Help me sell myself....

meat_squirrel

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...and what do I mean?
Okay, I've subscribed to an online dating site and one of the things I have to do is write a profile. I'm getting some pretty crappy response so I suspect it has something to do with my introduction. Can someone please look at the one I currently have up and the one I'm considering posting? I'm also looking for feedback on what I could do to make the profile more appealing. Please, help me folks, Mrs. Right may be passing me over any day now!

Note: I'm in/around Atlanta, GA, US.

Please help me Obi Lit...you're my only hope!

Current Introduction:
Who am I and what am I looking for? I'll take the second part first....

I'm looking for an independent woman who's not afraid to let me look after her, but also knows how to return the favor. I love to laugh, but I'm not as funny as I think I am (according to my "friends"). I'm comfortable with my emotions and I love to talk. And yes I listen too. Clear communication in all forms is vitally important. If we can't communicate openly and honestly just expect the relationship to die a slow, horrible death.

I already have a mother, I can cook, I own my own home and I have a job that I enjoy. In the past I've been sedentary, but now I find myself looking for some other areas to explore. So what am I doing in my spare time these days? Well, one of the things I'm trying to do is figure out just what there is to do in and around town. This would really be much more enjoyable with someone special.

"Okay," you are asking, "Who is that someone?" Well, she's fun, playful, curious, wild enough to explore but serious enough to know when enough is enough. She should be smart, have opinions and love to talk about everything. She's comfortable with herself and confident enough to stand up for her beliefs.

Originally in my profile I said I was interested in meeting as friends, which I am, however, I've had time to re-think that and now realize I'm also looking for more than that. I'm looking for intimacy, an emotional connection and yes some sensuality and passion when the time is right. Okay, who rolled their eyes when they read that? *counting...88, 89, 90...,* Well, judging by the number of hands I see that you aren't buying that. *laughing* I could loudly reiterate my sincerity, but truly the only way you'll know if I'm being honest is to get to know me.

Note: I got some feedback the other day indicating that "seperated" doesn't count as available. It's true I am wrapping up my divorce, but I assure you, I am available.

Re-written Introduction:
I’m looking forward to spending time with the right person; whether it’s a trip to the High, a night at a comedy club, an evening at Chastain, a walk in Piedmont park or a lunch at the Zoo. We may have a nice dinner at Bones or get take out ribs at a hole in the wall and eat them while watching a movie at home. Maybe well go to a local park and swing on the swings or rent a boat on Lake Lanier. We could do some volunteer or charity work as a date on a weekend. Of course we might just have a quiet dinner at home where I’ll make stuffed Manicotti and serve it with a nice red wine or maybe have a cook out and introduce some of our friends to each other. It’s possible you could teach me to play tennis or kayak or show me the benefits of taking a long bike ride. You see, it doesn’t matter what we do, as long as we're doing it together.

I sincerely enjoy taking care of my special someone and I like to think I'm pretty good at it. Everyone knows it's the little things that make the difference, but what's forgotten is that they should be done without taking away your partner's independence. It's also nice to be taken care of. A quiet look, a random touch, simple words of appreciation so I know I'm on track. The woman I can take in to my heart is comfortable talking about anything; good and the bad. The woman I'm looking for sees disagreements as an opportunity to explore differing points of view, not as a personal attack. Sometimes we will just need to agree to disagree and have a bowl of ice cream. Of course it's amazing, almost electric, when we synchronize and build on each other. The best part is when we start laughing together. There's simply no better energy then that.

If you can appreciate a man that is equally comfortable using a chainsaw or shopping at the mall or a man that can touch your heart and make you laugh till you snort then I’m guy you’re looking for.
 
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they're both good but I like the original one. The right gal's not reading it IMO. It shows a fun and caring guy.
 
Thanks!

annieleigh said:
they're both good but I like the original one. The right gal's not reading it IMO. It shows a fun and caring guy.
Thanks Annie. I'm going to keep believing that you're right that the right woman isn't reading it, because the converse is just an ugly place to be.
 
meat_squirrel said:
...and what do I mean?
Okay, I've subscribed to an online dating site and one of the things I have to do is write a profile. I'm getting some pretty crappy response so I suspect it has something to do with my introduction. Can someone please look at the one I currently have up and the one I'm considering posting? I'm also looking for feedback on what I could do to make the profile more appealing. Please, help me folks, Mrs. Right may be passing me over any day now!

Note: I'm in/around Atlanta, GA, US.

Please help me Obi Lit...you're my only hope!

Current Introduction:
Who am I and what am I looking for? I'll take the second part first....

I'm looking for an independent woman who's not afraid to let me look after her, but also knows how to return the favor. I love to laugh, but I'm not as funny as I think I am (according to my "friends"). I'm comfortable with my emotions and I love to talk. And yes I listen too. Clear communication in all forms is vitally important. If we can't communicate openly and honestly just expect the relationship to die a slow, horrible death.

I already have a mother, I can cook, I own my own home and I have a job that I enjoy. In the past I've been sedentary, but now I find myself looking for some other areas to explore. So what am I doing in my spare time these days? Well, one of the things I'm trying to do is figure out just what there is to do in and around town. This would really be much more enjoyable with someone special.

"Okay," you are asking, "Who is that someone?" Well, she's fun, playful, curious, wild enough to explore but serious enough to know when enough is enough. She should be smart, have opinions and love to talk about everything. She's comfortable with herself and confident enough to stand up for her beliefs.

Originally in my profile I said I was interested in meeting as friends, which I am, however, I've had time to re-think that and now realize I'm also looking for more than that. I'm looking for intimacy, an emotional connection and yes some sensuality and passion when the time is right. Okay, who rolled their eyes when they read that? *counting...88, 89, 90...,* Well, judging by the number of hands I see that you aren't buying that. *laughing* I could loudly reiterate my sincerity, but truly the only way you'll know if I'm being honest is to get to know me.

Note: I got some feedback the other day indicating that "seperated" doesn't count as available. It's true I am wrapping up my divorce, but I assure you, I am available.

Re-written Introduction:
I’m looking forward to spending time with the right person; whether it’s a trip to the High, a night at a comedy club, an evening at Chastain, a walk in Piedmont park or a lunch at the Zoo. We may have a nice dinner at Bones or get take out ribs at a hole in the wall and eat them while watching a movie at home. Maybe well go to a local park and swing on the swings or rent a boat on Lake Lanier. We could do some volunteer or charity work as a date on a weekend. Of course we might just have a quiet dinner at home where I’ll make stuffed Manicotti and serve it with a nice red wine or maybe have a cook out and introduce some of our friends to each other. It’s possible you could teach me to play tennis or kayak or show me the benefits of taking a long bike ride. You see, it doesn’t matter what we do, as long as we're doing it together.

I sincerely enjoy taking care of my special someone and I like to think I'm pretty good at it. Everyone knows it's the little things that make the difference, but what's forgotten is that they should be done without taking away your partner's independence. It's also nice to be taken care of. A quiet look, a random touch, simple words of appreciation so I know I'm on track. The woman I can take in to my heart is comfortable talking about anything; good and the bad. The woman I'm looking for sees disagreements as an opportunity to explore differing points of view, not as a personal attack. Sometimes we will just need to agree to disagree and have a bowl of ice cream. Of course it's amazing, almost electric, when we synchronize and build on each other. The best part is when we start laughing together. There's simply no better energy then

If you can appreciate a man that is equally comfortable using a chainsaw or shopping at the mall or a man that can touch your heart and make you laugh till you snort then I’m guy you’re looking for.


The first one for sure... self sufficient yet sensitive. A man but a good catch... go for it and good luck!! :D
 
i happen to think that part of the problem MAY be the length of your intro.

keep it short!! an itro should just contain a highlight or two...if someone is interested, then you'll have the opportunity to tell as much as you like.

i happen to thaink that the very last paragraph is pretty attention grabbing. why not use just that for a few days and see what happens??

~~just MY opinion, of course.
 
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Wow, really?

strawberryangel said:
The first one for sure... self sufficient yet sensitive. A man but a good catch... go for it and good luck!! :D

Wow, thanks for those words. I'm amazed. I was partial to the second as I wrote it in an "exposed" mental state, but I guess it was a bit too much. Thank you for your input! Jeeze, I should have done this a long time ago.
 
BadBombshellBabe said:
i happen to think that part of the problem MAY be the length of your intro.

keep it short!! an itro should just contain a highlight or two...if someone is interested, then you'll have the opportunity to tell as much as you like.

i happen to thaink that the very last paragraph is pretty attention grabbing. why not use just that for a few days and see what happens??

~~just MY opinion, of course.

I agree BBB. I have only 2000 characters to work with, so the length is limited. But if you see it as being long is there anything you'd cut? Um...hmm...bad question. How about is there a better way to focus the approach and maintain the integrity of the message?

I'm looking forward to your feedback. Truly. I also liked the last paragraph, but was unsure how it would work without the previous supporting ones.

...and no I don't normally stress about things like this, but dagnabit I've seen so many amazing women slip by. I'd rather they did so because they weren't interested in me and not because I blew the intro.
 
i will definely think about what would work for me...if i were looking...and i'll post my idea/s tomorrow.

i'm a true believer that 'less is more' as far as intro's go...a few well chosen words have more impact that something long.
 
Anything at all...

BadBombshellBabe said:
i will definely think about what would work for me...if i were looking...and i'll post my idea/s tomorrow.

i'm a true believer that 'less is more' as far as intro's go...a few well chosen words have more impact that something long.
I can't wait to hear hun. I posted here, truly, because Lit is full of people that help each other. That is what we do best. Who better to discuss matters of the heart than Lit?

Thanks in advance for any advice you have.
 
Re-written Introduction:
I’m looking forward to spending time with the right person; We may have a nice dinner at Bones or get take out ribs at a hole in the wall and eat them while watching a movie at home. You see, it doesn’t matter what we do, as long as we're doing it together.

I sincerely enjoy taking care of my special someone and I like to think I'm pretty good at it. It's also nice to be taken care of. A quiet look, a random touch, simple words of appreciation so I know I'm on track.

If you can appreciate a man that is equally comfortable using a chainsaw or shopping at the mall or a man that can touch your heart and make you laugh till you snort then I’m guy you’re looking for.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

i hope you aren't offended by how much i've eliminated...but i know i'd never spend a lengthy period of time reading a verbose intro...this is still a bit long, in my opinion...but it's an improvement.

do you have a picture posted?? if not, i'd say that's a must, also!!!
 
BadBombshellBabe said:
Re-written Introduction:
I’m looking forward to spending time with the right person; We may have a nice dinner at Bones or get take out ribs at a hole in the wall and eat them while watching a movie at home. You see, it doesn’t matter what we do, as long as we're doing it together.

I sincerely enjoy taking care of my special someone and I like to think I'm pretty good at it. It's also nice to be taken care of. A quiet look, a random touch, simple words of appreciation so I know I'm on track.

If you can appreciate a man that is equally comfortable using a chainsaw or shopping at the mall or a man that can touch your heart and make you laugh till you snort then I’m guy you’re looking for.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

i hope you aren't offended by how much i've eliminated...but i know i'd never spend a lengthy period of time reading a verbose intro...this is still a bit long, in my opinion...but it's an improvement.

do you have a picture posted?? if not, i'd say that's a must, also!!!


Hello E how are you sweetie? :rose:
 
The first one is great - the second one is not so great.

In the first you come across as someone who enjoys life and is humourous, yet has a serious side.


In the second - well it sounds a little too serious ( but that maybe because I like guys who aren't so serious).

Regardless the first one grabbed me - the second on didn't
 
Hey! That's pretty good.

BadBombshellBabe said:
Re-written Introduction:
I’m looking forward to spending time with the right person; We may have a nice dinner at Bones or get take out ribs at a hole in the wall and eat them while watching a movie at home. You see, it doesn’t matter what we do, as long as we're doing it together.

I sincerely enjoy taking care of my special someone and I like to think I'm pretty good at it. It's also nice to be taken care of. A quiet look, a random touch, simple words of appreciation so I know I'm on track.

If you can appreciate a man that is equally comfortable using a chainsaw or shopping at the mall or a man that can touch your heart and make you laugh till you snort then I’m guy you’re looking for.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

i hope you aren't offended by how much i've eliminated...but i know i'd never spend a lengthy period of time reading a verbose intro...this is still a bit long, in my opinion...but it's an improvement.

do you have a picture posted?? if not, i'd say that's a must, also!!!

Wow, that really comes off clean. Thank you! *cut* *paste*

Not at all offended. Think of it as excising a horrid tumor. That was good stuff.

Thanks again.

And yes, I've got a couple of pictures posted. Unfortunately, I can't use most of my Lit ones, though they might get me a very special date.

*waving* *hug*
 
How nice!!!!

bertrande said:
The first one is great - the second one is not so great.

In the first you come across as someone who enjoys life and is humourous, yet has a serious side.


In the second - well it sounds a little too serious ( but that maybe because I like guys who aren't so serious).

Regardless the first one grabbed me - the second on didn't
It's really just surprising me that folks liked the first one. I cringe every time I read it. *laugh* Well, I guess that's why I dropped in here to get some opintions.

You did see the person I thought I was sharing and who I think I am so that's good. I was afraid I was giving off a creepy axe murderer vibe.

In any case you've all been so great. If I get a date based on your help I can only assure you that you'll get credit.

What? No one here runs credit at the end of their dates? Hey, your nice evening was brought to you by.....
 
Okay, try this....

One of the amazing women here reccomended that I put in a line that was provocative without being crude as some women like a little hint of what could be.

These are what I came up with:

"Any list that starts with Condoms is a good list."
"Honey. A delicious foodstuff and a delightful toy!"
"Pillows are meant to be tossed, sheets are made to be wrinkled and if we can remember how the comforter got over there we're doing well."
"Bad Idea: Clothes strewn on bedroom floor. Good Idea: Clothes hastily strewn on the bedroom floor.
"It's been so long I forget who gets tied up." (Yes, I stole this one from somewhere)
"I have an open mind, now all I need is for someone to appreciate the dirt."

I don't know though. I always figured something like that would put women off but I'm willing to be wrong...oh so very willing.

So I'm curious...anyone else think that's a good idea or a bad idea? Do one of these look better or worse than the others?
 
personally, i think a sexually playful mind is intriguing...and arouses the hell out of me. any woman on a singles site that would find 'provocative' offensive would likely bore the hell out of you anyway...yes??

do any of you agree??

btw, i like the 'honey' and 'comforter' lines the best...
 
Well, I too like the first intro, it's much more open and humorous...I love a man with a good sense of humor.

The addition is great, teasing and sexy. Personally, I'm not interested in a man who thinks he has to "act" a certain way. You're "addition" to your profile shows that you are just being the real you..women like that, or as least I do.

Good luck darlin', I hope you find every happiness you seek. :kiss:
 
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