A Question for the Guys

And if you piss her off and complain about her technique, she'll liable to hit you with her cane! (Once you help her up off her knees, of course.)
 
There's nothing worse than a blowjob by someone who feels obliged and treats it like a chore.
I mean, it's a valid point, but I can think of few worse things without really trying...indeed some everyday things I usually quite like can be worse.

Anyway, +1 for eye-contact and enthusiasm.

One thing I don't think has been mentioned yet though is that blow-jobs are the ultimate form of relaxation. They're nice because there is absolutely no pressure to perform (there is the pressure not to ejaculate in her mouth two seconds after she's started, but that's slightly different.) Assuming we're talking about a 'to completion BJ' then it's all about your pleasure, she's in control and there's no expectation that she's going to come from it. She may be expecting you to bring your A-game for round 2, but, hey, that's still minutes away.
 
So I am Bisexual. Most of my female (cis and trans) partners have excelled at the most important part of oral, connection between both parties. Their eyes looking into my eyes, my cis-male partners not so much. Although the best head I ever received was from a partner while I was blindfolded. That was from my trans-husband, who is one of the best cocksucker I know.
 
It is worth noting how many have responded eye contact and enthusiasm, and no one has seemed that concerned with technique. I think the takeaway so far is, if you’re enjoying it, so are we. The porn star gagging deep throat thing, I find borderline abusive. Friendly and loving works fine.
 
I’ve always loved when my cock completely disappears into someone’s mouth, it looks like they’re eating my pussy. 😊

All of the licking and sucking… what’s not to love? It’s kisses for the most sensitive places and complete vulnerability and the feeling of being overwhelmed for both sides.
 
The porn star gagging deep throat thing, I find borderline abusive.
Yeah, funny one this. Not sure where it came from. IMO, gagging isn't fun for either party. It seems to be a bit of a trope that a man likes a woman to 'gag on him', especially during dominant or forceful sex, and it seems to be reinforced by most porn. I'll pass, thanks... and ideally before someone accidentally throws up. That said, it is extremely pleasurable when a woman knows how to relax her throat and open to a deeper penetration.
 
Eye contact and enthusiasm
There is a routine by the late Bernie Mac in which he says he doesn't want eye contact (or a lot of it, perhaps) from a woman going down on him. It goes something like, "I don't know what to say to her. You're doing a good job? Keep up the good work?"

One man's opinion, anyway.
 
It is worth noting how many have responded eye contact and enthusiasm, and no one has seemed that concerned with technique. I think the takeaway so far is, if you’re enjoying it, so are we. The porn star gagging deep throat thing, I find borderline abusive. Friendly and loving works fine.
I'm guessing that the "deep throat" trope was, well, popularized by the 1972 movie of that name. Maybe it was intended as hyperbole, a joke, but as often happens in movies, people took it seriously. Anyway, who ever said that porn movies are supposed to be realistic?
 
It is worth noting how many have responded eye contact and enthusiasm, and no one has seemed that concerned with technique. I think the takeaway so far is, if you’re enjoying it, so are we. The porn star gagging deep throat thing, I find borderline abusive. Friendly and loving works fine.
Deep throat can be just as warm and loving. If the woman is into it. With the right guy, it can be really amazing and caring. There is a sense of really giving yourself to your partner and them being gentle with you. This tends to work best in established relationships.

I agree what I describe is a long way from the way porn presents the act. But even rough deep throat can work between the right people with the right level of trust. It does begin to blend into BDSM if the guy is in control however.

Em
 
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