How many of you have gotten kinkier and more libidinous as you got older? I grew up in strict religion and sex was limited to traditional and oral. Then bondage, spanking, anal. Then in my late 40's, I got into pegging, fisting, occasional crossdressing, etc. Now, at 60, I am kinkier than ever.
Kinkier as we get older?
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Dirtyoldbob
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I can relate to that. I've just turned 60 and had my first domination session with a mistress this last weekend.
I wish I had had the balls to do it years ago.
I've already got another session booked, and am looking forward to see where it takes me.
I wish I had had the balls to do it years ago.
I've already got another session booked, and am looking forward to see where it takes me.
Yarglenurp
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Yeah, but it’s not a linear progression. I think I get interested in a kink, then lose interest for a while, then maybe it comes back, or maybe I think it’s boring forever.
Boat1
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...but you're experimenting and trying it out, which is a great thing IMHO.
Nerdyjerkoff
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I was getting kinkier as I got older and more experienced… until I got married to someone who is very vanilla … sometimes I wonder how I would be if I married someone that was kinkier 
drobert44
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Good luck finding a kinky dame.I was getting kinkier as I got older and more experienced… until I got married to someone who is very vanilla … sometimes I wonder how I would be if I married someone that was kinkier
Sexysubs1ut
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For me the progression coincided with age. Meaning as I got comfortable and pushed limits, I discovered more soft limits that I wanted to explore, each time progressing to be more and more open to kinks. The hard part part is finding someone who is open to those same things.
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I wonder if it’s we get kinkier or that less and less shock us and we get over going “ew”
Lucy_Lastic
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Not sure anything ever shocked me. Elbow deep anal fisting maybe... horses maybe... but everything I saw in porn in my formative years just intrigued me.
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It’s probably a combination of different things for different people.
I wouldn’t be surprised if, for some people, it becomes a behavioral addiction. They just develop an ever-growing list of acceptable fetishes because the person just wants to keep chasing that “first-time” high of doing something extremely sensually pleasurable. Since that those heights of “novel new pleasure” stop being novel after the first few times, the chase must go on.
Sappho_CGN
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My husband and me now tried in our 40ies more than before. We had a dry phase when the children were really small and now try more things and speak very open.
So ... I think I am not more sexually interested than in the beginning - if you do not count a stress-caused sexfree-period - but we are now more open and experimenting.
So ... I think I am not more sexually interested than in the beginning - if you do not count a stress-caused sexfree-period - but we are now more open and experimenting.
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DpropertyofR
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I am in my forties. I was pretty much born a slut. I had kinky fantasies from a very early age, but it wasn’t until almost two years ago that I found my Master so that I could explore those fantasies. The thing is, my Master has gotten me to engage in activities that I previously had never thought of doing. This is turn encourages me to get creative when thinking about things I might want to try.
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I think it’s probably a product of exposure, more than age. Sure, those of us with more years have had more Time to be exposed to more and find things that interest us. There’s also time to adjust, say to something you were less than enthusiastic about and the more you were exposed to it, the more you learned about it, became interested and enthusiastic about. So, it can happen for younger people, just increasingly likely as we age.
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I’ve certainly expanded my horizons as I’ve aged. I was always somewhat adventurous but as I got older what was acceptable covered more ground. Oral, anal, vaginal with men or women is fine. Pegging, fisting, panties and thigh highs on my back, knees raised and my ass full for an audience very arousing. As you age you realize that other people don’t care a whit what you do sexually so just have fun.
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That's beautiful! Thanks for the share!
panty_chap
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My limits have certainly changed as I've gotten older. Especially during the stay at home phase a few years ago I went down quite a rabbit hole that made me realize I'm not the straight guy I thought I was.
kathyisgr65
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I'm definitely getting kinkier w age... but I think my mind just keeps getting more open to suggestions and I'm steady exploring.
Nice Avatar, you look great
I think it's exposure as much as anything. I got deep into the gay kink party scene in the 70s (pre-HIV thankfully) and was exhilarated by it. But they were not forgiving times to be gay or bi, and if anyone in my family knew what I got up to at parties I honestly think I'd have been suicidal.
I didn't come out publicly as bi until I was 60 but nowadays I can openly discuss it with strangers at munches without a second thought.
I meet a lot of younger (20s+) people at munches you know exactly where they are kink-wise. The internet is a great tool for disseminating information and finding your tribe. I envy them.
I didn't come out publicly as bi until I was 60 but nowadays I can openly discuss it with strangers at munches without a second thought.
I meet a lot of younger (20s+) people at munches you know exactly where they are kink-wise. The internet is a great tool for disseminating information and finding your tribe. I envy them.
robertaverage
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For me, it's time and money availability and the desire to try stuff I've watched over years in film and video. Also, returning to stuff I did early on, mainly cock play
Sappho_CGN
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We do things we have not done before ... but the fantasies were all there and we now have the courage and the understanding to talk about it and to try.
We are not kinkier in the meaning that our needs and wishes become kinkier, i. e. the "dosis must not be stronger", we are kinkier as we now do things we wanted but had not the courage to try it.
We are not kinkier in the meaning that our needs and wishes become kinkier, i. e. the "dosis must not be stronger", we are kinkier as we now do things we wanted but had not the courage to try it.
robertaverage
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Good point about HIV mid-seventies was risky; I left cock play mostly out by then.
When I was playing I was getting fucked bare a lot, but the HIV thing was still just gay flu that was happening in America. Thankfully by the time the extent of the risk, and disease, were known, I'd become involved with the woman I would later marry and left all that behind.
