How to find an online romantic/erotic relationship?

[MaximTerhune]

How do I find a woman to exchange fantasies with online and be anonymous? My privacy is paramount. My desire to share my kinks, and have an online friend to share hers with no judgement would be quite liberating I feel.

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

It can be tough to balance anonymity with sexual intimacy. Most women don’t need your full name and address, but they need to know you’re not a creep, and in many cases, that you’re not already in a relationship with someone else. Building friendships and trust is usually a good place to start. Also, keep in mind that her privacy is probably paramount to her as well, and respect that.

 

[MaximTerhune]

I absolutely would respect her privacy. I should have said I am in a relationship though. That was thoughtless. I just can't help but imagine how nice it would be to find an online friend to get kinky with. My partners sex drive has been shrinking while mine has been growing.

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

I absolutely would respect her privacy. I should have said I am in a relationship though. That was thoughtless. I just can't help but imagine how nice it would be to find an online friend to get kinky with. My partners sex drive has been shrinking while mine has been growing.

Being in a relationship isn’t a dealbreaker for all women, but it is for many. It is definitely something you should disclose before starting anything intimate with a new person. Waiting even what you might think is a short time can be devastating.

 

[MaximTerhune]

I just went through another forum topic and it was about how the women on here are treated so poorly. I know men can be absolute pricks, I should have known they would be worse online. I think I just have unrealistic fantasies of finding a cool lady online to swap stories with. It's unfortunate, but understandable.

 

[hulmule]

I just went through another forum topic and it was about how the women on here are treated so poorly. I know men can be absolute pricks, I should have known they would be worse online. I think I just have unrealistic fantasies of finding a cool lady online to swap stories with. It's unfortunate, but understandable.

Yea dont understand why they would want to treat them poorly. I love people , so just enjoy the ride while on here.

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

I just went through another forum topic and it was about how the women on here are treated so poorly. I know men can be absolute pricks, I should have known they would be worse online. I think I just have unrealistic fantasies of finding a cool lady online to swap stories with. It's unfortunate, but understandable.

It’s not the “finding” that is the hard part, but the “keeping” things pleasant and working for both parties that is the real challenge. Any interpersonal relationship is work, whether it’s your official offline romantic relationship or an online Lituationship. Some guys (especially those in offline relationships) forget that there’s a real person with feelings at the other end, not just some fucktoy to take out and play with whenever it’s convenient for them. Don’t be one of those guys. Ideally, you get out of a relationship what you put into it. If you want yourself and potential playmate to be open in sharing kinks and fantasies, you will have to be open about who you are, what you are looking for and what you can (and can’t) offer. Granted, I don’t know anything about you outside of this thread, but you don’t seem like a dick who would treat someone that way. Keep all the above in mind (especially disclosing your relationship before any intimate interactions occur) and you should be fine. Good luck!

 

[MiaBabe23]

Some guys (especially those in offline relationships) forget that there’s a real person with feelings at the other end, not just some fucktoy to take out and play with whenever it’s convenient for them

So true
Don’t be that person - I’ve actually found that it’s online that guys are far worse, but for sure; don’t be that person

 

[MiaBabe23]

Yea dont understand why they would want to treat them poorly. I love people , so just enjoy the ride while on here.

Tbh “just enjoy the ride” is often linked with treating people poorly - see Kitty’s post above

 

[hulmule]

Tbh “just enjoy the ride” is often linked with treating people poorly - see Kitty’s post above

I guess thats how i was taught- my saying. Enjoy the ride to your destination. How anyone cant be upfront on lit , now at the work place... Like dating people in good behave . People change ,just wish the other partner would be open . I'm in a sexless marriage. Try to be open to wife in my needs , never worked. Seems she hold over my head to control i think. Plus menopause she says doesnt even come into mind to have any type of closeness. Sad... But i still dont treat her badly for not wanting sex.

 

[quietlylooking]

Some (but not all) women want more than just a sexual connection. I believe some guys can ruin things with some women by jumping too fast into explicitly sexual talk. Getting to know the person as a friend, as a person, can help give some women the security in the budding relationship that allows them to move gradually into the warmer waters. Even if it is "just online", it still may require more trust for her before she really wants to go there. You may need to cultivate the relationship for some time, and take your cues from her.

Plus, it can make that turning point from friend to more-than-friend more exciting.

 

[magic_rat]

Treat any interaction as if you were face to face. If you met a woman IRL you wouldn't grab her tits as a way of saying hello.

Make conversation. It's easy, just be a nice guy and don't be a prick.

 

[LB4524]

How do I find a woman to exchange fantasies with online and be anonymous? My privacy is paramount. My desire to share my kinks, and have an online friend to share hers with no judgement would be quite liberating I feel.

Hi! I am interested. I am new here so I am not sure how to go about the anonymity but mine is also important. Interested in sharing and hearing.

 

[Spanky1372]

As others have said. Be nice, be polite, be interesting. Listen/read and understand what the other person is writing. Ask questions and be engaged with the other person but don't be creepy about it.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Yea dont understand why they would want to treat them poorly. I love people , so just enjoy the ride while on here.

I can vouch for hulmule as a great chat partner.
He is always polite, sweet, kinky, and horny.
You can't find him here when he's not.
If you want to see how women respond to a great guy, check Hulmule's past posts.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Hi! I am interested. I am new here so I am not sure how to go about the anonymity but mine is also important. Interested in sharing and hearing.

Anonymity is not difficult, but it needs diligence.
Made up names.
Give general location, not actual. I use either the closest major city, or a tourist location nearby
Don't share cell numbers. When you are comfortable enough to leave Lit and speak/text more often, use an app like Skype, KIK, Telegram, Snapchat, etc. Use a fake name.
I have met several men from this site. And I have known men who live very close and I will never meet.

I still chat with the first 3 guys I met IRL. We met online in early 2020, before CoVID.

Good luck.
I chat with 8 men very regularly. Besides actual names and home addresses, we know a lot about each other. We are friends and kinky lovers.

 

[hulmule]

I can vouch for hulmule as a great chat partner.
He is always polite, sweet, kinky, and horny.
You can't find him here when he's not.
If you want to see how women respond to a great guy, check Hulmule's past posts.

Thanks for that reply. Life is to short. Not here to judge, here to find friends, enjoy them, help them if down and having a bad one. Check in on people and put a smile on their face. SMILE- its the second best thing you can do with your lips

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Thanks for that reply. Life is to short. Not here to judge, here to find friends, enjoy them, help them if down and having a bad one. Check in on people and put a smile on their face. SMILE- its the second best thing you can do with your lips

I hope kissing is the first.

 

[hulmule]

I hope kissing is the first.

Love kissing, sad in this sexless marriage, wife was never a kisser. Pecks one or 2 that's it. I love deep long kiss. It so stimulating to me

 

[littlecordelera]

How do I find a woman to exchange fantasies with online and be anonymous? My privacy is paramount. My desire to share my kinks, and have an online friend to share hers with no judgement would be quite liberating I feel.

I suggest you rewrite your profile to describe the person you are. What is important to you in life? What are your hobbies? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? What do you do for a living? If you are hoping for chat that will include your fantasies, then what are your sexual interests? Describe who you are. Without some information about your character, to anyone else looking for a chat partner, you're just a random guy. Give people a reason to want to contact you. Shared interests is a good reason, but we need to know those interests.

Also, get involved in the forums if you are not already. That is a great way to meet people online.

And one last thing. I've been on this website for 11 years. I don't know where all the rude guys are that people write about. I've received hundreds of PM's. I only remember one rude one.

Good luck with your search.

 

[Bayzapper10]

Some (but not all) women want more than just a sexual connection

Some guys to, not all of us are looking to “get off” and then get lost. The greatest seduction begins with the mind, having a connection developing as you begin playing is so much more satisfying.

 

[GOODLUCKEVA]

Finding a like-minded woman to share fantasies with online while maintaining privacy is definitely possible. Consider joining reputable forums or platforms specifically for adult discussions, where anonymity is respected. Look for communities that prioritize safety and consent, such as BDSM or kink-focused groups. Engaging in respectful conversations can help build trust, making it easier to share kinks without judgment. Just remember to set boundaries and communicate openly about privacy preferences.

 

[MaximTerhune]

Finding a like-minded woman to share fantasies with online while maintaining privacy is definitely possible. Consider joining reputable forums or platforms specifically for adult discussions, where anonymity is respected. Look for communities that prioritize safety and consent, such as BDSM or kink-focused groups. Engaging in respectful conversations can help build trust, making it easier to share kinks without judgment. Just remember to set boundaries and communicate openly about privacy preferences.

What are your suggestions for reputable forums or platforms that I should check out?

 

[Bbl87]

Anonymity is not difficult, but it needs diligence.
Made up names.
Give general location, not actual. I use either the closest major city, or a tourist location nearby
Don't share cell numbers. When you are comfortable enough to leave Lit and speak/text more often, use an app like Skype, KIK, Telegram, Snapchat, etc. Use a fake name.
I have met several men from this site. And I have known men who live very close and I will never meet.

I still chat with the first 3 guys I met IRL. We met online in early 2020, before CoVID.

Good luck.
I chat with 8 men very regularly. Besides actual names and home addresses, we know a lot about each other. We are friends and kinky lovers.

This is probably the best advice I've seen.

I work in the public sector so I tend to be very careful with my anonymity.

But, the reality is if you want any kind of intimate relationship with someone you will definitely end up being open about certain parts of your life. But you can do that without sharing full on identifying information.

There is a grand total of one person on here that knows my actual complete name, and it's because we're now friends on social media outside of Lit. We know alot about each other's lives, more than some of our "IRL" friends probably do. She's also the person who I have probably stayed most consistently in contact with over my time here, much less ebb and flow.

But that is very much the exception to the rule.

I've never used a made up name, but that's just because I'd have a hard time keeping track of it.

 

[Bbl87]

And in addition to the response above, I'll just add that you're better off just endeavoring to get to know people.

The vast majority of people I've become close or close-ish with on here are people I've gotten to know through posting in the same threads. I don't go looking in personals or trying to find someone, but if someone piques my interest and we really get along in threads, I may send them a message just to say hi. It helps not coming into it with the pretense of, let's talk dirty. If you hit it off, that may come eventually.

Oh, and don't lead with a dick pic. From my conversations with friends on here, that seems to be unfortunately more common of a strategy than you'd think.

And, be open about what you're looking for and what you're doing. I've done the Lit-lationship thing. She was a wonderful, beautiful person, but things got complicated and too "real" and after that things just kind of faded and she's not around that I see anymore.

Any more, I'm just really looking for friends to talk to, maybe share some of our sexual interests and some online "play" if there's mutual interest, but if not that's cool. But I'm also very open about the fact I'm not Lit-monogamous and I don't expect anyone else I'm talking with to be.