2014 in review - 2015 hopes
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Malich
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So, another year over and done with, and not a moment too soon if you ask me. 2014 was another of those years where everything started positively and then went to crap within a few months. In 2013 is was the disaster that was K, this year it was the breakup of my 12 year relationship / marriage with my wife. Add on to that the usual stresses that went along with my work and the death of a cat and it pretty much could have been a replay of 2013. Yes, the break up this time was a mutual choice rather than one thrust upon me and the death of a cat cannot compare to the death of a relative which is what 2013 threw at me but still, it’s enough.
I finally had to admit that things in my head were not as resilient as I thought they were after the break up. For the second time in 2 years I was knocked sideways and so finally did the right thing and went back to a doctor which, thankfully, took one look at me and gave me the pills that have so far, made me a much calmer and stable person. Of all the decisions I made this year it was probably the best one I made.
So, 2015, the gauntlet is NOT being laid down.
Fate and hubris got me in 2013 and they got me again in 2014 so 2015 is going un-tempted. I know what I want from 2015 and I’m not averse to saying what that it but, I am not about to tell the year to “do its worst” or some other such grand statement.
It’s been a rollercoaster of a year for me both physically and emotionally but I am ending the year with an (almost) clean slate and an idea of what to do.
So, plans for 2015
Firstly, finally get this house sold and me and Johann moved into somewhere new. A place with no bitter memories and which does not feel like it is falling apart around my ears. Somewhere, initially, affordable with few requirements with regards to niceness of the location.
Secondly, find a new job. This self-employed consultancy malarkey is not all it could be. The house still suck, the work is still erratic, the money slow to arrive but quick to leave and the respect non-existent. So, starting tomorrow, house sale or no house sale, I am back to seriously looking for a new job. Regular hours, regular salary, regular location, limited travel…. Sounds like bliss to me.
Thirdly, Get healthier. This sort of hinges on the new job as the bulk of my problems can be solved by having regular meal times, regular sleeping times and the ability (much as I hate it) for regular exercise. Some things I can start tomorrow though. Portion control being a big one, walking a bit more when I’m not at work. The sleep and the regular meals…. Those will come later I hope.
Finally, more social life. Again, somewhat limited by work which monopolises three of my evenings a week, and the three evenings that hold most of the social events I’d like to get to, but I can try to be a bit more willing to turf out for events that friends are holding on weekends. The big events can wait until I get a new job or for those weeks where I’m not working away and one happens to drop right.
That’s me, I hope everyone who reads this has a happy, prosperous and above all stress free 2015!
Mal
I finally had to admit that things in my head were not as resilient as I thought they were after the break up. For the second time in 2 years I was knocked sideways and so finally did the right thing and went back to a doctor which, thankfully, took one look at me and gave me the pills that have so far, made me a much calmer and stable person. Of all the decisions I made this year it was probably the best one I made.
So, 2015, the gauntlet is NOT being laid down.
Fate and hubris got me in 2013 and they got me again in 2014 so 2015 is going un-tempted. I know what I want from 2015 and I’m not averse to saying what that it but, I am not about to tell the year to “do its worst” or some other such grand statement.
It’s been a rollercoaster of a year for me both physically and emotionally but I am ending the year with an (almost) clean slate and an idea of what to do.
So, plans for 2015
Firstly, finally get this house sold and me and Johann moved into somewhere new. A place with no bitter memories and which does not feel like it is falling apart around my ears. Somewhere, initially, affordable with few requirements with regards to niceness of the location.
Secondly, find a new job. This self-employed consultancy malarkey is not all it could be. The house still suck, the work is still erratic, the money slow to arrive but quick to leave and the respect non-existent. So, starting tomorrow, house sale or no house sale, I am back to seriously looking for a new job. Regular hours, regular salary, regular location, limited travel…. Sounds like bliss to me.
Thirdly, Get healthier. This sort of hinges on the new job as the bulk of my problems can be solved by having regular meal times, regular sleeping times and the ability (much as I hate it) for regular exercise. Some things I can start tomorrow though. Portion control being a big one, walking a bit more when I’m not at work. The sleep and the regular meals…. Those will come later I hope.
Finally, more social life. Again, somewhat limited by work which monopolises three of my evenings a week, and the three evenings that hold most of the social events I’d like to get to, but I can try to be a bit more willing to turf out for events that friends are holding on weekends. The big events can wait until I get a new job or for those weeks where I’m not working away and one happens to drop right.
That’s me, I hope everyone who reads this has a happy, prosperous and above all stress free 2015!
Mal
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Hugs Mal, let's hope it's all round better.
Here's mine:
Well as 2013 drew to a close, I drew a deep breath of relief. That had truly been annus horriblus, barring one redeeming feature.
So, 2014, how has that panned out?
At the beginning of the year, I lost one of my jobs, a part time one, but giving me some much needed money. I had to find a way to replace that precious income.
I had, by that time, made some lovely floggers for Master and me and for some of our friends, I thought, maybe I could start a little business making some floggers, doing a few markets and trying to keep my head above water. I had my first days trading at Brighton Twisted Market in February and every BoTM and London Fetish Fair since.
Daisy's Floggers has gone from strength to strength in the last year, culminating in one of my floggers making it to the top of K&P in September and sending orders to every continent on the planet, except, quite perversely, Antarctica.
The year has not been all fun and success. I have suffered two very sad bereavements this year amongst my kink friends.
Mistress Lady Joy was one of my closest friends. We hadn't known each other long, yet bonded like sisters. We talked every day, played together, laughed together. I miss her so very much.
Sir Winston, one of the first people I became friends with online, when I began my kink journey back in 2009. He always had time for me. A true gentleman. It was under his guidance that I made my first flogger.
Both sadly succumbed to cancer within a couple of months of each other. There are two very big holes in my life. Both were exceptional people and wonderful friends.
My closest vanilla friend finally admitted her involvement in kink to me and I was very happy to have her help me at my first London Fetish Fair in March. She will never be a scene player, but it is so good not to have to hide the real me from my closest friend.
My kink family has grown
I now have brothers and sisters. Close friends who I love and cherish.
This year I tried rope for the first time and found that it rocked my world and took me to a very peaceful headspace. Did my first suspension, it's ok, but floor work is where it's at for me.
Some other firsts have been:
My first naked photo shoot (thank you Angelica)
Caning, whipping, knife play, belting, over the knee spanking, wax play and orgasm on demand.
I have also discovered a growing, snarling and growling, primal side to me.
By further exploring my Topping, I am comfortable that I am not a Domme, but I am happy as an impact Top. I have also learned that it does nothing for me if there is no connection with the bottom.
My relationship with Master has deepened. We celebrated the first anniversary of our collaring this past October. I am learning so much about myself in this relationship. I have grown in different ways, experienced different things, and know completely that he is the man I want to spend my life with.
Master's Christmas present to me was to celebrate our relationship in ink. His symbol is a bumblebee. He has chosen to have a tattoo of a bumblebee on a daisy on him.
I was very proud to go to the tattoo shop and watch him being inked. At this point, it is healing beautifully and looks fantastic!
So much has happened in the last 12 months it is difficult to put in words.
I am looking forward to 2015 to see what it brings.
Here's mine:
Well as 2013 drew to a close, I drew a deep breath of relief. That had truly been annus horriblus, barring one redeeming feature.
So, 2014, how has that panned out?
At the beginning of the year, I lost one of my jobs, a part time one, but giving me some much needed money. I had to find a way to replace that precious income.
I had, by that time, made some lovely floggers for Master and me and for some of our friends, I thought, maybe I could start a little business making some floggers, doing a few markets and trying to keep my head above water. I had my first days trading at Brighton Twisted Market in February and every BoTM and London Fetish Fair since.
Daisy's Floggers has gone from strength to strength in the last year, culminating in one of my floggers making it to the top of K&P in September and sending orders to every continent on the planet, except, quite perversely, Antarctica.
The year has not been all fun and success. I have suffered two very sad bereavements this year amongst my kink friends.
Mistress Lady Joy was one of my closest friends. We hadn't known each other long, yet bonded like sisters. We talked every day, played together, laughed together. I miss her so very much.
Sir Winston, one of the first people I became friends with online, when I began my kink journey back in 2009. He always had time for me. A true gentleman. It was under his guidance that I made my first flogger.
Both sadly succumbed to cancer within a couple of months of each other. There are two very big holes in my life. Both were exceptional people and wonderful friends.
My closest vanilla friend finally admitted her involvement in kink to me and I was very happy to have her help me at my first London Fetish Fair in March. She will never be a scene player, but it is so good not to have to hide the real me from my closest friend.
My kink family has grown
I now have brothers and sisters. Close friends who I love and cherish.This year I tried rope for the first time and found that it rocked my world and took me to a very peaceful headspace. Did my first suspension, it's ok, but floor work is where it's at for me.
Some other firsts have been:
My first naked photo shoot (thank you Angelica)
Caning, whipping, knife play, belting, over the knee spanking, wax play and orgasm on demand.
I have also discovered a growing, snarling and growling, primal side to me.
By further exploring my Topping, I am comfortable that I am not a Domme, but I am happy as an impact Top. I have also learned that it does nothing for me if there is no connection with the bottom.
My relationship with Master has deepened. We celebrated the first anniversary of our collaring this past October. I am learning so much about myself in this relationship. I have grown in different ways, experienced different things, and know completely that he is the man I want to spend my life with.
Master's Christmas present to me was to celebrate our relationship in ink. His symbol is a bumblebee. He has chosen to have a tattoo of a bumblebee on a daisy on him.
I was very proud to go to the tattoo shop and watch him being inked. At this point, it is healing beautifully and looks fantastic!
So much has happened in the last 12 months it is difficult to put in words.
I am looking forward to 2015 to see what it brings.
desertslave
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Last year started with the knowledge that my Mom was ill with a terminal cancer of the esophagus. Despite the inevitable conclusion, I spent as much time with her as I could, including several excursions when she was still feeling well enough, and sharing some of that time with my kids, making good memories.
The last few weeks were rough for her, and for all the rest of us. She finally found peace very early on March 17. Our family being what it is, we managed to find some quirky moments between the tears, because that's how we roll.
I returned home a few weeks later, but couldn't seem to find anything resembling normal. Not long after, I retrieved my daughter from her college dorm for a summer layover, then moved her to her new apartment two months later.
In between, I kept feeling like all I was doing was treading water. I realize, now, that I was burnt-out from the care-giving and worn thin from other things that had been going on in the background. There was a point where I really wondered if ANY of the struggling was worth it any more.
Master was feeling more of the spill-over than he ever deserved. Fortunately for both of us, we started truly talking again, and have found our way back to each other and ourselves. This is the second time he has quite literally saved my life.
I'm relieved beyond words to put this year behind me and to begin anew tomorrow. There's so much that won't change just because of a different calendar, but so very much potential ahead. I'm delighted and grateful to be sharing that with my Master and my oh-so-quirky family.
The last few weeks were rough for her, and for all the rest of us. She finally found peace very early on March 17. Our family being what it is, we managed to find some quirky moments between the tears, because that's how we roll.
I returned home a few weeks later, but couldn't seem to find anything resembling normal. Not long after, I retrieved my daughter from her college dorm for a summer layover, then moved her to her new apartment two months later.
In between, I kept feeling like all I was doing was treading water. I realize, now, that I was burnt-out from the care-giving and worn thin from other things that had been going on in the background. There was a point where I really wondered if ANY of the struggling was worth it any more.
Master was feeling more of the spill-over than he ever deserved. Fortunately for both of us, we started truly talking again, and have found our way back to each other and ourselves. This is the second time he has quite literally saved my life.
I'm relieved beyond words to put this year behind me and to begin anew tomorrow. There's so much that won't change just because of a different calendar, but so very much potential ahead. I'm delighted and grateful to be sharing that with my Master and my oh-so-quirky family.
MeekMe
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Happy New Year! I hope 2015 treats everyone well.2014 feels like it's flown by. Mister got a promotion and I left a job that was killing me. I got to experience rope and I look forward to much more. I also started a micro business.
My hopes for 2015 are to grow my business and just be happy. And more rope. A lot more rope.
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The dominant theme of my 2014 has been widely shared in the FYC thread and, frankly, I think that's enough said on that topic.
For the upcoming year I have begun work on looking for ways to make a few bucks with my keyboard.
I suppose it's a sign of continued recovery, but I seem to be hit more and more often with the desire to spank someone really hard. Not sure how that ties into the upcoming year, but it might be an interesting subplot.
For the upcoming year I have begun work on looking for ways to make a few bucks with my keyboard.
I suppose it's a sign of continued recovery, but I seem to be hit more and more often with the desire to spank someone really hard. Not sure how that ties into the upcoming year, but it might be an interesting subplot.
