Anyone from the UK?

[Wand3rlust]

... I know I shouldn't... but I read an LW story earlier.

Basically, a number of years ago my wife cheated on me. I've never recovered. I stayed with her. Forgiven not forgotten sorta shit.

Not that I care about titles but the story really got me thinking "am I the fucking wimp here?".



It destroyed me. Yet I stayed. I have bpd, which explains some of it I guess... but really, never got over it and have a pretty shit life...



Am I the fucking wimp?

Hey NC.

Not much more I can add to what has already been said. You make the decisions that are right for you at the time. No decision is permanent. Well, except one, and noone wants to go down that route.
So. If you've changed your mind, or it's not working for you. Then you need to talk to her. Properly, calmly and carefully.
Think what you want to achieve. Be realistic. Where you want the relationship to be. And is she willing to put the effort in too.

You are NOT a wimp, and lit stories are not real life, or documentaries. Otherwise I'd be living a very different life to the one I have.

Keep with the therapy. Talk to them. Journal, write things down, talk to us. We can help where we can.

Life is fucked up and complicated. But you need to look after yourself and make sure you are OK, before worrying about anyone/thing else.

 

[HornyKatie1979]

What is a bin heretic, pray tell.

It's a LOOOOOOOOONG story

 

[Wand3rlust]

Oh forgive her bin lord, for she does not know what she says, she is like a lost lamb in the Wilderness, and you, like a shepherd will guide her to the one true faith, the one true bin collection day, the Friday bin faithful

OK- who set her off??

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

It's a LOOOOOOOOONG story

With a short fiery ending for the non believers

 

[NorthernCardinal]

Hey NC.

Not much more I can add to what has already been said. You make the decisions that are right for you at the time. No decision is permanent. Well, except one, and noone wants to go down that route.
So. If you've changed your mind, or it's not working for you. Then you need to talk to her. Properly, calmly and carefully.
Think what you want to achieve. Be realistic. Where you want the relationship to be. And is she willing to put the effort in too.

You are NOT a wimp, and lit stories are not real life, or documentaries. Otherwise I'd be living a very different life to the one I have.

Keep with the therapy. Talk to them. Journal, write things down, talk to us. We can help where we can.

Life is fucked up and complicated. But you need to look after yourself and make sure you are OK, before worrying about anyone/thing else.

Thank you. I appreciate the thoughtfulness and your words.


I dont look after myself. I don't care about me.. thst part of me died a long time ago.

I'll make you food any time

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

OK- who set her off??

Before I leave this thread I will unify the Hogwarts Houses and establish the one true bin day, mark my words

Shakes fist at clouds

 

[HornyKatie1979]

With their bins never being emptied because they do it on the wrong day

FIFY

 

[Yesok1]

Thank you. I appreciate the thoughtfulness and your words.


I dont look after myself. I don't care about me.. thst part of me died a long time ago.

I'll make you food any time

Sometimes NC self love, and I don't mean the mucky stuff, I mean kind words and sympathy help. Journal your thoughts and create a mantra that you believe in, say it to yourself every morning and be mindful about your own feelings.

 

[Polranny]

Why have you gone back to bed?

It seemed like a Good idea at the time!

 

[Wand3rlust]

Thank you. I appreciate the thoughtfulness and your words.


I dont look after myself. I don't care about me.. thst part of me died a long time ago.

I'll make you food any time

You should care about you. There's only one of you around.

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

It seemed like a Good idea at the time!

Blimey! that was pages ago! You must feel like Charlton Heston in planet of the apes - you will find the Statue of Liberty in a couple of pages time

 

[Yesok1]

So it seems the girls on here have thing for Margot Robbie.

Two Celebrities I like are. Brie Larson from Marvels and Mary Earps England Goalie.

Thoughts?

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

So it seems the girls on here have thing for Margot Robbie.

Two Celebrities I like are. Brie Larson from Marvels and Mary Earps England Goalie.

Thoughts?

I’m pretty sure 100% of the men are going to have a thing for her too
Go Brie Larson!

 

[Wand3rlust]

So it seems the girls on here have thing for Margot Robbie.

Two Celebrities I like are. Brie Larson from Marvels and Mary Earps England Goalie.

Thoughts?

Bloody love Mary Earps.

 

[HornyKatie1979]

So it seems the girls on here have thing for Margot Robbie.

Two Celebrities I like are. Brie Larson from Marvels and Mary Earps England Goalie.

Thoughts?

Definitely agreed on Margot. Brie Larson I'm not so into, but I've only seen her as Captain Marvel, so maybe in other things she's more herself.

I've no interest in footie so no idea on Mary Earps.

 

[Yesok1]

Definitely agreed on Margot. Brie Larson I'm not so into, but I've only seen her as Captain Marvel, so maybe in other things she's more herself.

I've no interest in footie so no idea on Mary Earps.

So Brie, from the first Marvels film, a couple of times she had this quirky little smile, it was the way she cocked her head and raised an eyebrow. It captured my heart.

Mary Earps. Wow. They way she carries herself, her swagger. Wow, wow, wow.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

... I know I shouldn't... but I read an LW story earlier.

Basically, a number of years ago my wife cheated on me. I've never recovered. I stayed with her. Forgiven not forgotten sorta shit.

Not that I care about titles but the story really got me thinking "am I the fucking wimp here?".



It destroyed me. Yet I stayed. I have bpd, which explains some of it I guess... but really, never got over it and have a pretty shit life...



Am I the fucking wimp?

Hey
I'm only really gonna echo what other people have said but before I do I just want to say that being open and vulnerable are positive things and absolutely don't make you a wimp.

I'm so sorry about the situation you are in. You have made the decision to forgive and stay together but, and I apologise if this seems like an assumption, that may no longer be the right decision now.
This is your life and you deserve happiness and peace. We all do. Don't ever try and convince yourself you don't.

 

[Saltfountain]

Bloody love Mary Earps.

Not in the same way...

 

[HornyKatie1979]

My celeb crushes are Liz Hurley, Darcey Bussell and Keeley Hawes. I think I have a thing for posh brunettes.

 

[Polranny]

Blimey! that was pages ago! You must feel like Charlton Heston in planet of the apes - you will find the Statue of Liberty in a couple of pages time

I got called away. . Probably be Glastonbury Tor based on my location

 

[RosewoodTulip]

So it seems the girls on here have thing for Margot Robbie.

Two Celebrities I like are. Brie Larson from Marvels and Mary Earps England Goalie.

Thoughts?

I don't follow footy really
Brie Larson is pretty cool. Margot Harley Quinn > Margot Barbie

 

[Wand3rlust]

My celeb crushes are Liz Hurley, Darcey Bussell and Keeley Hawes. I think I have a thing for posh brunettes.

That's why you like me so much.

Dead posh, me...

 

[Yesok1]

That's why you like me so much.

Dead posh, me...

Oh keeley hawes. Her accent.

 

[Saltfountain]

Before I leave this thread I will unify the Hogwarts Houses and establish the one true bin day, mark my words

Shakes fist at clouds

You're already a Slytherclaw...

 

[Yesok1]

My celeb crushes are Liz Hurley, Darcey Bussell and Keeley Hawes. I think I have a thing for posh brunettes.

Brunettes are my thing. I don't like them too posh.