A Question for the Guys

[EmilyMiller]

One woman's opinion: Yes, a bit more lustfully is preferred but, basically, yeah, looking for praise, and maybe some hair pulling, but mostly praise. Those two things up the enthusiasm ten fold easily.

Agree. There is nothing wrong with feedback. If you are doing your best, the occasional “oh, babe, that’s fucking amazing,” or “you are so good at that,” is very much appreciated.

Em

 

[Djmac1031]

Agree. There is nothing wrong with feedback. If you are doing your best, the occasional “oh, babe, that’s fucking amazing,” or “you are so good at that,” is very much appreciated.

Em

Just for the record; we men appreciate that too when we're down there. It's nice to know we're on the right track.

 

[Emilymcplugger]

To keep things fair, maybe the guys could share with the ladies what they enjoy when a lady goes down on them.

I don’t enjoy it.

But as the old joke punchline goes “70% enjoy the quiet”.

 

[gunhilltrain]

One woman's opinion: Yes, a bit more lustfully is preferred but, basically, yeah, looking for praise, and maybe some hair pulling, but mostly praise. Those two things up the enthusiasm ten fold easily.

I haven't seen a huge amount of Bernie Mac's material, but when he talked about various topics (especially sex), I'm not sure how much was joshing and how much was serious. I suspect, like most stand-up comedians, he exaggerated some things for the effect he would get.

 

[Britva415]

I wanna be blown by 90 ladies!

That would be some rainbow-party

 

[elizaloo]

Oh, and I think it goes without saying, but.... NO TEETH.

I'mma just say,

Teeth, used properly, can make the difference between good and FUCKING AMAZING.

Or so I've heard.

Ice, too.

Of course, this testimony is anecdotal, since I am not a man.

 

[Codoc24]

So, are there some guys who don't enjoy a lady going downtown? Because the ladies seemed much more willing to share, when they were asked what they enjoyed.

It's hard to say, but I think all the guys I know well enough to talk about BJs to are very much in favor of them.

 

[elizaloo]

Yes! Just as ice can be nice, heat can be, too. I had a gf who would sip from a warm drink then take me in her mouth. The warmth felt so damn good.

Or alternating...we've tried that too.

 

[cunme69]

I def do share with the ladies when they go down on me, I tell them how good it feels, make sounds to excite them, sometimes talk to them dirty, nasty and praise them like they are so nasty some of them get off on that.

 

[Codoc24]

I like it when a woman licks the frenulum before she puts it in her mouth. Very erotic. And as someone else mentioned earlier, if they enjoy doing it is big and not act like it is a chore. That's a huge turnoff. I remember one time way, way back in my younger years, I was laying on the couch, and my girlfriend was kneeling next to me and giving me a blowjob. We hadn't been dating that long, a couple of months or so, and I was getting really close to cumming. I didn't know how she would feel if I came into her mouth, so I wanted to warn her. I leaned forward a little and just told her I was close. She kept it in her mouth but reached her palm out on my chest and pushed me back on the couch, giving me the green light. She kept going, and I came in her mouth, and she swallowed. That is still one of my fondest BJ memories because it was so hot and erotic when she reached out and pushed me back.

 

[Codoc24]

One woman's opinion: Yes, a bit more lustfully is preferred but, basically, yeah, looking for praise, and maybe some hair pulling, but mostly praise. Those two things up the enthusiasm ten fold easily.

I like hair-pulling, that's pretty hot. Just a little tug, not enough to hurt someone.

 

[cdstefi]

Oh, and I think it goes without saying, but.... NO TEETH.

It sorta does in general, but the most mind-blowing orgasm I ever had (I passed out briefly afterwards, I'd cum so hard) was when a partner had dedicated herself to making me cum just from a BJ. She'd been sucking like a Dyson and gripping my shaft hard to swell my cock to painful rigidity, and whether accidentally or by design, right as I started to cum she raked her teeth right up my shaft and over my cut glans and I lost myself with the mix of pain and orgasmic pleasure.

When I did come round she looked very pleased with herself and took some joy in announcing she'd swallowed the lot, and that there was a lot

 

[JaxRhapsody]

I like when they're actually good at it, or don't bullshit around.

 

[JaxRhapsody]

There's nothing worse than a blowjob by someone who feels obliged and treats it like a chore.

Oh, there is, and I had it. Over eagerness and seemingly desperation.

 

[PandemicReader8]

A half-hearted BJ is less stimulating and enjoyable than sex.

This!
If it feels like "Maybe now he'll shut up" then don't bother. But if she's into it, if there's eye contact and maybe some noise to indicate she's turned on then it's incredible.

 

[StillStunned]

Is this a good moment to talk about skincare for the penis? Vitamin E oil to restore the nerve endings after years of rubbing: it makes a big difference.

 

[nice90sguy]

To keep things fair, maybe the guys could share with the ladies what they enjoy when a lady goes down on them.

The temporary lull in her chattering

 

[Deleted member 6666935]

To keep things fair, maybe the guys could share with the ladies what they enjoy when a lady goes down on them.

As much as the simple fact of a lady going down on me is wonderful enough as it is (as Emily pointed out already), there are some specifics I enjoy…

Enthusiasm - when the lady looks like she enjoys doing it instead of looking like it’s a chore or a bore.

Creativity - When she comes up with something nobody else has done before.

Hand use - Good use of hands to enhance the experience.

I did not mention eye contact because when it’s really good, I just want to lie back and close my eyes and get lost in the sensations of it all.

 

[ZfrkS62]

Make us believe you enjoy the act. Eye contact, energy, intensity. It doesn't have to always be fast and sloppy. You can still make us believe you love it with slow and sensual. We know the difference between you wanting us aroused and primed for you, and you just wanting to get us to unload.

Letting your hands wander and explore is another way to tell us you enjoy what you're doing and what's on your mind.

 

[burgwad]

To keep things fair, maybe the guys could share with the ladies what they enjoy when a lady goes down on them.

The abstract stuff that others have said (e.g., enthusiasm, creativity, curiosity, etc.) is important, for sure, but I feel like those same flavor-enhancers apply to any sex act. Below are some BJ-specific behaviors that I like:

• Vocalization -- I love to feel your voice.
• Nuzzling -- I guess I love to feel your nose, too?
• Nut stuff -- Kissing, suckling, licking along my perineal raphe, etc.

 

[PersonalFavors]

Agree. There is nothing wrong with feedback. If you are doing your best, the occasional “oh, babe, that’s fucking amazing,” or “you are so good at that,” is very much appreciated.

Em

I prefer feedback. Even instruction. Sometimes will get almost close enough to pull her trigger just to feel her hands guide my face and say right there. Even like when she needs to do it again with a little more emphasis on right there, don't stop.
I do wish she would hear my feed back. Many a climax ruined by letting go completely or too much continued motion. I don't care if you swallow but geez! Please let me cum. Don't stop it in the middle. hahaha It is not just a climax, the feeling I am pumping cum into her mouth is so much more pleasurable than sex. Sex, I am doing a lot of the work. When she is in control it is so much more intimate.

 

[theWollstonecraftWoman]

I prefer feedback. Even instruction. Sometimes will get almost close enough to pull her trigger just to feel her hands guide my face and say right there. Even like when she needs to do it again with a little more emphasis on right there, don't stop.
I do wish she would hear my feed back. Many a climax ruined by letting go completely or too much continued motion. I don't care if you swallow but geez! Please let me cum. Don't stop it in the middle. hahaha It is not just a climax, the feeling I am pumping cum into her mouth is so much more pleasurable than sex. Sex, I am doing a lot of the work. When she is in control it is so much more intimate.

You want a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to tell you. "Not, like that, try again. That's better, now more. Yes, more of that."

 

[cdstefi]

The temporary lull in her chattering

If that's all that's bothering you, you're probably not in a relationship that works for you, let's be honest. If you don't want to listen to her talk then sure, you might be the taciturn one, but if she actively irritates you enough to mention it in such dismissive terms, you don't need to be hanging about in this just because head. I'd be like gutted to feel that needy for a blowjob.

 

[PersonalFavors]

You want a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to tell you. "Not, like that, try again. That's better, now more. Yes, more of that."

I like the ones that roll me over and put it on my face exactly where they want it too.