I know you too well to share my kinks.

[lilmissdarling]

If you like someone on Lit, but suspect they may not be what they seem, do you continue interacting with them, keep them at cock’s length, or shut down completely?
I definitely take a step back until I have a better idea of what Im dealing with. Are they a completely fabricated persona or did they tell me they were into kinky sex but they were just into a little choking?

I think the bigger issue (like one of the ladies had posted in another thread) is when you turn someone down and they take it as a challenge to create a new profile and try again.

Do you put on your deerstalker cap and pull a Sherlock Holmes and try to get them to slip up?
Not generally. I might look to see how they interact with others. But I dont want to waste my time that way.

What do you think is the actual psychology of someone who pretends to be someone they are not? This is kind of a fantasy site after all.
Not a clue. Entertainment... Loneliness... Manipulation? I mean there is a variety of excuses Im sure.

Have you ever felt like you had lead someone astray and had to confess that they seemed to think you were something you’re not? Sexually, physically, emotionally?
Yes, emotionally to an extent. I think it was mainly that we had different expectations of lit. He wanted a girlfriend. I wanted a play partner.

Will you risk making a fool out of yourself pursuing someone who excites you sexually even though you suspect that person may not be what they say?
I have before. But I try my damndest to not repeat that mistake.

Is a boner or bean blaster any less arousing if you learn that it was from someone who isn’t what you thought?
Yes. Like I said I back off so I doubt we are having any fun kind of chats.

Isn’t it kind of like when you read a really hot and steamy story and imagine the author is the perfect man or woman only to find out that they’re kind of ?
Not at all. My author isn't actively lying to my face through one on one chats.

What if that sexy person is an author and stumbled into the forums to do “research” as a man or woman (opposite of what they are) for sexy story writing purposes?
Why not have that in your profile? Why hide it? You are still leading people on whether its for "research" or not.

What is the one thing you would like to ask someone who pretends on Lit?
Why? What purpose does it serve?

What perception about you do you think people generally have that you would like to clear up?
I've heard of a few recently. They can keep their perceptions or they can be an adult and ask me about it.

 

[Endless_Night]

If you like someone on Lit, but suspect they may not be what they seem, do you continue interacting with them, keep them at cock’s length, or shut down completely?
I'm not sure this question relates to me. I keep all people at appendage length until I've known them for some time.

Even then, we only see facets of people rather than the whole. Forum interaction is limited. No-one is ever going to be entirely as they seem. We miss too much.

Do you put on your deerstalker cap and pull a Sherlock Holmes and try to get them to slip up?
I will definitely Sherlock them, but I don't try to get them to slip up. Most I don't engage, but if I feel particularly concerned there might be a mention to a friend, especially if they seem to be interacting.

If I know someone (or think I do) reasonably well and something comes up, I'm likely to just ask directly. I require clarity.

What do you think is the actual psychology of someone who pretends to be someone they are not? This is kind of a fantasy site after all.
Their business, as long as it remains contained. Engaging others without disclosure jumps the consent barrier. Not cool.

Have you ever felt like you had lead someone astray and had to confess that they seemed to think you were something you’re not? Sexually, physically, emotionally?
Hmm. That's a tough one. While I've never been in the situation of having to confess, I have little doubt people make assumptions based on things I omit. I am a fairly private individual.

Will you risk making a fool out of yourself pursuing someone who excites you sexually even though you suspect that person may not be what they say?
Pursuit is not part of my sexual nature, so this question is N/A.

I might be attracted, though. At a distance.

Is a boner or bean blaster any less arousing if you learn that it was from someone who isn’t what you thought?
Always.



Isn’t it kind of like when you read a really hot and steamy story and imagine the author is the perfect man or woman only to find out that they’re kind of ?
Curious question. I never think about the author in that way. They're only a vehicle to the story.

What if that sexy person is an author and stumbled into the forums to do “research” as a man or woman (opposite of what they are) for sexy story writing purposes?
Are they interacting just randomly or are they deliberately telling people they are something they are not?

Too, why not just ask men (or women) how the see things or would react in situations? No-one ever seems to do that.

What is the one thing you would like to ask someone who pretends on Lit?
No questions at this time.

But I reserve the right to change my mind.

What perception about you do you think people generally have that you would like to clear up?
On Lit?

The Enny vs Endless aspects of my personality are quite different. On Lit I often think I must seem practically halfwitted.

Maybe that's the case off Lit as well.

 

[Endless_Night]

I think the bigger issue (like one of the ladies had posted in another thread) is when you turn someone down and they take it as a challenge to create a new profile and try again.

Ewww. Eww, eww, eww.

 

[Peter_Out]

Even then, we only see facets of people rather than the whole. Forum interaction is limited. No-one is ever going to be entirely as they seem.

True in the "real world" too. It's what I dislike the most about being human.

On Lit I often think I must seem practically halfwitted.

I can't speak for anyone else, but you don't come across that way to me. Mysterious. Sometimes almost self-contradictory. Mostly, it seems (to me) that you think, have interesting points of view, and make me think. Then again, I might be the Lit village idiot (or at least play that), so take with a pinch of salt!

 

[Endless_Night]

I can't speak for anyone else, but you don't come across that way to me. Mysterious. Sometimes almost self-contradictory. Mostly, it seems (to me) that you think, have interesting points of view, and make me think. Then again, I might be the Lit village idiot (or at least play that), so take with a pinch of salt!

Well, thank you.

Mysterious is the last descriptor I would have attached to myself. .

I am now entirely questioning your judgement.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Too, why not just ask men (or women) how the see things or would react in situations? No-one ever seems to do that.

You mean simplify life by putting it into a straightforward question that could easily solve everything?

What the hell is wrong with you?

 

[hotwords229_A]

Disappointed. No boobs. One limp dick rating.

I struggled with this one. What image could possibly fit this topic?
I did consider just putting random boobs that didn’t relate at all, but, unfortunately, I decided to go with the confused couple look.

So? Are you asking without asking have you ever been an alt and fucked shit up?

Yes.

I feel like I’ve missed out on some prime drama.

I missed it too. For the most part, anyway. I saw a lot of the aftermath.
It was actually pretty fun. Although, some people did seem hurt by it, so that sucked.

I think the bigger issue (like one of the ladies had posted in another thread) is when you turn someone down and they take it as a challenge to create a new profile and try again.

I wonder if they just change the name, but keep the same personality, or if they go for a whole new persona?

This stuff interests me in a weird way.