Ok, this kind of embarassing to me but I need to find out. I am a 32 year old, straight guy and married. Recently, I have been having a (to me) big problem in the bedroom with my wife. I know it's not a E.D. problem but I have a hard time keeping a hard on after we've started to have foreplay. I have read that it'snormal for a guy to go soft after a while but when I do, it's hard to become fully erect again. I eat healthy, exercise regularly and all of that but it doesn't seem to help. Does anybody out there have any suggestions that could help me with this? My wife is very understanding but I think that sometimes she feels like I'm not as attracted to her anymore when in fact, I am more than ever. so if anyone has any advice or has the same kind of problem, please reply. Thanks in advance!
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WarmVanilla
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Well, since I don't have the equipment in question, I can't help with the physical issue. But, for your wife, it would probably make her feel better (even if she is being very understanding) if you did more things to make her feel loved and appreciated. Nothing huge, just cuddling and such. Give her a hand, if you can and it's not too much of an ego hit.
I know when things weren't working for Mr. Vanilla and I, it was really hard on me after awhile. But he had larger issues, and was also ignoring the other intimacies, so I was feeling very unloved. Of course, I think if she's being understanding it's even more reason to show her how much you love her.
I know when things weren't working for Mr. Vanilla and I, it was really hard on me after awhile. But he had larger issues, and was also ignoring the other intimacies, so I was feeling very unloved. Of course, I think if she's being understanding it's even more reason to show her how much you love her.
She is being very underestanding with me and I try to do everything I can to show her that she's loved. One of our favorite things to do is cuddle up on the couch and watch a good movie and we always fall asleep at night in each others arms. The thing that gets me to really wondering about it is when we're in the middle of foreplay and I'm soft, she looks at me and askes me what's on my mind that I'm not turned on when I'm really thinking about how good whatever she's doing feels. I don't really think it's a E.D. because I have a great sex drive and almost always want to make love to her. I don't have a problem getting a hard on either...it's just keeping one going.
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You can think you don't have an ED problem all you want, but the fact is, inability to maintain an erection is an erectile disorder.
This is could be something totally minor, or mentally related, al la stress. Or it could be a precursor to a far more serious health related issue. It is not uncommon for a man in his 30's to have the occasional softie. But if you're having a string of them, its time to bite the bullet and see your doctor about it.
Be smart, ask for a full blood workup, and if the doc suggests a little pickemup pill for those flagging woodies, try it. But make sure he does the work up. You could be showing other symptoms that only a full physical might detect.
This is could be something totally minor, or mentally related, al la stress. Or it could be a precursor to a far more serious health related issue. It is not uncommon for a man in his 30's to have the occasional softie. But if you're having a string of them, its time to bite the bullet and see your doctor about it.
Be smart, ask for a full blood workup, and if the doc suggests a little pickemup pill for those flagging woodies, try it. But make sure he does the work up. You could be showing other symptoms that only a full physical might detect.
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One of the most frustrating parts of having ED is that your desire does not flag but your pole does. ED shows up for a variety of reasons and manifests itself somewhat differently from case to case.fireman32 said:
Bobmi is quite right in saying that ED is sometimes an early symptom of a larger problem. Keep in mind what it is that makes an erection happen: blood flow. The most common reason for ED is a breakdown in the chemical reaction that shuts off the return-flow valve at the base of the penis. This is what makes and keeps the erection. But another - and far more worrisome - cause is a reduction in blood flow due to heart disease or coronary occlusions (plaque buildup that leads to strokes and heart attacks). For most people who have heart disease, the first visible symptom is a heart attack. You may, in fact, be one of the lucky ones who is being given an early warning.
Fireman, I've been in your shoes. Like you I'm fit (run up to 20 miles each week), I follow an extremely healthy diet (I'm a very dull date as a result), and have no family history of heart disease. Still, the ED problem hit and the only way out was through the doctor's office.
Chances are your situation has a simple cause but only your doctor can help you determine that.
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I heard the little blue pill made you hard but you didn't cum? Is that true?
Do you smoke? Smoking is the #1 reason for E.D.
Do you smoke? Smoking is the #1 reason for E.D.
Bobmi357 said:
*nods* Uh-huh...I agree fully.
It is a disorder, though I can understand it might be difficult for a man to realize this. Before just popping a pill, do see a doctor and have a full physical/workup done! You are not alone and your doctor will have heard this hundreds of times. It might be nothing, it might be something, but at least start somewhere and that is to rule out anything physical. Then you can work with your doctor on other causes.
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fireman32 said:
nope hun, you thought wrong.
Make that app't, KEEP it, and update us would ya?
we care
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Sex is mostly in the head.........
Get nervous about shit, and shit happens, it's cause and effect.
Definitely see the doc, always good advice........
Don't be surprised if he asks you what you are thinking about when you are having these issues though, the "cure" can be as simple as that.
Best of British to you mate
Get nervous about shit, and shit happens, it's cause and effect.
Definitely see the doc, always good advice........
Don't be surprised if he asks you what you are thinking about when you are having these issues though, the "cure" can be as simple as that.
Best of British to you mate
