24/7 people

[Netzach]

What was your progression like?

I'm just curious as I start staring those numbers down in my life.


I see I'm missing an option, slave people with Doms who enlightened them. Pretend you're a Dom or mods, modify, please since I cant.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Before i met first Master i was finding more trouble then i knew what to do with,because i didnt know what/who i was. He taught me there was a safe more controlled way... and that there were other people in the world who understood.
didnt wanna just stalk w/out saying something

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

I picked the stalking Netzach option.

I've never done 24/7 but I'd like to try it.

 

[shy slave]

We have discussed it and in the longer term would both like to try it. Not sure i could cope if He wanted to micro-manage my life.

Have choosen the the stalking option as its not often a Domme gives you that kind of choice. I adore all the Dommes on here, so any chance to to stalk....

 

[Xelebes]

Stalking Netzach... because none of the situationns have arose in my lifespan.... yet.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

heh

I just always read a Netzach post.

 

[FungiUg]

I still think it should be 24x7, because to my mathematical mind, 24/7 means you get to spend one seventh of the day in your BDSM relationship. Somehow I don't think that's the plan!

 

[MissTaken]

I edited your poll and hope it says what you would like it to.

If not, let me know.

 

[fallon2]

I am sure

I am sure I have said many times before . . . but I will say it again.

24/7 is a GREAT deal of work for both people. When I go out with a sub I want to enjoy an intelligent conversation as if I was out on a regular date. Good conversation and eye contact.

The difference would be if I decided to "play" at dinner with the sub.

I am not interested in "micro-managing" 24/7. Most of my subs have been married and were not interested in leaving their husbands and I NEVER wanted them to leave husbands.

Recently, a sub, has become a very good friend and we have had many conversations and in one of them she shared many things that made me confirm that I only wanted the BEST for her. I was never mad at her (she thought I would be) but pleased that she could be very adult and still want us to be close.

I say this since she NEVER reads my posts.

 

[kajira s]

i've been living 24/7 for a few years now and love it. i couldn't imagine my life any other way.
only problem i've found is what to call Master when the kids are around.

s

 

[h_i_s]

i have a very good online friend of 4 years, who is a subbie with a Master. In simply wishing to understand the {brackets} which symbolize the collar after her ID/nick i asked questions to which she provided answers along with her suggestion that i read more online. i left her PM window that night over 3 years ago and havn't stopped reading and soaking up an increased understanding of the lifestyle... since. i found myself at a 'matchmaker site for D/s .. BDSM-ers' somewhat recently and began correspondances with a Dom local to me. W/we met in real and hit it off very very well. i am collared and belong to Him. ".. to be continued, as the story goes on".

 

[D's mariposa]

I always knew about 24/7, as the first bdsm people I knew are in one. So when D and I were discussing moving in together, we knew that's what would happen if we did.

I'm not sure where you're getting this "micro-management" myth from, though. Some people need that, I know, but of the three 24/7's that pop into my head right away, (the one mentioned above, and ours and OSG and her Master) only one is a micro-manage style.

Basically, we laid down some ground rules when we moved in, and I follow them to the best of my ability. I have the right to ask questions and discuss changes, but I am prepared for a no. If he said, "We're having eggs for breakfast." I know how he likes them, and how he wants them presented and I do it. I don't pull the "but which two eggs should I cook, Master?" thing. Now, this isn't to say he's above writing "this egg" on a few eggs to see if I do it, but in general, he knows his place and I know mine and no micro managing is neccessary!

I picked my best option above, but I wish there was an option for "being in a 24/7 and stalking Netz anyway"!

 

[Nackereia]

I picked the stalking Netzach option.

I've never done 24/7 but I'd like to try it.

I've never been 24/7, don't know if I'd like it or not =) It would all depend upon the person.

And I chose the stalking Netzach option as well

 

[Technodivinitas]

I'm not sure where you're getting this "micro-management" myth from, though. Some people need that, I know, but of the three 24/7's that pop into my head right away, (the one mentioned above, and ours and OSG and her Master) only one is a micro-manage style...

~Sighs~ I can only wish there were a little more micro-managing in my lifestyle! As mariposa said- there's expectations, and failing to meet them can sometimes result in punishment, more often my punishments consist of deep dark scowls and being slightly shunned for a little while. He really IS a sadist- He completely conditioned me to crave pain from him even though I hated it, but the more I crave it, the less he causes! Master is Evil, and I love him.

 

[knight88]

Amazing

I was led into the lifestyle many years ago by a very lovely lady, she was a born sub and she had recognized that I was her counterpart, we had a wonderful 2 years before circumstances forced us apart.. Life goes on, or does it???

 

[WillowPuss]

You haven't really got an option that fits me at all


ALways sub; married; converted marriage to 24/7 BDSM relationship.


(And very happy we are too ... even after 27 years together!)

 

[Netzach]

someone add the nice lady's option, please.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Re: I am sure

I am sure I have said many times before . . . but I will say it again.

24/7 is a GREAT deal of work for both people. When I go out with a sub I want to enjoy an intelligent conversation as if I was out on a regular date. Good conversation and eye contact.

I am immensely puzzled by this.

What makes you think that those of us in 24/7 relationships can't hold intelligent conversations over dinner, nor have eye contact with our dominants?

Ohhhhhhhhh, perhaps this is how YOU view things.

*smirk*

Isn't it so very interesting how we all hold different views?

I look my dom in the eye. I can hold one HELL of a conversation, over dinner, in bed, hanging upside down from the doorjamb if necessary. I also shut up when he tells me to. Immediately. I'm smart like that. To me, that's some of what 24/7 is about.

We progressed into this relationship from a long distance relationship, and now we have a life together; he dominates, and I submit. All the time, in thought, and in deed. It really isn't very hard, when you think about it.

I put his needs before my own.

I serve.

Does he micromanage me? Hell no. Takes too much energy. We both work, and that shit is just way too tiring. Do we have ritual and routine? Absolutely. It sets boundaries, keeps me on task and feeling owned and in service. I like that. So does he.

~anelize

 

[Scarlett_t2]

Well I had a response but Aneliza beat me to it....same thing for me just the other way around....it just what it is...always has been always will be. I don't think about it, he dosn't think about it, it just naturally flows that way.
S

 

[SubmissiveDove5]

Just to make sure I'm correct, and please forgive me if it is something obvious or already stated. Sometimes I need to ask just to make sure I understand (which I agree, I should understand by now).

24/7 is whatever the two people involved want it to be?

He can tell me to only speak when spoken to, or he can not have any bounderies at all as far as communication or activities go.

Grrr....I'm having difficulty making myself clear tonight, lol

If sub wants him to micro-manage, and he agrees to do so, that's how it is. If sub wants to have freedom to speak etc and dom agrees, that's the way it'll be.

Right?

 

[D's mariposa]

That's right, Dove. A 24/7 is usually negotiated in some way (for lack of a better term) between the person's involved. However, there is a very common misconception that 24/7's must be micromanaged. While no one said that implicitly in this particular thread, it seemed to be implied. Which is why I had mentioned it in my previous post.

Or at least, that's what I was seeing. But I tend to overanalyze things to death, so don' mind me, lol. (I can hear my TKDSteacher in the back of my head again. "Rose, you're thinking too much again!")

 

[Netzach]

disclaimer: I do not mean 24/7 in a micromanaged sense only.

It can be that, it can be something else, preferably with a little structure of some kind.

 

[SubmissiveDove5]

It's about time I get something right, lol

Sorry about the rambling, I'm not with it tonight.

 

[bound]

my 24/7 is like anelize's as well... Master just doesn't think he should HAVE to micro-manage me, what's the point of all that training if He can't trust me to fend for myself? lol

 

[D's mariposa]

disclaimer: I do not mean 24/7 in a micromanaged sense only.

It can be that, it can be something else, preferably with a little structure of some kind.

Yup, figured that out. I'll just go back to stalking you now.


stalk, stalk, stalk the Domme, gently down the, um, stream. Ouchily, ouchily, ouchily ooh! Pain is such a scream