A Man's job is to Make a Woman Happy

[Olivianna]

It seems that I hear this a lot (in so many words - a lot of popular movies follow this, in which the happy ending usually requires the man testify his wish to make his object of affection happy). Do you think this is a commonly held belief, or even fact? Is the opposite - in reality - considered of equal importance, that is - Is it a woman's job to make a man happy?

Men, do you feel that you approach relationships with this maxim in mind, whether consciously or unconsciously?

Women, do you find yourselves blaming your male partners for your unhappiness?

 

[Richard49]

It seems that I hear this a lot (in so many words - a lot of popular movies follow this, in which the happy ending usually requires the man testify his wish to make his object of affection happy). Do you think this is a commonly held belief, or even fact? Is the opposite - in reality - considered of equal importance, that is - Is it a woman's job to make a man happy?

Men, do you feel that you approach relationships with this maxim in mind, whether consciously or unconsciously?

Women, do you find yourselves blaming your male partners for your unhappiness?

I have/am going through another break up
I gave it my all
I approached it with this maxium in mind
as I have all realtionships
bang
I get in the ass again

 

[Agent99]

I learned a long time ago that no one is responsible for my happiness except me.

Oh sure, I still want to make others feel good. So I tend to speak and act in ways that accomplish that. But I have no desire to carry the burden that others would impose on me to satisfy their happiness. Conversely, I would never expect anyone else to know what makes me happy. If I did, I would be severely disappointed.

 

[marksgirl]

I believe marriage is a two way street. We try to make each other happy and when all is said and done it is ones own responsibilty to make ones self happy.

 

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[babs_2k3]

I believe it is the womans job to make the man happy by loking after kids...etc and doin houswork while the man works..then...its the mans job to make to woman happy by givin her money to spend....so in a way its equal.

 

[agezinder]

It's a woman's job to keep a woman happy...

 

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[Olivianna]

Yeah, I know in theory that in relationships/marriages, it is supposed to be a two-way street, but does it really work out that way?

Is there not something ingrained in our (U.S.) culture that says that it is the man's responsibility to make a woman happy, whereas the man can take care of himself?

 

[marksgirl]

Yeah, I know in theory that in relationships/marriages, it is supposed to be a two-way street, but does it really work out that way?

Is there not something ingrained in our (U.S.) culture that says that it is the man's responsibility to make a woman happy, whereas the man can take care of himself?

In all honesty we take care of each other. I don't feel it is his responsibility to make me happy (which he does), that is my job.

 

[babs_2k3]

WHAT??????????????????


Lol, sorry hon, in most families, both spouses work, then looking after kids and cleaning should be a 50/50 thing.

I dont think one spouse should work harder then the other. I believe both spouses are truely of the same inportance. So, if both work 8 hour days, both should put time in working in the home also.

As nice as it sounds, it is not the 50s anymore.

I would love to work but most of my family work so there is no one to look after my lil uns......plus i wouldnt put em in a day centre or nuthin till its time for nursey...i dont trust no one but family with my kids.

 

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[Lasher]

I believe it is the womans job to make the man happy by loking after kids...etc and doin houswork while the man works..then...its the mans job to make to woman happy by givin her money to spend....so in a way its equal.

I thought Donna Reed was dead.

 

[sanjuaneros]

WTF??Talk about old fashion.

I think it is a two way street. I think in a relationship it is the partner’s job to make one another happy, and compromise.

I believe it is the womans job to make the man happy by loking after kids...etc and doin houswork while the man works..then...its the mans job to make to woman happy by givin her money to spend....so in a way its equal.

 

[Malachi]

I feel some responsibility for the well-being of my female partners, but I'm more of an assistant. The primary responsibility rests with them, so if they want something from me that they're not getting, they need to enlist my help. Naturally, I'm responsible for my own happiness too, but it never hurts to have some support and/or the simple willingness to support.

You can care a lot about someone and their happiness, and be willing to do almost anything to help, but still not feel like it's your responsibility and/or obligation. This is the way I tend to think of things. Unfortunately, I have in the past sometimes been treated as if this attitude were insufficient. It always seemed to me that women who felt that way were taking no responsibility for the relationship and/or their own well-being.

 

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[Sailbad the Sinner]

A one night stand is for an individual's own selfish desires. Don't get me wrong, it goes both ways. When you talk about affection between two people it's a different story. You're not fucking, you're making love. Both partners do their best to satisfy.

 

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[Cheyenne]

I believe it is the womans job to make the man happy by loking after kids...etc and doin houswork while the man works..then...its the mans job to make to woman happy by givin her money to spend....so in a way its equal.

This is SO not my life...

What if there were no kids? How would you answer the question then?

 

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[Malachi]

This is SO not my life...

What if there were no kids? How would you answer the question then?

A little woman that doesn't pump out babies? It's one thing to ask hypothetical questions, but now you're just being ridiculous. Still, I believe the same level of enlightened equality could be achieved by frequent fellatio and/or anal sex.

 

[Rooster]

Yes .. it is a 2 way street ... though sometimes I think it takes alot more work for a man to make a woman happy .....than a woman has to make a man happy.