Kinkier as we get older?

[davion2308]

It's funny, I'm 42, my wife is 40, and I've gotten more open-minded and kinky and exploratory and she's become much more conservative. We used to play outside, have sexy adventures in public spaces, and she would indulge me in my exhibitionism kink. That was in our 20s and 30s. Maybe having kids has slowed her down but she's much less interested in trying new things or experimenting or doing anything outside some fairly vanilla sex. We have sex regularly but when I suggest or offer new or different or novel things, she'll decline.

I'd rather see more or different just to keep things interesting. I have more excitement with 'new' while she's drawn back.

 

[Deleted member 6789170]

Def yes

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Good point about HIV mid-seventies was risky; I left cock play mostly out by then.

You guys grew up in dark times. Nowadays someone with HIV/AIDS is the safest person you can play with.

 

[drobert44]

You guys grew up in dark times. Nowadays someone with HIV/AIDS is the safest person you can play with.

Dark times? I grew up in the 50's, no birth control!

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

even darker! Downright medieval!

 

[drobert44]

even darker! Downright medieval!

Yup, lots of teen pregnancies........and yes, I am kinky now.

 

[Buttboy7869]

Yup, lots of teen pregnancies........and yes, I am kinky now.

I’m a result of one of those teen pregnancies. Mom was just a couple months past 18 when I was born. Glad you’re kinky, me too.

 

[drobert44]

I’m a result of one of those teen pregnancies. Mom was just a couple months past 18 when I was born. Glad you’re kinky, me too.

I started at 70!

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Never too late.

 

[hulmule]

Not sure if we get kinky in old age. the fact we dont care what people think as much so things start to come out. Or you have memories when younger and didnt get to fulfill somethings. Its just in your genes i think. Been very sexual my whole life

 

[Buttboy7869]

Not sure if we get kinky in old age. the fact we dont care what people think as much so things start to come out. Or you have memories when younger and didnt get to fulfill somethings. It’s just in your genes i think. Been very sexual my whole life

I’ve also been very sexual all my life. I think you’re right that we care less about what others may think.

 

[hulmule]

I’ve also been very sexual all my life. I think you’re right that we care less about what others may think.

To me a lot on how sexual people are its in your genes. I guess if your exposed to things then you go that direction?? But i think we go towards sexual things is because its in the gene. So ways its a curse... You chase it, you need it to , it you dont get it you cant focus

 

[Wonderer67]

But what’s the cause? Is it communities like lit and/or easier access to porn?

I do agree with many posters, and that the older you get the less fucks you have to give.

I think communities like lit have helped me a lot. some things I never would’ve even thought about, or were disgusted by, started to pique my interest.

But other things were always with me: bisexual curiosity, femdom. I’d always considered myself “kinky” but really just think I am a super sexual person. Always have been.

But lit did open up some doors to me that I’d never really explored before. many bdsm practices (dominance, but also many submissive things: chastity, orgasm control). I’ve NEVER thought abt pee play till lit, but sound it to be a very erotic and intimate act.

And I introduced the idea of an open marriage to my wife. It didn’t work, but we found a happy medium in public nudity.

Long story short, I think lit and all you fabulous litsters helped me feel more comfortable abt my kinks and explore them more deeply w my wife. We always had great sex, but it’s off the charts now.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I am not sure if age has anything to do with it; however, on the other hand, one would assume that as you get older you accumulate more life experience and, at some point, you realize the futility of hanging on to obsolete or rigid ideas you were “force fed” as a child.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I have. I usually love to get dirty and kinky. I'm much nastier than I was 10 years ago.

 

[Jordanjack]

50 yo here. I’ve gotten way kinkier over the years. However my sex life is very vanilla. Wife is very reserved, she has no idea the level of my kinks.

 

[Buttboy7869]

50 yo here. I’ve gotten way kinkier over the years. However my sex life is very vanilla. Wife is very reserved, she has no idea the level of my kinks.

That’s unfortunate. Sorry

 

[Jordanjack]

That’s unfortunate. Sorry

Yeah. I know we need to discuss it more. The communication around sex is terrible. She doesn’t like to talk about, and that makes me uncomfortable to make her feel uncomfortable. I would talk about it all day long if I could.

 

[Buttboy7869]

Yeah. I know we need to discuss it more. The communication around sex is terrible. She doesn’t like to talk about, and that makes me uncomfortable to make her feel uncomfortable. I would talk about it all day long if I could.

You’re right communication is all important.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Definitely the same

I'd love to discuss it if you're up for it. If you're only here for the forums, no hard feelings.

 

[grifin]

Definitely kinkier as I’ve gotten older

 

[Exploringwife46]

If only I knew then what we know now. The mind opens to more unconventional exploration as we age. At least it's been that way for me.

 

[Trubbycat]

So many things in our youth we say we'll never ever do, it's disgusting, it's wrong... and then one day you go hmmmmm...

 

[luvclassics]

If only I knew then what we know now. The mind opens to more unconventional exploration as we age. At least it's been that way for me.

At least for me that rings true as well! I don’t know if it the mind way of rebelling against age or just a way to have more frequent interlude’s from life’s daily grind. Either way it can be a curse if not satisfied and something pleasant with a willing partner!

 

[SPARTAN047]

So many things in our youth we say we'll never ever do, it's disgusting, it's wrong... and then one day you go hmmmmm...

You've described exactly what happened to me. Lots of things I used to consider disgusting as a teen, including some about strange places to cum and bodily functions, are now very sexy and appealing to me.