masturbation vs. sex

[Easyvirtue]

It’s been difficult to connect with the wife for the past year.
I don’t press the issue because I don’t wanna fight anymore!
SOOOO, I live out my fantasies and am never told no when I just masturbate instead.

 

[womaneater58]

My sex life has slowed down a lot so I've been spending most mornings on Lit. I find that when masturbating, I can enjoy it longer and the orgasms are much better. It's a great way to relax before starting my day.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I feel kind of guilty, but I enjoy masturbating alone more than having sex. It's really nice when the only thing I have to focus on is my own pleasure. Sometimes, it seems like I'm the only one who cares about it.

 

[PersonalFavors]

I’ve never been married. Throughout my many loves, lovers, encounters, opportunities….. I preferred the ones who enjoyed foreplay more or as much as sex. To me being in charge of your partners pleasure and climax like that is much more intimate than sex itself. I think that comes from myself. Before I discovered ejaculation I reveled in my erection. From my earliest memories being the tree that grew in the bath tub and show-n-tell with the girl next door, having an erection and fondling and moving my balls around or straddling something to gently grind them was my secret. I literally thought no one knew but me.
From that first morning waking up and feeling with enough time to see my cum for the first time I’ve been jerking off everyday. It’s an obsession? Sometimes I do skip days or more, but only because the climax may be more intense, more copious. There were times I didn’t need to jerk off because the lover du jour was a master at hand jobs or head. My obsession was filled during those times with feeling her climax by tongue or hand.
Now almost 60 the steady music of lovers has slowed or even stopped like the music in musical chairs. I’m lucky the lover I landed on does like sex, but no foreplay. I’ve tried masturbating in front of her, but it was upsetting. Like I should only cum inside her. Or she acts as if I don’t like her.
I still have a great time with myself. I lover the fantasy that builds to my release. I love to cum. There is evidence that just goes unmentioned. Even though I still cum a lot I can clean up with two tissues. From time to time I treat myself to a massage in hopes to feel someone touch me that way. No matter how much I love relieving my throbbing distraction, I do know it feels better when someone does it for you. Same as when I did it for someone else.

 

[Lisalit13]

Mmm sometimes you need to take matters into your own hands….hehe

 

[OnaTangent]

I am between relationships at the moment but even when I am having sex on a regular basis I still enjoy masturbating... it's a very different experience.

 

[Wonderer67]

My wife and I have a fairly active sex life.

But recently, we have been preferring, mutual masturbation, or watching me to intercourse.

I’m kind of enjoying it.

 

[OnaTangent]

Mutual masturbation is good foreplay

 

[Dnthmn_19]

My wife and I are well into our 60s and we find having sex is getting just too difficult. The rare time she's receptive, we each get leg cramps and often have to stop right when it's getting good. The worst is that the tightness of her vagina has lessened over the years, while my penis requires much more intense stimulation to reach orgasm than it used to. The physical effort of thrusting into her to make either of us come is too much for my back. She's lost interest in other stuff like oral, mutual manual etc. so I just enjoy myself.

 

[ArseGratiaArtis]

My ex-wife and I had a few rules about this, and one was that cum belonged to her. One time she walked in while I was watching porn and masturbating and after a brief conversation about what I was doing, took off her clothes and sat in my lap, fucking me until I came in her as we watched the video.

Another rule was that sex was never a reward, nor withholding it a punishment. It was just something we did and enjoyed, and we learned to schedule it into our busy lives. It was never, "I don't want to have sex," but "I'll be home by 8. Be waiting." Or "It's going to be a late night. How about a quickie now?"

 

[PSO77]

It’s been difficult to connect with the wife for the past year.
I don’t press the issue because I don’t wanna fight anymore!
SOOOO, I live out my fantasies and am never told no when I just masturbate instead.

 

[InterestedBlonde]

Does anyone sometimes prefer masturbation vs. having sex?

100% do not prefer it.
Don't get me wrong, it is convenient and nice, but would never do it myself if my partner was willing and available.
But if he wasn't willing and available, he'd be in my head.

 

[OddLove]

I don't have a sex life cause I'm not currently dating, although I'd give it a shot if I met someone and the chemistry was their. But I imagine I'd be masturbating too, cause I jerk off anywhere from 1 to 3 times a day, some days even more. There's no way a partner would always be in the mood, so you should just do it yourself. It's much more respectful then being a sex pest. So sounds like you're doing the right thing in my opinion.

 

[Tomr]

I love jackin' off but I prefer sex over it when possible. Never married and currently single. I'm 66.

 

[OnaTangent]

I have always loved masturbation. Even when I was getting sex regularly I still enjoyed the solo experience, or sharing it with my partner.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Interesting topic.

In masturbation, you can provide, in a sense, anything you want to yourself...except spontaneity. it's great, but their are few surprises. The only ones for me are when I am jerking off to porn that I have never seen before. Rarely, I will stumble on something new that is super-hot, different, and great. That's the best it can get for me alone.

In sex with my partner, it is often similar to the many times we have had sex before. It's always a little different, but the menu never changes. Rarely, my partner will say or do something different, which is great, but rare.

So for me, I'm glad I have both.

 

[PSO77]

Interesting topic.

In masturbation, you can provide, in a sense, anything you want to yourself...except spontaneity. it's great, but their are few surprises. The only ones for me are when I am jerking off to porn that I have never seen before. Rarely, I will stumble on something new that is super-hot, different, and great. That's the best it can get for me alone.

In sex with my partner, it is often similar to the many times we have had sex before. It's always a little different, but the menu never changes. Rarely, my partner will say or do something different, which is great, but rare.

So for me, I'm glad I have both.

Same

 

[PeteyPP]

I enjoy mutual masterbation with my partner . I love to watch her play with her pussy as I stroke my dick

 

[PSO77]

I enjoy mutual masterbation with my partner . I love to watch her play with her pussy as I stroke my dick

I love doing this as well with my husband!

 

[yyml]

I like masturbation. Because it can imagined at the same time. Look at the pic or vid, you can fuck whoever you want.

 

[Wonderer67]

My wife and I are fond of mutual masturbation. I love watching her masturbate with her fingers and then her hitachi. She anlmost always cums in threes: it usually takes her abt ten minutes to cum. So a good 30-40 min session will see her cum three times.

I love it when she cums so hard she has to hand off her hitachi to me. I use it on the underside of my cock… then hand it back to her.

We almost always face each other in bed or on the couch when we MM.

 

[WonderPonder]

I prefer masturbation over intercourse. Being in a hotwife-cuckold lifestyle I'm not permitted to have intercourse with my wife which is something I agreed on. That being said I get regular handjobs, perform oral on my wife often and get to watch along with joining in with my wife and our neighbor Roland.
Even though I don't get to fuck or make love to my wife anymore our sex life hasn't been better. It's definitely better for her.

 

[ADIDAS00]

I think everyone needs a mixture of both. Masturbating all the time isn’t fulfilling, but every now and then self pleasure is important I think.

 

[NightBirdNYC]

I wrote about this in a different thread today. For me, masturbation is different from sex with another person. It's time for me to be with my own thoughts, my own body, and my own pleasure.

I love my husband, and he is a great lover. I also like being with women. But the year before last, when I had both Hubby and a girlfriend, I still masturbated. It's the ultimate "me" time.

I so get that! And somehow I doubt I'm alone here. Masturbation is my delicious "alone time" when I let my mind roam. And who better to know my own body than me?

https://vlix.io/video/8a4393aace23e8f35312/

 

[NightBirdNYC]

Mmm sometimes you need to take matters into your own hands….hehe

Absolutely!