❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Paul_Chance]

How do you react to a sexual struggle? Does it depend on if your partner has the struggle or if you do?

I’ve found it very rare that sexual struggles are explicit and obvious, so the first step here, for me, is staying attuned to my partner and detecting when some sign of an internal struggle is rising up. When it happens, I’ll gently move away from whatever appears to be the triggering event. Then, I’ll file it away for discussion at a later time and place. I’ve found that stopping all sexual activity to address a struggle point is traumatic in its own right, and only layers trauma on trauma.

Have you or a partner ever had an orgasm issue - either too fast or too slow?

Of course, on all counts (both partners, both too fast and too slow).

How does it make you feel and how do you work around it?

It happens. It can be embarrassing. It can be funny. It can be tragic. There’s nothing inherently wrong with fast or slow orgasms. In my opinion you only need to discuss it with your partner if it is negatively impacting your relationship. If it’s just a one off, infrequent event, I’ll just ignore it and keep rolling. Successful relationships are about way more than sex, and sex itself is about way more than orgasms.

Do you ever have a body/brain mismatch - either your brain is ready to go but your body hasn’t caught up or vice versa?

Yes, that happens. I’ve found slowing down and letting the brain and body synch up helps. If they won’t, it’s the result of some serious issue going on, which needs to be addressed in its own time and space.

What’s something you wish you’d appreciated about sex when you were younger

I really appreciated sex when I was younger, so I have nothing in the sexual arena that I didn’t appreciate.

…and what’s one thing you appreciate more about sex now that you’re older?

I appreciate the sheer simple physical pleasure of it.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Thanks to everyone for giving me some really excelling and interesting lists of favorites. I feel like I learned a lot about what makes some of you tick. Now back to being nosey.


09.30.2025

Sexual Uh-Ohs!

Thanks to all the fellas for answering so far. I know it can be kind of a touchy subject.

We’ve all had something go unexpectedly in the bedroom for better or worse. Something works too well or doesn’t work how we like it to. It’s good to remember we are all just bodies that are always changing, aging, growing and learning.

How do you react to a sexual struggle? Does it depend on if your partner has the struggle or if you do?

This is an area I've grown so much in since I was a novice sexual experience haver. Now, I've learned to de-emphasize the grande finale and enjoy the ride. I've also learned (am learning) to not take it very personally if my partner isn't in a sexy mood. I'm a fairly easy going person and this is no different. We'll just find new ways to have fun.

Have you or a partner ever had an orgasm issue - either too fast or too slow? How does it make you feel and how do you work around it?

We both have! I think a delayed 'gasm is an issue when guys are on certain meds (or imbibe too much). I had noticed over the past two years or so that it was taking me a long time to get there and this was made even worse when my partner gave even the slightest indication of impatience. I'm working through it (oh man, hard work!) but I'm also trying to learn to embrace the little idiosyncrasies of my body as it gets to grow older.

I will also say - faking an orgasm was normalized in my brain long before I was with my partner and that really did a number on us both for awhile. Now I know I might not and that's ok because it still felt great and was a fun time. Plus there's no weird worry in the back of anyone's head.

Do you ever have a body/brain mismatch - either your brain is ready to go but your body hasn’t caught up or vice versa?

If I do, it's my body being horny and my brain being slow to the party but nothing helps an anxious brain like turning it off and just being in your body as much as possible. If my body ever isn't in the mood, well it takes stupid little to get its attention.

I also think learning to work around being or even feeling rejected has been a work in progress. That can just throw a full brake on both systems - even if its just something I percieve. So learning how to get warmed back up has been my main learning curve.

What’s something you wish you’d appreciated about sex when you were younger and what’s one thing you appreciate more about sex now that you’re older?

I wish I'd appreciated my knees so much more! And now, I appreciate just the knowledge of what makes me tick and how fun it is to find out things that make my person tick - aka the full enjoyment of the brain as a sexual organ.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

10.03 25

What has been the hottest picture/audio/media you've ever received?

I dont want to know the details of who but Im asking specifically what made it hot? Was it the artistic effort? That it was taken for you personally? A reward for patience? Something unexpected?

Is there one that sticks out? Do you revisit things you've been sent often? Do have something you've sent that you made you feel particularly sexy in the sending? Do you hope things you send get revisited?

 

[MissSNG]

10.03 25

What has been the hottest picture/audio/media you've ever received?

Woman, you have to stop making me pick ONE… I’m a greedy, greedy girl!!

I dont want to know the details of who but Im asking specifically what made it hot? Was it the artistic effort? That it was taken for you personally? A reward for patience? Something unexpected?

I can’t pick just one, I refuse and you can’t make me!
But I will say the ones that stand out in particular were hot because they were for me personally, the results of a moment shared together .. in real time.
Audio messages sent back and forth with someone in the heat of the moment, the words meant just for that other person.

Im not good at the dirty talk, or leading it, but if someone starts painting a delicious scene with their words, I can pick up and follow and respond. And I’ve been fortunate enough to share some audios with someone who pushes all the right buttons with me.

With photos - artistic shots are appreciated but even just a little effort goes a long way!!
I do love knowing that * I * was the inspiration behind a particular sexy photo but there’s also exceptions to that rule.
I’m voyeuristic enough to also appreciate being sent a photo that was taken for someone else, just because that person also wanted me to see or to tell me about it.

Is there one that sticks out?

There are a couple
There’s someone who just sounds ridiculously sexy when he/she’s turned on, and the way he/she sound when they come is one of my favorite things I’ve ever heard… ever!
There were some very memorable video calls with my very first longtime, online, guy friend .. watching someone get turned in by you in real time is a heady experience, to this day his smile still melts the fuck out of me .

Do you revisit things you've been sent often?

Not really, unless they’ve been sent in link form or in a chat app where I can scroll back to see/hear. I don’t save files or images or anything, it’s too risky on my end.

Do have something you've sent that you made you feel particularly sexy in the sending?

Yes! Usually if I’m inspired enough to take the photo, or record the audio, then I’m already feeling sexy but it’s the response I get that can really make me feel good or not.

Do you hope things you send get revisited?

I absolutely do!

I recently had someone tell me that their “collection” of stuff I’ve sent them goes back further than I probably realized and they proved that point by sending me some of the things I sent them 15+ yrs ago! I love knowing he has them and still browses them sometimes. Now, the caveat to that is this is someone I trust fully and have a strong, very real connection with, we’ve known each other since high school. If it was someone k wasn’t as close with, then it may be more of weird feeling to know they have such an extensive gallery

But in general, if I’m comfortable enough to send you something then it’s meant for you to enjoy and keep enjoying it as often as you’d like or want to.
Just please tell me all about it when you do

 

[Wriggle]

10.03 25

What has been the hottest picture/audio/media you've ever received?

I dont want to know the details of who but Im asking specifically what made it hot? Was it the artistic effort? That it was taken for you personally? A reward for patience? Something unexpected?

Is there one that sticks out? Do you revisit things you've been sent often? Do have something you've sent that you made you feel particularly sexy in the sending? Do you hope things you send get revisited?

It was just the face while she masturbated.
She told me what she wanted me to do.
The journey she went on was such a wild ride.
It was totally unexpected.
I revisit it often.
It made me feel very special.
I could never send her anything as good.

 

[seela]

I dont want to know the details of who but Im asking specifically what made it hot? Was it the artistic effort? That it was taken for you personally? A reward for patience? Something unexpected?

I’ve received a couple really good and memorable ones. One was a complete surprise pic from a long term, real life partner who had never shared such things and I had never shared such things either. It opened new ways to have fun for us.

I’ve also received a few audios over the years, or videos that I’ve treated as audios because I’m more about the sounds than I am about the visuals. They’ve been my favorite, love a good sound and a few well chosen words perhaps.

Do you revisit things you've been sent often?

I’ve only saved one pic over the years and rarely revisit it, but it’s nice to have it because it reminds me of something extremely positive. It’s from my long term partner and there’s hardly anything sexy/racy about it if you don’t know the context.

Do have something you've sent that you made you feel particularly sexy in the sending? Do you hope things you send get revisited?

I do have one incident of sending a pic that was especially well received. I remember feeling really good while taking the pic and even better because of the comments afterwards.

I hope my things don’t get revisited, but rather are deleted and forgotten about in a prompt manner. I also believe that to be the case.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Woman, you have to stop making me pick ONE… I’m a greedy, greedy girl!!

I think this may be the error with the question. Nobody wants to pick one!

Not really, unless they’ve been sent in link form or in a chat app where I can scroll back to see/hear. I don’t save files or images or anything, it’s too risky on my end.

Omg the treasure I lost on Skype

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

It was just the face while she masturbated.
She told me what she wanted me to do.
The journey she went on was such a wild ride.
It was totally unexpected.
I revisit it often.
It made me feel very special.
I could never send her anything as good.

I mean... just reading this gave me the second-hand squirmies!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I’ve also received a few audios over the years, or videos that I’ve treated as audios because I’m more about the sounds than I am about the visuals. They’ve been my favorite, love a good sound and a few well chosen words perhaps.

Completely agree. I've seen some lovely pictures but audios made just for me? Yes please.

 

[MindYaBitness]

*edit, I missed a question

10.03 25

What has been the hottest picture/audio/media you've ever received?

That's a hard one...pun intended I've received some excellent audios, videos and impromptu camming, but my favorite might be one he sent as a joke, shirtless at his desk w/a baseball cap on.

I dont want to know the details of who but Im asking specifically what made it hot? Was it the artistic effort? That it was taken for you personally? A reward for patience? Something unexpected?

Good Lord, it hit all the right buttons: unexpected, quick tease, remembering what I liked, made just for me, kinda sneaky, and chest, good Lord, his chest

Is there one that sticks out? Do you revisit things you've been sent often?

There are several pics that stick out, mostly because they're leading to something i.e. a belt being unbuckled, or a specific shower angle that makes me envision joining him. In videos, the ones I revisit are the ones that have that mixture of visual, sound, and intensity. I have chromesthesia. In videos or audios the tone & mood of his voice are as telling & important as the visual.

Do have something you've sent that you made you feel particularly sexy in the sending?

Sure, anytime I send a pic of things I know he finds sensual, like wearing his favorite color lingerie, or doing something I know he finds erotic like in a bubbletub, just showing me in a way noone but him gets to see.

Do you hope things you send get revisited?

I hope he revisits when the mood hits, but I'm just as happy or flattered when he asks for something in the moment

 

[seela]

Completely agree. I've seen some lovely pictures but audios made just for me? Yes please.

With me, everything always seems to come down to sounds, words and languages.

I’ve noticed that for me the best bit about pics is usually what’s *not* shown, the parts that get the imagination going. Audio does that even better than pics/videos. It leaves even more to interpretation. It’s so lovely to put on headphones and feel like that voice/sound is inside my head, it feels very personal in a way visual things don’t.

Although if I’m just trying to get off and feel like I need/want porn, it’s always videos, often muted because the noises are awful. But I figured this question really was just about the more personal gifts, and then it’s audio all the way for me.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

10.03 25

What has been the hottest picture/audio/media you've ever received?

An audio of a friend fingering herself to orgasm.

I dont want to know the details of who but Im asking specifically what made it hot?

It was a heat of the moment, unexpected sort of thing. It wasn't anything I'd asked for or anything like that... it was just something she wanted me to hear.

Was it the artistic effort?

I won't say it wasn't artistic, but it wasn't meant to be. It was just raw lust.

That it was taken for you personally?

It was for me and just me.

A reward for patience? Something unexpected?

Is there one that sticks out? Do you revisit things you've been sent often?

I'll usually ask if it's something I can keep, or if they want me to delete it right away. There are a few pics and audios I've gotten that I go back to over and over.

Do have something you've sent that you made you feel particularly sexy in the sending? Do you hope things you send get revisited?

I've sent a couple audios here and there. I hope they're used. I like to think I have a sexy voice and I like playing even a small part in my friends' orgasms.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

*edit, I missed a question

That's a hard one...pun intended I've received some excellent audios, videos and impromptu camming, but my favorite might be one he sent as a joke, shirtless at his desk w/a baseball cap on.

Those images that burn into your mind

It was for me and just me.

I think this is the theme!!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

With me, everything always seems to come down to sounds, words and languages.

I’ve noticed that for me the best bit about pics is usually what’s *not* shown, the parts that get the imagination going. Audio does that even better than pics/videos. It leaves even more to interpretation. It’s so lovely to put on headphones and feel like that voice/sound is inside my head, it feels very personal in a way visual things don’t.

Although if I’m just trying to get off and feel like I need/want porn, it’s always videos, often muted because the noises are awful. But I figured this question really was just about the more personal gifts, and then it’s audio all the way for me.

I agree with all of this.
Especially the porn bit. It's so hard to find visuals and sounds that hit me just right in the same video. There have been a few though!

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

10.03 25

What has been the hottest picture/audio/media you've ever received?

I dont want to know the details of who but Im asking specifically what made it hot? Was it the artistic effort? That it was taken for you personally? A reward for patience? Something unexpected?

Is there one that sticks out? Do you revisit things you've been sent often? Do have something you've sent that you made you feel particularly sexy in the sending? Do you hope things you send get revisited?

There’s a lot here to say and I’m not sure I can express it all succinctly. Absolutely the “for me” part is really the key. Anytime anyone shares anything intimate with me, I appreciate that trust and desire to share, but if it’s not a thing I sense is “for me” that appreciation doesn’t move beyond aesthetic appreciation. Sometimes that’s unexpected, as in a reaction or remembrance of of thing that’s happened or was said and I love the evidence that that moment, those words, whatever moved them so. Sometimes it’s a gift that they thought of and conceived based just on what they know of me and that’s wonderful too. Sometimes it’s just a hey “I am thinking about how much I want you right now” and that’s spectacular too. The details of the action are less important than the emotions driving the action. My favorites include audios, still pics, videos and simple text. The context is everything.

I am blessed (or cursed) with a pretty good memory so I do revisit my favorites in my head at the very least. And if I revisit the actual post I sometimes to comment on it so they know I’m thinking of them.

I do hope my partner revisits my contributions too. She’s pretty good about acknowledging it though so I don’t have to wonder

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun
the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

 

[Apisto42]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun​

the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

Dudette - why do you think I’m here? Total escapism. It’s good because it allows me a second to disassociate from the rivers of liquid shit. I’m more relaxed. Especially when there’s some nice ass to view

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Dudette - why do you think I’m here? Total escapism. It’s good because it allows me a second to disassociate from the rivers of liquid shit. I’m more relaxed. Especially when there’s some nice ass to view

I feel like you're in one of those Swan Ride boats going down your liquid shit river. And I love that about you.

 

[Apisto42]

If I’m ever in one of those, you’ll be my co-pilot.

 

[Dribble]

I have said it many times you make this place better PLP. I mean it. 100%. Be it Lit. Be it the World. Is there really a difference? How can I call one an escape when those I connect with here are real? When thoughts go into questions...to stimulate deeper responses? How can that be not good?

What is the alternative? Listen to the voices in my head? The ones that beat me down? The ones that whispers really bad things? Those haunt me enough as is. I prefer to live in that borderland of something else. If one calls that escapism...then so be it. Those that don't understand how the Beast can whisper don't understand the daily battle it can be. Sometimes the easiest thing i can do to silence that drama is to occupy it.

As with all things...I want it all. Maxed. Pedal to the metal. Too much is always bad. Not enough is just as bad. It is hard walking that knife edge. I have learned to like the taste of my blood. It reminds me I am still alive.

 

[cheekygirl75]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun​

the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

Oh yes, I have the urge to escape all the time because my default modes are ruminating about the past (thanks depression) or worrying about the future (thanks anxiety) and who wouldn’t want to get away from that? And being present in the moment doesn’t (always) help when the present moment is shit.

I don’t think it’s ultimately bad if used sparingly and in a lighthearted way. I don’t think it’s a particularly good impulse for me because I get way too wrapped up in my daydreams.

That’s the way I usually escape - daydreaming. I’ll even go so far as looking at million dollar houses to find the perfect one for when I win the lottery! I think it does hurt my ability to deal with reality somewhat.

 

[Apisto42]

snip…I’ll even go so far as looking at million dollar houses to … snip

So 1500 sq ft outside a midsized town?

 

[cheekygirl75]

So 1500 sq ft outside a midsized town?

Ok, multi-million dollar homes - if I’m going to fantasize I’m going to do it right! So at least 3,000 sq ft on the ocean.

 

[hotwords229_A]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun​

the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

I think I do the opposite. I use escapism all the time. My mind is always floating around bizarre, fictional places of wonder.

But when things are bad, I tend to be more in the moment and paying attention. Thankfully, that doesn’t happen very often.

What is your go to way to escape for a bit?

I can be in a room full of people and not even be there. It’s my superpower.
Otherwise, a walk outside, in nature or anywhere allows my mind to wander away.

Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later?

Nope. I’m pretty much a realist, but that doesn’t mean I can’t escape.

Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

Never.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

10.15.25

Escapism

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time?

Absolutely.

Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse?

For me, it's definitely a helpful impulse. Especially for long-term situations where a problem can't necessarily be solved, but has to be managed. Escapism helps me to let go and relax and focus on something else for a little while.

Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

Like most things, moderation is important. I think a moderate amount of escapism is good for many people.

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit?

Reading. Watching scripted television. Usually historical fiction or sci-fi/fantasy.

Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later?

I think it helps me. Sometimes I just need to disconnect and not be focused on real life.

Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

I don't as long as it's just for a bit. Sometimes I get sucked into one more chapter or one more episode. I feel less guilty about reading than watching tv.