A long yet simple question.

[Armorer]

Well where to start i don't rightly know. I suppose a long introduction is not really needed i guess but i am a firm be leaver in to be able to respond to a person you need to know a person. So i am gonna give a bit of myself before heading for the question. Hope nobody will bite my head off.

I am a male of 20 years of age, who are currently learning to become a Blacksmith (Only 4 years to go well 3 and a half if i want to be picky). Actually i would have been done if i hadn't flunked so many years but i had the unfortunate accident of choosing an education that did not suit me.
I am going with people that are 15-16 and even if it can be a bitch sometimes i don't really mind.

In 4 years time i will be a free man, free to see the world and explore, visit new places, get a job, get a family, have kids, drinking coffee and having cake with my mother in law.

Does this interest me? No cant say it does.

What do i want, you ask? And why does he post it in a BDSM forum. Don't worry i am getting to that.

I want. To be collared, to sleep in a cage and live for nothing but the pleasure of my owner. To eat what i am fed, to drink what i am given and to live my life the property of someone else.

Since i was 15 i wanted this, since i was 15 i have longed for it. And in 4 years i have a chance, a chance to live for nothing but the happiness and pleasure of my owner.

But do i have a chance? I do not think so. Do i have a hope? I sure do.

For a boy with poor eyesight, lack of funds. Someone who have flunked 4 years of college, before finding his true passion in the art of blacksmithing.

I am not a model, i am not a strong butch man, I am a weak, nervous geek of a 20 year old who haven't even managed his drivers license yet.

But i work, i have passion in what i do, i never give up even if my teachers tell me i am a useless wreck. I will reach my goals if i so must fight my way through 50 enemy soldiers with bayonets to get there i will bloody make it.

But is passion and hope enough? Studying BDSM since i was 15 i have come to a conclusion, i want to be owned 24/7, And as long as i get to make my owner happy and maybe have a small blacksmithing shop to work during the days i will be happy.

So i ask you honorable people of this wonderful lifestyle do i have a hope? Or should i just give up and live the rest of my life as a simple artisan with no real purpose in life?

Where to begin? What to do? How to do it? So many questions yet no answers.

And so i hope that this long yet useless message shall not fall on deaf ears, And that someone will take pity and give me guidance in a world where you are backstabbed faster then you you can draw your sword.

With hope and passion:
A young man with a foolish dream

 

[s_red830]

Well where to start i don't rightly know. I suppose a long introduction is not really needed i guess but i am a firm be leaver in to be able to respond to a person you need to know a person. So i am gonna give a bit of myself before heading for the question. Hope nobody will bite my head off.

I am a male of 20 years of age, who are currently learning to become a Blacksmith (Only 4 years to go well 3 and a half if i want to be picky). Actually i would have been done if i hadn't flunked so many years but i had the unfortunate accident of choosing an education that did not suit me.
I am going with people that are 15-16 and even if it can be a bitch sometimes i don't really mind.

In 4 years time i will be a free man, free to see the world and explore, visit new places, get a job, get a family, have kids, drinking coffee and having cake with my mother in law.

Does this interest me? No cant say it does.

What do i want, you ask? And why does he post it in a BDSM forum. Don't worry i am getting to that.

I want. To be collared, to sleep in a cage and live for nothing but the pleasure of my owner. To eat what i am fed, to drink what i am given and to live my life the property of someone else.

Since i was 15 i wanted this, since i was 15 i have longed for it. And in 4 years i have a chance, a chance to live for nothing but the happiness and pleasure of my owner.

But do i have a chance? I do not think so. Do i have a hope? I sure do.

For a boy with poor eyesight, lack of funds. Someone who have flunked 4 years of college, before finding his true passion in the art of blacksmithing.

I am not a model, i am not a strong butch man, I am a weak, nervous geek of a 20 year old who haven't even managed his drivers license yet.

But i work, i have passion in what i do, i never give up even if my teachers tell me i am a useless wreck. I will reach my goals if i so must fight my way through 50 enemy soldiers with bayonets to get there i will bloody make it.

But is passion and hope enough? Studying BDSM since i was 15 i have come to a conclusion, i want to be owned 24/7, And as long as i get to make my owner happy and maybe have a small blacksmithing shop to work during the days i will be happy.

So i ask you honorable people of this wonderful lifestyle do i have a hope? Or should i just give up and live the rest of my life as a simple artisan with no real purpose in life?

Where to begin? What to do? How to do it? So many questions yet no answers.

And so i hope that this long yet useless message shall not fall on deaf ears, And that someone will take pity and give me guidance in a world where you are backstabbed faster then you you can draw your sword.

With hope and passion:
A young man with a foolish dream

Aw, sweetheart, your dream isn't foolish at all.

I should preface this by saying that I am by no means the most qualified to answer this question, but I wanted to reply.

A couple things to start out:

Where are you from? That can play a large part in how you're introduced into the world of BDSM. If you're in a very remote area or one that makes it hard to find like-minded people, you might be best off starting on the internet. There are some good BDSM personals sites out there, like collarme.com and bondage.com... I know they're well-populated, but I'm not entirely sure about the quality. Collarme.com seems to be very good, though.

Second of all, try not to dive in headfirst when you find someone who will make your dreams come true. I'll wait for MasterPhoenix to share his wisdom on this (lol), but suffice it to say that you're generally safer taking it slowly than jumping right in. Even though you have done your research, there's still a lot more to know when it comes to real people and real relationships.

I'm sure I missed out on some things, but those were the first two ideas that came to mind. I hope they help!

 

[Armorer]

Truly kind of you to reply. I have looked upon the sites you mentioned however i am sad to say i am overly careful, nervous and shy. Just posting this was a true feat to me. However i realized dreaming is not enough.

I live in Norway. But that should not really matter. I am willing to move to the ends of the world for a chance to live out my dream. Or as i see it to realize my purpose in life.
We have a few BDSM things here which i have looked at. Went to a local BDSM cafe thingy, got a real interesting lecture on different kind of fetishes. But have been to busy with schooling to be able to return.

Any replies are appreciated. And it was real nice of you to bother writing those words and a warm thank you goes to you.

 

[FurryFury]

You are young yet. IMO it is a little young to be potentially giving up on what you want in life though for most I believe the 20's tend to be angst-y, I know it was for me.

I'd say position yourself when you have the time, to learn and meet more people in RL that are involved in some form of BDSM. I'd advise you to simply be yourself, treat everyone as people, not a sub or a Dom but a person until and unless you and the other person have developed a relationship that warrants a change in address. In other words do not grovel and act as if everyone is your potential dream Domme in RL. I believe that tends to be a turn off.

Keep in mind I've only been with one group in RL about a half dozen times and this is just my opinion based on that and what I've read. If I were aware of what I wanted at your age, I have no doubt that with patience I could eventually find it. Of course the dream of what we want often, as it should, is altered by the reality of what life is actually like but those compromises are inevitable and often better for us.

Good luck. Don't give up. Someday I think you'll find "it."

Fury

 

[s_red830]

Truly kind of you to reply. I have looked upon the sites you mentioned however i am sad to say i am overly careful, nervous and shy. Just posting this was a true feat to me. However i realized dreaming is not enough.

I live in Norway. But that should not really matter. I am willing to move to the ends of the world for a chance to live out my dream. Or as i see it to realize my purpose in life.
We have a few BDSM things here which i have looked at. Went to a local BDSM cafe thingy, got a real interesting lecture on different kind of fetishes. But have been to busy with schooling to be able to return.

Any replies are appreciated. And it was real nice of you to bother writing those words and a warm thank you goes to you.

Well, maybe talking a little on this forum will help you overcome your shyness a bit.

And well, hey, as long as you're willing to relocate... you're right, location shouldn't really matter.

Just make sure that you don't fall too deep in love with your fantasy!

(And no problem about the replies.)

 

[incubus'_sub]

Hi there. No one is going to bite your head off lol. This community understands your fantasy very well & I'm sure that there are those who share it too.

It's very common, when you are stressed & unsure, to wish that someone would take you in, look after you & remove all the responsibilities of making a living in a hard world. But it is a hard world & you have to know that in reality that is very unlikely to ever happen.

Being a slave almost never entails being locked in a cage & looked after, to be pulled out on occasion to be a sex toy. It is not about what you want, but what your Master wants. Hell, everyone would like to be the plaything of a millionaire, with nothing to do but look pretty & see to their comforts.........

Your purpose in life is to look after yourself, gain your qualifications & establish a career. At the same time search for someone special to share the sex life you are craving & the links that have been provided are a good start to that. But try not to get carried away with unrealistic goals which will leave you frustrated & unhappy.

 

[Armorer]

Thank you for all your kind replies. I fully understand that the dreams are not necessarily reality and the perfect world will never be. However i stay firm in my want to be owned. And as for a career, i am working on that and i am not leaving anywhere until i have my artisan's badge firmly in hand.

But i have always been quite flexible. For me its the domination part that draws me in, not necessarily the pain or humiliation. Pain for me will always be a punishment not a reward, and humiliation would probably end me in a nervous fit heh..

And i would never be content with being just a play-thing. I would hafto pull my own weight, or i would go insane with guilt. Which is why i could build a small blacksmiths workshop to work and sell from. For me a part of being dominated is to be able to help provide for my owner not being locked up in a cage.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Aw, sweetheart, your dream isn't foolish at all.



Second of all, try not to dive in headfirst when you find someone who will make your dreams come true. I'll wait for MasterPhoenix to share his wisdom on this (lol), but suffice it to say that you're generally safer taking it slowly than jumping right in. Even though you have done your research, there's still a lot more to know when it comes to real people and real relationships.

I'm sure I missed out on some things, but those were the first two ideas that came to mind. I hope they help!

You can put My quote in your sig if you want, Red.

Remember this lifestyle is a journey, not a sprint. Take your time and learn what there is to learn, and follow the path, but rush into nothing.

 

[catalina_francisco]

It is not impossible. I do know of one young man who went from Australia to the US to live a similar life and is extremely happy he made the choice. That being said, he has undergone some fairly extreme and irreversible changes in order to please his Master, but he also has found all the validation and reward for desiring the life he has chosen which he did not expect would happen in reality. It is not a common goal of many, though many think it is...most tend to balk once the demands become more difficult, but not all. The most important thing is knowing yourself first and being very sure this is what you really want and not just a passing moment where fantasy has driven you to need some response and ignore what that response might mean in the bigger picture of your lifespan. Remember the journey is as important, if not more so, as the destination.

Catalina

 

[Still Falling]

Hi Armorer i am a slave and have been one properly for almost a year now. i am the first slave my Mistress has taken and just like any other human relationship it takes work, it changes and evolves.

Firstly can i suggest a really good book. 'Becoming A Slave' by Jack Rinella. i found this an excellent resource in terms of helping me explore how slavery as a relationship works. It is also specifically writen for those who may be seeking a Master/Mistress and consequently talks a lot about things you need to do for yourself before you are likely to make a good slave.

This link will take you to his home page
Jack Rinella's Home Page

He has lots of articles about BDSM and slavery issues which may help you as well.

Can i also acknowledge your desire. it is apparent that you feel very strongly about what you want - that's excellent. i had no idea what i wanted until my Mistress found me and started to improve me - and i was almost ten years older than you are now. However, do listen to the advice everyone has put up here. However strong your desire is temper it with living some experience. Experience can change what you want, if not radically, at least subtly.

Even if you end up a slave at some point in the future - you will always be responsible for your own life and your own happiness. The best Mistress/Master in the world cannot 'make' you happy with yourself. A good owner can help you grow and give your the tools to overcome things, but in the end it is still you that has to do the growing and use the tools.

Thank you for all your kind replies. I fully understand that the dreams are not necessarily reality and the perfect world will never be. However i stay firm in my want to be owned. And as for a career, i am working on that and i am not leaving anywhere until i have my artisan's badge firmly in hand.

But i have always been quite flexible. For me its the domination part that draws me in, not necessarily the pain or humiliation. Pain for me will always be a punishment not a reward, and humiliation would probably end me in a nervous fit heh..

And i would never be content with being just a play-thing. I would hafto pull my own weight, or i would go insane with guilt. Which is why i could build a small blacksmiths workshop to work and sell from. For me a part of being dominated is to be able to help provide for my owner not being locked up in a cage.

 

[Armorer]

Thank you you are all weary kind to reply.

Changes i accept, one of the biggest things i have changed the last few years was going from an emotional wreck in my younger years, to now being driven by a new found purpose, which are my craft and my dream, if any of those falters i am afraid i will return to being a anti-social computer nerd sitting in his mothers basement.

I do not particularly care if i am trained then sold onwards, as long as i got a chance to pull my own weight and continue with my chosen craft and get a loving owner who are willing to train and accept me i will be in seventh heaven as some people call it.

But until i have my artisans certificate safely in my hand i shall not move one step towards my dream. And my biggest worry would be to end up somewhere where i cannot do my chosen craft, as it gives me purpose from a practical standpoint and i need that as much as an emotional purpose.

But until my four years are up i shall study and research diligently so i am a good starting point for training and not just a unknowledgeable fool who thinks about himself.

I appreciate the book link and shall check it out when i am able.

 

[Armorer]

Another quick question if you do not mind. Something that has been in my thoughts for a while.

Now part of my submission i see as a duty to ensure my Owners health and safety. Such as ensuring they eat well and right, get eksersise, releave stress and so forth.

Would this be seen as a bad thing? I mean i am supposed to be the collared one yes? Just something on my mind.