talking dirty and phone sex...

Hello everyone! I'm new but I thought I'd skip the intro for now and get to my first question.
What do you say when talking on the phone in order to get someone off?

I would think the first time will be your most awkward, after that, look out, it only gets better!!
Tell him what you would want him to do to you and what you would like to do to him in return. Add a few moans and OHH's, then make sure he hears you when you explode!
Most of all enjoy it!
Cealy

Be precise

I've done a lot of cybering, no phone sex, and I've found that the more precise i describe what I'm doing to my partner, the greater response. Of course, it is only their word I rely on but many said they reached climax while we chatted. And I've found more enjoyment for myself when my partner is precise.
Take your time to build the mood.
And I repeat the advise already given. Enjoy!!!!

Just start out having a normal converastion about anything. Then gradually shift the topic to sex. And keep going further and further, talk about thing's you've done, things you'd want to do....generally talk about things that make you hot to think about. Once you start getting aroused....just slip that into teh conversation. how you're arroused...what you'd like to be doing to him right now....that sort of thing.

Tell him how arroused you are...use detail....ask him how arroused he is, and make him use lots of detail.

By this time you're almost certianly masturbating. Just talk about that...tell him what you're doing. How good it feels...blah blah blah....you get the idea. I'm sure you can figure the rest out on your own.

The more you skirt around the issue with little hints of what you are thinking, the more turned on he will be.

Tell him to hang on a sec while you slip your jeans off to be more comfortable. Leaving him to think, omg what does she have on underneath. His mind will go wild with those ideas.

Then you could come back on the phone and say, oh does that ever feel good..... knowing he will ask what do you have on underneath. Then it will go from there. Make sure you have a sexy set on under your jeans and shirt. It adds so much to the excitement I think to describe what you have on and what he in a sense is taking off.

For the record, my friend and I have made it to 7 in a three hour period on the phone! BEAT THAT! lol

Have fun!
Cealy

Thank you all! I got warm and tingly just reading your ideas... Can't wait to try them out! Oh, and Cealy, I look forward to breking the record.

I hope you enjoy yourself, phonesex can be great when you know how to have fun and relax... you just have to be good at talking about what you want and what you'd LOVE to do

I'm sure your mind can do that eh?

Have fun...

Start out with the tease.

I like Cealy's idea of telling him you are going to take off your jeans and get more comfortable. There are so many other things you can try...

Here's one that I found gets one particular guy going. Get a bath while he is talking to you. Let him hear the water running, the flare of the match as you light the candle. Describe to him in detail what gowns and pretty lacy things you have and make him choose which one you will wear later. Then give him the option of which kind of bubble bath you use...which scent perfume you apply...and be sure to tell him exactly how the water feels on your skin, exactly what you are doing in there...

If you are really brave, describe your sexual toys and ask him which one he would like to see you use.

And by the time you get out of that tub and move to the bedroom, his breath will be short and he will be on the verge of begging...and by that time, you will be so charged up that the 'dirty talk' will just happen. You will probably even blush later when you think of the words that came out of your mouth. Oh, my.

And most of all, just go into it with the mindset of enjoying him. Period. If you are focused on his pleasure, yours will come...pun intended...right along with his.

S.

sheath said:

Start out with the tease.


Here's one that I found gets one particular guy going. Get a bath while he is talking to you. Let him hear the water running, the flare of the match as you light the candle. Describe to him in detail what gowns and pretty lacy things you have and make him choose which one you will wear later. Then give him the option of which kind of bubble bath you use...which scent perfume you apply...and be sure to tell him exactly how the water feels on your skin, exactly what you are doing in there...

If you are really brave, describe your sexual toys and ask him which one he would like to see you use.



S.

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You are SO mean to me sheath, I swear it's not fair.

We've done the bath tub thing too, it works. Almost every morning for about three months we would talk for two hours before he had to leave for school (university). Many, many times I had a bath with him so to speak, and yes I helped him start is day off with a bang! The idea of him being naked sliding the bath sponge all over his body then rinsing off was and still is a major turn on for me.

Now that he has graduated to working full-time and going to school, the long mornings together no longer exist. I pray time and time again for my husband to go on training trips all over the U.S. so that my friend and I can have time together. LOL I'm finishing up a week with him away right now and have another planned for April! Whoo hooo, if the phone is busy, leave a message! lol
Cealy

Kemet said:

You are SO mean to me sheath, I swear it's not fair.

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You absolutely LOVE it, you know you do.

Besides, with a voice like yours, what girl wouldn't want to get you going?

S.

sheath said:

Start out with the tease.

I like Cealy's idea of telling him you are going to take off your jeans and get more comfortable. There are so many other things you can try...

Here's one that I found gets one particular guy going. Get a bath while he is talking to you. Let him hear the water running, the flare of the match as you light the candle. Describe to him in detail what gowns and pretty lacy things you have and make him choose which one you will wear later. Then give him the option of which kind of bubble bath you use...which scent perfume you apply...and be sure to tell him exactly how the water feels on your skin, exactly what you are doing in there...

If you are really brave, describe your sexual toys and ask him which one he would like to see you use.

And by the time you get out of that tub and move to the bedroom, his breath will be short and he will be on the verge of begging...and by that time, you will be so charged up that the 'dirty talk' will just happen. You will probably even blush later when you think of the words that came out of your mouth. Oh, my.

And most of all, just go into it with the mindset of enjoying him. Period. If you are focused on his pleasure, yours will come...pun intended...right along with his.

S.

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There is only one word for this: damn!

midwestyankee said:

There is only one word for this: damn!

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S.

The most important thing for me is just to tell the truth, not fake anything. Starting with maybe how embarassed I'm feeling to start with. You can be as shy as you are, if you are, or as flagrant.

For instance, this is a little different but seems relevant -- I only had a full cyber chat session with someone once just to try it, and being for real is what made it turn out great. It was with a complete stranger, who was, by his own description, into much more extreme stuff than me. I just took it easy, went at my own pace, resisting where I felt resistance, and jumping in and being naughty where I felt that. Getting into my feelings and what I wanted to do (it probably helps that I really like turning the other person on) it was amazing to find that he came from some pretty vanilla stuff, because it was done with intensity and true feeling. (He only learned afterwards that I'd just lost my cyber-cherry.)

The other thing is, not to contradict the idea of going with your own pace and real feelings, but it's also good to push yourself just a little. Try saying those things that make you feel exposed, vulnerable, embarrassed, as long as it's in a Good way, if you know what I mean. There's nothing more sexy than getting really naked like that. Letting them see your darker places, telling secrets, sharing shameful fantasies. Use that voice connection between you, the fact that they can't see your face, to say what you can only say in the dark.

Some more minor hints that can help, sometimes I close my eyes so I can hear the other person's voice better, paying attention to the small changes in tone, listening closely, breathing into his mouth -- not worrying about whether my words make coherent sentences, paying attention to my body, what I'm feeling where, letting him know how badly I want it.

Good luck, sweetie, and have fun.

well for myself as a guy

i love the moans and groans and its a real turn on when telling a girl what i'd like to be doing with her and it makes her so horny she just cant resist masturbating

pheonix stone your talking about cyber makes it sound really good i still haven't tried it... no one has ever wanted to

This helps me...

I do a lot of phone sex...lol Things that I have found that always help me "get someone off" is the tone of my voice, the language that I use, & just plain ol' discription. The more detail I give the closer they are....be sensual. For example..."you can feel my hands running up & down your chest, as I slowly kiss my way down your body. You can feel my soft lips pressing up against your chest, your stomach, down, down, to your hard shaft that is waiting my lips. Fianlly, looking up at you grining, I take stick out my tongue & just lick the tip of your shaft..." It always helps when you add a little sigh, or moan when there is something that really turns you on, or something that you would enjoy doing to him.

Your tone of voice is really a big one...being interested. & Talking dirty can mean anything from plain ol, I'm talking about what you would be doing to him, how wet you are, how bad you want him, to begging him to fuck you, talking about how big he is & how well he makes you cum...I'm sure you can judge where your guy ranges on that scale

Hope this helps!

sheath said:

Here's one that I found gets one particular guy going. Get a bath while he is talking to you. Let him hear the water running, the flare of the match as you light the candle. Describe to him in detail what gowns and pretty lacy things you have and make him choose which one you will wear later. Then give him the option of which kind of bubble bath you use...which scent perfume you apply...and be sure to tell him exactly how the water feels on your skin, exactly what you are doing in there...

If you are really brave, describe your sexual toys and ask him which one he would like to see you use.

And by the time you get out of that tub and move to the bedroom, his breath will be short and he will be on the verge of begging...and by that time, you will be so charged up that the 'dirty talk' will just happen. You will probably even blush later when you think of the words that came out of your mouth. Oh, my.

And most of all, just go into it with the mindset of enjoying him. Period. If you are focused on his pleasure, yours will come...pun intended...right along with his.

S.

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Ummmm...

Fuck, how the hell do I get to sleep now????

Thank God I have your phone number.

I just try to put myself into the situation like I was really there. I moan, grunt, growl, talk dirty. And usually very vocal when I cum. I talk to my lover. Ask her if she likes it, tell her how it feels to me. try to behave as I would were I actually making love to her.

DevilishTexan said:

I just try to put myself into the situation like I was really there. I moan, grunt, growl, talk dirty. And usually very vocal when I cum. I talk to my lover. Ask her if she likes it, tell her how it feels to me. try to behave as I would were I actually making love to her.

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Oh, yeahhhhh....

I am so There with you... mmmm

Hmmm, sounds like we're starting to get the idea across by our writing here -- at least I'M starting to feel it....

(LOVE a vocal guy.... Actually that's one of the things that most got me about my husband in bed was how vocally he groans and cums sometimes. No Silent Sam -- some guys seem to think it's unmanly or something to make noise, when really it's flattering as hell, and a real turnon for the aurally sensitive.)

Horni Boi (hope I remember your name right -- I had to go take care of my kids for a minute and didn't want to rewrite this to check), thank you for the compliment! I cyberchatted on a chatline with a complete stranger. You don't need to find someone cooperative beforehand. Try google, there are lots of them -- from voyeur chat to bdsm. Even literotica has one. Haven't tried it, though. Maybe someone else can tell you about it.

Talk dirty and sexy
and askwhat they are doing right now and what i'm doing
and try to put sexy images in their heads

I had the most amazing phone sex last night. With a most amazing man.

Just wanted to share. Dunno why.

S.

Ya know... they do make dildos that look like phones... or vice-versa... anyway, would that be considered phone sex? Just curious.

J

ABN_Ranger said:

Ya know... they do make dildos that look like phones... or vice-versa... anyway, would that be considered phone sex? Just curious.

J

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As long as there is heavy breathing involved...I think so?



S.

Wow. All these good descriptions.


One thing that really turns my phone-sex partner on is when I tell him what to do.

...

"I want you to grab your balls, tickle them"

"Mmmmmm. Please pinch your nipples for me, like you would pinch mine if I was with you."

"Stroke your cock hard for me, <Name>. (Then you wait a few seconds) Mmmmm. Stop and taste your precum for me..."

...


Another idea is to start of playing truth or dare. You can start off simple, then get hotter and hotter. Yup. Did that last night. Very HOT.

It's a good way to get talking! And it's a turn on to know exactly what they are doing, and hearing their moans while they fufill your desires.


And it's always a major turn on for him to tell me what to do. It makes me so wet after he tells me how he he wants me to touch myself.

good gracious someone get me to a phone!! quick!! giggle

An ex of mine once helped with this skill, I will forever grateful to him ~ give it a shot ~ work with him, ask him what he'd like you to do to him and work off that ~ afterall loving is a two way street!!


sheath - i want that number lol !!! i just had my first phone sex the other night and was just a total mess after - whoa!!

then the next night, a cyber that still has me wondering..... just how many orgasms i can have in an evening ~ ummmm errr could it possibly have been 5 omg!!