A question about women

[Kajira Callista]

I know i know i am one but there is something I hear and see over and over that I do not understand.
Why do women dislike each other so much?
Why do women get some type of glee from taking a man away from another woman and not give a damn how hurt the other woman is?
I think the term is catty and i was just trying to figure it out.

 

[FurryFury]

I dunno.



Fury

PS, I don't believe I've ever taken a man away from a woman. If so I certainly didn't know it. It's not my way.

 

[soakersue]

And, what about the Men? They must have wanted to be " taken away"

 

[graceanne]

The day I understand other people is the day that hell freezes over.

 

[Kajira Callista]

And, what about the Men? They must have wanted to be " taken away"

i wasnt talking about men. i was talking about women.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, I'm also not interested in taking men from others....never liked another's left overs. I do have a friend who likes it though....I think for her it is a commitment phobia thing combined with her perception of an ego boost for herself.

Catalina

 

[shy slave]

I know i know i am one but there is something I hear and see over and over that I do not understand.
Why do women dislike each other so much?
Why do women get some type of glee from taking a man away from another woman and not give a damn how hurt the other woman is?
I think the term is catty and i was just trying to figure it out.

Personally I see it as power thing and as a jealously thing.

Both occur because the woman doing the taking feels threatened by the other woman.
Its a sort of macho posturing as if they are making a statement 'You may be clever/pretty/quick witted/sexy/whatever but I can have HIM'

In doing the taking the re-dress their own inferiority complex, but only for a short time and then they want something new, because they have issues with another woman.

If women felt secure in their own skin there would be less 'man stealing'

I don't completely agree with you sue with regard to they must want to be 'taken away.'

Men often think with their dicks. A woman flatters them at a point in their life when they feel vulnerable (middle aged spread, conformity to life, stuck in a rut, work issues etc) and they start to feel better. So the follow the feel good factor.

Before you all shout at me, I know not all men are like that.
I know not all women steal men but it does happen.

Women are great friends until they feel threatened by you, then they are meaner than any bar fight between a group of men.

Watch a real bitch fight over a man they slap, screech, tear at hair & clothing, bite, kick, use their nails and stop at nothing. Then they gloat and find friends to back them up on why they did what they did.
Watch two men fight over a woman, punches fly and they are solid but they don't resort to 'anything goes' then they head for the bar.

Women are sly, cruel, bitchy, underhand, devious and mean.
Sometimes its there only good qualities.

 

[graceanne]

LOL, I'm also not interested in taking men from others....never liked another's left overs. I do have a friend who likes it though....I think for her it is a commitment phobia thing combined with her perception of an ego boost for herself.

Catalina

I don't know why they would want the other guy. If he can be stolen one, he can be stolen again. Talk about a relationship with no test.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I know i know i am one but there is something I hear and see over and over that I do not understand.
Why do women dislike each other so much?
Why do women get some type of glee from taking a man away from another woman and not give a damn how hurt the other woman is?
I think the term is catty and i was just trying to figure it out.

Why is the woman always blamed? No one can take a man from you unless he is ready to go.

Eb

 

[A Desert Rose]

I know i know i am one but there is something I hear and see over and over that I do not understand.
Why do women dislike each other so much?
Why do women get some type of glee from taking a man away from another woman and not give a damn how hurt the other woman is?
I think the term is catty and i was just trying to figure it out.

The older I get, the more I like the company and friendship of women. Maybe I'm not like most others. Most women I know, know I'm not interested in their "men" and therefore, don't see me as a threat. Ah shit... I'm not a threat to anyone, honestly, what am I talking about?

I just know that I've met as many devious and deceitful men in my life, online and off, as I know women of that stripe. The difference is, women can see that in others, men can't see it in anyone, not even themselves.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Why is the woman always blamed? No one can take a man from you unless he is ready to go.

Eb

i am talking about how woman (not all btw) actually seem to like doing it not about men wanting to go

 

[FurryFury]

The older I get, the more I like the company and friendship of women. Maybe I'm not like most others. Most women I know, know I'm not interested in their "men" and therefore, don't see me as a threat. Ah shit... I'm not a threat to anyone, honestly, what am I talking about?

I just know that I've met as many devious and deceitful men in my life, online and off, as I know women of that stripe. The difference is, women can see that in others, men can't see it in anyone, not even themselves.

GREAT post!!!



Fury

 

[shy slave]

Just to add I agree with Gracie about 'if they can be stolen once, they can be stolen again'

Perhaps thats another reason why women like that either keep moving and stealing, or keep such a tight grip they end up bitter and suspicious of everyone around them

 

[A Desert Rose]

delete... delete... delete...

never mind... this post would've likely started a shitstorm.

where is that storm in a teacup pic that rebecca sent me???

 

[Kajira Callista]

delete... delete... delete...

never mind... this post would've likely started a shitstorm.

where is that storm in a teacup pic that rebecca sent me???

dont delete. it makes me feel sad.

 

[FurryFury]

I used to have a shit load of problems with other chicks being buds when I was younger.

Now either I am no longer threatening in appearance or I have learned such great interpersonal skills to overcome those problems or both.

I'm kind of hoping it's the interpersonal skills and I'm still hot and viable for fucking visually.

*sighs*

God knows I never want my girlfriend's men. I mean the shit I hear about those dudes? NFW!!!

LMAO!

 

[A Desert Rose]

Just to add I agree with Gracie about 'if they can be stolen once, they can be stolen again'

Perhaps thats another reason why women like that either keep moving and stealing, or keep such a tight grip they end up bitter and suspicious of everyone around them

You can't be suspicious of others unless you're guilty yourself. My mother always told me that.

But I do think that being cautious and suspicious are not the same thing. Especially if we are discussing meeting someone online. And I admit to being very jaded about this. I don't trust most men online anymore, not at first blush, especially. However again, I don't have any beating on my inbox (oh I'm so funny at times... LMAO.) So... who's not to trust??? aaaaaaaahahahahhaha

And that folks was a circular conversation... with myself. Ohhhhh I do so tickle myself at times. LMAO

 

[FurryFury]

You can't be suspicious of others unless you're guilty yourself. My mother always told me that.

But I do think that being cautious and suspicious are not the same thing. Especially if we are discussing meeting someone online. And I admit to being very jaded about this. I don't trust most men online anymore, not at first blush, especially. However again, I don't have any beating on my inbox (oh I'm so funny at times... LMAO.) So... who's not to trust??? aaaaaaaahahahahhaha

And that folks was a circular conversation... with myself. Ohhhhh I do so tickle myself at times. LMAO

Trust men?

*Falls down laughing*

I don't even trust myself much less someone else.

However if you want nothing from a man, you don't have to trust em.



Correction, I trust myself and everyone else to be human and fuck the hell up.

*nodnodnod*

Fury

 

[A Desert Rose]

Trust men?

*Falls down laughing*

I don't even trust myself much less someone else.

However if you want nothing from a man, you don't have to trust em.



Correction, I trust myself and everyone else to be human and fuck the hell up.

*nodnodnod*

Fury

What are you talking about??? ME? fuck up?
NEVER!!!!

 

[shy slave]

You can't be suspicious of others unless you're guilty yourself. My mother always told me that.

But I do think that being cautious and suspicious are not the same thing. Especially if we are discussing meeting someone online. And I admit to being very jaded about this. I don't trust most men online anymore, not at first blush, especially. However again, I don't have any beating on my inbox (oh I'm so funny at times... LMAO.) So... who's not to trust??? aaaaaaaahahahahhaha

And that folks was a circular conversation... with myself. Ohhhhh I do so tickle myself at times. LMAO

Its sad when we end up not trusting online men.
No one gender is all good or all bad.

I often end up speaking to women who are 'in love' with a married or taken man.
Drives me crazy, I can't relate to that at all.

I like women and I like womens company. I never used to, I used to find it hard to relate to women, but the older I get the more I am able to find the type of women who I can relate too.
But I do avoid those who have different ideals to me.
That doesn't just mean those whom KC is talking about in this thread but also those who appear so shallow (You notice of course women who say they are shallow are usually the opposite).
That may make me a snob, but I can live with that. I am rarely out and out rude to people (unless siblings count as people), but I don't stay in company that makes me feel low.

Women have lots of strengths and lots of self-protection mechanisms but sometimes we don't seem to listen to our own intuition about another person.

However I do sometimes I think its men who get a raw deal, the expectations on men are huge.
They seem to have to be new men but at the same time have 'traditional' male attributes too.
Its seems that the womens movement has done alot, a huge amount and thank God for it. But the opposing affect is that anti-men stuff is common. I would hate to be a man or boy growing up in todays society. Their role seems much less clear than it was, which means many end up lost.

This is only my POV based on what I see happening in the UK as oppose to anywhere else in the world

No-one can please everyone all the time.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I am shallow Shy and I resent the implication that I might not be. ;-)

And as I said, the older I get the more I like women. Men are another issue for another thread, but suffice it to say, I no longer have many online male friends. Lots more women. I have nothing they want to steal and they have nothing I want either, aside from friendship.

 

[shy slave]

I am shallow Shy and I resent the implication that I might not be.
;-)
/QUOTE]

Yeah, yeah

 

[saw_man1]

Just because

It is the nature of the human species. At one point or another we all want what we don’t have and we will take what we don’t deserve. I firmly believe that at our core we are all somewhat insecure. We may react differently to this insecurity but we all have it. Why do women steal each others men? Because they can and because they think that this guy is what they need and want. They think that he will make a difference in their lives. I’ve seen it and experienced it and that’s as concise as I can be.

 

[graceanne]

I prefer women. I have mostly sisters, and I was raised by my mom. If I were gay I'd have nothing to do with men. Women make sense to me, men don't.

That said, there might be a reason why I have so few friends. lol Screw that, I know why I don't have many friends. There are few people in this world I like - most people are assholes. Beyond that, I don't put up with cattiness, or any form of unkindness. I've been cheated on, and I don't find it amusing. As far as I'm concerned if a woman 'steals' a man from another woman they should both be ashamed, and I don't care if he was ready to be 'stolen'. Cheating is cheating, and it doesn't matter what end you're on.

 

[SouthernDom]

I know i know i am one but there is something I hear and see over and over that I do not understand.
Why do women dislike each other so much?
Why do women get some type of glee from taking a man away from another woman and not give a damn how hurt the other woman is?
I think the term is catty and i was just trying to figure it out.

1. jealousy rooted in insecurity

2.competition and the desire to make someone feel the same hurt they have felt from a previous relationship.