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here's to hoping all is well
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Good luck.
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Best of luck-this sounds like an unfortunate situation. Hope everyone is okay.
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It's so encouraging to see the concern you've all shown here for a fellow Lit-friend, no matter he's "disappeared" before, for whatever his personal reasons, it's better to err on the side of caution. I'm hoping and praying 1sb is well, perhaps just on a little hiatus.
I hate to be an alarmist, but if a person has admitted to suicidal tendencies... they only have to not be fine once...
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This is 100% true, if you have these types of suspicions, ALWAYS involve yourself. Beyond having someone "drive by"
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I don't know anyone involved here but if he lives with other friends... I think they would be aware of his issues and be the best ones to deal with it. They should know if he's truly "missing" and they should know his family and other friends.
While the calls the police happen often, this idea of tracking him down may lead to more questions then he would want to answer.
While the calls the police happen often, this idea of tracking him down may lead to more questions then he would want to answer.
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thanks and i tend to agree, got some PMs indicting this is a pattern of behavior: diappearing/reappearing.
since this seems to be His M.O., and i know he has roommates... i'm feeling better.
wish we knew the roomies names and contact info but we don't.
hopefully He will reemerge and we'll hear from Him soon... just want to know that he's OK. hard to sit back and feel powerless when you know someone is having a tough time. ellipet and i are bleedin' hearts and hate to see someone having trouble, regardless of the circumstances.
re: calling the authorities-- my main concern is creating more trouble and causing more distress than is necessary. its such a tough call b/c i don't want to make things worse. i don't know how to proceed--i personally have no experience with this kind of situation and with no contact, its difficult to ascertain whether a welfare check would help or hurt.
if anyone out there has any experience with dealing with this kind of behavior-- do you think a knock on the door from the authorities helps at all? would that help someone feel better to know that there are concerned folks out there? or would that just make you feel even worse? (or even get you evicted?!)
i keep telling myself that he DOES have roommates who should IN THEORY be keeping an eye on Him...
also, im hopeful that when He does re-emerge, He will see this thread of support and know that there's a community of folks here who really do care about Him.
thanks Litsters, y'all have been wonderfully supportive. keep us posted please if anyone hears anything. we just want to know that He is OK.
xo all
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There have been times where I really just wanted to be left alone... perhaps that's selfish on my part, I dunno... But if I did decide that, and the police showed up at my door because someone from this or any other board called them... I would be extremely angry. This is tough for those left wondering, but I think you need to be careful not to overstep bounds here..
Having said that.. I hope everything is OK with him...
Having said that.. I hope everything is OK with him...
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Perfectly said Slinger...
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Thanks for the input, seriously, i mean that. Every little bit helps. That's the kind of insight i need to hear.
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This. But extremely angry would be putting it lightly for me.
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I'm glad you have some information and a sense of relief.
The question of calling police or not, has everything to do with the kind of relationship of those involved. When we get close to people there are some expectations of courtesy. Given that "online-only relationships" are more common now a days, it'd be good to be able to have ways to stay in touch. Not many young people have land lines now, so finding an alternate contact isn't easy.
Now, this situation sounds more intense, given his prior behaviors. When someone has suicidal thoughts/behaviors/tendencies, who are in therapy, there's a sort of contract that happens very often. There is a promise to call the therapist, make contact with someone -- obviously before acting on the thoughts. Kind of like a "safe word" in BDSM.
It would've been nice to know he was taking a time-out. There's nothing wrong with wanting to do that but friends communicate it before hand, if possible, IMHO.
The question of calling police or not, has everything to do with the kind of relationship of those involved. When we get close to people there are some expectations of courtesy. Given that "online-only relationships" are more common now a days, it'd be good to be able to have ways to stay in touch. Not many young people have land lines now, so finding an alternate contact isn't easy.
Now, this situation sounds more intense, given his prior behaviors. When someone has suicidal thoughts/behaviors/tendencies, who are in therapy, there's a sort of contract that happens very often. There is a promise to call the therapist, make contact with someone -- obviously before acting on the thoughts. Kind of like a "safe word" in BDSM.
It would've been nice to know he was taking a time-out. There's nothing wrong with wanting to do that but friends communicate it before hand, if possible, IMHO.
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umm... amen?
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glad to read the updates. Now for you two ladies I hope he comes back and you are all happy
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ummm so.... any Daddies out there lookin' for a sweet online babygirl, PM me! i'm available! 
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This thread seems odd and kind of inappropriate to me
