LITEROTICA PODCAST
LIT CAMS (200 Free Tokens)ADULT TOYSVOD MOVIES

advice on affair

M

mightyquinn2112

Virgin
Joined
Dec 11, 2005
Posts
4
I am new..and ok, I bet all of you have seen dorks come in and ask advice on this sort of thing all the time...but here I am..and I am going to ask away..

I am married....and for the last 2 years, have had the hots for a good friend of my wife. She (the friend, I mean) likes me too a lot....neither have done anything...but when we all meet together, we find ourselves stealing glances, bump into each other, touch, etc....thing is, I don't know if she just likes me as a friend or wants me....

scared to do anything for two reasons (a) what if I am wrong (b) dont want to hurt my wife or this girl's husband..genuinely nice chap..
 
mightyquinn2112 said:
(b) dont want to hurt my wife or this girl's husband..genuinely nice chap..
Click to expand...

then why the hell are you considering it in the first place?

idiot :rolleyes:
 
Don't even think about it.

Either start spending more time with other couples or start paying attention to your own wife when you're out with them. You'll have no time to worry about what all the glances are about, and this woman will get the message that you're committed to your marriage and respecting your friendships.

Unless you're not. Then you're an ass.
 
Since this thread is apparently not going to go well, anybody wanna get naked and fool around?
 
Well, not being married myself, I don't have a problem with that....
 
Dietrich K. said:
Since this thread is apparently not going to go well, anybody wanna get naked and fool around?
Click to expand...


I'm thinking he didn't get the answers he was looking for here. :D

Damn, I guess we just aren't living up to his morally bankrupt expectations!!!
 
MaggieH said:
Don't even think about it.

Either start spending more time with other couples or start paying attention to your own wife when you're out with them. You'll have no time to worry about what all the glances are about, and this woman will get the message that you're committed to your marriage and respecting your friendships.

Unless you're not. Then you're an ass.
Click to expand...

But he really wants to fuck her friend! What's the big deal if they go to a motel every now and then for some hot naughty sex?
 
don't do it . i had an affair once and the wife found out we are still together but nothing is the same i totally destroyed all we had . I totaly fucked up don't make the same mistake i made If you love her don't do it
 
Never fuck your wife's girlfriend. That will just turn out to be one very expensive piece of ass.
 
Saint Boner said:
Never fuck your wife's girlfriend. That will just turn out to be one very expensive piece of ass.
Click to expand...
Bingo! And when the relationship sours (as it will) that 'Best Friend' will have
some SERIOUS ammo to use against you. And your wife.
 
No way...

Yet another reason to contribute to why I don't want to get married...

COME ON... why did you get married in the first place?

Don't do this... it's not right.

And if this other "friend" of your wife's is making passes at you, stay away... she's crazy. Seriously. I've seen these kinds of women in action.
 
A standing flirtation is fine. Fucking her is not.

Just enjoy the fact that someone other than your wife finds you sexually appealing and forget about the rest. It isn't worth it.
 
AcadiaSky said:
Yet another reason to contribute to why I don't want to get married...

COME ON... why did you get married in the first place?

Don't do this... it's not right.

And if this other "friend" of your wife's is making passes at you, stay away... she's crazy. Seriously. I've seen these kinds of women in action.
Click to expand...

Why would this be a reason why YOU don't want to get married?

Given the outpouring of responses against this, why would you infer that all marriages have this sort of challenge?
 
I have (sort of) been in this position... as the friend, that is. It is uncomfortable on many levels. It has caused me to distance myself from my friend and only go around when he is NOT there. Not a good thing, trust me.
 
One other thing comes to mind.

Your wife's best-friend could be 'testing' you as well. (With full approval from
your wife.) Just to SEE if you would cheat on her.

Don't do it, Bro.
 
mightyquinn2112 said:
I am new..and ok, I bet all of you have seen dorks come in and ask advice on this sort of thing all the time...but here I am..and I am going to ask away..

I am married....and for the last 2 years, have had the hots for a good friend of my wife. She (the friend, I mean) likes me too a lot....neither have done anything...but when we all meet together, we find ourselves stealing glances, bump into each other, touch, etc....thing is, I don't know if she just likes me as a friend or wants me....

scared to do anything for two reasons (a) what if I am wrong (b) dont want to hurt my wife or this girl's husband..genuinely nice chap..
Click to expand...

*toss him a copy of 'Playboy', now, go wack off* and forget about you have said that
:rolleyes:
 
Don't do it. The ONLY way it is ever ok to get sexually involved with someone outside of your marriage is to get permission from your spouse. If you don't think you can get permission, then forget about it.
 
Thanks for asking...

Thanks for the question...

I am not saying that all marriages face this kind of challenge...

To be honest, lately I've been wondering why marriage exists in the first place, and is "love" real? I mean... I Know a lot of people would laugh me off... but honestly, I'm 25 and I've had three long relationships... I loved them all. And I love my current man. I am extremely devoted to him and would never cheat...

However, sometimes I feel guilty just thinking that HE shouldn't cheat on me! I feel like somehow it might go against human nature...

And then, in the words of one of my fave bands, Cake,

"How can you say forever is at your command?
How can you say the future's in the palm of your hand?"

I dunno... just a sort of philosophical thought with no real answers... just pondering...!!!
 
bad kitty said:
Don't do it. The ONLY way it is ever ok to get sexually involved with someone outside of your marriage is to get permission from your spouse. If you don't think you can get permission, then forget about it.
Click to expand...
Amen.
 
not unexpected responses, but my Q is different

ok...thanks for responses..you guys did largely confirm what i already thought...stay away from it, is the answer, i guess

but i guess i didnt give you a underlying broader picture...i was not looking for a quickie from this girl...to tell the truth, my marriage is ..um...ok...we love each other and all, but fairly monotonous and argumentative.

With this girl, it is refreshing (now now, dont roll your damn eyes...stay with me here)...perky, bubbly, and sexy. and a nice girl. why should i shortchange myself for rest of my life by not going for what i want? so the choice is - another 30 yrs of staid life with wifey.....or reach for what i want leaving behind a few embittered folks (like my wife, this girl's husband)..

the question i am asking, i guess is - if i wanted to reach out, what is the least risky method...with an ability to backpedal if i am wrong....
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

kindnessmatters
Ladies, I need some advice!
2
Replies
26
Views
951
old_hippy_46
old_hippy_46
J
financial problems!!
Replies
4
Views
264
LustyScribe
LustyScribe
Rum
Anyone have advice for using a tetherspout?
Replies
2
Views
268
Rum
Rum
Justaguy6022
Stranger or acquaintance for affair?
Replies
14
Views
536
Doughboy48
D
WeWeeOui
Older/Mature women.
2
Replies
36
Views
3K
TonyF862
TonyF862
Back
Top