A curious question for discussion....

[Guest]

With Ya Ya Chapter 8 posting recently, I was delighted as I always am to see the number of feedback responses. The main difference this time seemed to be the number of people who've read this chapter, asking me about the "wild" scene where Richard ask's Maggie to look into his eyes while 'she' climaxes.

Needless to say, it's been fun as well as interesting to read the number of remarks from people who've indicated they've either never experienced this particular aspect of love-making, or wondered if it's something they could even do.

So I guess I was curious to find out if this indeed is something many have done, experienced and enjoyed...or not. I'm delighted this particular chapter invoked the kind of emotional response I've been getting...(not to mention the "ending" which has received it's fair share too).

But I would like to hear what my fellow writers think regarding that particular...Phenomenon (?) if it indeed can be called such?

Here's a link to the story if anyone's interested:

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=69922

I remain, <Curious>

 

[Guest]

Yep

I had a lover who said she always watched me as I climaxed.
She asked me why I never watched her.

So next time I watched her come. It was awesome. She used blue eye-shadow on her eyelids and applied silver glitter. It was a great show.

Never had a similar experience again.But I still think about it.

 

[Guest]

Ah yes but.........

You stated she watched you while 'you' climaxed. The question was...still is. Did you look at her while YOU were the one climaxing? And visa versa?

 

[Guest]

Nope

I was just too busy.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

My eyes are generally closed

 

[Guest]

D.N......

You stated:

"My eyes are generally closed"


Which I think is probably true for most people. Hence the question in the first place. Do you think this would be an erotic thing to experience, or have you simply never considered it? From the few who've responded that they have, they've indicated it was exactly as I described it in the story...very intense. Only one person wrote to tell me they thought it detracted from their orgasm.......

Again...basically just curious as it provoked several comments.

I remain,

 

[TheEarl]

Had a girlfriend who asked me to try it, but did find it very difficult to keep my eyes open. Pretty sure I missed the experience; she assured me that it was very enjoyable.

The Earl

 

[ronde]

You mean like focus and everything? How does one get ones eyes uncrossed?

Actually her facial expressions are fantastic, but she doesn't open her eyes until afterward.

 

[Guest]

is it like sneezing?

Great thread, SM,

Am working with that concept in a story now.

Intense is a good word, but incomplete. Intensely intimate and vulnerable. That is how it feels. It is as if my husband owns me to the very center of my being. It is all about the connection then, the orgasm is almost incidental... ALMOST.

b

 

[wildsweetone]

detracted from the orgasm?

i wonder if this meant what i think it means. an intense orgasm for many, is based on feelings and scents.

sometimes having another sensory organ come alive can actually 'interrupt' the orgasm.

closing one's eyes, shuts out the chances of the eyes focusing on some other object, obliterates any possible detraction, concentration is solely on the feelings and scents of the orgasmic journey.

a new sensory input can be as disruptive as a complete change of posture... but that isn't always a bad thing.

eye contact is not always appropriate in certain cultures. some are taught from birth not to look into the eyes of their superiors/elders. the unlearning of this can be an almighty experience in itself.

eye contact can be an awsome experience, not just for the one watching the partner whilst that partner is having their orgasm, but also in reverse.

the partner having the orgasm, watching the eyes of their lover as the orgasm intensifies bares their very soul. ...drowning in each other's eyes...

i suggest if you've never seen an orgasm through your partners eyes and are not able to, try it yourself with a hand held mirror. at the last moment before orgasm, pick your mirror up and look directly into your own eyes. true, it's not the same as looking at another's beautiful orbs, but at least you'll have an idea.

there are those who wont wish to know... the fine line between pain and pleasure may be to blame here... the intense muscle tightening of the facial muscles isn't always comfortable for another person to watch. i suggest concentrating on the eyes first... leave the face until later.

Sandman I look forward to reading your ending.

 

[Guest]

Some very good points.........

Taking two comments, the first from Bridgetkeeny who wrote:

Intense is a good word, but incomplete. Intensely intimate and vulnerable. That is how it feels. It is as if my husband owns me to the very center of my being.

And the other from wildsweetone:

the partner having the orgasm, watching the eyes of their lover as the orgasm intensifies bares their very soul.

This is exactly what I hope I did in creating this scene. I know for me personally, having experienced "both" sides of that coin, it is in fact about the most vulnerable a human being can possibly be. I think, believe that it's the penultimate moment shared between two people. I'm surprised to learn in some ways that not very many have actually experienced this...and thus the incredible amount of comments/feedback I've recieved from it after having written, and now finished this series. I wanted (hopefully) to end it with something a little different, a little unusual and away from the norm. By what I'm getting, I've accomplished that, which is by far the best compliment I could have received for anything I've written. Something that's created an interesting topic to think about, explore...and perhaps even wonder about for those who've never gone there.

One of the shorter....but delightful feedbacks I received I've partially included here......:

This message contains feedback for: Thesandman
About the submission: The Ya Ya Dildohood Ch. 8
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Comments:

Thank you for a wonderful series and one hellofa ride.

It was indeed........a great ride and I enjoyed every wonderful minute of it. To those of you who've read Ya Ya....all I can say is, thank you!

I remain,

 

[TaffyJ]

I agree completely with bridgetkeeney

The hubby and I have only done the eye contact thing mutually going on once so far, but the whole experience was very intense and "soulful." 80% of married sex is not particularly memorable to the point of detail, but that time I will never forget.

I think that is what casual sex is missing out on. In that moment, in intimate sex, it really seems you're giving up your soul to your partner, almost begging them to take it. As opposed to truly casual sex, where it wouldn't be that much different than sharing a moment with a dildo or a blowup doll.

Once I almost had that experience with a weekend fling encounter. I had absolutley no emotional attachment to him, but we got on well intellectually. We had been pondering the animal nature of sex, because we both brought that aspect of it out in each other. He literally made me feel like an animal. When I came I felt like sharing that with him, but he had his head kind of tossed back, so he missed the look. I would technically classify that time as casual sex, because we were not pursuing a relationship, and I've never seen the guy again, nor do I wish to. But there was still that moment when I felt the desire to share with another human. (Or animal, in that case! )

 

[Guest]

Damn Taffy J.......

Give me a call......<smiling>

I'd LOVE to see that look in your eyes.......

I remain,

 

[TaffyJ]

Oh! Question for the guys, while we're on the topic.

Both bridgetk and I mentioned a feeling of vulnerability at the moment of orgasm during intimate sex. Is that just a female thing? Is there a male counterpart to our female half of it? Like a feeling of posession of the persion you're with? Or do you guys feel the vulnerability/offering yourself up thing we do? Or does it change from one time to the next, depending on how you feel?

It would be really nifty to know if this is a Mars & Venus kind of thing, or if it's all a universal human thing.

 

[Guest]

Good question........

For self.....yes, very vulnerable. Which I don't belive is usually a "guy" thing. I think a majority of men don't care for being vulnerable at that moment...and lets face it...I think they are, especially at that moment more than any other time. Why is it afterwards then that we run around the room afterwards, beating our chests and dragging our arms across the floor? It's to take back and prove we're back in control again...that's why!

I remain,

 

[TaffyJ]

You Beast!

I love the imagery! Beautiful, blissful moment; then man gets up rampaging around the room like a gorilla to reassert his manliness. LOL

 

[Guest]

Snort...........

<Thumping chest>


I remain.....in the mist..........

 

[its Leslie]

My wife likes to cum while I eat her.

This does tend to complicate eye contact heheh. All I can usually see, is her madly gyrating pussy.

 

[Guest]

LOL.......

To quote its Leslie:

"This does tend to complicate eye contact heheh. All I can usually see, is her madly gyrating pussy."


Actually.......that's not such a bad thing either my friend!


I remain.

 

[Just_John1]

Done it!

I actually have an experience that someone asked a question about! LOL.

I've experienced it and have included it in a story or two, old ones and new ones. It is an incredibly erotic experience. I found that having to keep my eyes open during "the crisis" is very difficult but possible and makes the being watched experience even more intense. I also find that when you ask a woman to keep her eyes open, to look into my eyes while she cums and then she looses it at the last moment, or at the pinnacle of orgasm is the most erotic, sensual thing one can experience. The effort of trying to maintain contact and then involuntarily losing it as pleasure controls her body is as clear a message of pleasure as a male shooting strings of white pearly cum.

Incredibly erotic and REALLY cool to watch.

JJ1