39F…bbw Latina…ghosted by Dom (part rant)

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Hi Lit,

I’d like to meet people closer to my age (+\- 10 years) for chatting and generally being very horny online with. Open to M and F. I’m on eastern standard time, and would prefer late night chats. A good sense of humor and non-insane politics are a must.

General spelling and punctuation are going to be a big thing for me too. 😬

Bilingual, so we could do this in Spanish too.

I’m an academic, very nerdy about music, movies (aka 🎥 cinema🤌🏼) and the environment. I love (and get turned on by) connecting with others on shared interests.

I’m a feminist and I would very much like to take control of my sexuality and find a way to squirt again. But I can’t seem to get there on my own…I need the right encouragement and inspiration (a Dom - see below - pretty much took that away from me).

(Apologies if this next part is against the rules, I can delete, just let me know…)

I was recently ghosted by my first ever Dom, and I still don’t know what I did wrong. Even though he described himself as gentle and pleasure oriented, I think he was annoyed by my limits and inexperience.

He never set clear emotional and sexual boundaries. He pushed limits I asked him not to, didn’t provide rewards for the (many!!) tasks I completed, signed out of our play sessions after he came (while I was still not finished) and ghosted me when I asked for some aftercare. I told him I was upset and feeling abandoned. He blocked me and deleted all of our channels of communication overnight. He said it was out of concern for my wellbeing and disappeared.

It was so humiliating.

We had established what seemed like a pretty fun dynamic. I was so turned on by the fucked up mental connection we had. But he really did a number on me. The more I think about it, the worse he was at being a Dom.

So while I have a submissive streak in me, I’m not really looking to play with BDSM dynamics after that.

A well placed “good girl” will get you so far, though.

Feel free to DM, help me get over this shit!!
 
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Too bad!!! Sounds like he deserves it!! lol

I can understand, it is hard to be anything 24/7!! Accept me being awesome! I just can't turn it off! ROFLMAO
 
Being ghosted like this is awful. It happened to Mrs early in my Lit experience and I still don’t know why she did it. Saw her posting after not a nod to me at all so frankly I moved on. Having done so I had far better connections and I put it behind me.

In contrast one other girl told me she was finishing things go move on IRL which I accepted gracefully..

I hope you will come through this as it can be done and you treat what happened as a learning experience no matter how awful,his behaviour!
 
Some of you may remember last year I posted about a group I get involved with passing on outdoor skills to children. Well today was the annual event in hot sun so more tiring than ever as four of us taught 75 people to tie their first fly of which all but ten were children from five years old. That was a tiring but rewarding 5 hours!
 
Hi Lit,

I’d like to meet people closer to my age (+\- 10 years) for chatting and generally being very horny online with. Open to M and F. I’m on eastern standard time, and would prefer late night chats. A good sense of humor and non-insane politics are a must.

General spelling and punctuation are going to be a big thing for me too. 😬

Bilingual, so we could do this in Spanish too.

I’m an academic, very nerdy about music, movies (aka 🎥 cinema🤌🏼) and the environment. I love (and get turned on by) connecting with others on shared interests.

I’m a feminist and I would very much like to take control of my sexuality and find a way to squirt again. But I can’t seem to get there on my own…I need the right encouragement and inspiration (a Dom - see below - pretty much took that away from me).

(Apologies if this next part is against the rules, I can delete, just let me know…)

I was recently ghosted by my first ever Dom, and I still don’t know what I did wrong. Even though he described himself as gentle and pleasure oriented, I think he was annoyed by my limits and inexperience.

He never set clear emotional and sexual boundaries. He pushed limits I asked him not to, didn’t provide rewards for the (many!!) tasks I completed, signed out of our play sessions after he came (while I was still not finished) and ghosted me when I asked for some aftercare. I told him I was upset and feeling abandoned. He blocked me and deleted all of our channels of communication overnight. He said it was out of concern for my wellbeing and disappeared.

It was so humiliating.

We had established what seemed like a pretty fun dynamic. I was so turned on by the fucked up mental connection we had. But he really did a number on me. The more I think about it, the worse he was at being a Dom.

So while I have a submissive streak in me, I’m not really looking to play with BDSM dynamics after that.

A well placed “good girl” will get you so far, though.

Feel free to DM, help me get over this shit!!
Hi
 
Hi Lit,

I’d like to meet people closer to my age (+\- 10 years) for chatting and generally being very horny online with. Open to M and F. I’m on eastern standard time, and would prefer late night chats. A good sense of humor and non-insane politics are a must.

General spelling and punctuation are going to be a big thing for me too. 😬

Bilingual, so we could do this in Spanish too.

I’m an academic, very nerdy about music, movies (aka 🎥 cinema🤌🏼) and the environment. I love (and get turned on by) connecting with others on shared interests.

I’m a feminist and I would very much like to take control of my sexuality and find a way to squirt again. But I can’t seem to get there on my own…I need the right encouragement and inspiration (a Dom - see below - pretty much took that away from me).

(Apologies if this next part is against the rules, I can delete, just let me know…)

I was recently ghosted by my first ever Dom, and I still don’t know what I did wrong. Even though he described himself as gentle and pleasure oriented, I think he was annoyed by my limits and inexperience.

He never set clear emotional and sexual boundaries. He pushed limits I asked him not to, didn’t provide rewards for the (many!!) tasks I completed, signed out of our play sessions after he came (while I was still not finished) and ghosted me when I asked for some aftercare. I told him I was upset and feeling abandoned. He blocked me and deleted all of our channels of communication overnight. He said it was out of concern for my wellbeing and disappeared.

It was so humiliating.

We had established what seemed like a pretty fun dynamic. I was so turned on by the fucked up mental connection we had. But he really did a number on me. The more I think about it, the worse he was at being a Dom.

So while I have a submissive streak in me, I’m not really looking to play with BDSM dynamics after that.

A well placed “good girl” will get you so far, though.

Feel free to DM, help me get over this shit!!
Hi H,
Sounds like you might have dodged a " wannabe dom" bullet.
 
Hi Lit,

I’d like to meet people closer to my age (+\- 10 years) for chatting and generally being very horny online with. Open to M and F. I’m on eastern standard time, and would prefer late night chats. A good sense of humor and non-insane politics are a must.

General spelling and punctuation are going to be a big thing for me too. 😬

Bilingual, so we could do this in Spanish too.

I’m an academic, very nerdy about music, movies (aka 🎥 cinema🤌🏼) and the environment. I love (and get turned on by) connecting with others on shared interests.

I’m a feminist and I would very much like to take control of my sexuality and find a way to squirt again. But I can’t seem to get there on my own…I need the right encouragement and inspiration (a Dom - see below - pretty much took that away from me).

(Apologies if this next part is against the rules, I can delete, just let me know…)

I was recently ghosted by my first ever Dom, and I still don’t know what I did wrong. Even though he described himself as gentle and pleasure oriented, I think he was annoyed by my limits and inexperience.

He never set clear emotional and sexual boundaries. He pushed limits I asked him not to, didn’t provide rewards for the (many!!) tasks I completed, signed out of our play sessions after he came (while I was still not finished) and ghosted me when I asked for some aftercare. I told him I was upset and feeling abandoned. He blocked me and deleted all of our channels of communication overnight. He said it was out of concern for my wellbeing and disappeared.

It was so humiliating.

We had established what seemed like a pretty fun dynamic. I was so turned on by the fucked up mental connection we had. But he really did a number on me. The more I think about it, the worse he was at being a Dom.

So while I have a submissive streak in me, I’m not really looking to play with BDSM dynamics after that.

A well placed “good girl” will get you so far, though.

Feel free to DM, help me get over this shit!!
Hi
 
Hi Lit,

I’d like to meet people closer to my age (+\- 10 years) for chatting and generally being very horny online with. Open to M and F. I’m on eastern standard time, and would prefer late night chats. A good sense of humor and non-insane politics are a must.

General spelling and punctuation are going to be a big thing for me too. 😬

Bilingual, so we could do this in Spanish too.

I’m an academic, very nerdy about music, movies (aka 🎥 cinema🤌🏼) and the environment. I love (and get turned on by) connecting with others on shared interests.

I’m a feminist and I would very much like to take control of my sexuality and find a way to squirt again. But I can’t seem to get there on my own…I need the right encouragement and inspiration (a Dom - see below - pretty much took that away from me).

(Apologies if this next part is against the rules, I can delete, just let me know…)

I was recently ghosted by my first ever Dom, and I still don’t know what I did wrong. Even though he described himself as gentle and pleasure oriented, I think he was annoyed by my limits and inexperience.

He never set clear emotional and sexual boundaries. He pushed limits I asked him not to, didn’t provide rewards for the (many!!) tasks I completed, signed out of our play sessions after he came (while I was still not finished) and ghosted me when I asked for some aftercare. I told him I was upset and feeling abandoned. He blocked me and deleted all of our channels of communication overnight. He said it was out of concern for my wellbeing and disappeared.

It was so humiliating.

We had established what seemed like a pretty fun dynamic. I was so turned on by the fucked up mental connection we had. But he really did a number on me. The more I think about it, the worse he was at being a Dom.

So while I have a submissive streak in me, I’m not really looking to play with BDSM dynamics after that.

A well placed “good girl” will get you so far, though.

Feel free to DM, help me get over this shit!!
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