Are women attracted to a large penis.

My wife thinks a large penis is more important to men than women.I have been on a penis enlargement routine for several years and have slowly increased to my current size of 8.75 inches bpel x 6.5 inches eg.
We are in a long standing relationship,still find each other attractive in many ways,have regular sex and are open and honest with each other.
Do other women share this opinion?.

As always is the answer to this general question: it all depends on the woman. If the penis fits, use it.

It really does depend on the woman. I find girth to be better than length. But either way, it takes a very below average penis to not be pleasurable, You 6.5 would not have been an issue.

And as cliche as it sounds, it really does also depend on how you use it. Confidence is key. If you are more confident now then you were originally, then it would be more pleasurable.

The worst, though, is guys that think they are huge. You know the ones... they carry only Magnum condoms and all that. Not only is it obnoxious, but the denial puts the female at risk because as you very well know, using a Magnum condom when your size doesn't demand greatly increases the risk of the condom falling off...

RedIntense said:

It really does depend on the woman. I find girth to be better than length. But either way, it takes a very below average penis to not be pleasurable, You 6.5 would not have been an issue.

And as cliche as it sounds, it really does also depend on how you use it. Confidence is key. If you are more confident now then you were originally, then it would be more pleasurable.

The worst, though, is guys that think they are huge. You know the ones... they carry only Magnum condoms and all that. Not only is it obnoxious, but the denial puts the female at risk because as you very well know, using a Magnum condom when your size doesn't demand greatly increases the risk of the condom falling off...

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I'd like the think that the female would notice that the condom was not made for him and would say "honey, you're not getting any with that big thing".

I've read posts by women here who have said things such as "oh come on ladies, bigger is better and you know it". I usually get pretty pissed by comments like that. On a personal note, from my little sexual experience (never had a penis in me), I would say that large ones are cool to look at and I think it would be neat to give one a hand job, but realistically I would prefer average size for oral since I have bad gag reflexes and I wouldn't want a guy forcing my mouth over his 9" penis. I'm not into that. Also, when it comes to sex, I don't think I'd want my cervix being proped (I remember that from another woman's comment once ). Some women want big or need big because their vagina is just bigger. Other women want smaller because it fits them and they want the whole penis inside them. For other women, every penis is wonderful, no matter what the size.

The moral of the story is that there is no easy answer. You can't really get a good representation from media or from asking a sample of women what they prefer. You just have to go from woman to woman. It's kind of like men and breast size.

I agree- it depends on the woman. Frankly, I have a very "big man," almost too big. Sometimes I find myself wishing he was smaller so we could work at sex less. It goes slow inthe beginning because I have to get used to him.

I haven't had a really big man in years and I miss it. In fact I miss it period. My man is impotent and he was never a really good lover. Might be time to start looking.

i don't have a huge penis, but it seems to me like if it were longer you might be able to do a little more position wise, with the thought that you dont have to insert it all the way.

My husband is well endowed (I can't remember the measurement but I know he's measured!) and honestly, well it's nice in some things it does make several positions just plain old uncomfortable no matter how much foreplay and such is involved.

The best lover I've had was average sized, it fit perfectly and we could do everything with fun and little work.

So my own opinion, size doesn't matter. It's all in how you use it!

Thanks for your thoughts on this issue.If I'm truly honest my pe quest appears to be for my own benefit.My wife approves and supports my endeavours with the assurance that she will happily accomodate the future gains I will achieve.

Bliss Brackets said:

I haven't had a really big man in years and I miss it. In fact I miss it period. My man is impotent and he was never a really good lover. Might be time to start looking.

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Don't look at me my penis has been said to be too small.

Women like big dicks just like men like big tits. If you want to go further into evolution it might be that the bigger is primally more attractive because it is the better of the species; or the one that will ensure better repoduction.

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I think it was Elayne Boosler who once said 'the perfect size is just long enough to reach from you to me'.

I shudder when someone trying to be seductive or whatever IMs me about his ten inch cock. Not that I believe him for an instant, but that sounds more painful than erotic. I know that some women like having the penis bump against the cervix, but I don't particularly like it. I'm definitely happier with average than very large. Technique is definitely more important than size... unless you're two inches, maybe, and if you give mind-blowing oral, you don't even need to worry about that.

I think men do worry more about penis size than women do.

Girls start comparing the size of their budding breasts, and I think they do it at least partially because they are so visible and attract so much attention from the boys. Boys start comparing penis sizes very early on, too, but they learn that from each other...it's not the girls who are ogling them and talking about how bigger is better.

I don't think anything anyone says will ever definitely answer this question for a man. Every sexually satisfied couple will tell you that size doesn't matter as long as the lover is caring and generous, but every man will still continue to wonder, somewhere deep down inside, whether his penis measures up to her expectations.

Like some have mentioned before me, it really is a personal preference.
Some guys like small breasts, some like big. This is true for penises too.

Although I must say that when this has come up in conversation with my friends, two things are always mentioned.

1. That length is not always best, it's girth.
2. It's how you use it. You could have the best penis in the world but if you don't know what to do with it, it's worthless!

Big tits, Big Dicks

I'm a guy.

I like to look at nice, big tits. They look fucking hot. But, big breasts are a novelty.

I have also been with a very big breasted woman (naturally big), and honestly, it isn't all it's cracked up to be. I'm a big guy (6 foot 4), and I have the accompanying big hands, and the big breasted girls tits were too big to handle without the use of two hands on one tit.

This was annoying, as I prefer to be able to tease one breast/nipple with my tongue, while handling the other breast in a free hand, and letting my other free hand wander... With the big breasted girl, I was using two hands just to keep the breasts in check so I could kiss them.

So, I would say, that while big breasts are nice to look at, I like smaller breasts... a C cup is good and slightly above average. And slightly smaller than C is cool too. And, slightly larger. Breasts can be too small, and this is no good; and they can be too large, and this is no good.

Now, I am basing all this on the assumption that women feel about dicks how men feel about breasts.

There is an idea floating around that bigger is better, all the time, no matter what. This is wrong for me as a tit lover, and I am sure the women out there who like dick feel the same way.

Translating my ideas about breasts to women-dicks, I come up with this theory:
1) Yes, a dick can be too small.
2) Then, there are dicks that are smaller than average, average, and slightly larger than average. All these are quite desirable. Of these, I would guess that larger dicks are more desirable, but the fact that your lover doesn't have a dick toward the larger end of the "Average" spectrum doesn't really make a difference. It is quite acceptible and pleasureable.
3) And lastly, I am guessing that there are monster dicks that are a cool novelty and generally impracticable.

I am also guessing that just as there are men who want women with abnormally large breasts, there are women who want men with abnormally large dicks.

How does this sound? Perhaps it will put an end to all these posts about dick and breast size, and we can read about other things.

This topic is a total forum bad penny. That being said, I'm still going to participate.

Size matters, but not in the way a guy might think. There is definitely such a thing as too small, so if you're wondering if your 4" is going to cut it stop wondering, it won't...buuuut there is also such a thing as too big. Any of the women that have had a supremely large man (double digit measurments or more) can probably back me up when I say a bruised cervix isn't fun for anyone involved, especially with the woman on top. It feels like getting punched on the inside and for the guy, well let's just say leaving the bottom two inches without support and 105 lbs falling on it tends to put a quick sharp bend or kink in the penis...I've been there, done that, and me and the guy were on the verge of tears, so too large also can exist.

A couple things that haven't been brought up. Anal sex is a whole lot harder if you're huge and tends to not be as much fun for the girl, so guys with less scary penises are more likely to get anal. Penis size is all well and good, but no penis is worth a darn if you don't have stamina. Style, size, control, blah blah blah blah blah if you can't keep it up for more than a half hour of work you're not worth anything anyway. You could be the best lay in the world for ten minutes, but if that's the end of the show you're not going to be asked for a repeat performance. You could have the biggest most impressive penis in the world, but if it falls down faster than a one legged soccer player you're not really impressing anyone.

So unless you're grossly oversized or minutely undersized penis size isn't going to be the issue. Men should be more concerned about how long they can keep going and what they can manage to do while it's up.

yes they do as long as it isn't attached to a man.

Let me ask this. Can you enjoy kissing out with a person who has a small tongue?

The "penis size" question is alot like that, in my mind. Everyone enjoys different sizes. Personally I prefer A to C cup breasts on a girl, but I've dated girls with DD. It doesn't matter what size they were because I cared more about what happened above the neck than below it. I would like to think that most girls think the same way about guys. Even if they don't, I'm not worried about the size of my penis because I've grown past that adolescant insecurity.

Like many other people have said numerous times before; there is more going on during sex than just a penis going into a vagina (or other places).

where do they dig up these porn star penises?

I agree that men worry about it more than woman do.

When it comes to penises- the best one is a nice hard one that's pointed at you As someone said, men should be more concerned with keeping it up longer and what to do with it

also, in addition to the many really good things that have been said here, women tend to focus on 1)more than just sex in a relationship and 2) more than just the reproductive organs in a sexual situation.

so brush up on your relationship skills like talking about feelings, comunication, and empathy. And pay attention to her/ and your whole body. Stop chewing your nails, be clean, smell good ect. ect. Show her that she turns you on, that you respect her and appreciate her, touch the small of her back and the side of her face, kiss the insides of her wrists, caress the insides of her thighs, and *stop trying to produce a porn movie*- we don't need 52 positions per sex act to get off Just when we start to enjoy ourselves is not the time to flip us over and start trying something else.

Oh yeah- and kisses, lots of kisses.

It's not so hard to make penis size a mute point.

viagras said:

My wife thinks a large penis is more important to men than women.I have been on a penis enlargement routine for several years and have slowly increased to my current size of 8.75 inches bpel x 6.5 inches eg.
We are in a long standing relationship,still find each other attractive in many ways,have regular sex and are open and honest with each other.
Do other women share this opinion?.

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I agree with your wife. Most often it is men who ask 'does size matter?' I also think the qualifiers of 'better or more important' have nothing to do with the question. In my opinion it is the quality of the experience.

its the goldilocks scenario:

not too small
not too big

just right

besides, there are positions to use that compensate for size and hit all the right spots. having confidence about your body is sexy.

I think that this is the best quote EVER:

RandomInk said:

I'm not worried about the size of my penis because I've grown past that adolescent insecurity.

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I'd have to say the same for myself...

My current is the largest I've had and the most pleasurable. But I wouldn't say it's because of his size. It's more that he pays attention to me and knows what I like. I personally prefer men on the average to smaller range. I'm a BJ girl and I like to fit the whole thing in my mouth easily. I do it with the current but it is more trying and I have to use my throat.