Cock Talk

[Endless_Night]

I think honesty is completely overrated.

I've really sat with this one for a long time and I do understand that need in others. I certainly don't have it in myself.

Like everything in life, there's a lot of grey areas in all things honest and true, etc. It's a really interesting part of someone's "character" - their honesty. Because in my opinion it's still subjective.

I'm much more interested in accountability. Taking responsibility for one's self. Sometimes there may be omissions or things said with integrity that could be interpreted as not entirely true.

Fear gets in the way a lot and as humans we really do suck at navigating that.

To each his own.

Accountably is a huge for me, too. It's tough. And it's amazing how often fear creeps in, no matter how often you vanquish it in single battles.

I find listening and not offering advice is better when dealing with everyone regardless of their sex. But if you give advice and it goes wrong, they blame you. If you give advice and they don’t take it and it goes wrong, they blame you.

Truth.

 

[Endless_Night]

To answer this question: If I understand your point, then, generally speaking, no. It would not necessarily end things.

You know, thinking about this I have to come back and add the qualifier.

There are just too many scenarios. Even if it wasn't an illegal kink, what if it was something that made my stomach churn? What if they knew that and hid it deliberately? What if . . . .

I could go on indefinitely. (No, really, I could. )

I get that it's not the norm, but for me, for my space, honesty is what works.

Not every thought. Not every nuance. But any information that might alter a partner's or friend's willingness to continue the relationship, then yes. And I expect the same in return. For me it's a matter of trust.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Cummunication
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We seem to agree that communication is key to a healthy relationship, but then why are so many people struggling to communicate?

Do you have good communication with your partner? Why?

I dont have a partner any more. But when I was married, communication was awful. We never spoke about anything meaningful right from the beginning. And we paid the price eventually. The lack of being able to communicate ended the marriage..among other things.

It’s often said that “women just want to be heard”. And when you offer advice (solutions), they look at you like you’re the biggest douchebag on the planet, how do we get around this?

what has already been said. Listen, and ask what they want. Goes for everyone. And don't try to solve it if it can't be solved. If all else fails, offer to show them your dick. (Don't just flop it out) you might get a smile. Worked for me this week.

What steps do you take to keep the lines of communication open?

I talk. Incessantly. Inanely. Eventually I'll get to my point. And maybe they'll share theirs. Either way keep the channels open.

How do you deal with a partner who is impossible to communicate with or doesn’t see that there is a problem?

its hard. It can be the end of the relationship.

What was one of the hardest honest conversations you ever had with a partner?

Telling them I wanted a break after 7 years.of being together. The hardest I've had to listen to? Being told of a 6 year affair and 4 and a half year old half brother my kids and I never knew about.

Would you be surprised if your partner told you that you were difficult to talk to?

yes. I'm not.

What steps would you take if they did?

I would try to find out why. And what I could do to rectify it.

How open and honest are you about your sexual needs, thoughts, desires and perversions with your partner?

again, i dont have a partner. But I've made a promise to myself to be open and honest about my needs and wants. And not hide who I am.

Has your partner ever shared something with you that blew your mind?

N/A

 

[Wand3rlust]

I think honesty is completely overrated.

I've really sat with this one for a long time and I do understand that need in others. I certainly don't have it in myself.

Like everything in life, there's a lot of grey areas in all things honest and true, etc. It's a really interesting part of someone's "character" - their honesty. Because in my opinion it's still subjective.

I'm much more interested in accountability. Taking responsibility for one's self. Sometimes there may be omissions or things said with integrity that could be interpreted as not entirely true.

Fear gets in the way a lot and as humans we really do suck at navigating that.

I think honesty is separate from communication though.

But I agree. With all this.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Being told of a 6 year affair and 4 and a half year old half brother my kids and I never knew about.

Whoah

 

[Wand3rlust]

Whoah

Yeah. That conversation was a doozey.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Can I just say- I love you pervs??
Because I do!

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

I think honesty is completely overrated.

Like everything in life, there's a lot of grey areas in all things honest and true, etc. It's a really interesting part of someone's "character" - their honesty. Because in my opinion it's still subjective.

I'm much more interested in accountability. Taking responsibility for one's self. Sometimes there may be omissions or things said with integrity that could be interpreted as not entirely true.

To overly simplify and rely on an old trope, "Does this dress make me look fat?"
No one in their right mind answers that honestly if the answer is yes. We find other, gentler ways of conveying not a good choice.

Does that make the answer a lie? Maybe. But there's possibly a whole lot of love, tenderness, and probably integrity (like trying to avoid hurting your partner in a needless fashion) in the "lie."

 

[Endless_Night]

Being told of a 6 year affair and 4 and a half year old half brother my kids and I never knew about.

Son of a biscuit.

 

[AddyB]

This thread will replace my previous misfire:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1548350

I feel I’ve done a lot of maturing in the last 24 hours cool and now I have a better idea of what I was trying to do. I imagine most people were put off by the ridiculous title of the last thread and (hopefully) this one will attract more interest.

“Cock Talk” will be about all things cock related (and the balls for good measure).

As a Cock Carrying Member (get it?) since birth I have spent a tremendous amount of time on my own penis. Playing with it, thinking about it, thinking with it and just having a ball blasting good time.

And yet, there is still so much I don’t know about Penises in general.

So let’s talk and learn, share and laugh, and marvel at the mighty dick. Let’s face it, they are of interest to every one of us. Whether it be your own, your SO, whether it be of flesh and blood or rubber latex, heart operated or battery operated—we all enjoy Captain Creamy and the Teste Twins (to some degree or another).

So stupid me! Last night I was cutting up some hot peppers like jalapenos and red chili peppers and didn't wash my hands too good. Then when I went to bed and woke up at 3:30 am I decided to rub one out, but holy crap suddenly my cock starts burning! I definitely didn't wash my hands good enough! So always wash your hands really well if you're cutting up hot peppers or wear rubber gloves! Take it from me, not a fun time!

 

[hotwords229_A]

I prefer just being a sounding board and saying things like “what do you think?” “What is your feeling on this”

I do this too. But I sneakily add the solution into it like, “Do you think Mabel would stop making those comments to you at work if you told her the next time she says that you are going to punch her tits off?”
Or, “Have you tried cutting your bosses brake lines?”

You know, subtle wonderment suggestions.

Are we talking some form of chronophilia? Then, f**k, yes.

The fear of clowns?

If all else fails, offer to show them your dick.

This may be the best advice ever given in this thread.

 

[darkelf9]

Just came in to say I’m sad I missed the blow job chat and really hope I don’t miss the hot boy anal chat.

Not to worry, blowjobs are like buses there'll be another one along in 30mins, just got to know your route.
Not sure if you mean hot boys talking about anal or hot anal? Just don't tell the sheep shaggers, they might protest for equal rights.

 

[darkelf9]

There's this concept of shoulder to shoulder communication as opposed to face to face communication. It's much easier to talk about hard things when shoulder to shoulder.

Assuming they are both the same height and doors must be an issue. Also isn't that lyrics to a song? Oh wait I get it, they are both sitting down right.

 

[darkelf9]

Can I just say- I love you pervs??
Because I do!

We accept, but you're buying dinner. And no I don't mean Maccas (McDonalds for our American friends)

 

[darkelf9]

With all the talk about communication in relationships, I thought I'd contribute

I value truth, honesty, anal...ah, I mean.... her feelings.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Whorerween

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We have one week until Halloween. Let’s lighten things up a bit . . .

What horror movie character do you think you are most like?
What horror movie character would you most like to be?
What horror movie character would you like to have sex with?
What is your favorite horror movie?
What horror movie are you still too afraid to watch?
If you were playing a character in a horror movie, what type of death scene would you like?
Who is the sexiest horror movie monster (any antagonist)?
What is the best nude scene in a horror movie?
Do you prefer horror movies, books, campfire tales, podcasts, rollercoasters? What is your preferred way to enjoy being scared.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

OMG, it's Sara

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Whorerween
We have one week until Halloween. Let’s lighten things up a bit . . .

What horror movie character do you think you are most like?

I'm probably in the minority here, but I don't really watch horror movies (isn't real life scary enough?), so I pretty much only have Stranger Things to pull from. With that, Murray.

What horror movie character would you most like to be?

I should probably just stop since I'm contributing nothing.

What horror movie character would you like to have sex with?

Jennifer - Jennifer'a Body

What is your favorite horror movie?

Stranger Things

What horror movie are you still too afraid to watch?

It's not fear, I just don't enjoy them.

If you were playing a character in a horror movie, what type of death scene would you like?

Whatever is quickest!

Who is the sexiest horror movie monster (any antagonist)?

Jennifer, again

What is the best nude scene in a horror movie?

I have no idea.

Do you prefer horror movies, books, campfire tales, podcasts, rollercoasters? What is your preferred way to enjoy being scared.

If the odds of death are nearly 0, it's not as fun. I enjoy the risk of death, which is why I don't care about horror movies or books. Reality is far scarier than fiction.

 

[Photog1rl]

I'm probably in the minority here, but I don't really watch horror movies (isn't real life scary enough?), so I pretty much only have Stranger Things to pull from. With that, Murray.


I should probably just stop since I'm contributing nothing.


Jennifer - Jennifer'a Body


Stranger Things


It's not fear, I just don't enjoy them.


Whatever is quickest!


Jennifer, again


I have no idea.


If the odds of death are nearly 0, it's not as fun. I enjoy the risk of death, which is why I don't care about horror movies or books. Reality is far scarier than fiction.

Hey Twin-I am so not a horror movie person. I watched a ton before I was like 14-unsupervised life for the win-but I've basically blocked them all out. I didn't even finish stranger things.
I’ll sit this one out but appreciate a fellow non horror person.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I don't watch horror, either

And I hate being scared #ptsd

 

[Endless_Night]

What horror movie character do you think you are most like?
Are we talking tropes? Then probably The Harbinger or the Hysteric.

What horror movie character would you most like to be?
Maybe Mina or Lucy from Dracula? Some character where I do nothing but wander about a gothic mansion in a nightgown looking ethereal.

What horror movie character would you like to have sex with?
Werewolves are hot. Assuming the don't decide to rend and consume ones flesh in the process.

What is your favorite horror movie?
Hmmm. Tough.

-I love all the old black and white Universal monster movies.
-The Thing (1982) has to top the list, plus return of the Living Dead as far as camp (and two of the only gory movies I can watch. )
-The Changeling (1980) might be my favorite supernatural movie.

This is an impossible question.

What horror movie are you still too afraid to watch?
The Spiral Staircase (1946). I saw this as a child, late night tv, and it scared the bejeezus out of me.

If you were playing a character in a horror movie, what type of death scene would you like?
Oooh, boy. Well, drowning would be relatively painless, as these things go, but, is there a sexy way to die? That might be a nice juxtaposition. Considering life has been somewhat under sexed.

Who is the sexiest horror movie monster (any antagonist)?
Drawing a blank on this one.

What is the best nude scene in a horror movie?
Uhh. Not exactly my forte. Can I defer to the OP on this one? For some reason I feel quite sure he has an answer.

Do you prefer horror movies, books, campfire tales, podcasts, rollercoasters? What is your preferred way to enjoy being scared.
Films. Books are too realsies.

 

[Endless_Night]

< but I don't really watch horror movies >

< I am so not a horror movie person. >

I don't watch horror, either

I'm sorry. These responses do not compute.

Where's @NRJLIVES4ever when you need him.

 

[Biggalute]

Hey Twin-I am so not a horror movie person. I watched a ton before I was like 14-unsupervised life for the win-but I've basically blocked them all out. I didn't even finish stranger things.
I’ll sit this one out but appreciate a fellow non horror person.

I don't watch horror, either

And I hate being scared #ptsd

I used to hide behind the sofa at Dr Who, (ok, I still do)

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

I don't watch horror, either

And I hate being scared #ptsd

Love is the closest reaction I could use to fit the situation.

I'm fortunate, I was able to process some acute PTSD and stopped getting triggered by certain stimuli. I think my adrenaline junkie tendencies are a reaction to those traumas I still react to.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

I'm sorry. These responses do not compute.

Where's @NRJLIVES4ever when you need him.

Marathoning horror movies.