A Question for the Guys

[Smuttyandfun]

To keep things fair, maybe the guys could share with the ladies what they enjoy when a lady goes down on them.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I like it when they fondle my tits while they are doing it!

 

[TomTeacher19]

That.

 

[muddler35]

Eye contact is EVERYTHING.

 

[EmilyMiller]

To keep things fair, maybe the guys could share with the ladies, what they enjoy when a lady goes down on them.

Can I guess?

1. It’s a woman
2. She’s going down on him
3. Er…

 

[onehitwanda]

Can I guess?

1. It’s a woman
2. She’s going down on him
3. Er…

"At this point, you might be wondering how I wound up here. Frankly, so am I"

 

[Smuttyandfun]

So, are there some guys who don't enjoy a lady going downtown? Because the ladies seemed much more willing to share, when they were asked what they enjoyed.

 

[StillStunned]

Can I guess?

1. It’s a woman
2. She’s going down on him
3. Er…

She's not talking.

 

[AchtungNight]

Personally I enjoy the willingness to do it. The sudden sensation of a woman’s mouth enveloping your length and moving in accordance. Hand massage and kisses on balls, thighs, and other areas are appreciated also. Sucking the head, deep throating, swallowing are nice but not necessary. I’ve been with women who enjoy swallowing and some who enjoy using flavored condoms because they appreciated the taste of male cum but not male sweat, there’s something to be said for each technique. Also those who pull their mouth off when they sense a man about to come and then rub the results into skin or cotton. I have yet to experience a team blowjob or snowballing irl, but these things have their appeal in stories.

I also have not experienced personally male fellatio vs female the way some women I know have experienced male vs female cunnilingus. The latter women report that the porn cliche of women doing it better is a partial myth- some attentive and skilled men can be just as good. I have no desire to experience a gay encounter personally, but others in the LBTG chatter thread here have pointed at a similar male fellatio partial myth. [shrug] Everyone has their opinion.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

So, are there some guys who don't enjoy a lady going downtown? Because the ladies seemed much more willing to share, when they were asked what they enjoyed.

It might sound like bullshit, but while I do enjoy a BJ, I truly do prefer giving over receiving. If I had to choose between the two, I would always choose to give. Nothing beats the feeling of giving pleasure and seeing that look of satisfaction and happiness.

 

[muddler35]

There is such a huge difference from a woman doing it because she thinks she should (yuck) and a woman doing it because she enjoys it as much as you do (yum). I think generally guys either love going down on women, or they just don’t do it. That might explain the disparity. Just a guess.

 

[Euphony]

So, are there some guys who don't enjoy a lady going downtown? Because the ladies seemed much more willing to share, when they were asked what they enjoyed.

Obviously not a rigorous survey here but I wouldn't be shocked to find out stigma plays into it. Guys do face pressure to "like" the tropes, from friend discussions, from partners oversimplifying the whole of male sexual expression, and a society that often shames for male sexual imagination. (not talking fetishes, just liking/not liking something every "guy" is supposed to)

One of my best friends didn't like masturbaition. He was never comfortable enough to express to me why (wasn't overly religious or anything) he just didn't derive whole pleasure from it (biology/nature almost forces physical to happen. Emotional and spiritual? Those aren't a given)

He'd self harm (in the socially acceptable "guy ways") after nearly every guys trip we'd have. (other dudes simply couldn't be comfortable in their own shit if he wasn't on board.)

He was pretty wrecked about it all and for no good reason.

I think guys are more complex than society often suggests or we even allow ourselves to be.

 

[alohadave]

So, are there some guys who don't enjoy a lady going downtown? Because the ladies seemed much more willing to share, when they were asked what they enjoyed.

I don't particularly care for receiving. Doesn't do much for me.

 

[SimonDoom]

Honestly? Unless she knows what she's doing and puts effort into it, I get bored. A half-hearted BJ is less stimulating and enjoyable than sex. It takes a combination of eye contact, pacing, reading a partner's body, using the tongue the right way, the hands the right way, and knowing how to apply the right kind of pressure in the right places at the right time. In my experience the biggest flaw in technique is not applying enough pressure with the right rhythm. But, of course, I'm not 22. When I was 22 I didn't need any pressure. Mouth--cock: we were good.

To follow up on what AchtungNight wrote, above, I'd say the willingness to do it is part of it, but not enough--if the woman really WANTS to do it, actually gets pleasure in giving pleasure, and conveys that, then it's pure gold.

So much of successful sex, I think, is about attitude, more than technique.

 

[MillieDynamite]

What's this someone asking guys a question about guys? How gay is that shit?

 

[AchtungNight]

To quote my ex, it also depends on the guy a lot. Does he enjoy a blowjob? Does the woman enjoy tasting him in particular? Will he thank her appropriately? The spectrum varies here too.

 

[RejectReality]

When you have enough fun times go south because it's virtually impossible to get you off orally — no matter how amazing it is — you find it more stressful than pleasurable. The better they are, the worse it usually ends up.

As foreplay, I enjoy the eye contact, soft moans, kissing, tonguing, and then do my best to flip the script before she gets too invested in the actual blowjob.

 

[ElectricBlue]

"At this point, you might be wondering how I wound up here. Frankly, so am I"

It's your insatiable curiosity.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Speaking strictly for yourself, I'm guessing.

When you have enough fun times go south because it's virtually impossible to get you off orally — no matter how amazing it is — you find it more stressful than pleasurable. The better they are, the worse it usually ends up.

As foreplay, I enjoy the eye contact, soft moans, kissing, tonguing, and then do my best to flip the script before she gets too invested in the actual blowjob.

 

[EmilyMiller]

So much of successful sex, I think, is about attitude, more than technique.

Very, very true.

Em

 

[Djmac1031]

There is such a huge difference from a woman doing it because she thinks she should (yuck) and a woman doing it because she enjoys it as much as you do (yum). I think generally guys either love going down on women, or they just don’t do it. That might explain the disparity. Just a guess.

THIS.

WILLINGNESS IS KEY.

I don't like to presume to speak for other men but I'm willing to think they'll back me up here.

Ladies: if you don't like doing it, or just aren't in the mood, then DON'T.

Because we can tell.

There's nothing worse than a blowjob by someone who feels obliged and treats it like a chore.

If you're not enjoying DOING it, I'm not enjoying it being done.

Let's move on to something we both enjoy instead.

Oh, and yes; if you DO enjoy it, the best way to show it is eye contact.

Your technique could be basic, but if you look up while doing it and give us the right look....

 

[Djmac1031]

Oh, and I think it goes without saying, but.... NO TEETH.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Attitudes: everyone says mine is bad! Especially about guys and sex.

So much of successful sex, I think, is about attitude, more than technique.

Edit: Sex with guys is how that should've read.

 

[muddler35]

THIS.

WILLINGNESS IS KEY.

I don't like to presume to speak for other men but I'm willing to think they'll back me up here.

Ladies: if you don't like doing it, or just aren't in the mood, then DON'T.

Because we can tell.

There's nothing worse than a blowjob by someone who feels obliged and treats it like a chore.

If you're not enjoying DOING it, I'm not enjoying it being done.

Let's move on to something we both enjoy instead.

Oh, and yes; if you DO enjoy it, the best way to show it is eye contact.

Your technique could be basic, but if you look up while doing it and give us the right look....

Very well said sir.

 

[RejectReality]

Speaking strictly for yourself, I'm guessing.

Yep. At this point, the anxiety probably compounds the problem.

Same difficulty with woman on top or standing positions, but that works to my advantage.