A question for the guys

[ponyboy45]

If you have ever tried anal sex with another guy (this is strictly a gay sex question) as either the giver or receiver of or both, do you prefer it more than oral sex and why? Do you prefer to be the giver (top) or the receiver (bottom)? Why? Just curious. For me, sex isn't sex unless I am getting fucked hard and deep in the ass. I like being fucked at least 3 or 4 times a night and filled with hot cum each time. It is something about having a guy's hot load shot inside of me that adds to the pleasure.

If you have never tried anal sex, would you consider it? Why or why not? Again, just curious.

 

[Flight420]

quite honestly, I would have to say that I could probably go the rest of my natural life without having anal sex again and not miss it one bit. It looks like great fun on the vids and there are many men (and women) who love it. My experience has been, with few exceptions, that men forget that, unlike the vagina, this orafice does not self-lubricate and that one doesn't just "dive right on up in there!"

this is just a reflection of what I have experienced so far and I've been around for a while. My theory is that, i n a life imitates art sort of scenario, some subconsciously act out what they see in porno vids which is cool so long as one realizes that there is alot of behind the scenes prepping that takes place so that what is caught on film and appearing spontaneous is completely not. Seems like a no-brainer but it's the only thing, for me, that can explain it.

 

[oxford_flame_uk]

I have sucked cock before but not tried anal yet. When the time comes and it feels like the right time I shall definitely be giving it a go.

I will try anything once!!

 

[Harrowborg]

I've tried it once in my life and to be honest, it hurt like hell lol. I think thats a big prob between guys is that sometimes like the lady said, we forget it doesn't lube itself up. so in the heat of the moment, when he 'forgot' and tried to push his thankfully small cock inside me, it hurt a lot. I no from my female mates who have done it sometimes a guy is gentle and will finger, lick, lube everything until the hole is slippery and flexible but as I said, it hurt, a lot.

 

[boomer3112]

I have tried anal and oral with a guy, and to be honest sometimes i prefer oral and at other times anal.

I am definately a top and love to have me cock sucked for as long as possible before being allowed to cum.

At other times i just need to be inside someone, however i will always take my time and make sure that i use lube and take the time to get my lover ready, you can never have TOO MUCH lube!!

 

[Jeremync]

I love sucking cock and awaiting to get fucked in the asshole.

 

[Reshbod]

I have never been with a man, however if the opportunity presents itself I would be willing to try it at least once. Unfortunately I haven't met another man I would be comfortable being intimate with. Hopefully that will change one of these days.

 

[none2_none2]

Thank heaven for anal bottoms

I couldn't imagine life without anal sex. There has never been anything more of a turn on to me than being inside a butch, muscular, hairy, caucasian man.

When I first started gay sex some 20 years ago, I was told that you couldn't be a top unless you were really well hung, so I was stuck with mutual j/o, bottoming, and oral sex. To be honest, gay sex sucked (pun intended). I really had doubts about being non-straight. I wanted to be close to men that I found attractive, but really wished for satisfying sex.

Two years into gay sex, someone finally was willing to let me be on top. For the first time in my life, I didn't know if I was cumming, pissing, being born, dying,etc. It was the quintessential experience. For a time after that I was versitile, but I never enjoyed being on the bottom. It wasn't horribly painful; it simply wasn't me. I only did it because I thought I was "supposed to". With AIDS being a big factor, I finally decided that it made no sense to do something I never even liked to do. So since 1986 I have been exclusively a top.

To me being a top doesn't make me more manily or rob the other guy of his. It doesn't make him a slave and me a master. It is simply a realization of MY natural sexuality. If a man turns me on, then there is no bigger thrill than gaining his trust and beling ALLOWED inside him. Its not so much about me "just getting off", but I want the other guy to enjoy it. There is nothing like experiencing a guy's orgasm from the inside -- the contractions. etc. If it were a choice between me getting off or the other guy, I'd rather have him get off.

I don't understand those bottoms that like it fast and rough. I like it to last a long time. Its also great because you can kiss while you are inside. My only regret is that I'm not long enough to sleep "connected". I have accommodated those needing it that way, but it seems a bit unnatural.

I know lots of gay/bi men have this oral fixation. I really have no idea why. I like pre-cum, but other than that it could never be anything more than foreplay. Who wants teeth marks, gags, or can't breath, hickeys, or a jaw that tires out after a half hour.

For me, I have to have real sex - not lollipop sex. You always hear that men naturally know how to please another man. I should have charged money everytime I heard that line, or made them bet that if they couldn't get me off orally, I got their ass. I would have had a much higher number of satisfying encounters -- or at least more money in the bank.

I'm in love now, and I believe in monogamy. If he had a colostomy, I would choose him over straying. It wouldn't be easy, but love takes presidence over any sex act - even if it is wonderful. We don't fuck every time, but I can enjoy fingering him or rimming him and that is a turn on for me. Especially since most don't suspect he is gay, let a lone someone who enjoyed anal from the bottom perspective.

I know I'm in the minority, cock suckers are a dime a dozen in the gay community. However, thank heaven for BOTTOMS. I think there was a famous movie that once said: "Every time a man gets bottomed, an angel earns his wings." Men that appreciate bottoming are truely blessed gifts. You are the best life has to offer.

 

[gagginforit]

I've never been with another guy but I love the thoght of getting my ass fucked and if I meet someone I'm comfortable with I would like to try it. I would also love to get my ass filled with cum and that's a major fantasy but in real life I'd never allow it due to the risk of infection and that would take the fun out of it. Like condoms for cock sucking, it's a must, but what's the point if you can't take a hot load in your mouth?
But what I have done is to rape my ass with every implement imaginable since I was quite young. I kind of regret that coz of the fear that I may have damaged myself somehow (the pool cue and the tv remote come to mind) and also my hole is really lose. I can soap up a finger and slide it in no problems. I haven't done anything like that for years due to those fears but I'm soooooo tempted. If I did I would buy a propper dildo and lube and I'm pretty sure that would be safe but I'm still worried about my ass getting too lose. I'd be interested to know if many guys or women for that matter use dildos in their ass and if it has any downside.
But I sooooo know where you're comming from when you say you want to get fucked. I don't like the idea of putting my cock in someone's ass but the thought of one fucking mine drives me wild.

 

[bi golly]

Re: Thank heaven for anal bottoms

I don't understand those bottoms that like it fast and rough. I like it to last a long time. Its also great because you can kiss while you are inside. My only regret is that I'm not long enough to sleep "connected". I have accommodated those needing it that way, but it seems a bit unnatural.

I have never had sex with a man, but I want to try it. I have been thinking about sex with men since soon after I learned to masturbate. I have been playing with my anus since then. I'm nearly 50 now and enjoy anal play while masturbating.

I have been wanting sex with men, but it took me a long time to want to suck a cock. I always wanted to be penetrated anally. I used candles and many other phallic shaped objects.

I use a Feeldoe now. I was seeing a women (I still like women and I don't think I will give them up, pussy is too good) and she said she wanted to try taking a man. But we split up and I still have the Feeldoe, although we didn't use it together.

I like that it is smooth. I had a dildo that was realistic with veins and it was pretty hard on my anus. Lots of tender skin there, smoother is better. It has taken me a while to learn how to use it, but I really enjoy it now.

When I first started using it, I fantasized being taken by a man, and there was lots of power images that were in play. But it didn't feel that good. I learned to open my self up slowly and enjoy the sensations. I use one finger first, then two and then three. I try to hold three fingers in for at least a minute and a half. I ease them in and then hold them there.

When I start with the Feeldoe, it hurts a little, but then I start working it in. Lots of lube is key here. I can sometimes feel it stick to skin inside of me that hasn't been lubed, and I take it out and put more on. I work it in slowly, working lube all the way up. I can get most of it into me and then I start on my penis. If I am not hard, I get hard in a hurry.

I like to lay on my side and hold the Feeldoe with my left hand and my penis with my right. I rock back and forth, fucking my hand going one way and getting fucked by the dildo going the other way. I can not begin to explain the feelings. It is fantastic. I can feel the movement of the Feeldoe all the way inside me. I don't feel the location, just intense sensation the entire time that it is going inside of me and then pulling back out.

I would like to try this with a man, to have him inside of me, laying on our sides, and have him fuck me and reach around to hold my penis as he does it. I don't need it hard and fast. Slow and steady would do it for me.

I would also like to try a three some with a man. I had a lover recently who had a tall bed. I took her on more than one occasion while she was on her back and I was standing on the floor. I remember looking down at her shaved pussy and thinking that I wished I could suck her clit as I was fucking her or that someone else would. I was sure she would really get off. I leaned over above her and wished that I had someone to spread my legs and fuck me while I was in her. I really wanted to feel her pussy on my cock and have another cock in my ass, so that everytime I pulled out of her, I would be pushing him into me. Nothing wild and hard and fast, just good deep strokes on good hard cocks.

 

[fenderman68]

Re: Re: Thank heaven for anal bottoms

I would also like to try a three some with a man. I had a lover recently who had a tall bed. I took her on more than one occasion while she was on her back and I was standing on the floor. I remember looking down at her shaved pussy and thinking that I wished I could suck her clit as I was fucking her or that someone else would. I was sure she would really get off. I leaned over above her and wished that I had someone to spread my legs and fuck me while I was in her. I really wanted to feel her pussy on my cock and have another cock in my ass, so that everytime I pulled out of her, I would be pushing him into me. Nothing wild and hard and fast, just good deep strokes on good hard cocks.

This sounds so familiar. My wife and I have talked about this as well and the idea drives both of us crazy. I've imagined having another guy there while we were having sex. He is behind me and, like you, when I pull out of my wife, I push my ass onto his cock. It gets to the point where I can almost feel it. This always drives me over the brink of orgasm. I can only imagine what it would be like in reality.

 

[maleorfemale]

mmmmmm bottom

Nothing is better then anal sex,I have never had the chance to top another guy yet but I have been thinking about it very often.
So far I have only been on the bottom,and I love to be fucked nice and slow and deep.I have had very little chance to do all that I would like with another guy.My first time was on my 44th
birthday,wife and I meet a guy on the beach and ended up at his house with his wife-this was a first for us,we have been married
for 22 years-we all got naked on the living room floor,next thing
I know I am on my knees watching my wife suck someother guys
cock-and his wife is lying naked on the floor beside me.
And I really had no intrest in her,I could not take my eyes off his
cock.I had wanted to do it all my life,my wife looked over at me with his cock in her hand-she knew what I wanted to do,we
had talked about it often enough.

I will never forget how it felt when I wraped my lipps around the head of his cock,it was hard as a rock,yet one of the softest things I have ever had in my mouth.Since then my wife and I
have meet a couple of other guys.

And I have had some of the best sex of my life,only time I have ever cum without touching myself-with nothing touching my cock,
was the first time I sucked a cock and the first time I was fucked in my ass.

Now I still love sex with my wife-love to eat her wet pussy for hours-and her ass,she loves anal sex and I sure love to top her.
But I always make sure she is ready for it-dry anal sex sucks.

We have now found a steady guy-we get together with once a week or so, and sometimes he wants to fuck my wife and sometimes he wants to fuck me.

Of all the guys we have been with he is the only one who had any Idea how to suck a cock or make love with 2 other people,
there is a big difference between fucking and make love.

This past weekend was another first for me-my wife and I had always kept kissing to ourselves-had even stated that to all the guys we were with-no kissing!
Steve was over on friday and we had not seen him for a few months we were all in bed together and I saw him watching us kiss and I wanted to kiss him so baaadddd-I had never kissed another guy before and I ask if he could share a kiss with us-at first it was a 3way kiss and then it was just he and I,she went nuts.
It made her drip watching me kiss him-and it made me drip also.
How can a guys lips be so soft-softer then my wifes-at any rate it was just another of thoses things I had yet to try-it was very hot and something I will do again when ever I get the chance!

I have learned much about myself in this last year-And I still
can't belive my wife has stuck with me-of course we only do this together-I don't meet guys without her and she doesn't without
me.Not that I haven't thought about it.

I don't think this is just a gay sex question,I don't think of myself
as gay or bi or whatever fancy name you want to call it.
I am a person that likes to have sex with other people.

 

[AmericanEagle83]

I was the giver once. Didn't see what was so fantastic about it. I could never do it again and be totally fine. I'd like to bottom though and see what it's like. But from my experience, oral is the shiznit.