3somes with 2 Doms and a sub

[WriterDom]

Would you share your sub with another Dom? Or if you were contacted about sharing someone's sub would you do it? And if you are submissive would you be shared?

 

[Cirrus]

I'm a sub, and my take on this is the same as in any other 3some. I would be shared with another MALE Dom, if it felt right to all of us. But to just be "given" to or shared with a stranger or someone I didn't know, then no, I wouldn't do it.

And I'm not ruling out a FMF 3some, but it would have to be a very special woman that I would get in bed with.

 

[snoozebutton]

I could never share my sub with another Dom. She gave this gift to me and i cherish it as mine and mine alone. The thought of her eyes searching mine as she submitted to another disturbs me greatly. I want a strong sub inside that gave me her gift from a place of strenght not because i broke her mentally. Her pleasure belongs to me and i want to be the only one she needs for it.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Being shared, or loaned, is a big fantasy of mine.

In the D/s relationship I was in, he would let other Doms occassionally play with me (spankings, floggings, hot wax, nipple play, etc.) but never anything overtly sexual, such as telling me to suck another man's cock. It was a bit of a disappointment, but one I could live with with the right man.

 

[lovetoread]

I think it would depend on alot of things.

What kind of agreement you have with your dom.

Who was asking

What exactly this other dom wanted (as in details)

And most importantly, if I was asked to do it - not told to.

Tis also a very big fantasy of mine.

 

[NemoAlia]

This has been a long-time fantasy of mine -- two (or even more!) Doms + me. However, since every time I attach a specific face to any of the Doms I get weirded out, I doubt this is going to become a reality any time soon. In my current relationship, for example, involving someone else would definitely 'queer the do.'

 

[~Dream~]

I TOTALLY AGREE

I could never share my sub with another Dom. She gave this gift to me and i cherish it as mine and mine alone. The thought of her eyes searching mine as she submitted to another disturbs me greatly. I want a strong sub inside that gave me her gift from a place of strenght not because i broke her mentally. Her pleasure belongs to me and i want to be the only one she needs for it.

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My gift is for Master only , I shall submit to no other ,ever,period..
I feel it was very important that you stated "a place of strength" and Not because you "broke her mentally" too Snooze and I greatly appreciate that statement.. Submission does take ALOT of strength to do,esp when you are leving yourself VERY Vulnerable to the WILL of another..it is NOT always easy and is a gradual process for most of us new to the lifestyle,I think most people need to understand that... If I were to ever submit to another that would take some of my Master's Control of me away (and heaven forbid when that happens !!)

on the other hand it IS one of my fantasies to please HIM BY BEING WITH someone else if He so chooses as my number 1 choice is to always only ,be with Him , I trust He would keep me 'safe 'tho..

 

[snoozebutton]

Re: I TOTALLY AGREE

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My gift is for Master only , I shall submit to no other ,ever,period..
I feel it was very important that you stated "a place of strength" and Not because you "broke her mentally" too Snooze and I greatly appreciate that statement.. Submission does take ALOT of strength to do,esp when you are leving yourself VERY Vulnerable to the WILL of another..it is NOT always easy and is a gradual process for most of us new to the lifestyle,I think most people need to understand that... If I were to ever submit to another that would take some of my Master's Control of me away (and heaven forbid when that happens !!)

on the other hand it IS one of my fantasies to please HIM BY BEING WITH someone else if He so chooses as my number 1 choice is to always only ,be with Him , I trust He would keep me 'safe 'tho..

Love that Av now that stops and makes Me say Hmmmmmm

 

[P. B. Walker]

I probably have unique perspective on this. I am more of a Top/bottom in that I don't go for being collared or collar a sub myself. Not that I wouldn't but I haven't. To answer this question, in a Dom/Top role, I wouldn't share a submissive of mine, unless that was something she specifically voiced beforehand. I don't like to share. If she had stated beforehand that she got off on being shared then I would do everything I could to fulfill that request, on my terms.

In the bottom/sub role, I would not mind being shared as long as my Top/Domme were there too. I would trust her to choose someone that would not go past my limits. With the right person it would really be a turn on for me.


PBW

 

[Desdemona]

Maybe. It all depends on the context of the situation. At first glance, I think its doubtful, but I won't completely rule it out.

 

[froggy_day]

similar situation?

My gf & I would love to have a sub boy, who would submit to both of us. But other the that, we wouldn't share. Somethings should be bragged about, shown off maybe but not shared

 

[~Dream~]

Re: Re: I TOTALLY AGREE

Love that Av now that stops and makes Me say Hmmmmmm

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why ty snooze! God it feels GREAT TO HEAR something *NICE* today from somebody!! (I like yours too btw)

 

[Rubyfruit]

WD, are you going to share your feelings on the subject?

 

[Angelofsex]

With a D/s relationship, I will only like to serve him and make him happy. I would never like to be share.

 

[WriterDom]

WD, are you going to share your feelings on the subject?

I was just curious. A Dom at bondage contacted me about doing a 3 way with his sub. But I think it was a mass mailing type of thing because he didn't reply when I wrote back. It's not an activity that is very high on my priority list. 2 subs would be fun. I've dated a few who were bi, but never seemed to get two together.

 

[ericviking69]

A third party

My take is that in a D/s relationship, the D must take pleasure in having the s to serve and please. The s must take pleasure from serving and pleasing. All interactions are based on this exchange. For a third party to fit into the mix, the third party must be willing to exchange the same currencies.

For example, if a female friend is thrown together with a male D and female s, it might be appropiate to have the two woman please each other to please the D who enjoys watching. They might then both be used by the D to assure they are rewarded for their service. This would imply that the second female is somewhat s to begin with.

I think the idea of giving an s to another D is wrong and a violation of a trust. I think one individual most be in control of the exchange. The D in a viable D/s relationship has assumed that responsibility.

 

[Angelofsex]

Thank you Ericviking, that is how I feel.

 

[Parklife]

I could be shared if that's what was desired... It's not a hard limit and it is in some of my more 'humiliation' type erotic fantasies. I don't think it's something I would express as desired.. but it would be something I would go along with...

 

[lovetoread]

It's not an activity that is very high on my priority list.

There went my dream...

But just as a curiousity,how does one go about doing this?

Wouldn't two doms be well,too much for one person to handle?

Kind of like two tomcats and one cat in heat, if you get what I mean.

Two subs I can understand,though.

 

[Subtle Submissive]

The three of us

I am a female bi sub in a relationship with a married couple (man and woman) who are also two of my best friends. They are both switches. There have been occasions when I sub with him to her and occasions when she and I sub to him. A great deal of the time however, I am sub to both of them. It is very very exciting for me to be controlled by both of them at the same time. I am submissive to him all the time...when I talk to him or whenever we are together in a casual setting. Her and I play and flirt but when she is Domme...it is very serious to me. Anway, I love being shared and I admit that I have had fantasies of a Dom sharing me with other Doms. In fact, the story I'm submitting right now concerns sharing a sub.

 

[serijules]

Would you share your sub with another Dom? Or if you were contacted about sharing someone's sub would you do it? And if you are submissive would you be shared?

I would be shared, yes. And like Ruby, I have a fantasy about being loaned or 'ordered' to pleasure another.

I am an extremely diverse person. I love to explore, I love to try new things with new people. Any future relationships I have, are going to have to be with someone that is secure in sharing me, and I would expect the same of me (not have problems with sharing him or her). I am bi as well, so sharing my Dom (if I had one) with another woman whom I can also share myself with, would be amazing. I can be a very jealous person though, if my own needs and security are not addressed.

I understand, very well, how some people can not or do not want to share their subs or themselves with others, but for me, it's too limiting. Perhaps I say this only because I have never really HAD that deeply secure relationship that I desire, so it's easy to say I would want to be shared or share...but I really feel that my opinion would stay the same even if I did have that with someone. My feelings and experiences with relationships is that diversity is a virtue, not a threat.

I have one friend that has an absolutly amazingly skilled and stable Dom. She shares him at parties and whatnot, with other subs...and he has no lack of people willing and wanting to play with him. This is one of the things I admire most about her, the strength of security she has in herself and their relationship, to allow that. That's something I want for myself.

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[aerofreak]

i'm not a dom... yet, but i'm currently looking for a sub and if i find one, i will be sharing him with my g/f. but he will know this before we accept him as a sub. i will also expect him to play with others that we deem safe & worthy of his attentions. i will never place my sub in danger intentionally, and that includes mental danger, not just physical. i will make sure that he understands and accepts all of this before he becomes my/our sub. i guess this just goes back to making sure that as a master/mistress you know your sub & what they are willing to do.

 

[Phoenyx]

Safe to say in all this that the final descision goes to the sub if they want to submitt to another?

 

[artful]

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[~Dream~]

yes thats very safe

Safe to say in all this that the final descision goes to the sub if they want to submitt to another?

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and 100% CORRECT ,Its OUR decision to make ,all the way Phoenyx..
and as for being "shared' ,NOT with a woman , but I have the same fantasy to be "ordered' to pleasure another,however according to my hard limit terms ,Master STAYS in the room at all times so I FEEL "SAFE' as that is PARAMOUNT to me.Master already knows I have bigtime problems with Him sharing Himself with anyone but me tho and He does not choose to anyways ..