A conversation I had last night. About a different way of doing things

[why_not_jill]

I am not really sure where this belongs.. If someone feels it does not belong on the Fetish board let me know. I don't mind moving it..

I was talking to an older friend, about sexuality. She wondered if being bi or gay were more acceptable when she was in her early 20's. What if she had gone into her marrage knowing she was not like 100% straight and shared that with her then fiancee. Would they would still be married.

I think there is a lot going on in her head right now. I'm not a physiological major.. That might be a good thing after you read this next part.. Haha..

I was just thinking out loud..

So, what if girls like me. Well all young men and women like me. People who really didn't know what they wanted to do right after school, (I feel like that is pretty much everyone.) picture yourself at 19 or 20.

Think of like a more gynarchy society. What if we got placed with married couples, not just like for sex, however that could be part of it. But like a real life internship. Where you learn real stuff.

Anyone that age would learn a lot about what married and family life is like. Just think about..

Think of me a living with a married couple in a larger city. They have a family. I have real responsibilitys, whether they are around the house or elsewhere. This should be a learning experience. I should be doing new things. Seeing things from a different prospective, or at least trying. Sort of like an internship for real life.

Maybe I develop feelings for the wife. Or shocker the husband!

I mean who knows, maybe if like my first six sexual relationships (all with guys my age) had been better, more satisfying? What if when I was 19or 20 I had a satisfying sexual relationship with a man, someone who was more experienced. Would I be a lesbian or a bi girl? I don't know..

Would my friend still be married if a young woman had been introduced into her marriage? So she could explore her feelings for other women. She didn't like that question. It did however get her thinking.

I did share this idea with on friend on Lit, but I thought I would put it out for everyone...

I have been thinking about this all morning..

 

[policywank]

I am not sure that any of us is 100% straight, 100% gay or 50/50 bi-sexual. I tend to think most of us are more complex. And we would do well to contemplate the alternatives. Maybe we would all understand ourselves better and be more open-minded towards others.

I identify as straight but open to and experiences with other women. If I had to put it into numbers I'd say I am 75/25 and I love both parts equally. Convincing myself otherwise wouldn't change a thing. I find embracing my contradictions more comforting than pretending they don't exist.

 

[Jaime_H]

Like Ms Policy says, nobody is 100 percent anything. I like to think that society is more Flexible and less judgmental than it was.

I guess one generally goes with ones strongest convictions.

 

[why_not_jill]

I like that line of thinking..

You're both correct, sexually is a fluid thing.. It's moving.