now — almost like she’s playing with the idea of exploring something new, maybe even just out of curiosity. She’s mentioned celebrities in open relationships a few times, and sometimes she’ll throw in a playful, “Should we try that too?” — always joking, which leaves me unsure if she’s just messing around or actually testing the waters.
There were also a couple of times when she talked about being kinda attracted to more masculine women. One time she even said she was curious what it would be like to get oral sex from another woman. The second time, she asked me straight up: “What if I’m bi? Would that be okay with you?”
I gotta admit, all of this has me kind of confused — I can’t tell if it’s just playful banter or if she’s trying to bring this up in a way that feels safe for her, seeing how I react.
But to be honest… it also makes me curious. And yeah, it turns me on too. It’s gotten me thinking about opening up this conversation with her. I just don’t want to make things weird between us — especially because she tends to bring this stuff up in waves. Sometimes she’ll go months without saying a word about it, then out of nowhere, something comes up again.
That’s what leads me to the questions I asked at the beginning of this post, directed to women.
I’d really appreciate hearing some advice from those who’ve been through something similar — both in terms of the “turning point” I mentioned above and from the perspective of someone who started receiving hints or more direct suggestions. If anyone doesn’t feel comfortable responding here, feel free to send me a private message.
