A question for the guys...

[BarbieBitch]

So my boyfriend and I were watching I Love You, Man the other day, at the part where Paul Rudd talks about masturbating to picture of his fiance in a bikini. If you haven't seen this movie, his friend then freaks out saying, "You masturbate to your own girlfriend? That is just sick!"

My boyfriend totally agrees. I asked if it would be different if instead of a bikini they were naughty pics, and he said, "Why would I want pictures of a girl I can fuck?" Meanwhile, I was gonna give him all the pics I've been posting here as a sexy anniversary gift. Now I don't think he wants them.

Do you gentlemen think he's underestimating the hotness of my pics and would enjoy them, or should I just forget the whole thing because he'll never look at them?

 

[bcbigbadwolf]

Hey Barbie,

It is true that us men would rather masterbate to pictures other than our own girlfriends or wives. We always want something different and new. BUT it doesn't mean that we don't enjoy very sexy and naughty pictures of our own girlfriends. Why do you think so many men want to take video and photos of their partners? It is because they want to look at them later and get pleasure out of them.

I think your boyfriend will love your pictures and I would definitely enjoy some naughty and delicious photos of a girlfriend for an anniversary gift. Maybe to add to the gift give him the pictures dressed in the same outfit that you are wearing in the pictures and get him to flip through the pictures as you do a sexy striptease for him following along with the photos.

That is just my 2 cents.

 

[Tuomas]

The obvious different people like different things?

I know that's not helpful, but conformism is a very deeply ingrained trait. Maybe he was just saying that because he hadn't really thought of it, and was going along with what the characters in the movie said?

Because, really, I know guys who love pictures of their gfs -not just in bikini or sexy poses-, after all men are much more visual than women. Men would rather a picture than a poem, for example. Especially if they can take the picture with them when their gf isn't around. And that's why the "why have a picture of a girl I can fuck?" logic doesn't stand up: you can't fuck her all the time, and you might want a "sneak peek" at some point.

Of course, there's the whole other problem of only caring about fucking, and not being interested in having a nice picture that he can look at and remind him of how much he loves his gf...

 

[kozik88]

Maybe you should just show him the link to your thread and let it go on from there....

 

[BamaWants269]

My wife sends me naughty pics of herself through texts, and emails, and even a Polaroid a few years ago she got done at a sex convention just for me. I love it all! And yes I jerk to them alot!

 

[BarbieBitch]

Maybe you should just show him the link to your thread and let it go on from there....

No no no... I don't think he'd like knowing that all of you are enjoying them. lol He's not as kinky as me.

Because, really, I know guys who love pictures of their gfs -not just in bikini or sexy poses-, after all men are much more visual than women. Men would rather a picture than a poem, for example. Especially if they can take the picture with them when their gf isn't around. And that's why the "why have a picture of a girl I can fuck?" logic doesn't stand up: you can't fuck her all the time, and you might want a "sneak peek" at some point.

This is what I would like to think. Especially if I'm out of town or something. I don't know what kind of porn he like, though. He doesn't wanna watch any with me.

 

[kozik88]

No no no... I don't think he'd like knowing that all of you are enjoying them. lol He's not as kinky as me.

This is what I would like to think. Especially if I'm out of town or something. I don't know what kind of porn he like, though. He doesn't wanna watch any with me.

he might get off on it

 

[YoungHunkCanuck]

I think that although he says one thing... at the moment of truth seeing your pics would send him into a furry of sexual desire.

Maybe even use them as a means to tease him before foreplay on the anniversary etc.

Idk i think its amazing that you would give him those, very personal and sexual

 

[draconus_infernus]

I've masturbated to pictures of my wife, and I masturbate to thoughts and fantasies about her. I think it's perfectly normal.

 

[muffalo]

Wow. Goood question...
First of all, I think as an anniversary gift, you might want to consider having a fun photo shoot instead of just giving him pictures. Buy some toys, lingerie, get some fun foods, porn, and tell him you guys each get a turn being the "director"(mainly him though). He can order you around and tell you what he wants to see.
Be his naughty photo model for a bit. That might open up his mentality to the issue and make him think again how fun it could be. I don't know your relationship, but that might be fun. Especially if you tell him you'll get them developed for him as a reward.
Eh? Maybe?
I do tend to agree with him about masturbating to your own girlfriend, mainly because I'm also a not-to-kinky type of guy. I'd rather be with the girl(then again I feel like if I had a long distance relationship it might be different)
However, that doesn't mean I don't have kinky thoughts(shoot, look at my posts and you'll understand)if he understands your "opening yourself up to him" romantically, and not purely sexually, he might appreciate it more. Tell him you want to be his porn star?
After all, your pictures should be worth more than just porn anyway, maybe it will take the idea of pictures to a new level.
I don't know. It sounds like he needs a bit of teasing. Don't give it up to him leading up to the anniversary, let his balls swell up a bit then ask him what positions he's thinking about and he can create his own porn with you in it before he lives it out. I'm sure he'll look back at those pictures and feel differently
Hope my advice helps. Good topic though really!

 

[cliteatingman]

I think that in his mind he does not masturbate to pics of a woman he knows and respects (and perhaps loves). Take it as a compliment.

 

[ShaiGirl]

.... I'd rather be with the girl(then again I feel like if I had a long distance relationship it might be different)

Not a guy here.... but yes, it's different in a long distance relationship. I've been in one, and my ex always wanted my sexy pics.

 

[BarbieBitch]

Don't give it up to him leading up to the anniversary, let his balls swell up a bit...

Too late for that. lol We had morning sex today. But, the rest of your post I agree with. I was thinking I would show them to him (but I don't know the best way to do that yet) and then tell him that if there's something else he'd like to photograph, or video tape, to feel free. I dunno... today's the day so I gotta figure out something.

 

[BarbieBitch]

Okay, guys. The anniversary was yesterday. I gave him a card and after he opened that I put his USB drive in his computer and had him open the folder. I told him, "This is why we had a discussion about naughty pics during that movie..." He was like, "Oh, I thought so," and that was it. Not only will he not look at them in front of me, he went right back to playing video games.

 

[charlie069]

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[muffalo]

Hmmm...to be totally honest, I can't think of too many positive things to say about your bf.
I think it was a sweet idea, and I shouldn't really say anything because I think it has more to do with his sexual experience and likes than him being a guy. Although that certainly has something to do with it.
Don't take this the wrong way, but, do you have control over the sex life? Usually a woman has a bit of say in when, where, and how sex will happen for the most part. That usually gives you more power to draw him in. It sounds like he's a little spoiled with your beautiful body and sexual kinks...
*whispering softly*
...(Sounds like you need a kinky love interest, or shorten that leash on the bf)
BUT, don't take that the wrong way. Just some random Lit advice for a sexy SEXY girl that I would LOOOOVE to have a photo shoot with

 

[BarbieBitch]

Thanks, Muff!

 

[ADIDAS00]

I definately think he's underestimating the hotness of your pics! Maybe he's shy too, who knows. I think its a hot thought to get naughty pics of your significant other personally. That way you can open up to each other and get as freaky as you want!

 

[muffalo]

Thanks, Muff!

You're welcome!
(Anywhere near PA? Perhaps I could take some photos of you that would make any guy blow his load)

 

[jros4]

looking

I have a sneaky video I made of my wife getting dressed and I often jerk off to it! I love it!! I heard one time that as long as your wife's image is still in your "jack bag" or "masturbation Rolodex" than you are in good shape with your relationship.

 

[BarbieBitch]

I have a sneaky video I made of my wife getting dressed and I often jerk off to it! I love it!! I heard one time that as long as your wife's image is still in your "jack bag" or "masturbation Rolodex" than you are in good shape with your relationship.

I agree. I think my pics are good enough to go in the Spank Bank (my favorite term for it). It makes me feel like the only reason he sleeps with me is because I let him.

 

[jros4]

ummm

Well i cannot address your boys "problems" but again I like getting off to my wife!! She is no skinny mini but man i love the curves and the way her body flows!

 

[trojank]

Surely its horses for courses ........me and my girlfriend before I got married used to watch each other masturbate or even do it together .......I used to love watch her play with herself .........and to think wed fuck each other silly on other occasions .....its just another string to the bow !!

 

[ShyDahlia]

Okay, guys. The anniversary was yesterday. I gave him a card and after he opened that I put his USB drive in his computer and had him open the folder. I told him, "This is why we had a discussion about naughty pics during that movie..." He was like, "Oh, I thought so," and that was it. Not only will he not look at them in front of me, he went right back to playing video games.

Aw. I would feel the same as you, I think...

But you know what? If the tables were turned, and my (non existant) boyfriend gave me a USB drive of naughty photos, I likely wouldn't be able to look at them in front of him, either. Is he really shy or reserved? In the past I haven't been able to express my sexuality without feeling like my head was going to blush itself into spontaneous combustion, so I can understand a little why he wouldn't look with you there.

However, its obvious that you are making yourself vulnerable by giving him such a personal gift! You don't want it to be shrugged off; you want him to express SOMEthing and show that he appreciates it. (Right?) I bet if you sat down and told him how you feel, he'd squirm and let you know he likes it. And if he doesn't, well, then, he doesn't know how lucky he is to have a partner who trusts him so much.

Good luck!

 

[boo56]

Barbie:

I am disappointed in your boyfriend. I think he should have been considerably more appreciative and demonstrated his appreciation appropriately.

I think he should have put on a little show for you using your gift. But, reasonable minds can differ, I guess.