5-year-old boy stands up to bully!

[Guest]

Our son has been suffering the verbal (and occasional physical) abuse from a 6-year-old classmate.

Kindergarten! This starts in friggin' kindergarten???

Anyway, we didn't know this was happening because our son didn't even tell us. When he finally started talking about it we talked to his teacher, the principal, etc.

It still didn't stop.

So, last weekend my husband showed our son the best way to fight back. No punching - not yet, anyway - just a solid chest-high shove to drop the little shit. (It was truly cute to watch them practicing, by the way)

We also taught him to yell, "NO!" whenever something happened.

Sure enough, the little jerk started to bother our son the first part of this week. After shouting "No!" our young lad knocked him hard on his ass.

He hasn't been bothered since.

 

[minsue]

I can't decide which makes me happier: your story or just to see you back around!

 

[Guest]

Thank you, minsue - what a lovely thing to say.

(I know I'm overtly emotional these days but that sweet comment made my eyes all watery.)

It feels good to be back, too!

 

[minsue]

Thank you, minsue - what a lovely thing to say.

(I know I'm overtly emotional these days but that sweet comment made my eyes all watery.)

It feels good to be back, too!

 

[SnoopDog]

Our son has been suffering the verbal (and occasional physical) abuse from a 6-year-old classmate.

Kindergarten! This starts in friggin' kindergarten???

Anyway, we didn't know this was happening because our son didn't even tell us. When he finally started talking about it we talked to his teacher, the principal, etc.

It still didn't stop.

So, last weekend my husband showed our son the best way to fight back. No punching - not yet, anyway - just a solid chest-high shove to drop the little shit. (It was truly cute to watch them practicing, by the way)

We also taught him to yell, "NO!" whenever something happened.

Sure enough, the little jerk started to bother our son the first part of this week. After shouting "No!" our young lad knocked him hard on his ass.

He hasn't been bothered since.

That's just great. Especailly that he didn't learn to punch or kick or stuff but rather just give it to the bully in the best way.
Though it makes me sad to see that bullies are already exisiting in Kindergarten.

Snoopy

 

[Guest]

Yes, that made us sad to discover this in kindergarten. Bullies in training, I guess.

And it took us time to convince our son that it would be OK to fight back. He kept telling us that he wasn't supposed to push kids at school, it was wrong. I don't think he thought about the 'getting in trouble' aspect, but just that the entire idea of fighting was wrong.

(A family member of mine, following the rules? What's with that? lol)

Anyway, we hope the shove was enough for this bully. We don't want this thing to escalate.

 

[Colleen Thomas]

I echo Mindy's sentiments, good to see you back

*HUGS*

-Colly

 

[English Lady]

hello Sarahh Well I think everyone should teach their child that it is ok to stand up against a bully. As happened with your son bullies tend to go away once they are bettered! *grins*


It is so sad that this is happening when he's still only little though

 

[Guest]

hello Sarahh Well I think everyone should teach their child that it is ok to stand up against a bully. As happened with your son bullies tend to go away once they are bettered! *grins*


It is so sad that this is happening when he's still only little though

Yes - I hope that's enough for this one, anyway. And if the word gets around that our son won't allow bullies to bother him perhaps that will stop the next one.

(I wish I'd been there to see him drop the little jerk, though!)

 

[Guest]

I echo Mindy's sentiments, good to see you back

*HUGS*

-Colly

Oh, thank you, Colly!

(and may I add that your bunnies look absolutely delicious?)

 

[thebullet]

Sometimes bullies are bullies because they don't know any other way to act. But they can learn.

I experienced a similar problem when I was six years old. I was by far the smallest kid in my first grade class. The biggest kid in my class decided I should be his plaything. So whenever all the boys were sent to the bathroom (we had regular bathroom breaks then), he would grab my arm and throw me around, into the urinals and generally making my life miserable. He was at least twice as big as me and I had no way to prevent it. He got the other biggest kids in class as friends and they all picked on me.

My solution was to make allies of all the normal-sized boys in class (I guess I was a natural leader type). Even though the big boys all hung together, we outnumbered them 2 to 1. Every day at recess we went out and beat the crap out of them. A couple of weeks later one of the big boys cornered me and asked if we could have a truce. From that point forward, everyone was friends and we had no bullies in our class.

As a postscript, the original bully became my best friend. He later graduated from an Ivy League medical school and I read recently how he had reattached an arm that had been severed from someone during a train accident.

Even bullies can end up as good people.


thebullet stories

 

[Guest]

Here's someone else glad to see you back

Hey sexy...got your PM, will respond to that a bit later. But damn I'm glad to see you back on the boards too. And yeah...took a bit of a time out myself in order to get my own head on a little straighter. Think I'm finally getting there myself.

But yeah...I've missed you too!

 

[lewdandlicentious]

Our son has been suffering the verbal (and occasional physical) abuse from a 6-year-old classmate.

Kindergarten! This starts in friggin' kindergarten???

Anyway, we didn't know this was happening because our son didn't even tell us. When he finally started talking about it we talked to his teacher, the principal, etc.

It still didn't stop.

So, last weekend my husband showed our son the best way to fight back. No punching - not yet, anyway - just a solid chest-high shove to drop the little shit. (It was truly cute to watch them practicing, by the way)

We also taught him to yell, "NO!" whenever something happened.

Sure enough, the little jerk started to bother our son the first part of this week. After shouting "No!" our young lad knocked him hard on his ass.

He hasn't been bothered since.

Sarah,

Thank you!

This re-inforces my view, as stated on a thread last week or so.

Exactly what I was saying to my daughter, and at last she's showing signs of fighting back. I gave her a hug when she did the other day!

See the "why do men love war" thread by SnP!

 

[Svenskaflicka]

It's like my Jeet Kun Do teacher taught us: Avoid fights at all costs - but when you can't avoid it anymore, make sure that you win.

 

[Boota]

That's a great story. I'm glad to hear that your son handled it so well. It was a great lesson to him at such a young age to learn to stand up for himself.

I was always the anti-bully in school. I got in a lot of fights for protecting the smaller kids from the bigger ones. I never could stand to see someone being picked on. I was big enough to have made a great bully! It just wasn't in me. LOL.

I did lose my temper a couple years ago, though. My niece was getting picked on by a girl that was twice her age and size. I did the mature thing and went to talk to the girls dad. (My brother and his wife were always at work when it happened.) Her father essentially told me to go to hell and that kids will be kids. Apparently she learned to bully from her dad. That was my take on it. After he told me that, I did something less mature. I dragged him through the screen door of his house and onto the front porch and choked him. I told him that if his daughter messed with my niece even one more time that it wasn't going to be kids being kids. It was going to be me beating him to a bloody pulp. It solved the problem, but I began questioning whether my actions made me the bully in that situation.

I decided that I was, but I got over it. LOL. I had to take care of my niece.

 

[Guest]

Thanks, Boota, for sharing your story. I don't think that made you the bully, though - not at all.

I think bullies are inherently weak and usually cowards; that's why they prey on others they assume are weaker.

You were defending someone you love. That's an entirely different situation!

My son is fairly tall but he is currently the youngest kid in his class (he turned five the day before kindergarten started - lol). So while the academics are easy for him his social development is a bit behind. (But he would have been so bored if we'd kept him back an entire year).

He'll get there. And we believe he's taken a huge step this week!

 

[lewdandlicentious]

Booya:

Disagree. YOU were not the bully. You sorted the bully.

Again, my point proved!

Sarah:

You're right, bullies are the weak ones. THEY are the ones with the inferiority complex, and they bully to get over it.

Generally if you challenge them they back off.

EUREKA, I'VE JUST SUSSED IT!!!

Kids/people begin by pushing people around, because they don't know how else to act in certain situations.

They then find that people tend to back off from their, at that point, unintended aggression.

They enjoy the false respect this earns them and begin to think it's what makes them someone important.

They're still the same disfunctional kid underneath, but suddenly they've found a way to mask it!

Until they're challenged!


Oh, and Sarah, your son's social development will benefit hugely by being with the older kids. He'll be their equal before you know it.