Are fetishes a form of stress relief?

[CurtGiles46]

Around the time when I was 18, I began needing to indulge in or at least fantasize about very taboo fetishes. I can’t imagine my life without it now.

I think it’s a major stress reliever just being honest with myself about everything that arouses me no matter how forbidden.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I believe they can be. I cant speak for everyone but many I have talked to IRL seem to have of have had stressful things in their life.

I know I had a very stressful job and I can’t say that it led to a sexual act. But it did cause me to withdraw and my wifes dominance to assert itself.

 

[Easyvirtue]

For me yes, no better way to escape my job of intense responsibility by coming home, taking a hot shower, pouring a nice glass of wine, sliding on a beautiful pair of panties and the feel of clasping that bra around my chest and melting into my couch for a peaceful night of relaxation is the most incredible feeling in the world. I love my transformation and the world stops for my at that point!

 

[JessGabriel]

I definitely think so. Indulging our fetishes allows us to be our real selves without the mask we wear for the rest of the world. It's very freeing and stress relieving.

 

[htester]

For me, yes. Point in case, the pandemic. But once the stress Is done I typically want to continue the play

 

[CuttingEdge]

I am not sure...I think they can reduce stress but in a roundabout way.

Fetishes are about things we are hard or soft wired to like, so it is sort of walking around a grocery store to put this in non-sexual terms. You see something you really like to eat, but for whatever reason, you don't get that very often because of availability or cost. When you finally make the meal... damn that tastes good. And it is good because it's not an everyday thing; its a treat!

When the sexual things we like are availed to us, we get a higher sense of contentment. That causes dopamine in our brains to be released, and that has all kinds of health benefits, one being to reduce stress.

 

[cubbyfire04]

I think it depends on the fetish. Many of us have fetishes that require planning, preparation, and activities that can sometimes induce stress (albeit usually positive stress and anticipate).

Many times, the after result can lead to stress relief, but even then, not always... Many fetishes involve denial or even jealousy as the "reward".

 

[ariadel]

I think it depends on the fetish. Many of us have fetishes that require planning, preparation, and activities that can sometimes induce stress (albeit usually positive stress and anticipate).

Many times, the after result can lead to stress relief, but even then, not always... Many fetishes involve denial or even jealousy as the "reward".

I agree with this. Fetishes can definitely be a form of stress relief as you indulge in something you enjoy. But it can also have the opposite effect. I have played around with denial a few times and if it goes on for too long I just become more frustrated and stressed. I think you just need to find a healthy balance for yourself and the fetishes you enjoy.

 

[thetiesthatbindme]

100%...I have a lot of responsibilities,things to manage,etc.;the buck stops w/me. With my D,I don't want to have to think...just feel. It's sweet release.

 

[Oshkosh60]

I know so many people who find themselves in submissive roles as their work life doesn't give them that opportunity (though my submissiveness goes back to the very early years so I have no idea really: perhaps it was to please an authority figure or to grant myself permission to participate in something naughty). But I have been a closet CD (undergarments) for more than 50 years now and there have been times when I knew the day would be super stressful and couldn't think of not leaving the house without panties or a half slip on underneath my slacks. So yeah, I can see that.

 

[live4thebj]

Around the time when I was 18, I began needing to indulge in or at least fantasize about very taboo fetishes. I can’t imagine my life without it now.

I think it’s a major stress reliever just being honest with myself about everything that arouses me no matter how forbidden.

When I am stressed the last thing on my mind anything sexual.

 

[Charlotte_Sin]

Around the time when I was 18, I began needing to indulge in or at least fantasize about very taboo fetishes. I can’t imagine my life without it now.

I think it’s a major stress reliever just being honest with myself about everything that arouses me no matter how forbidden.

I'm not sure if you are familiar with Carl Jung and his concept of the shadow.... but in short I feel that it may have something to do with integrating the hidden desires you have and may be ashamed of in with your active personality. I think that's where the stress relief aspect comes from

 

[Goldenfinger]

Kinda started out that way.

 

[lowcollar]

Absolutely

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

From my personal experience, that seems to be the case.
I had a pretty stressful career, and I was often consumed by submissive fantasies and desires at tense times. That was when I would find opportunities to act them out.
Now that I am nearly retired, my submissive side has receded considerably. Although, recently, when I had to pick up some work, I have wanted to act out again.

 

[Crownvic]

Yes..it can be a relief...for a while...fantasies are great..

 

[Erosfan]

From my personal experience, that seems to be the case.
I had a pretty stressful career, and I was often consumed by submissive fantasies and desires at tense times. That was when I would find opportunities to act them out.
Now that I am nearly retired, my submissive side has receded considerably. Although, recently, when I had to pick up some work, I have wanted to act out again.

Like you, I have a fairly stressful career. I found my release in being submissive, to some extent. I have been into CFNM for a very long time. My wife knew and understood. We discussed this on many occasions. Ours was a loving kind of submission. I'm not a cuck, and we did not have a desire to share. She was amazing in that she would take control of how I would be dressed or not at home. Some times, she would just undress me when she wanted and other time she would tell me to "lose the clothes." Most often, this occurred when we were sitting on our deck or when we would be in our garage, with the door open. I never refused her, nor would I. The first time this happened, we had just moved to the Houston area. We were having drinks on our deck. I went in to refresh our drinks. When I returned with the drinks, she would not take hers. Instead, she removed my shorts. I wasn't wearing underwear. She then took her drink and instructed me to remove my shirt, which I did. We sat and talked for a short while and then she told me to stand in front of her. She began to jerk me very gently and I reminded her that our neighbors would be able to see us. She said, "this our deck and our back yard and if they don't want to see what we are doing, they shouldn't look." She proceeded to take me to an incredible orgasm all over the front of her sundress. Once finished, I reached for my shirt and she stopped me. She said, "just sit and talk with me for a while." Later, when we went in, I just carried my clothes and stayed naked until the next morning. This occurred many times over the years and I never got tired of it.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Like you, I have a fairly stressful career. I found my release in being submissive, to some extent. I have been into CFNM for a very long time. My wife knew and understood. We discussed this on many occasions. Ours was a loving kind of submission. I'm not a cuck, and we did not have a desire to share. She was amazing in that she would take control of how I would be dressed or not at home. Some times, she would just undress me when she wanted and other time she would tell me to "lose the clothes." Most often, this occurred when we were sitting on our deck or when we would be in our garage, with the door open. I never refused her, nor would I. The first time this happened, we had just moved to the Houston area. We were having drinks on our deck. I went in to refresh our drinks. When I returned with the drinks, she would not take hers. Instead, she removed my shorts. I wasn't wearing underwear. She then took her drink and instructed me to remove my shirt, which I did. We sat and talked for a short while and then she told me to stand in front of her. She began to jerk me very gently and I reminded her that our neighbors would be able to see us. She said, "this our deck and our back yard and if they don't want to see what we are doing, they shouldn't look." She proceeded to take me to an incredible orgasm all over the front of her sundress. Once finished, I reached for my shirt and she stopped me. She said, "just sit and talk with me for a while." Later, when we went in, I just carried my clothes and stayed naked until the next morning. This occurred many times over the years and I never got tired of it.

It is great that you were able to share this with your wife. Mine would never understand something like this.
CFNM turns me on, too. But for me, the real turn on would be more than one woman.

 

[Erosfan]

It is great that you were able to share this with your wife. Mine would never understand something like this.
CFNM turns me on, too. But for me, the real turn on would be more than one woman.

I understand. I begged my wife to invite a friend or two so she could show her control of me. I so wanted her to give me one of her mind blowing hand jobs or have me jerk off for them. She was willing to discuss it, but wasn't willing to commit to doing it.

 

[GD88]

For me it’s not so much stress relief as my mind going wild about something.

Incest is hot. The thing is I have a mother, I have aunts, I have female cousins and so fantasy runs into the reality that this might be inappropriate (I’ve gotten hot and heavy with female cousin and we both backed down because we won’t be able to live with ourselves).

On the other hand, I don’t have a sister. And so my mind goes wild about the possibilities.

Another fetish I have is a panty/lingerie fetish. It’s not sniffing it or wearing it that’s the turn-on, it’s the idea that it gives me a glimpse of what a person could be like sexually. You might say “You don’t know what that person is like sexually based on their panties” and I’d say “I know enough that there’s a chance this is what she wears when she’s by herself or with a sexual partner”. In this case my mind goes wild about something I have a certain idea of but I don’t really know.

I don’t go through my wife’s lingerie because I know what she’s like sexually. But discovering that my wife’s straitlaced best friend Christina has a large lingerie and sexy outfits collection (to the point of “Pilot” and “Air Hostess” being two separate outfits) really gets my mind going about what she could possibly be like behind closed doors.