A beginners guide for contacting women

[NightL]

I have listed to your perspective and acknowledged a woman's perspective read my posts again...I get it.
I can totally understand why some women do not respond. My one and only point was that if the messenger is courteous and respectful...it's my opinion (no one else's) that a reply would be nice.

You have failed to acknowledged my perspective that it would be a courtesy.

As frustrating as I am sure it is for women who are inundated with rude and unwanted messages it can be as equally frustrated for good guys to reach out using courtesy and get no response.

Dude, you are owed nothing but most certainly deserve scorn. Do you walk down the street and knock on every door you see a woman entering? While you may consider yourself the most genuine sincere gentleman you are still creeping on people with unsolicited messaging.

Having message box is not an open invitation for you to contact.

The following is more time than you deserve or maybe it isn’t: A woman walking down a darkened deserted street suddenly hears footsteps behind her of a sound she believes indicating a lone man (or indeed men) pacing her. What should her thoughts be, is this man a threat? She glances around fearing of laneways to avoid. Should she immediately cross the street? Should she enter a shop?

In that scenario every unidentified man who follows a woman down the deserted street has to be considered a potential threat. Does not matter how well he is presented.

The above scenario was presented as further discussion to the statement "every man is a rapist". The statement was made to provoke but the further discussion was to enlighten men that no matter their belief of innocence of intent, they can very justifiably be perceived as a threat.

So no, you are not owed a courteous response. Your intent does not erase the reality that women must always assess risk. Your feelings about that are irrelevant to their safety.

 

[Meekly_Anna]

I admit, I'm enjoying this threat more and more, and you've given me another idea. Fun should not be neglected.

Horny_Hero: Hello sweetie, all alone here?
Meekly_Anna: I am indeed. I'm all alone at home. My husband is in the pub with his friends and I'm bored now. The kitchen is cleaned, the washing is done and I've just got ready for bed.
I've even just had a shower and am wearing my new silk nightdress. It's actually still a bit too thin for this time of year, but my husband loves the way my nipples are visible under silk. Unfortunately, he prefers to look at them rather than fondle them and pull on them.
Sometimes I get the impression that he would rather spend time with his friends than with me. I've shaved my pussy so that I'm just as hairless as his friend Thomas, with whom he always goes to the sauna.
He's just texted me to say that it's getting very late. That makes me so sad. I have to get the dildo out of the sock drawer again. I was so looking forward to his fat cock. It's been more than two months.
He even bought me a new dildo. What a fat device! If I insert it all the way in, it will probably tickle the back of my throat.
Of course I didn't do that. I think he wants to give it to me for my birthday. At least he's hidden it in the back of the cupboard. Behind so these catalogues of leather biker wear. No idea why he needs them when he doesn't have a motorbike.
Because I am very small I had to get the stepladder. Do you like small and light women? Well, I admit my titties aren't very big, but they don't sag at all.
I have no problem being small. Quite the opposite. I love being banged really hard into the mattress. I don't care whether I'm lying on the bottom or being taken from behind. You just have to be careful with anal because my little bum is so tight.
My favourite thing is to be grabbed by strong hands, lifted up and then placed on a hard cock.
Speaking of which, do you have a good boyfriend? Because I dream of being really fucked by two or three stallions. But only if you want to. Or bring your girlfriend, provided she has a strap on with her.
Oh, I really must change the bed linen later when I've finished with my dildo. There's already another wet spot on it.
What did you actually want? Never mind. I'll go to the sock drawer now. I'd like you to watch, but I don't know if you want me to. We hardly know each other.
Have a nice evening!

Hmm, how will Horny_Hero react when he finds out he was blocked right after receiving this message?

 

[calmlikeabomb]

I admit, I'm enjoying this threat more and more, and you've given me another idea. Fun should not be neglected.

Horny_Hero: Hello sweetie, all alone here?
Meekly_Anna: I am indeed. I'm all alone at home. My husband is in the pub with his friends and I'm bored now. The kitchen is cleaned, the washing is done and I've just got ready for bed.
I've even just had a shower and am wearing my new silk nightdress. It's actually still a bit too thin for this time of year, but my husband loves the way my nipples are visible under silk. Unfortunately, he prefers to look at them rather than fondle them and pull on them.
Sometimes I get the impression that he would rather spend time with his friends than with me. I've shaved my pussy so that I'm just as hairless as his friend Thomas, with whom he always goes to the sauna.
He's just texted me to say that it's getting very late. That makes me so sad. I have to get the dildo out of the sock drawer again. I was so looking forward to his fat cock. It's been more than two months.
He even bought me a new dildo. What a fat device! If I insert it all the way in, it will probably tickle the back of my throat.
Of course I didn't do that. I think he wants to give it to me for my birthday. At least he's hidden it in the back of the cupboard. Behind so these catalogues of leather biker wear. No idea why he needs them when he doesn't have a motorbike.
Because I am very small I had to get the stepladder. Do you like small and light women? Well, I admit my titties aren't very big, but they don't sag at all.
I have no problem being small. Quite the opposite. I love being banged really hard into the mattress. I don't care whether I'm lying on the bottom or being taken from behind. You just have to be careful with anal because my little bum is so tight.
My favourite thing is to be grabbed by strong hands, lifted up and then placed on a hard cock.
Speaking of which, do you have a good boyfriend? Because I dream of being really fucked by two or three stallions. But only if you want to. Or bring your girlfriend, provided she has a strap on with her.
Oh, I really must change the bed linen later when I've finished with my dildo. There's already another wet spot on it.
What did you actually want? Never mind. I'll go to the sock drawer now. I'd like you to watch, but I don't know if you want me to. We hardly know each other.
Have a nice evening!

Hmm, how will Horny_Hero react when he finds out he was blocked right after receiving this message?

Honestly?

Probably wouldn't care. Already got the wank material.

 

[Meekly_Anna]

Honestly?

Probably wouldn't care. Already got the wank material.

Shoot.
I knew my nefarious had a weak point.

 

[Canadian1968]

Normally I get messaged after I post somewhere. Depending on the responses I won't advertise being on line for awhile.
However, if I didn't want attention I would change my pic

DM is always an option, but a gentle introduction is far better received than 'can I see your tits'.

 

[Shellz32]

Dude, you are owed nothing but most certainly deserve scorn. Do you walk down the street and knock on every door you see a woman entering? While you may consider yourself the most genuine sincere gentleman you are still creeping on people with unsolicited messaging.

Having message box is not an open invitation for you to contact.

The following is more time than you deserve or maybe it isn’t: A woman walking down a darkened deserted street suddenly hears footsteps behind her of a sound she believes indicating a lone man (or indeed men) pacing her. What should her thoughts be, is this man a threat? She glances around fearing of laneways to avoid. Should she immediately cross the street? Should she enter a shop?

In that scenario every unidentified man who follows a woman down the deserted street has to be considered a potential threat. Does not matter how well he is presented.

The above scenario was presented as further discussion to the statement "every man is a rapist". The statement was made to provoke but the further discussion was to enlighten men that no matter their belief of innocence of intent, they can very justifiably be perceived as a threat.

So no, you are not owed a courteous response. Your intent does not erase the reality that women must always assess risk. Your feelings about that are irrelevant to their safety.

God I couldn't agree with this more

This is an anonymous internet forum. You are owed NOTHING. Ffs

 

[Shellz32]

Dude, you are owed nothing but most certainly deserve scorn. Do you walk down the street and knock on every door you see a woman entering? While you may consider yourself the most genuine sincere gentleman you are still creeping on people with unsolicited messaging.

Having message box is not an open invitation for you to contact.

The following is more time than you deserve or maybe it isn’t: A woman walking down a darkened deserted street suddenly hears footsteps behind her of a sound she believes indicating a lone man (or indeed men) pacing her. What should her thoughts be, is this man a threat? She glances around fearing of laneways to avoid. Should she immediately cross the street? Should she enter a shop?

In that scenario every unidentified man who follows a woman down the deserted street has to be considered a potential threat. Does not matter how well he is presented.

The above scenario was presented as further discussion to the statement "every man is a rapist". The statement was made to provoke but the further discussion was to enlighten men that no matter their belief of innocence of intent, they can very justifiably be perceived as a threat.

So no, you are not owed a courteous response. Your intent does not erase the reality that women must always assess risk. Your feelings about that are irrelevant to their safety.

And fwiw when in a quiet area- day or night- and there's a man walking up behind me, I always turn around and ensure I know exactly where they are. I've also stopped using my iPod in public.

And there's many more of those types of things we do but men wouldn't be able to relate whatsoever. And lucky you I say to that

 

[Meekly_Anna]

And fwiw when in a quiet area- day or night- and there's a man walking up behind me, I always turn around and ensure I know exactly where they are. I've also stopped using my iPod in public.

And there's many more of those types of things we do but men wouldn't be able to relate whatsoever. And lucky you I say to that

And one never accepts a free drink in a discotheque or similar, except you get a fresh glass from the bartender and it's poured from a sealed bottle.

 

[Shellz32]

And one never accepts a free drink in a discotheque or similar, except you get a fresh glass from the bartender and it's poured from a sealed bottle.

Oh yeah there's tonnes more

I lived on the ground floor for over 10 years. For over 10 years I could never leave my window open on a hot night.

Going nowhere at night ie. For petrol, ATMs etc

Keys between the fingers at all times at night

 

[Meekly_Anna]

Oh yeah there's tonnes more

I lived on the ground floor for over 10 years. For over 10 years I could never leave my window open on a hot night.

Going nowhere at night ie. For petrol, ATMs etc

Keys between the fingers at all times at night

And you don't go to the toilet alone if avoidable, at least not on public places.
I recommend a kubotan. Made of nice material, not black, no sharp tip, maybe brass, it brings a pointed argument to a heated discussion that is hard to refute and gets to the heart of your point. Or your point to his elbow, rips, shoulder, ...

 

[Meekly_Anna]

And you don't go to the toilet alone if avoidable, at least not on public places.
I recommend a kubotan. Made of nice material, not black, no sharp tip, maybe brass, it brings a pointed argument to a heated discussion that is hard to refute and gets to the heart of your point. Or your point to his elbow, rips, shoulder, ...

Or hers.
Fair is fair, and things happen to all of us, double X, XY and everyone in between or outside.

 

[Shellz32]

Well I have no choice but to go to the toilet alone unfortunately. Still make sure I'm aware of my surroundings at all times

 

[Meekly_Anna]

Well I have no choice but to go to the toilet alone unfortunately. Still make sure I'm aware of my surroundings at all times

Welcome to the infantry. You are part of it for the rest of your life. Oh, and welcome to primary school.

 

[VamPal1]

A lot of men need leashes.

 

[Meekly_Anna]

To clarify:
I'm exaggerating a bit. Yes, caution is usually wise. Just like a firefighter entering a burning house always checks how to get out quickly if necessary, you assess the threat situation. But almost everyone does this, always and unconsciously.
I spent a lot of time travelling alone on my motorbike for years. Was I afraid? In extremely rare cases, mostly it was cool encounters and beautiful places. Did I have a sturdy knife to hand? Of course I did...
Once I got pulled over by the police. My knife is not illegal. The male police officer raised an eyebrow. The female police officer winked at me.

 

[Meekly_Anna]

A lot of men need leashes.

Only if they have been a good boy.

 

[Shellz32]

To clarify:
I'm exaggerating a bit. Yes, caution is usually wise. Just like a firefighter entering a burning house always checks how to get out quickly if necessary, you assess the threat situation. But almost everyone does this, always and unconsciously.
I spent a lot of time travelling alone on my motorbike for years. Was I afraid? In extremely rare cases, mostly it was cool encounters and beautiful places. Did I have a sturdy knife to hand? Of course I did...
Once I got pulled over by the police. My knife is not illegal. The male police officer raised an eyebrow. The female police officer winked at me.

I wouldn't do that. Not in a million years.

But good on you! No sarcasm

 

[Shellz32]

Or that movie Wild with Recce Witherspoon. That scene with those weirdos in the woods.

No way

 

[Meekly_Anna]

Or that movie Wild with Recce Witherspoon. That scene with those weirdos in the woods.

No way

In doubt, choose to be the most dangerous thing in the woods and you will be fine.

 

[SusanHoward]

Maybe I’m the exception, but honesty and sense of humor are good starts. (OK, tall and handsome help, too!

 

[jason28053]

Maybe I’m the exception, but honesty and sense of humor are good starts. (OK, tall and handsome help, too!

Noted and I was born tall and handsome

 

[Dreamboy994]

I thought for a while about whether I should broach the subject, but my daily experience has shown me that there is a great need:
How do I approach a woman I'm interested in, and how do I do it without spoiling her interest in me with glorious opportunity?
It's not that difficult. Don't worry, we'll give you some examples.

Firstly, the salutation. It doesn't actually contain any useful information other than: look, you're so important to me that I took three seconds to address you.
The salutation doesn't have to be formal. A "Hi Anna" is perfectly adequate. "Dear Ms Anna" would be an exaggeration. "Sub sexy" can be sufficient under certain circumstances, but then an explanatory text should follow. As the only content, this is completely inadequate. The person you are addressing has no idea what you actually want.


The salutation is followed by a brief explanation of why you are actually making contact. "Seen your profile pic and creamed my pants twice already" may be true, but only arouses interest under very specific circumstances. It is better to point out common interests or even show that you can complement each other well. Here too: Be careful! You should stick to the truth, but not be too brief and, above all, not be overbearing. The vast majority of women want to have control over the extent to which they reveal things or allow others into their private sphere. "I'm Dom, doo what I say, or else. Skype?" probably won't work. Perhaps combine the whole thing with a short introduction. It could look like this: "I'm a forty years old father of two, widower and I have a Dom kink. I would be delighted to explore the sub kink I felt in you while reading your story. Do you want to chat with me?" Stuff like that will almost certainly get you at least a polite rejection.
The ladies reading along now have a few examples from practice, as they occur here several times a day and the appropriate reaction to them. I'll leave it at this point as the topic can be very tiring. All the names used here are the product of my imagination. If you actually use them, I am extremely sorry and it is not my intention. I apologise as a precaution.


Cockslinger69: wanna chat
Anna: No thank you sweety, I've just done my hair.

BiCuriousDom: hru doll
Anna: Ah dinnae ken, is it ye?
When Ah staun naked an' wiggle ma wee arse, maist fowk want tae fuck me. Whit aboot ye? Are ye successful wi' twa words?

AlphaBreederBBC: What's up?
Anna: Hi Aunt Beep! I don't know, shouldn't you tell me?

LoveMaster: Ciao Bella, wanna chat?
Anna: Ciao amore mio
No, grazie, non oggi.

A note on the last entry: only use the foreign language if you know it.

CUM GRANO SALIS

And try not to kill me now.

 

[Meekly_Anna]

I have one that I've never come across before.

MuskyKnight: Are you female?
Anna: What kind of question is that?
MuskyKnight: My women have to be female.
Anna: YOUR women? And what do you mean by female? I'm a Barbie girl, in a Barbie world? Do I have to give back my university degree so I can chat with you?
Anna: Explain yourself.
Anna: Hello?

Guys, if your IQ is below room temperature, that's totally fine. That doesn't make you worse people. I like talking to you as much as anyone else. But if you're overbearing wankers, practise linguistic asceticism.


MuskyKnight: How female are you?
Anna: Not as feminine as the bois who run my household. They usually have to wear short skirts and a bonnet. Why do you ask? I still have a place in the dog basket. Would you like to come round?
Anna: Hello?

That's great! The first one to block me and not the other way round.


MuskyKnight: How female are you?
Anna: Almost completely. I love wearing fluffy blouses and I like the admiring glances of men on my thighs. That's why I like to wear short skirts. It's especially nice on the bike in summer.
I'm just a little ashamed of my 9 inch cock. It always gets so hard when I see a beautiful man.
MuskyKnight: You are so beautiful! Skype? Or should we meet somewhere right away?

Oh, damn. That wasn't the plan.

But I don't even have a 9 inch cock...
Ahem, unless someone provides me with theirs.

 

[GloriousChaos]

I thought for a while about whether I should broach the subject, but my daily experience has shown me that there is a great need:
How do I approach a woman I'm interested in, and how do I do it without spoiling her interest in me with glorious opportunity?
It's not that difficult. Don't worry, we'll give you some examples.

Firstly, the salutation. It doesn't actually contain any useful information other than: look, you're so important to me that I took three seconds to address you.
The salutation doesn't have to be formal. A "Hi Anna" is perfectly adequate. "Dear Ms Anna" would be an exaggeration. "Sub sexy" can be sufficient under certain circumstances, but then an explanatory text should follow. As the only content, this is completely inadequate. The person you are addressing has no idea what you actually want.


The salutation is followed by a brief explanation of why you are actually making contact. "Seen your profile pic and creamed my pants twice already" may be true, but only arouses interest under very specific circumstances. It is better to point out common interests or even show that you can complement each other well. Here too: Be careful! You should stick to the truth, but not be too brief and, above all, not be overbearing. The vast majority of women want to have control over the extent to which they reveal things or allow others into their private sphere. "I'm Dom, doo what I say, or else. Skype?" probably won't work. Perhaps combine the whole thing with a short introduction. It could look like this: "I'm a forty years old father of two, widower and I have a Dom kink. I would be delighted to explore the sub kink I felt in you while reading your story. Do you want to chat with me?" Stuff like that will almost certainly get you at least a polite rejection.
The ladies reading along now have a few examples from practice, as they occur here several times a day and the appropriate reaction to them. I'll leave it at this point as the topic can be very tiring. All the names used here are the product of my imagination. If you actually use them, I am extremely sorry and it is not my intention. I apologise as a precaution.


Cockslinger69: wanna chat
Anna: No thank you sweety, I've just done my hair.

BiCuriousDom: hru doll
Anna: Ah dinnae ken, is it ye?
When Ah staun naked an' wiggle ma wee arse, maist fowk want tae fuck me. Whit aboot ye? Are ye successful wi' twa words?

AlphaBreederBBC: What's up?
Anna: Hi Aunt Beep! I don't know, shouldn't you tell me?

LoveMaster: Ciao Bella, wanna chat?
Anna: Ciao amore mio
No, grazie, non oggi.

A note on the last entry: only use the foreign language if you know it.

CUM GRANO SALIS

And try not to kill me now.

I fully appreciate this! Hope you are getting better interactions from more polite men.

 

[Meekly_Anna]

I fully appreciate this! Hope you are getting better interactions from more polite men.

Thank you, I'm having fun.