Sex with someone much older

[Transguycharlie]

When I was 23, I had a threesome with two work colleagues in their 60’s. And in more recent times I’ve had one of the grannies from the school run who’s about twice my age.

 

[Scotchlander]

My favourite fwb are two 66 year old , prim , proper , elegant , manicured larger ladies who are pillars of the community ….. and red hot in private . Never say never

Many people have a mindset that ladies over a certain age have little or no sexual urges.

In some cases this might be true. But I am convinced this is not the case with the majority.

I have met several much older than myself, and was very surprised. They can be right dirty sluts when the bedroom door closes

 

[Deleted member 6789170]

in my 20s, I had a 40 something man

...I love daddies

 

[van_delay]

The older the better

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I am the older woman (58) who was seeing a recent college graduate (24).

He was fun. Like Peter Pan.

 

[Scotchlander]

I am the older woman (58) who was seeing a recent college graduate (24).

He was fun. Like Peter Pan.

Please tell us more

 

[ImiGirrst]

Please tell us more

Id be interested to know as well. I'm the same as you, and I've been approached by a lot of 20's types. I have no idea what to do with that.

I've finally gotten used to the 40's, and am on my way for the 30s. But the 20s? Completely bamboozled. Maybe it's the mommy incest concept that they can't admit out loud. Maybe we older ladies really do have something to offer in terms of confidence, experience and skill. And maybe, with the laws that are being passed in so many places, there is a relief in having a partner that physically CAN'T get pregnant.

Many people have a mindset that ladies over a certain age have little or no sexual urges.

In some cases this might be true. But I am convinced this is not the case with the majority.

I have met several much older than myself, and was very surprised. They can be right dirty sluts when the bedroom door closes

I would concur. I really wonder how many women every truly liked sex. And I think this is where slut shaming really backfires on men. And why I think men should have just as much desire to find a better word/concept than slut for women who like sex.

I tend to be blissfully ignorant about a lot of things. Unless something is shoved right under my nose, there is a good chance I'll miss it.

I also had a dad that loved sex. He didn't wave specifics in our faces, but he wasn't ashamed to let us know he loved it. That he and mom got busy on the floor of the bathroom at Disney while my brother and I were having room service breakfast. That Benny Hill was good for at least 3 garters, that good sex should be dirty. And that has a really good positive impact on kids growing up.

I don't know that parents tell there kids, especially girls, that growing up - that it's okay to be sexual.

Sure, today, it's your right to wear skimpy wear, you get to say no whenever you want, you gotta know how to twerk - but when you actually get down to business, it's still the same as it ever was.

You don't want a bitch with a high body count, but you want to bang every girl around the corner anyway. That bitch knows how to give it, but you don't respect her out of the bedroom because she does.

The virgin/whore dynamic is still alive and well. And once you have kids, and given the ubiquitous nature of cameras, women are relegated to the virginal sandbox, because if you find out yo mamma like sex, that means yo mamma a ho and who listens to ho's?

I even have such an issue with the world Ho - because if a woman - and not a girl - starts turning tricks or doing porn or dancing, it's highly likely she's doing it for her kids. And it's the kind of sacrifice that a man would never make.

So there is no benefit for a woman to chase her desire. Order a toy, which is a lot cheaper than a marriage that will suck out resources. Or take away time from work or her kids. Or add another kid to her passel because so many men have no concept of what 'emotional load' is, or 'mental load' is.

My ignorance has worked in my favor, such that I limited idea of when men shame me for being a sexual being. And for all that my ex was an asshole, he did support my sexual persona - because he was smart enough (for a while at least) to know that how positive I felt about myself meant that he would get laid more.

I had a really good afternoon this week with my 43 year old. What I adore about him is that he is man enough to not be intimidated by vibrators. And he really allowed me to free about them because he suggested it first. Well, this week, he saw I was having some difficulty getting over the edge - and he really likes it when I cum on his cock, which I also have challenges with - so he grabbed my sucker. And I was over in a minute. Everyone won. In the afterglow, he said that if more women had these and if they reacted the way I did - the sex trade would take a major hit cause more men would be home. And he's completely right.

And he's never, ever, called me a slut or ho or anything else that would probably send my mind into sexual shame.

It needs to change - for so many positive reasons.

 

[Sienna62]

When I was 23, I had a threesome with two work colleagues in their 60’s. And in more recent times I’ve had one of the grannies from the school run who’s about twice my age.

Nice thought , lucky you !

 

[Representingmyhotwife]

Has anyone, male or female, had sex with someone who was much older than you? I'm not talking about a person 10 or 15 years older; I'm talking about having sex with a person who was 30,40, even 50 years older. What was it like for you? I will start. In my early 20's, I was fortunate to have sex with a woman in her mid-60's; still one of the best I've ever been with.

My wife did when we were dating with a 38 year old married man.

 

[Escierto]

My girlfriend will be 38 in a week and I am 69. It's very strange but the topic of age never comes up between us. Although maybe that's normal, why would we talk about it? It is what it is.

 

[zysmith]

I was never in such a relationship as a young man but now, as an older man, I would be happy with a second shot at it

 

[Islander55]

I have had a few hookups with guys about 20 years older but not much more than that. One guy in my 20's who was mid 40's and then in my 40's with a guy 65. Now that I am 65 most of my lovers are in their 50's.

 

[LostHorizon]

Me too!!

It’s nice to see such enthusiasm about it

 

[Paradox]

@ImiGirrst "And I think this is where slut shaming really backfires on men. And why I think men should have just as much desire to find a better word/concept than slut for women who like sex."

Totally agree! But, it is not just men. I have also never understood why so many women embrace the word, and even proudly refer to themselves as a slut. Admittedly, I may be missing something, but it seems there should be a better term.

 

[Sienna62]

I've had sex with guys in early twenties (I'm around 50), and have to say I loved that they could do it so many times at that age. They seem to love that I don't have a problem with kinky stuff that younger girls won't do, or being used. But I am surprised they are not turned off by my aging body.

I have found 50 + women genuinely MORE attractive ….and one close ( but not intimate ) friend of 63 who will show her hips when wearing loose summer clothes … and I melt … her skin is luminous and has stretch marks and I AM SO ATTRACTED TO HER … arghhh !

 

[SparkyWalter]

in my 20s, I had a 40 something man

...I love daddies

So nice to hear you love Daddies.

 

[LostHorizon]

The comments from the ladies in this thread give an aging guy like me hope.

 

[Scotchlander]

@ImiGirrst "And I think this is where slut shaming really backfires on men. And why I think men should have just as much desire to find a better word/concept than slut for women who like sex."

Totally agree! But, it is not just men. I have also never understood why so many women embrace the word, and even proudly refer to themselves as a slut. Admittedly, I may be missing something, but it seems there should be a better term.

We are all free to have our opinion on here and you have yours and here is mine.

I think you need to live and let live and let people decide what they want to call their sexual partners.

As you correctly point out, so many women embrace the word, so what is the problem?

Because you do not like it, does not mean others shouldn’t like it either.

In my opinion.

 

[Paradox]

We are all free to have our opinion on here and you have yours and here is mine.

I think you need to live and let live and let people decide what they want to call their sexual partners.

As you correctly point out, so many women embrace the word, so what is the problem?

Because you do not like it, does not mean others shouldn’t like it either.

In my opinion.

I was expressing my opinion. Not demanding that anyone stop using the term. Not Denigrating anyone for using the term. Just expressing my opinion that I don't get it.

 

[Scotchlander]

I was expressing my opinion. Not demanding that anyone stop using the term. Not Denigrating anyone for using the term. Just expressing my opinion that I don't get it.

Of course and that’s allowed. What you are missing is that some woman love being called a slut in the right circumstances and sometimes even request it.

I personally would never call any woman a slut unless she specifically requested that I do.

So I do not understand why you are getting so uptight about a trivial word.

 

[ImiGirrst]

Of course and that’s allowed. What you are missing is that some woman love being called a slut in the right circumstances and sometimes even request it.

I personally would never call any woman a slut unless she specifically requested that I do.

So I do not understand why you are getting so uptight about a trivial word.

Because while many women get turned on by it, slut does not have a neutral connotation to it. Nor is it a positive one. Just like ho is a short form of whore. We don't celebrate whores or sex workers of any kind in this western society.

Whereas men do have a sex positive word for a person who acts in the same corresponding way. A stud can be neutral, like if we're talking about breeding, but studs are celebrated as one who is sexually successful - success being positive. We don't usually use stud in a negative way - meaning they are sexually unsuccessful.

Very seriously, I would like to know what a corresponding word is for a female who is sexually successful. If we take the word bitch, it should be neutral when we're talking about breeding, but it's negative because we use it when talking about a woman who has made life difficult for you. If a woman is a successful bitch, there is a back handed connotation of jealousy, that she was successful where a man wasn't.

Is the word Vixen?

 

[Sienna62]

I have found 50 + women genuinely MORE attractive ….and one close ( but not intimate ) friend of 63 who will show her hips when wearing loose summer clothes … and I melt … her skin is luminous and has stretch marks and I AM SO ATTRACTED TO HER … arghhh !

Glad I’m not alone !

 

[Sienna62]

At 21, through my job, I once had the pleasure of having a brief sexual encounter with a man in his mid 60s, among my first sexual experiences!

Growing up through my highschool and college years I was often referred to as a ‘practice girl’ by guys my age, which was nice of them!

I’ll call him ‘Dave’, he was an old English gent, I’m Scottish and he loved the accent. I guess the appeal there was that he was a man, not a silly, post-teenage, millennial ‘lad’.

Every shift, rain, hail or shine he’d converse with me, listen to me when I told him about studies etc. and always complimented me sincerely, even if his comments were what some people might consider inappropriate. He’d say things like “With a bum like that, ye should be a dancer on the telly lass.”

I can’t do it justice, in text form it probably looks terrible but honestly when he spoke there wasn’t anything demeaning or malicious about his words, it wasn’t a misogynist thing either. I like to think it was an old man giving a compliment in the only manner he knew how to.

Left quite an impact on me that experience did. To this day my top fantasies are still mostly centred around a young woman encountering a friendly and affectionate - if only a little cheeky - older gent. Maybe if I don’t marry, someday in the future I could find a young 20-something outcast and honour ‘Dave’ in the proper way!

Sorry, getting carried away!

Anyway the sex wasn’t bed-breaking, he wasn’t the most mobile old fart, but there was something enchanting about his old-man grunting, heavy breathing and calloused, strong hands holding onto me that I’ve never forgotten.

 

[justforfun8288]

Has anyone, male or female, had sex with someone who was much older than you? I'm not talking about a person 10 or 15 years older; I'm talking about having sex with a person who was 30,40, even 50 years older. What was it like for you? I will start. In my early 20's, I was fortunate to have sex with a woman in her mid-60's; still one of the best I've ever been with.

30-ish year gap a few times. 40-ish once.

Lemme tell ya…some of the best sex I had when I was in my early 20’s was with older men. If they’re taken and don’t have regular (or any) sex at home, the attentiveness with me is just phenomenal.

 

[drobert44]

The comments from the ladies in this thread give an aging guy like me hope.

I am 79, see a married woman my age every now and then, who fucks me silly.