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Nothing wrong with that!!
I think a lot of women get caught up in the whole marriage fantasy. But marriage solves problems. Or that lust equals love. As I get older that stuff doesn't mean anything to me. Loyalty, companionship, communication, Etc. Are much more important to me anyway. And I know that I have to have myself right before I can even think about being right for somebody else.
 
It took me a long time to figure that out. You're going through it now, with the whole ex jerk. The best thing to do in your life is to set boundaries, say something and stand up for yourself if something isn't right, don't make excuses for other adults.. they're responsible for themselves. And a few good things I learned early in my journey to getting better is that I am the author of my story. I liked it a previous post where you wrote that he wasn't 100% responsible for the breakdown your marriage. No one is a victim except for a victim of their own bad decisions. That victim mentality will keep you in a mess. Also no one can make you feel anyway. For instance you made me mad, sad, angry, irritated, etc. no you chose the reaction. And that's really all you can control is your reaction. I have my own struggles with this. I have absolutely zero ability to tolerate stupidity. I am short tempered with people and not patient. But I have to figure that out because they're not responsible for my actions I'm responsible for them. They aren't going to change no matter what I do, so I have to be flexible and adjust and deal with it on my side. It is a hard lesson we taught my nephew when he was 17 teach your daughter when she's younger she's going to grow up and be have healthy relationships with decent people and not run into the struggles. Also when you do all this stuff, these narcissists an assholes run in the opposite direction because they know that you are not going to fall for their s***
 
Oh and to add to previous statements about what I want in a relationship..someone to scratch my back...... and not one of those stupid back scratchers... a real back scratch...qnd I will return the favor, but my back scratches come first...hahahahaha


You're on a roll today, ma'am. Keep it up. Really. I agree with you because I'm a lot like you. I learned all of mine the Hard Way.


I believe that an afternoon visit with the Kittehs is in order.


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Thank you for the kind words and well wishes everyone. Much appreciated!

I lost the pain game yesterday. Nothing was helping. Even using Lit as a distraction flamed out. Had to duck out early as a result.

We'll see how long I last today. Right now... it's nap time. 🛌 :sleep:
Speech to text is your friend. Take care of you.
 
I knew a man who was older than I, lost his wife to cancer, found an amazing partner, and then learned his partner had breast cancer. I asked him during our cancer support group how he kept his sanity? He responded that he takes it one day at a time and enjoys something about that day with his partner even though they knew they could get bad news at any moment. His advice kept me sane. Try it RJ. Enjoy the moment.
It's really difficult to do because Mrs Rj has CGD - Chronic Granulomatous Disease.
It's a autoimmune disease of which is no cure and you know I'm Manic Depressive. I only exist for her and I am presently Enjoying my remaining time with her.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases...lomatous-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20355817
 
Oh and to add to previous statements about what I want in a relationship..someone to scratch my back...... and not one of those stupid back scratchers... a real back scratch...qnd I will return the favor, but my back scratches come first...hahahahaha
I'll scratch your back. I won't even hit on you :LOL: Oh, and you won't have to scratch mine back
 
Replay of yesterday. Found out I didn’t have to see my mom. (Who is fine btw)

Suzie and I got deep into the woods again. We saw yesterday that a huge ash tree fell, and took out a birch and a baby beech tree. We love beech trees, so we wanted to save it. (And got a bunch of ash for firewood too)

Baby beech squished… 🙁🙁

But we cut around it and pushed it back up!

Then we had to widen the trail, cuz it’s harder to maneuver with the trailer on the sidebyside.

Back home to mow the lawns in the town where I maintain two properties. Then home to skinny dip, enjoy some chips and homemade guac poolside till the thunderstorms chased us inside!

Enjoy the bees buzzing in the wildflower garden….
 
I am presently Enjoying my remaining time with her.
That reminds me of B2's post: He responded that he takes it one day at a time and enjoys something about that day with his partner

One day at a time. Find something to love each day.
(((RJ and Mrs. RJ))) Here's to finding love, beauty, joy, something in each day here on this earth. 💞
Love the bees. What's not to like?
Not enough Epi-Pens in the world for me.
But sound off? Lovely :D
IRL the bumble bees (i.e. honey bees) tend to be fat & happy if you leave them alone. It's more the hornets and wasps that are the <expletive> of the bunch. :rolleyes:
 
Not enough Epi-Pens in the world for me.
But sound off? Lovely :D
IRL the bumble bees (i.e. honey bees) tend to be fat & happy if you leave them alone. It's more the hornets and wasps that are the <expletive> of the bunch. :rolleyes:


Yes. The honey bees and bumble bees have left me alone as long as I left them alone. I will speak to them in Springtime when I walk outside and they are on the blooms and blossoms.


Carpenter bees seem to be quite reluctant to sting. You can slap them away and they will stay slapped. The landlady puts out traps for them (they bore holes in the barn's framework) and then feeds them to the chickens.
 
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