Cock Talk

[Photog1rl]

There's been talk amongst the ladies on a couple group messages, of making a spreadsheet of reviews of the gentleman here. If such a thing were ever to come to fruition, it would make it so much easier to find a guy who lines up with your particular kinks & expectations!

I don’t remember discussing spreadsheet reviews but I’m not in any ladies’ group chats anymore
I’d have to get a lot more active and a lot less discerning and appeal to a lot more men if I were to make a list of my own. I will leave it up to y’all to collaborate but remember sharing is caring

 

[Bry1313]

There's been talk amongst the ladies on a couple group messages, of making a spreadsheet of reviews of the gentleman here. If such a thing were ever to come to fruition, it would make it so much easier to find a guy who lines up with your particular kinks & expectations!

Men don’t trust each other enough to share our bone lists with each other. Another area where we are different.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

There's been talk amongst the ladies on a couple group messages, of making a spreadsheet of reviews of the gentleman here. If such a thing were ever to come to fruition, it would make it so much easier to find a guy who lines up with your particular kinks & expectations!

This has already happened on lit, first thing they do is go out with their pitchforks outing the guy ( because womem of lit hate online players ), but eventually start fighting each other either off of jealousy or trying to steal each others men.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Men don’t trust each other enough to share our bone lists with each other. Another area where we are different.

Women are conditioned not to share, lest we gain a slutty reputation. However, if I were to be an administrator of such a list, confidentiality would have to be gauranteed

 

[MindYaBitness]

This has already happened on lit, first thing they do is go out with their pitchforks outing the guy ( because womem of lit hate online players ), but eventually start fighting each other either off of jealousy or trying to steal each others men.

I need no pitch forks
https://i.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExOWEyNHJ2eTRtMXMzem1yd2Y2Z3BoNXRldWhiM3hjMTdvaGd2ajI0ZCZlcD12MV9pbnRlcm5hbF9naWZfYnlfaWQmY3Q9Zw/xUNd9JH73srCUD74UE/giphy.gif

 

[Darkrhytm]

Women are conditioned not to share, lest we gain a slutty reputation. However, if I were to be an administrator of such a list, confidentiality would have to be gauranteed

Worrying about reputation as opposed to being authentic can lead to lots of angst

 

[MindYaBitness]

Worrying about reputation as opposed to being authentic can lead to lots of angst

Ya, just imagine a world where women were as sexually free as men and didn't have to be worried about "body count" shaming, and could take the time to find a sexually compatible partner

 

[Bry1313]

Ya, just imagine a world where women were as sexually free as men and didn't have to be worried about "body count" shaming, and could take the time to find a sexually compatible partner

I’ve never understood praising one gender for a body count and shaming the other gender for it. It doesn’t make sense.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

I’ve never understood praising one gender for a body count and shaming the other gender for it. It doesn’t make sense.

It makes perfect sense to me lmao

 

[Darkrhytm]

I’ve never understood praising one gender for a body count and shaming the other gender for it. It doesn’t make sense.

Plenty of men/society ascribe worth to “purity,” which is a very judeo Christian notion ingrained into society.

 

[Bry1313]

Plenty of men/society ascribe worth to “purity,” which is a very judeo Christian notion ingrained into society.

There is no such thing as Judeo Christian, no matter how many Christians use that term.

 

[Bry1313]

It makes perfect sense to me lmao

https://media1.tenor.com/m/BVOu2guy1SYAAAAC/be-a-dick-dont-be-a-dick.gif

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I think the internalized shame is the hardest to navigate for me. I care about what I think about myself and these narratives around the number of partners I've had are destructive at times. It takes a shit ton of unlearning on my part to embrace my sexual self. I was taught that the way I want to live my life was wrong.

 

[Bry1313]

I think the internalized shame is the hardest to navigate for me. I care about what I think about myself and these narratives around the number of partners I've had are destructive at times. It takes a shit ton of unlearning on my part to embrace my sexual self. I was taught that the way I want to live my life was wrong.

Deprogramming the terrible things Western (often religious) culture taught us about ourselves is so hard.

 

[Darkrhytm]

I think the internalized shame is the hardest to navigate for me. I care about what I think about myself and these narratives around the number of partners I've had are destructive at times. It takes a shit ton of unlearning on my part to embrace my sexual self. I was taught that the way I want to live my life was wrong.

It only matters to those who shouldn’t matter to you- it is certainly ingrained in women from an early age, and wonderful that you have unlearned a lot of it.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

It only matters to those who shouldn’t matter to you

I'm not sure how much I agree with this.

I believe I should care about others and they should matter to me. We're neurobiologically wired for connection and it's important to care about those around us who hold different viewpoints and beliefs.

People matter

 

[Photog1rl]

There is no such thing as Judeo Christian, no matter how many Christians use that term.

The word has a mixed history and is now mostly not looked upon positively by non Christians but explaining the reasons why and the problems with its use would he more helpful than a blanket statement.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

I think the internalized shame is the hardest to navigate for me. I care about what I think about myself and these narratives around the number of partners I've had are destructive at times. It takes a shit ton of unlearning on my part to embrace my sexual self. I was taught that the way I want to live my life was wrong.

It's nature


No need to try to change what is


It does matter to men too, the men who wants to marry a woman, but guys who just want to fuck don't care

 

[aussiegeekygal]

explaining the reasons why and the problems with its use would he more helpful than a blanket statement.

Who has time for that, lol?

 

[Photog1rl]

Plenty of men/society ascribe worth to “purity,” which is a very judeo Christian notion ingrained into society.

I think I know what you mean but I’d argue that purity is much more of a Christian hang up.

 

[Darkrhytm]

I'm not sure how much I agree with this.

I believe I should care about others and they should matter to me. We're neurobiologically wired for connection and it's important to care about those around us who hold different viewpoints and beliefs.

People matter

People matter, but those people to whom you matter should accept you for who you are.

 

[Darkrhytm]

I think I know what you mean but I’d argue that purity is much more of a Christian hang up.

Funny, I was actually thinking through this a bit after I made that statement; I don’t disagree- fascinating to talk about the origins of this.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm just waiting for someone to ask me to get into the nuanced differences between "left" and "liberal".

*Taps foot impatiently*

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Wasn't purity culture a descendant of determining birthright in feudal communities?

 

[Darkrhytm]

I think left is your handedness and liberal is a state of mind. Fine…asking.