Roll Call for women who are happily married to a man.

BreeCarter said:

i am. i love him to death, despite the occasional pain in the ass that he can be. we had a lot of problems for a couple months, but we're definitely a lot closer now, and a lot more vocal. for the most part, i am very happy.

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Jacking my own thread: I hope he realizes what a lovely, smooth, white shoulder and upper breast surface you have - beautiful av!

My wife and I have been married for 14 years. Through good times and bad.

We support each other and we try to help each other.

Neither of us is blind, we know each others faults as well as our own, but maybe that's what makes our marriage work. We're honest about it.

Neither of us is easy to get along with. She a goddy goody who loves TV. I'm an edge walker who prefers to be doing something. Both of us have varied interests, some of which even match the others. That's what keeps it interesting, we're not a matched pair. We have our own interests and our own ideas. We don't allow ourselves to get stale mentaly(sp), we challenge each other.

Next year we'll both return to school. We'll take our classes together and we'll be able to help each other. Her strength will help me with my weaknesses and vice versa.

I salute anyone who is in a long term relationship, they aren't easy.

Cat

Roxanne Appleby said:

Jacking my own thread: I hope he realizes what a lovely, smooth, white shoulder and upper breast surface you have - beautiful av!

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thank you.

I'll come later tomorrow with my own fairytale but I thought what Mat said needs to be repeated over and over and over again. IMHO it's THE key.

matriarch said:

I think that any couple in a loving, supportive, stable relationship stands as a good role model - be it straight or gay. LOVE is spelled with the same four letters, no matter the persuasion of the lovers.

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I met him in high school. I thought he was one of the rudest bastards on the planet. When I was very first introduced to him, and I extended my hand for him to shake and he looked at it, coldly, then looked back at me over his small, round sunglasses and said, "I don't believe in shaking hands" while crossing his arms over his chest, I looked at my friend (who was dating him) as if to say, "Good luck with this one!"

Long story short, his girl dumped him and my guy dumped me. Our best friends were boyfriend and girlfriend, at the time, and they were trying to get us to hook up. We both thought that they were insane. They would tell us, "But, if you knew him/her like I do, you'd see that you two are perfect together!" My best friend at the time even said those fateful words, "If the two of you get together, you'll never break up." She was right.

Despite my hesitation, I finally called him. Even though we hadn't spoken in a year (and had never spoken on the phone), he knew who it was. That night, we talked for four hours, about everything. Instantly, I felt like we'd known each other intimately our entire lives. There wasn't anything that I felt like I couldn't tell him. It was all over from that very first phone call.

Sometimes, two people have such an instant, burning passion for each other and that's what we had and continue to have. It's physical, yes, but also emotional and intellectual. We both have a burning desire to know one another more intimately, each day. People tell us, individually, that we're "clingy" with our partner. We usually respond that we're both clingy, so it works out. We're that couple that you hardly ever see apart, that touch and kiss as though it's our third date, and that look into each other's eyes when we talk, even if it's small talk. We make people sick. lol

He is the place that I call "home." He has helped me to grow as a person and to see the world through perspectives that I might not have otherwise considered. Every day, without fail, he makes me smile. He encourages me and empowers me to do things that I never thought that I could and, when I accomplish those things, he's there to say, "I knew it all along. You just had to believe in yourself." In my finest moments, he celebrates with me and is prouder of me than I am of myself. In my darkest moments, he quietly holds me, listens to me, and lets me cry, never leaving my side. Every day, he makes my life more wonderful just by being in it. He is my Superman.

We're not perfect. But, almost. We have our fights -- our ups and downs. We've had that moment that nearly all relationships go through, where you look at the other person and think, "You're not who I thought you were." But, we turned that destructive fire into a baptismal fire. We walked through hell, hand-in-hand, and made it out on the other end, forged anew. Yes, it hurt. Yes, it was hard. But, in the end, it made us even stronger than we were before.

Just last night, I was talking to him about something that my great uncle said to me (when I asked him what the secret to a good marriage was) at his 50th anniversary party: "Just remember that, in every situation, it takes two." I was sharing how I thought that was poignant. I then asked him what he would say to someone who was about to get married and who had asked him the same question. He said that he would reply: "You have to build a foundation on communication and you have to be nakedly honest." I agree.

So that, in a nutshell, is my man and our lives. What we spend the majority of our time doing (and I'm not kidding) is talking. We LOVE to lay down in the bedroom, under a pile of blankets, with the fan blowing and the television on the Soundscapes music channel and talk for hours and hours. When we're not talking, we like to watch movies together, draw, read, and play on the computer.

He is a Graphic Artist. He loves his job to death and loves the people that he works for. He works a pretty steady schedule, although he's been taking a lot of overtime, lately, because of the baby that we have on the way.

I think I'll fall in love with him all over again when I see him in his new role as somebody's father. We've been together for 10 years, been married for 7, and we're expecting our first child (a boy) in December. He's so excited and he wants to be there for every second of this baby's life. His joy and the love that I see in his deep, brown eyes, for this wonderful little creature that he hasn't even met yet, nearly brings me to tears. He said to me, "This is us. We did this. You carry a piece of me with you everywhere you go."

Finally, to our friends: We share a lot of the same friends and so, when we visit friends, we usually do so together. Although, we do have some friends that are individual for one reason or another and we're cool with hanging out separately. We just don't do it too often. We usually surround ourselves with people that are weird, like us. We don't like drama queens or moochers, so we try to steer clear of those.

I apologize for having written a novel. There is so much more about him that I would love to share, but I fear I've already written too much. Suffice it to say, I'm deeply, madly in love and so is he. I married the man of my dreams and I couldn't ask for more.

Good thing I called.

AppleBiter said:

He is the place that I call "home." He has helped me to grow as a person and to see the world through perspectives that I might not have otherwise considered. Every day, without fail, he makes me smile. He encourages me and empowers me to do things that I never thought that I could and, when I accomplish those things, he's there to say, "I knew it all along. You just had to believe in yourself." In my finest moments, he celebrates with me and is prouder of me than I am of myself. In my darkest moments, he quietly holds me, listens to me, and lets me cry, never leaving my side. Every day, he makes my life more wonderful just by being in it. He is my Superman.

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It's like looking into a mirror.

Aurora Black said:

It's like looking into a mirror.

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Next June my husband and I will celebrate our 35th Anniversary. Like someone above, we met on a blind date. I was kicking and screaming because I could find my own dates, thank you very much, but she was an old friend from high school and I was visiting that side of the state so I would never see the guy again....

Oh well, show's what i know. In two weeks we were engaged. One month to the day after that first date we got married. Now we did remarry in a church a few months after that.

Have things been "happily ever after"? that's only true in fairy tales. We have fought, made-up, suffered through separations of up to a year (my husband was in the Amry when we met and finally retired after 26 years). I've had to send him off to war, we've had to mourn together We've never considered divorce, although I think we each have thought about murder

What has held us together I belive, is a respect for each other and for each other's dreams. When we were in a stable assignement in the states and I wanted to try law-enforcement, he encouraged me and bit his tongue and never said a peep even though I know there were times he wanted to yell "What the HELL do you think you're doing?" But he didn't. Mumbled under his breath but that's okay.

I know there isn't a magic formula for happiness as a couple. I wish there was, it sure would save a lot of effort and tears and some occasional yelling and throwing things. Speaking of that...when we first got married and I threw things he would stand still, saying he was just as likely to duck INTO them as away from them. Now-a-days he ducks.

The whole trip has been worth it though. I'd do it all over again.

patricia51 said:

We've never considered divorce, although I think we each have thought about murder

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LOL!

patricia51 said:

Speaking of that...when we first got married and I threw things he would stand still, saying he was just as likely to duck INTO them as away from them. Now-a-days he ducks.

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So your aim has improved? See, a person grows when in a relationship.

patricia51 said:

Next June my husband and I will celebrate our 35th Anniversary. Like someone above, we met on a blind date. I was kicking and screaming because I could find my own dates, thank you very much, but she was an old friend from high school and I was visiting that side of the state so I would never see the guy again....

Oh well, show's what i know. In two weeks we were engaged. One month to the day after that first date we got married. Now we did remarry in a church a few months after that.

Have things been "happily ever after"? that's only true in fairy tales. We have fought, made-up, suffered through separations of up to a year (my husband was in the Amry when we met and finally retired after 26 years). I've had to send him off to war, we've had to mourn together We've never considered divorce, although I think we each have thought about murder

What has held us together I belive, is a respect for each other and for each other's dreams. When we were in a stable assignement in the states and I wanted to try law-enforcement, he encouraged me and bit his tongue and never said a peep even though I know there were times he wanted to yell "What the HELL do you think you're doing?" But he didn't. Mumbled under his breath but that's okay.

I know there isn't a magic formula for happiness as a couple. I wish there was, it sure would save a lot of effort and tears and some occasional yelling and throwing things. Speaking of that...when we first got married and I threw things he would stand still, saying he was just as likely to duck INTO them as away from them. Now-a-days he ducks.

The whole trip has been worth it though. I'd do it all over again.

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Hullo gorgeous, good to see you again. It's been too long.

AppleBiter said:

I met him in high school. I thought he was one of the rudest bastards on the planet. When I was very first introduced to him, and I extended my hand for him to shake and he looked at it, coldly, then looked back at me over his small, round sunglasses and said, "I don't believe in shaking hands" while crossing his arms over his chest, I looked at my friend (who was dating him) as if to say, "Good luck with this one!"

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But then, that is the opening to Pride and Prejudice ...

matriarch said:

Hullo gorgeous, good to see you again. It's been too long.

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Speaking of gorgeous! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGINGGGGGGGGGGGGGG Mat tightly and showering kisses on you (Min, I'm trying to behave but the sight of your spouse just does that to me).

patricia51 said:

Speaking of gorgeous! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGINGGGGGGGGGGGGGG Mat tightly and showering kisses on you (Min, I'm trying to behave but the sight of your spouse just does that to me).

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She says she understands.

matriarch said:

She says she understands.

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Well thank goodness! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGSSSSSSSSSSSSS Min for making Mat so very happy. I love you both!

patricia51 said:

Well thank goodness! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGSSSSSSSSSSSSS Min for making Mat so very happy. I love you both!

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Dammit!! I missed you AGAIN.
Love you too, sexy.

(sorry for the threadjack, Rox, Patti and I haven't been in touch for a while - I take what I can get.)

matriarch said:

Dammit!! I missed you AGAIN.
Love you too, sexy.

(sorry for the threadjack, Rox, Patti and I haven't been in touch for a while - I take what I can get.)

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