hello this is my first time post on this here and I hope this can help. I recently became a dom via im. the problem I'm having is that neither of us has any money to speak of to put toward any fun. and we are not going to be in pysical contact. I am trying to figuer out how to keep things new I do 2 things giveing her "tasks" and yber or phone sex style but I really don't want to become predictable any ideas would be very helpfull
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Vixandra
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Salutations and welcome to the board. I can sympathise with being an "Online Dom(me)" without much real world/real life practical experiance. Joys of being a mostly vanilla marriage, but he makes me happy and I adore him. Though he said if I can find one and the liking is mutual, I can have a female subbie. Weird I know but hey, he's married to me, he has to be to survive. But that's a whole nother topic, LOL.
Moving along- one does not need a lot of money for fancy boards, clothing, toys, etc. in order to dominate someone else. I had an in depth conversation with someone at one point about all the nifty things you could find at either a walmart or a "tack and feed store" for use in BDSM.
You can read through some of the stories posted on the Lit story room for ideas or search through the BDSM library- our Librarian did a wonderful job.
As for tasks- could have her go through her days constantly collared, even if its only a peice of ribbon tied around her neck or a chocker necklace.
More then that, I'm stummped for the time being. Perhaps Catalina_francisco or one of the other dom(me)'s could be of more help.
Good luck and remember to keep things safe and sane.
Moving along- one does not need a lot of money for fancy boards, clothing, toys, etc. in order to dominate someone else. I had an in depth conversation with someone at one point about all the nifty things you could find at either a walmart or a "tack and feed store" for use in BDSM.
You can read through some of the stories posted on the Lit story room for ideas or search through the BDSM library- our Librarian did a wonderful job.
As for tasks- could have her go through her days constantly collared, even if its only a peice of ribbon tied around her neck or a chocker necklace.
More then that, I'm stummped for the time being. Perhaps Catalina_francisco or one of the other dom(me)'s could be of more help.
Good luck and remember to keep things safe and sane.
SweetDommes
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I don't know for sure how you would apply some of these things to online, as we don't do online, but as we are flat broke 95% of the time, we have learned to be quite creative.
The necklace/choaker idea is eomthing that is simple, cheap, and not likely to cause anyone any uncomfortable questions. Taking pics is another idea if your sub has a cam - cheap hair clips make great nipple/other body part clamps for them to wear for your entertainment/pleasure, maybe one assignment could be to go to a store and find 5 things for $5 or less that could be easily corrupted (we went through the clearance at hobby lobby and got a keyrack for $2 - when the hooks were taken out of it, and we sanded & covered it for our comfort, it now is a GREAT paddle - stuff like that), writing assignments are something that we have used for our boys ... and once you get started, the ideas will come to you more easily. We have done other things too - we made our own set of cuffs from some fake fur that we got from a relative at some point and some velcro and d-rings - total cost was about $1.50 or so ... rope is always cheap, and the tack shop or any pet supply store will also give you tons of ideas - but those are the ones that I'm not sure how well they will transfer over to online if that is where you are keeping it ....
The necklace/choaker idea is eomthing that is simple, cheap, and not likely to cause anyone any uncomfortable questions. Taking pics is another idea if your sub has a cam - cheap hair clips make great nipple/other body part clamps for them to wear for your entertainment/pleasure, maybe one assignment could be to go to a store and find 5 things for $5 or less that could be easily corrupted (we went through the clearance at hobby lobby and got a keyrack for $2 - when the hooks were taken out of it, and we sanded & covered it for our comfort, it now is a GREAT paddle - stuff like that), writing assignments are something that we have used for our boys ... and once you get started, the ideas will come to you more easily. We have done other things too - we made our own set of cuffs from some fake fur that we got from a relative at some point and some velcro and d-rings - total cost was about $1.50 or so ... rope is always cheap, and the tack shop or any pet supply store will also give you tons of ideas - but those are the ones that I'm not sure how well they will transfer over to online if that is where you are keeping it ....
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