Cock Talk

It seems to me that some people I have met on lit are open to their own thing, but often are pretty hard no about considering other things. As in, they came to lit to explore what they were already interested in, but no interest in learning about new things.

Which is fine. You like what you like. I just found it surprising.
Interesting. And I'd say completely true on the hole. I came here to understand my own personal sexuality. I've certainly not been open to, ah, approaches of another nature.

I do think some people come here just to play in a general way. I'm met one, at least
 
It seems to me that some people I have met on lit are open to their own thing, but often are pretty hard no about considering other things. As in, they came to lit to explore what they were already interested in, but no interest in learning about new things.

Which is fine. You like what you like. I just found it surprising.
I've been pretty open, and it's led to some fun interactions. However, everyone has their hard limits that they're not going to compromise. For example, I don't need to be open to, or engage in, incest play in order to know that I'd be repulsed by it. However, partners have introduced things into our chats/cams that I wouldn't have considered on my own & surprisingly found erotic. To each their own.
 
*nods*

I think of it as e-sex. E-boning is icky.


Enny was so flustered by that situation she freaked out and left the board for two weeks when the behind the scenes PMs started flying. 🫣


And what, pray tell, is the Shenanagator's club?

#alwayscurious
I also wondered what the Shenanagator’s club was. @hotwords229_A, your answer did not clarify things at all 😂

Enny, what was in those PMs?! 👀

It seems to me that some people I have met on lit are open to their own thing, but often are pretty hard no about considering other things. As in, they came to lit to explore what they were already interested in, but no interest in learning about new things.

Which is fine. You like what you like. I just found it surprising.
I’ve found that to be true as well and I don’t mean in regards to hard limits. I would never want anyone to do things they’re not comfortable with, but I have been surprised that more people aren’t open to being a bit more adventurous.

Personally, I enjoy the surprise and fun of encountering new things. Some remain not my thing, but plenty were really hot in the moment or have been added to kinks I’ve enjoyed thoroughly.

Interesting. And I'd say completely true on the hole. I came here to understand my own personal sexuality. I've certainly not been open to, ah, approaches of another nature.

I do think some people come here just to play in a general way. I'm met one, at least
I giggled out loud at this Freudian slip 🤭😍
 
I also wondered what the Shenanagator’s club was. @hotwords229_A, your answer did not clarify things at all 😂
It was a (now defunct) thread in the Playground from long ago. It wasn’t like an actual club or anything, just like a hangout thread. I guess I made it sound better than it was.

Though, now that you bring it up, I wonder how many secret clubs exist in PM fashion here on Lit?
Is there a secret underground sexy cabal right under our noses?
Are any of you members?
Am I the only one who isn’t?
So many questions . . .
 
wonder how many secret clubs exist in PM fashion here on Lit?
Is there a secret underground sexy cabal right under our noses?
Are any of you members?
I’ve had a couple of PM group chats that might fall into this category. At their best it can be like a private thread where witty banter, stories, and more personal pictures flow.

I also have one on Skype with two fellow Litsters that is one of my very favorite threads. It’s made me laugh so hard, been a place of fun debate, brought some sexy, and deepened real friendships.
 
I’ve had a couple of PM group chats that might fall into this category. At their best it can be like a private thread where witty banter, stories, and more personal pictures flow.

I also have one on Skype with two fellow Litsters that is one of my very favorite threads. It’s made me laugh so hard, been a place of fun debate, brought some sexy, and deepened real friendships.
There was a kik one that I was added to years ago.
It was way too much for me to handle personally.
 
There was a kik one that I was added to years ago.
It was way too much for me to handle personally.
I never joined kik, but it seems to be the message app that attracts a more hardcore group of people. I don’t know if that’s true, but any time I’ve seen a “hit me up on kik” note, the implication was “let’s fuck”.

I could be wrong.
 
Everyone offers to help bury a body as a sign of ride or die friendships, but how many will roll up their sleeves and save you from an embarrassing ER or obgyn visit?

And I totally would do that if needed.
I had one close call. As a former paramedic, there was no way in hell I was going to the ER. I've got one ride or die friend who I trust to help me. However, with tongs, a mirror, and furious coughing, I got it taken care of my own. She was the first friend I told of the incident and we laugh about it even now. Potential-Akward-ER-OBGYN-visit friends are the best.
 
Though, now that you bring it up, I wonder how many secret clubs exist in PM fashion here on Lit?
Is there a secret underground sexy cabal right under our noses?
Are any of you members?
Am I the only one who isn’t?
So many questions . . .
I have always wondered this. We'll probably never know. The first rule of Sexy Cabal Club is you don't talk about Sexy Cabal Club!
 
There was a kik one that I was added to years ago.
It was way too much for me to handle personally.
I’m curious what aspect was too much?

As a former paramedic, there was no way in hell I was going to the ER.
Former EMT here. Equally would avoid going to the ER for anything avoidable, especially if it were gossip worthy 😂

It also means I’m almost unflappable and very calm under pressure.
 
I’m curious what aspect was too much?


Former EMT here. Equally would avoid going to the ER for anything avoidable, especially if it were gossip worthy 😂

It also means I’m almost unflappable and very calm under pressure.
I wonder if there is an exhibitionist fetish where you purposely get “into situations” that require some embarrassing medical attention.

That’s got to be a thing, right? 😳
 
Who stole your Lit virginity?
I've actually been here a lot longer than I've been posting in the forum. A litster who is no longer around was my first.
What Literotica thread opened you up more than expected and really let the perv in you out to play?
Definitely Sex and Shenanigans and the Chaos. It took me a bit to feel comfortable enough to start posting in anything but the LAY or Name a Litster threads. Once I did though... well, I have yet to shut up.
What Lister taught you some important (hopefully good) lesson about sex, online sex, or intimate relationship stuff that changed you?
Not necessarily regarding sex... Just lit in general, really... But I would also have to say that @Mr_bogey and @Bry1313 were friends with me pretty early on - I joined lit and posted for a while and for various reasons took a couple years off and just came back in January - they were both solid when I needed help or guidance on how to deal with certain guys who were not respectful of my boundaries. They've both been great friends and resources when I'm struggling with something on lit and need advice.
What have you learned, in general, about sex and relationships from your time here?
That sometimes you go into something thinking that because it's online it won't mean as much and you can keep things light and fun but the feelings are very real and you need to be careful who you trust with that part of yourself.

I struggle with being confrontational but I have learned to stand up for myself in situations where I am uncomfortable because no one has the right to any part of you. It's a privilege that they get. Even if you're in the midst of playing together if you're uncomfortable you're allowed to take up the space necessary to tell them. Anyone worth your time will want to make sure you feel good in every way. Not just with an orgasm at the end.

Lit is a good outlet but people will judge you for various reasons and you have to just learn to live and let live. It's a pretend world we create here but we're all human beings and we need to remember that even if we can't see each other's faces their feelings are very real. We should be kind when we can.
What is something that has caused more confusion in you from your time on Lit?
Hmm. Maybe wondering if I share too much of myself and trying to figure out where that boundary is and how to hold to it.
What sexual desire were you unaware of before coming here?
None.
What is something you thought you would never do that you have done on Lit?
Met someone in person and traveled with them on multiple occasions. I was very scared when I met him the first time but it was one of the best things I ever did for myself. He's become a life long friend.
Are you more guarded or less guarded (sexually) since your time on Lit?
Less. Much less. I grew up in a very sheltered home and my mom would turn movies off if kissing got a bit too intense. I don't remember having the sex talk ever... It's been a very good way to safely explore that part of myself with other like minded people who for the most part are extremely supportive and friendly.
Do you remember your first real interaction on Lit?
My actual first interaction? No. Very early on though the man I've traveled with messaged me and we became friends very quickly.
What would you most like to know or ask that I didn’t think of in these questions?
Hmm... Do you feel like lit has boosted your confidence in yourself? What do you want to get out of lit? Are you looking for genuine connections to people?
 
I’m curious what aspect was too much?
So much context switching and so many people. It was like sex and shenanigans back in the day (before I had kids).

I dunno, I know I tend to get overwhelmed easily and stick to things I know. I'm pretty simple. I fuck around in the forums, PM a few people, chat on Skype with one person from time to time and that's about it. Some of you have my phone number and we may text here and there, but I just can't keep up with so many different modes. It's too much for me
 
So much context switching and so many people. It was like sex and shenanigans back in the day (before I had kids).

I dunno, I know I tend to get overwhelmed easily and stick to things I know. I'm pretty simple. I fuck around in the forums, PM a few people, chat on Skype with one person from time to time and that's about it. Some of you have my phone number and we may text here and there, but I just can't keep up with so many different modes. It's too much for me
This is something that I've very much been focusing on since my separation and follow on relationship: removing the need to context switch so much.

Though I obviously don't flirt at work (hello, HR... it's me, margaret...) I'm no longer separating various forms of myself. I'm working on authenticity in who I am regardless, and then vulnerability in the places I can.
 
So much context switching and so many people. It was like sex and shenanigans back in the day (before I had kids).

I dunno, I know I tend to get overwhelmed easily and stick to things I know. I'm pretty simple. I fuck around in the forums, PM a few people, chat on Skype with one person from time to time and that's about it. Some of you have my phone number and we may text here and there, but I just can't keep up with so many different modes. It's too much for me
I can relate to that. The PM and Skype threads I mentioned are a max of 3-4 people so it’s not overwhelming to me. The specific people and personality types are probably a significant aspect as well. There aren’t any expectations or major imbalances.

I really enjoy the forums and group dynamic, but prefer the threads that don’t move so fast that I feel like I can’t keep up. I love the real conversations and getting a glimpse of what’s in people’s heads, their perspectives, and experiences.
 
I can relate to that. The PM and Skype threads I mentioned are a max of 3-4 people so it’s not overwhelming to me. The specific people and personality types are probably a significant aspect as well. There aren’t any expectations or major imbalances.

I really enjoy the forums and group dynamic, but prefer the threads that don’t move so fast that I feel like I can’t keep up. I love the real conversations and getting a glimpse of what’s in people’s heads, their perspectives, and experiences.
Agree. I love this thread. And others that you can have proper conversations in. The fast moving fast posting ones have their place. But I can only keep up for so long. Then I have to leave, and take a break from them.

But ones like this, that make you think, that show you the thoughts of other people here on a level you might not have had if you don't talk to them.... yeah. This is part of why I come here.

To learn about other people. Expand and broaden my experiences and horizons.

And the dick. Obvs.
 
Interesting. And I'd say completely true on the hole. I came here to understand my own personal sexuality. I've certainly not been open to, ah, approaches of another nature.

I do think some people come here just to play in a general way. I'm met one, at least
i snorted out loud on this autocorrect.

Also: I love discussion threads like this one. They’re my favorite.

If there’s a complaint, it’s not enough boobs on this thread in particular. Or tacos.
 
So much context switching and so many people. It was like sex and shenanigans back in the day (before I had kids).

I dunno, I know I tend to get overwhelmed easily and stick to things I know. I'm pretty simple. I fuck around in the forums, PM a few people, chat on Skype with one person from time to time and that's about it. Some of you have my phone number and we may text here and there, but I just can't keep up with so many different modes. It's too much for me
This^.

Minus the Skype and (currently) the phone number. More is too overwhelming and too overstimulating.

*jets*
 
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