A question about surrender.

[AG31]

My question is simple, but in two parts.

1 -. Do any of you understand what I'm talking about when I say that "surrender", apart from any object can be sexually arousing?

2 - Have any of you experienced arousal when contemplating surrender, apart from any object?

The MCs in my stories experience sexual arousal, to orgasm, from the act of surrendering. They're not surrendering to another person, even though another person must inflict actions to which they must surrender (binding, whipping, public exposure).

The closest analogy I have is to martyrdom. Religious martyrdom (think paintings of St. Sebastian and St. Theresa) is not quite on point because, presumably, those people are surrendering to God. Certainly not to the people stabbing at them.

In my childhood Nathan Hale was of great interest to me. ("I only regret that I have but one life to give for my country.)

My favorite erotic story is Enslaving Eli. On the surface it seemed like just another femdom story, but I realized that the ending shone a light on the whole thing. In the end, Eli surrenders to another unknown woman, knowing it was his fate.

I didn't post this in BDSM because it is precisely about not involving personal relationships.

Anyway, like I said. The question is simple. Does this ring a bell for you, either just conceptually or experientially??

 

[madelinemasoch]

Surrender absent from an object has never been an erotic experience for me. That's a very abstract thing. It's either been anxiety-inducing or empowering. Thinking about it more, I don't think I've ever experienced surrender so abstractly. Like, what could an action like that even mean absent from an object?

 

[AG31]

Surrender absent from an object has never been an erotic experience for me. That's a very abstract thing. It's either been anxiety-inducing or empowering. Thinking about it more, I don't think I've ever experienced surrender so abstractly. Like, what could an action like that even mean absent from an object?

Could you take a peek at one of my stories and tell me if they make sense?

 

[Britva415]

My question is simple, but in two parts.

1 -. Do any of you understand what I'm talking about when I say that "surrender", apart from any object can be sexually arousing?

2 - Have any of you experienced arousal when contemplating surrender, apart from any object?

The MCs in my stories experience sexual arousal, to orgasm, from the act of surrendering. They're not surrendering to another person, even though another person must inflict actions to which they must surrender (binding, whipping, public exposure).

The closest analogy I have is to martyrdom. Religious martyrdom (think paintings of St. Sebastian and St. Theresa) is not quite on point because, presumably, those people are surrendering to God. Certainly not to the people stabbing at them.

In my childhood Nathan Hale was of great interest to me. ("I only regret that I have but one life to give for my country.)

My favorite erotic story is Enslaving Elie. On the surface it seemed like just another femdom story, but I realized that the ending shone a light on the whole thing. In the end, Eli surrenders to another unknown woman, knowing it was his fate.

I didn't post this in BDSM because it is precisely about not involving personal relationships.

Anyway, like I said. The question is simple. Does this ring a bell for you, either just conceptually or experientially??

It does. Like, I know what you mean. "Surrender" to me has kind of a different flavor or focus or experience than what you're concentrating on when you describe it, but, same ballpark. The martyrdom thing doesn't resonate with me at all and if I were to discern the martyrdom theme from your writing, the word "surrender" by itself wouldn't convey it. You'd have to say more.

 

[lovecraft68]

Maybe what you're looking for is more along the lines of succumbing to temptation, rather than a 'surrender'

 

[XerXesXu]

I understand that you understand it; is more required? I've not experienced it.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

My favorite erotic story is Enslaving Elie. On the surface it seemed like just another femdom story, but I realized that the ending shone a light on the whole thing. In the end, Eli surrenders to another unknown woman, knowing it was his fate.

A Literotica story? Is there a link?

The impersonal surrender you seem to be talking about sounds unusual to me, although in some weird way, it connects with the discussion in your other thread, the one about asexuality

 

[AG31]

It does. Like, I know what you mean. "Surrender" to me has kind of a different flavor or focus or experience than what you're concentrating on when you describe it, but, same ballpark. The martyrdom thing doesn't resonate with me at all and if I were to discern the martyrdom theme from your writing, the word "surrender" by itself wouldn't convey it. You'd have to say more.

I mostly don't write about martyrdom. It's just an analogy to try to exlain objectless surrender.

 

[AG31]

Maybe what you're looking for is more along the lines of succumbing to temptation, rather than a 'surrender'

I'll have to muse on this one.

 

[AG31]

I understand that you understand it; is more required? I've not experienced it.

No more is required than the answer you gave about not experiencing it.

 

[AG31]

A Literotica story? Is there a link?

The impersonal surrender you seem to be talking about sounds unusual to me, although in some weird way, it connects with the discussion in your other thread, the one about asexuality

No, not in Literotica. I got it at Amazon. It's by billierosie (intionally not capitalized.) Yes, my my other thread (which really started out as just a pointer to @OddLove's thread) prompted this one.