What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[Amanda330]

To most, some are undeserving of that effort

Kindness costs nothing - and who are we to decide who is deserving or not? Be kind and let karma work it out.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

Kindness costs nothing - and who are we to decide who is deserving or not? Be kind and let karma work it out.

Yes, we are to decide

Some are undeserving, would you be kind to a child molester or a wife beater ? I see horrible human being walking around my city and they deserve nothing kind.


Most people deserve to be treated well and with respect, but not every person. Sounds like a perfect world thing to say, but in practice treating a horrible person well, is rewarding horrible behavior.

 

[Amanda330]

Yes, we are to decide

Some are undeserving, would you be kind to a child molester or a wife beater ? I see horrible human being walking around my city and they deserve nothing kind.


Most people deserve to be treated well and with respect, but not every person. Sounds like a perfect world thing to say, but in practice treating a horrible person well, is rewarding horrible behavior.

I choose kindness. You do what you want.

Talk about extreme examples. Arguments like that are for argument's sake, alone. I said have karma sort it out because I would rather spread kindness and positivity than be afraid I smiled at someone who didn't deserve it. Or helped someone who didn't deserve it. I'm not going to sit in judgment of others when I do not know their story.

A smile never hurts. And maybe the person doesn't deserve it - but also - maybe they do and it helps them feel better in a moment they needed it.

As I said, I'll let karma work it out.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

You never know what someone is going through in their life. Be kind and considerate to everyone.

This. Absolutely this.

Kindness costs nothing - and who are we to decide who is deserving or not? Be kind and let karma work it out.

Also this. Just in the very least don't be a dick.

Some are undeserving, would you be kind to a child molester or a wife beater ? I see horrible human being walking around my city and they deserve nothing kind.

Ugh. Thanks, Travis Bickle. I mean how often do you actually encounter those types? Also that's an extreme example designed only to derail someone's simple point of saying "Let's not be awful to each other."

I choose kindness. You do what you want.

Talk about extreme examples. Arguments like that are for argument's sake, alone. I said have karma sort it out because I would rather spread kindness and positivity than be afraid I smiled at someone who didn't deserve it. Or helped someone who didn't deserve it. I'm not going to sit in judgment of others when I do not know their story.

A smile never hurts. And maybe the person doesn't deserve it - but also - maybe they do and it helps them feel better in a moment they needed it.

As I said, I'll let karma work it out.

Beautifully said. I'm very glad I grew up watching Mr. Rogers.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

I choose kindness. You do what you want.

Talk about extreme examples. Arguments like that are for argument's sake, alone. I said have karma sort it out because I would rather spread kindness and positivity than be afraid I smiled at someone who didn't deserve it. Or helped someone who didn't deserve it. I'm not going to sit in judgment of others when I do not know their story.

A smile never hurts. And maybe the person doesn't deserve it - but also - maybe they do and it helps them feel better in a moment they needed it.

As I said, I'll let karma work it out.

Then you are privileged enough not to have to deal with such individuals. Rewarding bad behavior, just invites more bad behavior.

You don't seem to be smiling at me at this moment , but I am

 

[Donotrustanybody]

This. Absolutely this.

Also this. Just in the very least don't be a dick.

Ugh. Thanks, Travis Bickle. I mean how often do you actually encounter those types?

Everyday

Also that's an extreme example designed only to derail someone's simple point of saying "Let's not be awful to each other."

Beautifully said. I'm very glad I grew up watching Mr. Rogers.

I did too, but I also watched G.I. Joe

 

[Amanda330]

Then you are privileged enough not to have to deal with such individuals. Rewarding bad behavior, just invites more bad behavior.

You don't seem to be smiling at me at this moment , but I am

I actually work with children from homes where those kinds of terrible behaviors occur. And guess what? I still believe in being kind. Because what problems did getting angry ever solve?

You know fuck all about me. Don't make assumptions you know nothing about. You know what assuming does, don't you?

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

Everyday

Sure, Jan.

I did too, but I also watched G.I. Joe

My favorite episode of GI Joe was the one where the Joe team weren't weird assholes to people.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

Sure, Jan.

My favorite episode of GI Joe was the one where the Joe team weren't weird assholes to people.

Just like you are in the message above.


I could say a lot of negative things about you, but I know how to make my point, without being overly emotional and insulting.

 

[thetiesthatbindme]

There's no such thing as a DD who's single, looking for a serious, committed dynamic. They say all the right things, but r just looking for all the perks of having a devoted sub without giving a 2nd thought to their needs.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

There's no such thing as a DD who's single, looking for a serious, committed dynamic. They say all the right things, but r just looking for all the perks of having a devoted sub without giving a 2nd thought to their needs.

It's a giant responsibility


Most do not know what that entails and most aren't ready for it.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

Just like you are in the message above.


I could say a lot of negative things about you, but I know how to make my point, without being overly emotional and insulting.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

I actually work with children from homes where those kinds of terrible behaviors occur. And guess what? I still believe in being kind. Because what problems did getting angry ever solve?

You know fuck all about me. Don't make assumptions you know nothing about. You know what assuming does, don't you?

You deal with the victims, but are you faced with the responsibility of dealing with the monsters who victimize these innocent children ? Would you be kind to these monsters ?

These innocent children need help, therapy and a lot of love, to undo the damage that was done to them, but they also need justice.

I worked in a prison for a number of years and know, some people need to be held accountable


I do apologize in assuming that about you, I based it off your comments and should have not gone there.

 

[Amanda330]

You deal with the victims, but are you faced with the responsibility of dealing with the monsters who victimize these innocent children. Would you be kind to these monsters ?

These innocent children need help, therapy and a lot of love, to undo the damage that was done to them, but they also need justice.

I worked in a prison for a number of years and know, some people need to be held accountable


I do apologize in assuming that about you, I based it off your comments and should have not gone there.

Of course I'm faced with also dealing with them. Sometimes I have to pretend like I don't know anything about what is going on while CPS is building a case. Regardless, you made an assumption about me that was incorrect. I'm not going to make assumptions about others that may also be incorrect. It's not my job to stand in judgement.

I'm going to keep the argument on track tho. If I've been kind to someone who didn't deserve it then I don't actually give a shit. What I do care about is making those around me feel welcomed, cared for, and heard. I know lots of terrible horror stories of things happening to people who didn't deserve it - meted out by the hands of a monster - but I still choose to believe that being kind is the answer every single time.

 

[mnbreastluver]

I have a lovely bunch of coconuts.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

Of course I'm faced with also dealing with them. Sometimes I have to pretend like I don't know anything about what is going on while CPS is building a case. Regardless, you made an assumption about me that was incorrect. I'm not going to make assumptions about others that may also be incorrect. It's not my job to stand in judgement.

I'm going to keep the argument on track tho. If I've been kind to someone who didn't deserve it then I don't actually give a shit. What I do care about is making those around me feel welcomed, cared for, and heard. I know lots of terrible horror stories of things happening to people who didn't deserve it - meted out by the hands of a monster - but I still choose to believe that being kind is the answer every single time.

We do not totally disagree, I think we should be respectful and kind to most, but that is where we differ. We have lived different lives and play different roles in society, which is where, our differences in beliefs come from.


I didn't expect my comment on the subject to create a large reaction, I will drop this and let the thread move on.

 

[MindYaBitness]

We do not totally disagree, I think we should be respectful and kind to most, but that is where we differ. We have lived different lives and play different roles in society, which is where, our differences in beliefs come from.


I didn't expect my comment on the subject to create a large reaction, I will drop this and let the thread move on.

My mother did her grad work on serial killers. My spouse was a detective for 22 years, add to that, that I worked for a County DD Diversion program that found placement for sex offenders with an IQ of 70 or below, and I can tell you that I know with a certainty the evil that walks among us.

The problem is that you've let the worst 2% of society make you jaded to the other 98% that are good people. Am I going to schedule a prison visit with Dennis Rader just so I can smile at him and be kind? Absolutely not. However, my soul is set to kindness as my default mode. If you've hurt me or someone I hold dear, then we'll go on a case by case basis. However, in don't approach every human interaction questioning myself as to whether or not a person deserves my kindness.

Life is a lot better for me when I assume everyone is doing their best.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

My mother did her grad work on serial killers. My spouse was a detective for 22 years, add to that, that I worked for a County DD Diversion program that found placement for sex offenders with an IQ of 70 or below, and I can tell you that I know with a certainty the evil that walks among us.

The problem is that you've let the worst 2% of society make you jaded to the other 98% that are good people. Am I going to schedule a prison visit with Dennis Rader just so I can smile at him and be mind? Absolutely not. However, my soul is set to kindness as my default mode. If you've hurt me or someone I hold dear, then we'll go on a case by case basis. However, in don't approach every human interaction questioning myself as to whether or not a person deserves my kindness.

Life is a lot better for me when I assume everyone is doing their best.

I usually go by actions, that's how I make my judgments and decide how to treat people.

If I do not know them, I am respectful

Edited to add: I like your new Avatar

 

[Photog1rl]

Hope you are okay

Whatever it is I hope it’ll be better soon. Hugs!!

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Thank you for the check in. As @Kitty_so_frisky said the news of @PlanetaryNebula’s passing was shared today. She was an amazing person and a good friend and i simply can not believe it.

Let those you care about know.

 

[Shady_nz]

Fuck cancer .. FUCK FUCK FUCK Nebs passing..!
FUCK today ...
Today has been the shittiest most awful day ...ever..

 

[Photog1rl]

Fuck cancer .. FUCK FUCK FUCK Nebs passing..!
FUCK today ...

Sending all the hugs and love to you.

 

[Shady_nz]

Sending all the hugs and love to you.

Thanks PG
A very good friend of mine has just found out his GF has been diagnosed with Melenoma
This on top of the news re Nebs has capped off a shitty day

 

[ericalauren]

I just did my oral care routine and skin care routine even though I was exhausted. Please clap.

 

[AtramentousRex]

Damn, it is a rough fucking world out here. Its already a goddamned wasteland.

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

Sigh. Again.